LuvLuvLuv's Memories TR Starts Pg 73 - Honeymoon Day 6.1

Well I've never been to the YachtClub so I can't really influence you there.. But the GF is just so gorgeous and I dream of staying there one day!

I will say though that as far as the crinny goes, I'd do BOTH haha. And I may steal your idea! ;D I'm thinking of going to AA for their crinny. I LOVED theres and there's was the ONLY ones that were super poofed princess! And for me to really love my dress.. I NEED that.. in trumpet form please! ;D I love their discounts there.. that's what really drew me in.. but I didn't fall in love with any of their dresses. =/

Hopefully all works out mama! =]
 
So I stumbled on pictures of this wedding and it looks like the reception is at the Summerhouse...enjoy!

http://canlasphotography.blogspot.com/2011/04/jessica-casey-2142011-disneyworld-fl.html

(BTW...it's a very non-traditional wedding. Bride in a purple dress, donuts instead of wedding cake. Also, they have kind of an UP theme going on and she got ready at, and took some pictures around, BLT. It's pretty much awesome if you ask me lol)
 
hiya :)

I've just read your whooole PJ and it is by far one of the best that I've read. You have a wonderful way of writing and I thoroughly enjoying reading your updates :goodvibes

happy planning x

Thanks for joining!! I love to update even if it's too much!! Welcome to the wedding boards as well!!

Well I've never been to the YachtClub so I can't really influence you there.. But the GF is just so gorgeous and I dream of staying there one day!

I will say though that as far as the crinny goes, I'd do BOTH haha. And I may steal your idea! ;D I'm thinking of going to AA for their crinny. I LOVED theres and there's was the ONLY ones that were super poofed princess! And for me to really love my dress.. I NEED that.. in trumpet form please! ;D I love their discounts there.. that's what really drew me in.. but I didn't fall in love with any of their dresses. =/

Hopefully all works out mama! =]

sparkle theif!! i have to admit, it's one of my more stellar ideas :) i just have to figure out how to REALLY make it sparkle to show up in pictures. i wonder if i still have a bedazzler in a storage box :lmao: alfred angelo does have some pretty sweet crinny. i'm ordering mine from the store in florida that was at the showcase. the sweet girl spent a lot of time with me and i want to make sure she gets commission :)

I voted for you!!!:cheer2::cheer2:

:cool1: thanks!

So I stumbled on pictures of this wedding and it looks like the reception is at the Summerhouse...enjoy!

http://canlasphotography.blogspot.com/2011/04/jessica-casey-2142011-disneyworld-fl.html

(BTW...it's a very non-traditional wedding. Bride in a purple dress, donuts instead of wedding cake. Also, they have kind of an UP theme going on and she got ready at, and took some pictures around, BLT. It's pretty much awesome if you ask me lol)

very non-traditional but cute! thanks for thinking of me!! only 2 1/2 months till everything starts coming together!!

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So Happy Monday everyone! Time for this week's Monday installment of madness. I actually thought we weren't going to talk wedding at ALL this weekend, but we actually talked about it for 2 straight hours last night, lol. So I have updates!

Let's start this Saturday at 11:00pm. I had come home from work, Dave had cooked before he left for work so I warmed that up and cleaned up the kitchen. Baxter was looking a little ragged, I knew I didn't have the funds for a grooming appointment till at least after vacation... so I thought I'd try my hand at grooming :rotfl2: I gave him what I would like to call a "summer cut" lol! I chopped him pretty good, and it's actually cute--he looks like a puppy. So it's always my job to cut his nails, so I thought, well I'll do that too while I have him locked down on the couch. Got thru 3 paws okay, last paw, second to last nail, he had enough and squirmed :sad1: I cut him :sad1: There was blood squirting out of his nail and I was in a serious panic. I started to cry, he was crying, I called Dave at work---which only served as a purpose for calming me down. I just grabbed paper towels and applied pressure while I could look it up online. Turns out... it happens to most dog owners at some point. Well this is my 4th dog and this is a first. The hard part was that he didn't want anything to do with me and I was trying to help him. I got it cleaned up, bandaged, and I cut a glove of mine up to make a little booty for him. He was so sad. I had to hand feed him and he would only drink out of a glass that I was holding--spoiled. So I didn't sleep that night, I was up with him making sure he was okay--I couldn't stop feeling bad. Dave rolled in at 7am, and I screamed at him that we needed him and he stayed after work hanging out and drinking until 7am--a little harsh--then I find out his co-worker's fiance left him after 10 years--I guess Dave was needed elsewhere. I was still shook up though :( So there goes one more person off our guest list :rolleyes1 Sunday we hung out with Baxter. Well Dave hung out with Baxter while I cleaned the house, did laundry and did Dave's taxes... yes on April 17th--I had to do them or they wouldn't get done. Well guess what happens when I have to do your taxes... the direct deposit goes into the joint account :banana: Which is MY account that just has his name on it, lol. He told me I could get a pair of Dior sunglasses at Curl :cool1: I feel like we could spend that money for the wedding, but I know if I don't jump at the chance while it's there that he'll waste it on something dumb like paintball.

