Deep breath mama! Deep breath! I can't believe your FMIL, she's almost as bad as mine! You know, the one who writes you a check in your engagement party card for your dishes since she went to order them too late, then you go to order them and she didn't give you enough of money? AOY! So I can totally feel you there. I'm so sorry. Maybe she'll just disappear eventually? Let me know how the texting goes though!
As far as your shower goes, you'd prob be better off doing it as a bachelorette/shower.. more fun and more intimate since it's not too much time before the wedding? Then there's no games needed! =] I'd plan one for you if I was closer! <3
Man, what is up with all of these FMILs?!? They're horrendous!!! I wear the pants in my relationship too. It's nice, but irritating.
I agree... just take DEEP breaths! And at least she won't be there on your wedding day, right? (Although, you never know. You should have told everyone the wrong date...

)
lol--you're probably right about the date, lol.
This is precisely what I have done with about 3/4 of my relatives. . .
I agree on the FMIL thing, though. ***? Have they all gone crazy? Mine chilled out after her BF said he was looking forward to it. It also helps that DF's two brothers and their GF's are Disney fanatics, too.
i do think 99% of them are crazy---i hope i'm not like that someday!!
Wow, that is a little crazy about the registry! By the way, I registered at Target and never got a free gift card

So weird how guys won't stand up to their mamas sometimes. I mean, it seems like a perfectly good explanation for what you did and why you have the registry, so why wouldn't he just tell her the truth? Men, lol.
i have no clue why they just can't be honest. they either deal with her griping, or deal with me griping after i had to take her griping
_________________________________________
Crazy Busy Weekend. I didn't even get on the boards after I left work on Friday afternoon.
Friday:
I went for a small spree in Ulta. I also had a call with the GF cake people--why they call me at 8pm on a Friday night is beyond me. I originally wanted one layer of the Simply Brilliant cake--she said I would have to mail the ribbon and the crystals to them because they don't furnish them

Too much work. Then I said, well what about 2 mini mickey 2-tiers.... they don't have filling--we like filling--that's out. So my first 2 ideas are out and I just started spouting off ideas and asking if she had any insight since she was the cake "boss" lol. With no offense to anyone who's had a good experience with them--I think she was a little slow. How can you not have an imagination if you work with cakes. We went around and around and around--and to be honest with you, I have no idea what we ended up agreeing on. It's probably better that it be a surprise so I don't get the wrong vision. I asked for Lime Green, Hot Pink and Aqua Blue (our original colors from Page 1!!!), I asked for fondant balls, 6 inch cake, 4 layers split with yellow cake/dark chocolate mousse and chocolate cake with pb cup mousse. Beyond that I have no idea--I said to make it fabulous. So $189 later--I have a cake. It better be completely fantastic for $94.50 per person, lol.
I later went out to the racetrack where a mixture of a lemon sonic slush and citrus vodka pretty much knocked me over. I was in bed at 2:30, but got up at 7:30 ready to start my day, lol. I had places to go.
Saturday:
Went to the bank--was able to take some of the cash back... the rest will be available Wednesday. Went to Target--picked up a few things including face wash wipes, qtips, cotton pads, hairspray and my fekkai hair mask. Back to Ulta--grabbed a few more things. Over to Sephora--got some travel sized makeup setting spray. Went to the Jeweler to see when my salesperson would be in next--they said they can't release people's schedules. Well they must not want the sale too bad--I'm not a stalker--I just want to buy my $899 wedding band... in cash.

Next, time for David's Bridal to open. Last time I was there, I asked if we could cut off the train, she told me it would cost $200+. Lame. Online I saw you can order it without the train--so when I went in... I inquired. It was $50 LESS to order without the train and she was going to charge me $200 more---I don't like that kind of business. So I pretty much won. Dress paid for and ordered.

Went home, picked up Dave to go for hibachi lunch. We were going to go look at suits after lunch--but his lunch wasn't sitting well with him... so we had to go home

I dropped him off and went to Hobby Lobby and Staples. I got transfer paper, glue, and rhinestones for my shirts I ordered from Jiffy Shirts . com. In my time crunch I've decided to go crafty. I hit the grocery store before going home. Got home, groceries put away, got on the computer. Shoes, new carry on luggage, headband, his wedding band--ordered.

I decided to do a test shirt--and I love out it turned out. I printed out the rest of the transfers, but haven't got to iron them yet. I finally got to bed around 2--what a busy day.
In the midst of all this--I forgot the detail that induced the whole citrus vodka slush. FMIL has been planning this post wedding hoedown. She's been looking at places, inviting people we don't know, don't like, don't talk to--all into it. Dave insists she's paying, but I keep telling him that she says that around him, but then makes comments around me that feel otherwise. My FB post finally put it all in perspective. I had made the comment that my GF cake was costly and better sing dance and do tricks for the cost. She then replies that she'd buy cupcakes for the reception if I needed "help".

I think that was our answer. My family already said they weren't traveling--and pretty much all my friends work on the weekend nights... so really it's all HER people, his friends work weekend nights so they won't all be there... HIS family... and that's it. We decided against it... I just need to tell her all this. I'm dreading it. We're doing this to save money. It was different when this was spanned out over 16 months... but putting all this together this quick is a major crunch... we come back, then it's Christmas, then it's tax season when I'm going to get hammered again. Why people can't let me just catch up is beyond me. I think that everyone is under the impression that since we're going by ourselves that it's free or something. Top to bottom--with hotels, flights, spending, food, apparel, photos, pre trip spending, officiant, etc etc etc etc... everything came to $11,500. I know we could have stayed at ASMovies, did the regular dining plan, not do spa/tours, take magical express instead of the town car, etc.... make it a $6000 trip, but this is our wedding and we want it to be special for US and no one else. I'm willing to spend it on us, but not on people I don't even know. He really wants to do the Jungle Trek, and I really want to go to Mandara---so that's what we're gonna do
Anywho--- Sunday we went to Red Lobster and
Walmart... nothing too crazy.
Tonight we have to sign the LOA and tomorrow I have to send that and Jason's contract out.
Wednesday I'll book flights, go pay for my band, book his Jungle trek and payoff my hotels. Still a ways go to, but it's getting there!!
I think that's all for now---I hope everyone had a great weekend!! I need to get pictures of my first creation up here!! Will do tonight!!