So that's when we started talking about money. I told him that when we come back from May, the first thing I'm doing is paying off my medical bills and my little loan account that I still have a bit left on. Next I want to book our hotels for the wedding. Which brought me to the recent debacle (sp?) of hotels. I'm happy to say... we've come to a conclusion. A little more of an expensive one... but I think it will be worth it. We're going to have a 1-Bedroom at BLT the ENTIRE time--no switching to Yacht Club. He reminded me that I'll probably want to see the Xmas Castle lights every night out my window--he's so right :) We will, in addition, to BLT have 2 nights booked in a Deluxe King at the Grand Floridian-RPC for the night before and the night of the wedding. I will be staying there alone the night before--I'm going to cart (taxi) all of my crap over there which I was originally against... but I'll walk you through my thoughts.

I am a loner. When I'm stressed--I want to be alone very badly. The more we talked about it, the more I was nervous of my family (assuming they stay at BLT) knocking, interrupting, Dave not getting out of bed while I'm trying to get ready, him eating around my dress.... all madness. It was making me panic with the thoughts. Then I laid out this new plan and I really wish I could have this kind of day... well as soon as tomorrow, lol! Stay at the GF by myself the night before, wake up, breakfast at the CL lounge, have carolyn allen's come to steam my dress, shower, etc--hair at Ivy Trellis Salon, room service lunch, do my hair and makeup in quiet (or 90's dance music), be ready for the photographer at 12:30ish. I'll let a friend or something come later to get me in the dress. I just have to have peace if I'm doing my own makeup. I've wanted to stay at the GF since I was in a stroller--to stay there one night by myself sounds so amazing. Then of course, the room will be a place if I need a quick touch up, etc since we'll be at the Summerhouse--then we can just walk back to the room after it's all over and pass out. I had planned on a first look session, but I think now that I'm doing all of this, that maybe we shouldn't see each other. Since the majority of pix I want are at the GF, and the reception is there... we should have plenty of time during the pre-reception to get the pictures I want. That will give me a little more time to get ready and I won't have to start my day even earlier--I want to sleep and enjoy my quiet room as long as possible. I really like this plan. It's going to cost me--but I think it'll be great. I was going to try to use our 1 or 2 free nights at the GF--but I really want a Deluxe King Jacuzzi Room in the RPC, and my motto is--pay for what you want--meaning--don't expect an upgrade. If we get a free night or whatever... we'll put it toward the BLT reservation and pray we won't have to switch rooms. So this is what we discussed last night. We're sad we won't be at the YC, but we think there's going to be too much "stuff" to fit in a regular hotel room. We'll probably aquire more "stuff" by the end of the trip too. Being that we're saving on tickets and airfare this November, I may try to get us a room at the YC if good rates come out. Does anyone know how it'll work being that our names will be on 2 reservations at the same time?? I hope it's not dramatic, but I'm sure other weddings have done this.

So this morning on the Theme Parks board there was a link to the NOVEMBER 2011 hours!! I'm happy to say that on regular Wishes nights--they start at 8pm. So how perfect is this idea: Wrap up the reception at 7:30-7:45, option to walk to Narcoosee's Landing to watch Wishes, guests can take the boat from there to MK for their bus, or the monorail from GF back to their resort---Free Transportation because they'll be right there by the boat! (we just won't mention the massive crowds they'll face when getting to the MK after Wishes :lmao: shhhhh!) Also, that will be 8 hours with the photographer which is all I wanted to pay for, lol. It sounds perfect for now... until they make it a MVMCP night in 2012, grrr. If that's the case, we'll just call the fireworks part off and watch from our room. Fingers crossed, last year MVMCP started on a Tuesday, this year it starts on a Tuesday---hopefully it keeps it's tradition!

This schedule thing has kept me busy last night and today. I know I'm a year and a half out--but I feel like I need a plan--so I'm glad I have one now!!

PS: I went home on my lunch to check on Baxter, and he was sleeping, but was happy to see me. He seems in much better spirits today! I still feel so bad!!

Have a great week everyone!
 

Awwww... I would have felt the SAME way with Smokey, my dog! I would have probably had a nervous breakdown and not gone to work the next day--- so good for you for holding it together! (And poor DF's friend. Ugh...)

And I think that's a good decision about the hotel. We're also planning on staying in BLT for our honeymoon, but we're planning on moving around a ton! I'm kind of looking forward to it, but kind of dreading it...
 
Poor Baxter :scared1: It happens and he won't hold it against you - good thing about dogs they have unconditional love :love:

W O W - did you get alot worked out in the planning department this weekend, good for you :dancer:
 
I think your idea of having the night by yourself to be calm and quiet and the morning too is brilliant!! I think you know your family very well, and it sounds like you would not get a moment of peace!! I think you will be MUCH happier this way, and the added expense will totally be worth it when it helps you greet your wedding day calm and happy instead of tired and stressed!

I'm sorry about Baxter's poor little toe...I would have melted down too!! But he'll be ok, and fortunately, dogs have pretty short memories. In a few days he will have forgotten all about it. Well, until the next time you go to trim his nails, that is....but he loves you anyway, so it's ok.

I'm so glad that you have decided not to let ANYONE bring you down when it comes to the wedding. It's a once in a lifetime thing, and it should be all about you and Dave and what you guys want, and if others want to participate, great, and if not, their loss. You have your magical day and leave them all back in reality.


As always, I love reading your entries. You make me laugh, and you make me tense right up with you (I REALLY will never shop at Dillard's again after hearing how badly they treat you!!!) you have me rooting for you.

Thank you for sharing!
Brooke
 
I did that to Lady once and FREAKED OUT!!!! I know how you felt! She yipped and cried and then when I saw the blood I freaked out and it was really really scary! It was the first and last time I ever clipped her nails! I think I may have been slacking but I want to see this glittery crinoline! Did I miss it? (probably..Ive been a bad disbride lately :sad2:) I think the BLT and GF rooms are a great idea. Youre right, tons of people will want to come and see you, etc I think having your own hideaway is a wonderful plan!!!
 
Awwww... I would have felt the SAME way with Smokey, my dog! I would have probably had a nervous breakdown and not gone to work the next day--- so good for you for holding it together! (And poor DF's friend. Ugh...)

And I think that's a good decision about the hotel. We're also planning on staying in BLT for our honeymoon, but we're planning on moving around a ton! I'm kind of looking forward to it, but kind of dreading it...

I actually feel reallllly good about the hotel decisions. I've even been making my WeGoShop list this morning :lmao: Is a year and a half too soon to make a vacation grocery list?? Baxter seems to be feeling better. I rewarded him by sharing my Grade F taco bell last night, lol. He loves it. Dave gave him vanilla ice cream. I think this has spoiled him, lol.

Poor Baxter :scared1: It happens and he won't hold it against you - good thing about dogs they have unconditional love :love:

W O W - did you get alot worked out in the planning department this weekend, good for you :dancer:

I love Baxter's unconditional love :lovestruc He is just the best ever--that's why I freaked out when I thought I hurt him :( I'm excited that planning is coming together!!!

I think your idea of having the night by yourself to be calm and quiet and the morning too is brilliant!! I think you know your family very well, and it sounds like you would not get a moment of peace!! I think you will be MUCH happier this way, and the added expense will totally be worth it when it helps you greet your wedding day calm and happy instead of tired and stressed!

I'm sorry about Baxter's poor little toe...I would have melted down too!! But he'll be ok, and fortunately, dogs have pretty short memories. In a few days he will have forgotten all about it. Well, until the next time you go to trim his nails, that is....but he loves you anyway, so it's ok.

I'm so glad that you have decided not to let ANYONE bring you down when it comes to the wedding. It's a once in a lifetime thing, and it should be all about you and Dave and what you guys want, and if others want to participate, great, and if not, their loss. You have your magical day and leave them all back in reality.


As always, I love reading your entries. You make me laugh, and you make me tense right up with you (I REALLY will never shop at Dillard's again after hearing how badly they treat you!!!) you have me rooting for you.

Thank you for sharing!
Brooke

I was thinking that about the next time I go to clip him... he's going to go nuts. Until then... it's all hugs and kisses, lol! Thanks for reading along! I won't hold it against you if you find something at Dillards :) They do have nice stuff... they just aggrevate me!!! The counter that I work at is right next to shoes and that's a dangerous place for me to be :laughing:

I did that to Lady once and FREAKED OUT!!!! I know how you felt! She yipped and cried and then when I saw the blood I freaked out and it was really really scary! It was the first and last time I ever clipped her nails! I think I may have been slacking but I want to see this glittery crinoline! Did I miss it? (probably..Ive been a bad disbride lately :sad2:) I think the BLT and GF rooms are a great idea. Youre right, tons of people will want to come and see you, etc I think having your own hideaway is a wonderful plan!!!

So you've done this too?? Yeah... I freaked really bad. Well I haven't bought the crinolene yet... but I think that's what I'm going to do to it. I think I'm going to add a rhinestone border to the bottoms and spray it down with glitter. I was reading on some costume site that they sprayed Giselle's crinolene with glitter spray paint--sounds amazing.

http://www.costumersguide.com/enchanted1.shtml

I thought it would be easier to find a silver crinolene.... but when I did a search it was all highly inappropriate costume crinny. You know... like if you were to work the corner downtown? I gave up and figured I'd just spray mine down, lol!

Where are you staying for your wedding? Did you decide?? What's in your room block??

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Thanks everyone for your kind thoughts for my little Baxter. He looks like he's feeling better, but still milking the fact that he can be spoiled because I feel bad.

......and just because I think it's odd--- our cafeteria's menu today is:
spaghetti and meatballs, mashed potatoes and green beans.

:confused3 what? :confused3

Have a great day!
 
I got an Easter card from my aunt yesterday :) $50 to BP and $150 to JCP :banana: The $50 only gave me 3/4 of a tank this morning, but I didn't have to pay for it, lol! I plan on going straight to the mall after work... that card is burning a hole in my Vera Bradley :laughing: Just think.. that was just Easter! My birthday is May 1st!! Come on big money :rotfl2: We leave for Disney in 16 days... I could sure use it!!

My birthday is May 1st too! :banana:
 
Well I havent decided for sure yet but Im thinking I'll probably stay at a moderate. We have POR-Riverside, GF, and ASMovies for our block. It's looking like Riverside at this point. Where are yall staying in November? Could I maybe trade you a dinner or lunch for your ressie number?:rolleyes1
 
Well I havent decided for sure yet but Im thinking I'll probably stay at a moderate. We have POR-Riverside, GF, and ASMovies for our block. It's looking like Riverside at this point. Where are yall staying in November? Could I maybe trade you a dinner or lunch for your ressie number?:rolleyes1

we haven't decided where to stay yet... probably look into points or maybe a splurge on the yacht club---pshh or maybe asmovies :rotfl: who knows. whatever it is... i'll give you the number! email me what your discounts are :) maybe sugarloaf is calling my name :laughing:
 
yeah... i know that i normally update on mondays, but i didn't have anything nice to say yesterday so i was trying to heed thumper's advice. i have noticed a pattern in my rants and they normally run about every 4 weeks.... get the picture? well that's how i feel this week too. sunday night i told dave we were going to the courthouse :laughing: today isn't too much about the wedding, but it's relationship and disney related with a little bit of family drama and wedding.

i try to supplement, take care of us, do everything i can to live life comfortably, but i feel like lately i've failed. i've lost some time when i was sick at my part time job--no pay, the lady we rented from didn't tell us our waitlist came thru till the last minute and i scraped an extra $400 up, you know about my taxes, my part time screwed up my vacation and i lost out on 5 paid days i was supposed to have, plus i got a paycut there--and it's really hurt. i told him we would be dropping down to the ddp for the trip because i couldn't affort the dxddp, and that we would only be doing park hoppers and no water parks. you would think the world caved in. he said he wasn't going that he was going to cancel his flight and go to vegas where he doesn't have to eat a cheeseburger or chicken fingers at a counter service and that he really wanted to do the water parks so he was out. i became very very upset because i'm doing the best i can. i was even looking at stuff from the garden grocer to cook in the villa. he said that was stupid. there's just times when i can't do it all. part of me wondered what it would be like on a 10 day solo trip--is that wrong? he told me to get the dxddp for myself and go alone. i told him the only way i would enjoy those experiences were with him. if i ever were to go alone, i'd go ddp or qsdp. so i cried. this was easter sunday after we went to walmart and i didn't say no to anything he put in the cart. i try really hard to be generous. i told him if he chose not to go then he was choosing not to be in my life and that we would be over. he didn't think i was serious, but i definately was. it really hurt my feelings. i went as far to say that if he's choosing a spicy kazan roll over our relationship then that's really sad. i would eat chicken fingers or ramen for every meal if it meant spending quality time with no interruptions with him.

he has a decent sized tax return coming by the end of the week. i never once said to him that he needed to use that for vacation. he told me he was using it for sunglasses for the both of us and new shoes for him which after that he still has about $1000. technically the glasses are fabulous, but a waste for me. i have like 4 pair of contacts left which i'll take on the trip--but i always wear glasses and prescription sunglasses. i really hate contacts. you would think if he felt so strongly about the deluxe plan that he would say... oh--i'll get it. instead--i finally had to bring up the subject yesterday that if he would get it, i would pay the HOA for the rest of the year. not a great deal since my tax payment adds another bill, plus this, plus my forbearance ends on my student loan in july. so that's 3 more bills. yippie. i feel like he should have just paid for it without me having to bribe him.

lets rewind. my family is falling apart. minor background--my aunt (dad's sister) never married. when my grandmother passed, the house was left to my aunt. my aunt, my dad, my biological mother, and i lived there, then biological moved out, couple years later, stepmom moves in---and that's how it was. all of us all together. i moved to kentucky in 2002--not a great decision, but never would have met dave if i didn't. dad passed away in 2008. stepmom is living with my aunt. weird situation. they're not getting along and i'm stuck in the middle of it. they both are in a pissing match of grieving and it's exhausting. my aunt lived with him his entire life, and my stepmom was married to him for 20 years--the winner has yet to be determined. i know who's in the wrong, but i can't voice my opinion. i love them both and it's a very hard time to see things falling to shambles. everyone is always fighting and complaining and no one gives a rat's behind that i'm getting married. i keep thinking to myself that no one really cares about this wedding--why are you having it? maybe it'll change next week. so on easter my aunt wouldn't go to my stepmom's family to eat and she was upset about it, i got caught in a spiderweb of phone calls and i just want to tell them both to stop. they shouldn't be living together, but my aunt is getting up in age and if she's not there--then she becomes my responsibility--and i'm 280 miles away. what to do. i asked my stepmom to feel out her side of the family about the wedding plans while she was there. i've been anxious to hear--but the only text i recieved this morning from her was complaining--so i didn't answer back.

yesterday i got my magical express info. it had 6 people on it. the 2 of us and 4 from a guzan family. i don't know any guzans. i was going to call this morning. i went to do online check in.... it said our room at saratoga was for 6 adults... us and the guzans. who are these people?? i freaked. my card info is attached to that room, there would be an adult surcharge! i called and it was a 2 hour rollercoaster this morning. they had to make me a new reservation and everything. i hope the guzans get their stuff straight. i'm sure they're lovely, but i wasn't camping with them.

on the plus side....

also yesterday my mousesavers email saved my life. mousesavers had a discount link for tickets on undercover tourist that was a discount on top of their discount. i got 8 day WP/PH tickets for our 10 day trip. the first two days we can do waterparks, disneyquest :sick:, downtown disney, take pictures of the summerhouse, hang out, etc. then do the parks for the last 8 days. it was a pretty good deal--and now everyone can be happy.

we leave in 9 days. there's lots to be done, hopefully baxter's sitter doesn't flake on us--she's moving this weekend and that makes me nervous. she keeps telling me she's excited, but i feel like she'll be really busy. we went over reservations last night and i wanted to make sure his birthday meals were what he wanted. he said he wanted to cancel the hoop de doo for dinner. i asked him what he would want for his bday dinner instead..... he tells me sci-fi. freaking sci-fi??? of all the restaurants on property you want to eat at sci-fi? whatever. i guess i drag him to hollywood and vine breakfast and i sing the hot dog song around the house. so that was our final change. i'm mentally beat, and i'm cramping. it's been storming for 2 weeks here and i need some serious sunlight.

well i'm off to the cafeteria: chili mac and green beans anyone?

disclosure: this isn't meant to bash the love of my life... it's just reality and i choose to share. not all relationship are picture perfect. i love him dearly.
 
Hi sweetie. First off--- :goodvibes:goodvibes

Now, I completely understand what you mean about DF and money. I have had similar fights with DF in the past, but lately he has gotten a LOT better due to some major freak outs and crying on my part. (Did you try the crying? The crying usually works very well!) Now, I know you don't want any relationship advice, but have you guys sat down and talked about money? I'm SURE you don't want to worry and feel like you have to support the two of you for the rest of your lives! Maybe do it nicely and talk about how, when you're married, the two of you will have your money combined, yadda yadda yadda--- that's what I did with my DF, and it worked really well. (I hope I'm not stepping on your toes here with this! I know how sensitive money issues are, and I'm just offering support! <3)

I'm also sorry about your family falling apart and that it is such a weird situation. You sound like such a sweet, caring person!!!

AND, I'm sorry about the Guzans, but the way you put it just made me LOL. You guys should meet up for dinner!!! :rotfl:
 
Let me start out by saying... I LOVE YOU!

Did I make you smile? I hope!

I'm SO sorry that you had to go through all of that. It's really tough. MY Dave is the main breadwinner.. but when it came to our recent vacation to Disney we split it. Each paid our own way. And same thing is going on with the honeymoon.. mostly. But he understands in some months I won't be able to contribute as much.

I woulda bursted into tears if I was in your situation about the whole Disney thing. I say screw it and I'll meet you there! I'll take his place and we can both have a girls week and leave our Dave's at home! :lmao: I'm sorry girlie, but maybe it's time for him to realize and get the priorities straight when it comes to the money situation? Have you guys ever talked about it all? Dave and I fight about money.. and only money. And it's more or less me getting aggravated with him criticizing what I'm doing with MY money when I'm budgeting myself as good as I can while still giving myself like $20 to have fun with! lol

As far as your aunt and stepmom.. I am sending pixie dust and prayers your way girl! :wizard: :wizard: :wizard: I hope everything falls into place and people realize it's just about time to deal with it because LIFE IS TOO SHORT.

I want to hear all about your wedding and I'm more than willing to give you my email / cell phone number so you can text away! I'm hear to listen to you and will give you my opinion and input on things. You deserve to be happy about it and I have no problem sharing in your happiness... as long as you can handle my random rants too! :woohoo:

If I were you.. I'd plan for a small little Escape wedding and just invite friends at this point.

LOVES YOU LUV LUV LUV! <3 <3 <3 <3
 
Hi sweetie. First off--- :goodvibes:goodvibes

Now, I completely understand what you mean about DF and money. I have had similar fights with DF in the past, but lately he has gotten a LOT better due to some major freak outs and crying on my part. (Did you try the crying? The crying usually works very well!) Now, I know you don't want any relationship advice, but have you guys sat down and talked about money? I'm SURE you don't want to worry and feel like you have to support the two of you for the rest of your lives! Maybe do it nicely and talk about how, when you're married, the two of you will have your money combined, yadda yadda yadda--- that's what I did with my DF, and it worked really well. (I hope I'm not stepping on your toes here with this! I know how sensitive money issues are, and I'm just offering support! <3)

I'm also sorry about your family falling apart and that it is such a weird situation. You sound like such a sweet, caring person!!!

AND, I'm sorry about the Guzans, but the way you put it just made me LOL. You guys should meet up for dinner!!! :rotfl:

Lol, I feel like the Guzans became a major part of my life today. I kept visualizing checking in and Disney telling me that the rest of my party had already arrived and were waiting in the room :laughing: I had also visualized swiping my debit card and it being declined from the Guzan's going to Fulton's Crab House on my dime :rotfl: We definately had a money talk. We have had several, but last night I really laid it out there (and I cried, lol). If it were all merged into one account I have a feeling things would be much better, but it's just getting him to change his direct deposits--he keeps saying he will--but is just lazy. I just want to be sure everything is being paid, and on time, and proper amounts are being saved. He doesn't have any concept of this. Grr! Thanks for listening!!

Let me start out by saying... I LOVE YOU!

Did I make you smile? I hope!

I'm SO sorry that you had to go through all of that. It's really tough. MY Dave is the main breadwinner.. but when it came to our recent vacation to Disney we split it. Each paid our own way. And same thing is going on with the honeymoon.. mostly. But he understands in some months I won't be able to contribute as much.

I woulda bursted into tears if I was in your situation about the whole Disney thing. I say screw it and I'll meet you there! I'll take his place and we can both have a girls week and leave our Dave's at home! :lmao: I'm sorry girlie, but maybe it's time for him to realize and get the priorities straight when it comes to the money situation? Have you guys ever talked about it all? Dave and I fight about money.. and only money. And it's more or less me getting aggravated with him criticizing what I'm doing with MY money when I'm budgeting myself as good as I can while still giving myself like $20 to have fun with! lol

As far as your aunt and stepmom.. I am sending pixie dust and prayers your way girl! :wizard: :wizard: :wizard: I hope everything falls into place and people realize it's just about time to deal with it because LIFE IS TOO SHORT.

I want to hear all about your wedding and I'm more than willing to give you my email / cell phone number so you can text away! I'm hear to listen to you and will give you my opinion and input on things. You deserve to be happy about it and I have no problem sharing in your happiness... as long as you can handle my random rants too! :woohoo:

If I were you.. I'd plan for a small little Escape wedding and just invite friends at this point.

LOVES YOU LUV LUV LUV! <3 <3 <3 <3
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Awww you make me :goodvibes We ONLY fight about money too--but I think most households are like that. His boss is hanging a job double his salary over his head, and I think that he thinks he already has it.


I think I'm going to invite my aunt and stepmom for either Memorial Day or 4th of July and I'm going to sit them down and let them have it. We all miss him, we all still have lives to lead, let's just make the most of it.

I would have also been happy to invite you to Girls Week 2011, lol. Well that is if you didn't mind sharing a room with the Guzan's. :lmao:

Oh what a week... and it's only Tuesday. I'm gonna wrap up at the office... and call it a night. Thanks for always being here!!!
 
:grouphug:I know how you feel. About the money situation anyway. I'm also the main breadwinner and it's hard to see him buying stuff he doesn't need when I'm putting all my spare money into the savings for the wedding. My best friend is also having the same issue with her boyfriend- she pays for everything (all the bills) and he is basically coasting along working 10 hours a week. I hope you guys can work through the money issues and come up with a solution that will work for your relationship and keep you happy (but not feeling overwhelmed having to support the both of you).

The aunt/stepmom situation is really awkward. I'm sorry I don't have much advice! It seems like maybe one of them should consider getting their own place...

I know it can be frustrating when no one in your family talks about the wedding. It didn't come up when we were with Greg's family for Easter. I think it's because it is still a year and a half away. People just can't think that far ahead. I think you will get more questions and interest once you are within the year mark. At least I hope we both do!
 
Awww you make me :goodvibes We ONLY fight about money too--but I think most households are like that. His boss is hanging a job double his salary over his head and keeps saying how he'll be perfect for it when it comes available. He thinks he already has it, but he's been told this for 8 months and I think they're just trying to keep him from leaving. I think some days he's bitter about his lifestyle change. His ex-wife makes the cost of our condo per year, and I make the cost of a loaded SUV (only because I slave at 2 jobs). I know adjustments can be rough so I do try to understand. I was given everything I wanted in 3 different colors growing up, and then I got to the point where I was calling to check credit cards to see if I had enough on it to put a drive-thru meal on. I'm thankful that I've worked hard to make something better of myself then where I was in my early 20's. It was a very hard adjustment to go through, so I kind of understand the mentality of what is happening--and it's hard. Grrrr Money Sucks!!

Lol, you just made me visualize when I was out on my behind 280 miles from home and needed an apartment quick because I moved down here with a pure crazy at 19 years old-- I was flat broke, not talking to parents at the time and I still dressed and acted like I had it all going on :lmao: I went to Big Lots, and Family Dollar and the Dollar Tree with my big LV purse and 4 inch heels... :lmao: Shopping for kitchen utensils and house stuff since I needed so much and I couldn't afford much else. The standard northern Kentucky dress code for those places is pajamas, no bra and flip flops. That apartment was full of cheapness.... but I made it work. I have a way of doing with what I have. Sorry I just had the visual and it was HILARIOUS. At least I can laugh about it now.

((If you're wondering what happened next... I didn't like being poor so I discovered credit. Whoopsie!! $30,000 later I figured I was in trouble. I'm now consolidated and my last payment is March 2013!!))

I think I'm going to invite my aunt and stepmom for either Memorial Day or 4th of July and I'm going to sit them down and let them have it. We all miss him, we all still have lives to lead, let's just make the most of it.

I would have also been happy to invite you to Girls Week 2011, lol. Well that is if you didn't mind sharing a room with the Guzan's. :lmao:

Oh what a week... and it's only Tuesday. I'm gonna wrap up at the office... and call it a night. Thanks for always being here!!!


So you were like a damned super model in there huh! Ha. I feel like that when I go into those stores down over by Dave's house.. his town borders an inner city.. thank goodness he lives a bit aways from the borders. lol.
I was actually telling him the one day when we left the one Harley Davidson dealer we go to in PA, that I always feel like a straight up super model when I leave! :woohoo: Ohhh yeahhh. Go us! ha.

I think a lil BBQ is definitely in need.. it's for the best and may bring everyone back to earth yanno??

It'll all work out. And hey, the Guzan's may be a LOT of fun!! =] :banana: :banana:

No problem girlie. And like I said if you want my number.. I'll send it to you so you can vent away! lol. :rolleyes1
 
Glad you are feeling better and that you talked it out with DF! I'm married 10 years now and you WILL have ups and downs but NEVER stop talking TO each other not AT each other...big difference! I want to give you a hug and tell you that it will all work out :goodvibes
 
Happy Monday Everyone!! Happy 3 Days to go for Me!!

Let me start by saying that I've had less than 1 hour of sleep so I may ramble. We stayed up late watching the news, I had food poisoning from Olive Garden, and Dave has some nasal/sinus mess that was loud and obnoxious... then there was a 3 hour thunderstorm. Sleep is over-rated--let's get started:

So yesterday was my 28th birthday. I was up at midnight Saturday night/Sunday morning and I had a meltdown by 1am. A few of my old friends were awake and posted on my FB and I realized how much I missed some of them. Our lives all grew in different directions and for so many years we were together and having the times of our lives. Now they only come around when I say something outlandish on my news feed, or when FB has a notification that I was getting one year older. I certainly felt the FB love over the next 24 hours. People I don't talk to ever took 20 seconds to send their wishes. Seeing some names of people who used to be so important to me really made me start thinking of old times--kinda made me sad. I always had 4 different lives between my PA life, softball life, racing life, and work life. I consider Dave to be my softball life. My PA life is gone, and my racing life is in the process of fading. My racing friends were the ones who were there for my in my hardest times and I'm having the hardest time letting them go. I'm going to cry... so I'm going to change the subject---my lashes look great today and I'm not going to ruin them.

So being that it was my birthday and all... you would think my mailbox would be overflowing and my phone would be off the hook. I got a $25 card from my step-grandmother and a card from Dave's mom with a $15 Starbucks card. The Dior girls gave me $30 to Starbucks. I quit drinking Starbucks like 2 months ago... guess I'll have to start again since I have a small fortune to spend there. I also got a real live phone call from my very best friend from racing who lives in Georgia. He called around 10pm and it was late in the day, I was very upset and I just cried and told him how much it meant that he remembered me. The bottom line if you missed it is that none of my family except for my step-grandmother sent a card or called me to acknowledge my birthday. I take that back... my 21 year old cousin sent me a FB wall post. Maybe something will come in the mail today. I still can't excuse the fact that no one picked up the phone. I'm seriously heartbroken.

On the brighter side, Dave and I spent the day together and went out shopping, he got his new shoes (another pair of AirMax)... and I was between a couple pair and I couldn't decide so I left with nothing. I was looking at another pair of AirMax, another pair of ZigTech, Toms and rhinestone sandals. Once I got home, I decided on the Toms Glitters in Black... but I'll get them at Curl this week I guess. I would have felt bad getting the AirMax at $160 because I'm not sure that he's looked at his bank account and has seen how much I took out of it on Friday :rolleyes1 I took enough for the deluxe dining plan, my spa, and a tank of gas in my SUV :eek: We were supposed to meet some of my work friends out at Benihana, but then we switched it to Olive Garden because there was big hoopla from a marathon downtown, then we were so hungry about 3pm I called and said we'd do something when we get back because we had so much to do that day. Well I got food poisoning from what I'm assuming was the Chicken Gnocchi soup because it was the only thing Dave didn't have. You know about food poisoning--no need to be graphic :sick:. At least I saved about 10 other people from what I went through. Other fun times on my b-day included dishes, mopping, shampoo'ing carpets and laundry. This morning I got a Chocolate Mousse cake and a pretty purple plant at work. In the past week I've got 3 plants, 1 today for my b-day and 2 for Admin's day. My desk feels like a greenhouse.

It was about 1am, we were watching the news and I looked at Dave and told him that I think this may be the last straw. He looked at me and asked, "for the wedding?" I said yes, that if you can't take a moment from your day to dial my number and say happy birthday that I have absolutely no use for you on my wedding day. So now my feelings are up in the air about all of this. I'm not going to make some rash decision until I calm down about all of this. How do you even approach telling someone you're angry over a happy birthday? Seems petty, but I am just wrecked over it. I should forget about Mother's Day... instead, I'll sign the cards I have sitting right here, lick the envelope and mail them today.

I have 3 days of work left and I actually have lots of work to do here. I have no desire to do it at all. I want to get into my wedding spreadsheets so badly and see what I can work up, lol. I want to take an afternoon at the GF while we're there to look at the Summerhouse, Sunset Pointe (in case of a last minute decision, lol), the walk from the WP to the Summerhouse, and where the best spot might be to watch Wishes. I'm down to 9 weeks before booking and I just don't know that I'm ready to make a final decision.

Off the subject... I just turned around to the TV (I have CNBC on in the office) and clearly their staff was woken out of bed last night and haven't been to back sleep yet. The girls have no makeup on and their hair isn't even brushed. I've never seen them look so rough! Good to know they're real people underneath the airbrush :laughing:

----because I'm crazy I randomly just picked up the phone and called home.

I said I was very upset about yesterday. She said she was putting my card in the mail before she leaves for work today. A little late don't ya say? I asked if the wedding was discussed during Easter which I begged her to do, she said no. I begged her to ask the family. I told her as of right now no one was invited and we were going on our own. She said she was going and I told her that she wasn't. (I did this to get a reaction--you know how it works) She wants to keep questioning Disney's rules about minimums and room blocks, etc and I told her she wouldn't need to worry about that because we were going alone. I told her that anywhere you go will have rules. She thinks if you're paying, you make the rules--wake up sister. Everyone is being so fickle about cats, dogs, planes, money, travel, school---forget it. I got really mad and said this was the last chance to see what they were going to do or I'm booking a trip for the two of us by ourselves. I'm tired of working my life away for this wedding and no one really cares anyway. I know if you have an Escape you can have guests, but I don't want them--and I made it clear no one would be invited. She said she would make some calls. Why am I letting other people dictate what my wedding will be? I feel like I'm planning 2 different weddings and it's terribly exhausting. I feel like I'm in my own version of My Fair Wedding and I'm anxiously awaiting which one will be picked.

So there it is. A weekend update and an on-the-spot update all in one. I think I'm going to stick my face in this cake and crack open a cherry coke. Happy Monday Everyone!!
 















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