LuvLuvLuv
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Wanna see a Disbride have a meltdown at her desk in the middle of the main lobby? Come to downtown Cincinnati.
My boss even walked by and told me to take a deep breath
Got a text from the parental unit telling me that Dave and I need to have a serious conversation about a Disney Wedding. It will be very expensive for everyone you want to invite with plane fare, food, tickets and hotel room.
This was out of the blue, random... haven't talked to her in a week and a half.
I couldn't believe my eyes. I picked up the phone so fast and dialed her number. Dave and I have conversations about this almost every night. It's happening. She started on costs and I just blurted that someone needs to let me know because I will have a Memories wedding in November and no one will be invited. I told her you can't have any guests. I know this is a lie, but it felt right
I said that someone needs to tell me before I drop deposits on DFTW and a photographer, buying things like favors and aisle runners. Ever since my father passed away, the theme of everything is: I don't know if I'll be dead next year. I HATE THAT. Everytime someone says that, I could curl up in a little ball, clinch my fists and scream. She went over what some of the family is saying. I told her that I could care less what anyone does, but someone needs to let me know. I told her we were inviting friends now and we could invite some extended family if necessary and she didn't like it. I advised that she needs to quit looking at "she's paying for the reception" -- she's not. I told her if she wants to contribute, great... but she's not taking on one thing... just give me the chunk and I'll distribute as I see fit. I'm in charge. So there were a few rounds of nonsense and I just lost it. I explained that everyone is expected to be on property for my room block and she thinks every room is $400 a night. I told her she needs to stop talking if she doesn't know what she's talking about. That was mean--I regret it... but she stopped 
She said it would cost each person $2000 to come down. Um... no? I asked her if it cost that much when we went a few weeks ago... and she's like... welllllllll? Yeah. I'm right. We have no activities in the parks and I am not forcing anyone to buy a park ticket if they don't want to. The resorts and Downtown Disney have plenty to offer. 
I finally bursted and said we would cancel the whole thing. My temper got the best of me. You would have done the same thing in a fit of rage. This is when my boss walked by and said to be nice and take a deep breath. I have no intention on canceling it all together--I was just trying to get her attention I said if they can't afford to go to Florida, then they can't afford to come to Kentucky. Hotels around here aren't cheap, gas sucks, and you still have to buy food and entertainment. I was done with the conversation.
So she's going to work on the family up there, and let me know soon. My aunt has never been on a plane or at WDW and she's scared she doesn't know what anything is. So before I could stop the words from falling out of my mouth.... I invited the 2 of them in November How did this happen? She loved the idea and is getting back to me in a week or so. What was I thinking?? I think I really excited her. Phooey.
I just get everything worked out and within 24 hours something crashes. I'm not worrying about it. I'm soooooo over dramatics and this wedding. What will happen will happen. Hopefully everyone will be there... if not... we'll figure something out and I'll have new kitchen appliances and a hardwood floor. Sorry, I'm still so mad, but I'm still at work and can't completely lose it. It's probably a good thing that I'm here or it may have gotten obscene and I would have said things I would regret.
So in closing (lol) I have finished my estimated budget. Of course I estimated everything very high for fees, inflation and such. If she saw these numbers she would pass out. I left this part out of our conversation
DFTW: 17,800 (everything that goes toward the minimum)
Other: 21,700
Total: 39,500
The other includes everything from our flights, apparel, grocery store, dog sitter, planning session, photography, invites, rehearsal, hotel stay, dining plan, spending money, tips.... EVERYTHING-- so it's high. I think I've over estimated by 3000-5000.... which is good--the hotel is based on rack rate and I am hoping for deals! For the Disney part, I did it based on 35 people... which we won't have that many so that's on the high side too. I just like to see what it might be so I don't get shocked.
Okay... I should quit typing and go take a minute to myself. I'm still all worked up. I needed to get this all out and that's a step in the right direction
Thanks for listening/reading 
My boss even walked by and told me to take a deep breath
Got a text from the parental unit telling me that Dave and I need to have a serious conversation about a Disney Wedding. It will be very expensive for everyone you want to invite with plane fare, food, tickets and hotel room.
This was out of the blue, random... haven't talked to her in a week and a half.
I couldn't believe my eyes. I picked up the phone so fast and dialed her number. Dave and I have conversations about this almost every night. It's happening. She started on costs and I just blurted that someone needs to let me know because I will have a Memories wedding in November and no one will be invited. I told her you can't have any guests. I know this is a lie, but it felt right
I said that someone needs to tell me before I drop deposits on DFTW and a photographer, buying things like favors and aisle runners. Ever since my father passed away, the theme of everything is: I don't know if I'll be dead next year. I HATE THAT. Everytime someone says that, I could curl up in a little ball, clinch my fists and scream. She went over what some of the family is saying. I told her that I could care less what anyone does, but someone needs to let me know. I told her we were inviting friends now and we could invite some extended family if necessary and she didn't like it. I advised that she needs to quit looking at "she's paying for the reception" -- she's not. I told her if she wants to contribute, great... but she's not taking on one thing... just give me the chunk and I'll distribute as I see fit. I'm in charge. So there were a few rounds of nonsense and I just lost it. I explained that everyone is expected to be on property for my room block and she thinks every room is $400 a night. I told her she needs to stop talking if she doesn't know what she's talking about. That was mean--I regret it... but she stopped She said it would cost each person $2000 to come down. Um... no? I asked her if it cost that much when we went a few weeks ago... and she's like... welllllllll? Yeah. I'm right. We have no activities in the parks and I am not forcing anyone to buy a park ticket if they don't want to. The resorts and Downtown Disney have plenty to offer. I finally bursted and said we would cancel the whole thing. My temper got the best of me. You would have done the same thing in a fit of rage. This is when my boss walked by and said to be nice and take a deep breath. I have no intention on canceling it all together--I was just trying to get her attention
I said if they can't afford to go to Florida, then they can't afford to come to Kentucky. Hotels around here aren't cheap, gas sucks, and you still have to buy food and entertainment. I was done with the conversation. So she's going to work on the family up there, and let me know soon. My aunt has never been on a plane or at WDW and she's scared she doesn't know what anything is. So before I could stop the words from falling out of my mouth.... I invited the 2 of them in November
How did this happen? She loved the idea and is getting back to me in a week or so. What was I thinking?? I think I really excited her. Phooey. I just get everything worked out and within 24 hours something crashes. I'm not worrying about it. I'm soooooo over dramatics and this wedding. What will happen will happen. Hopefully everyone will be there... if not... we'll figure something out and I'll have new kitchen appliances and a hardwood floor. Sorry, I'm still so mad, but I'm still at work and can't completely lose it. It's probably a good thing that I'm here or it may have gotten obscene and I would have said things I would regret.
So in closing (lol) I have finished my estimated budget. Of course I estimated everything very high for fees, inflation and such. If she saw these numbers she would pass out. I left this part out of our conversation
DFTW: 17,800 (everything that goes toward the minimum)
Other: 21,700
Total: 39,500
The other includes everything from our flights, apparel, grocery store, dog sitter, planning session, photography, invites, rehearsal, hotel stay, dining plan, spending money, tips.... EVERYTHING-- so it's high. I think I've over estimated by 3000-5000.... which is good--the hotel is based on rack rate and I am hoping for deals! For the Disney part, I did it based on 35 people... which we won't have that many so that's on the high side too. I just like to see what it might be so I don't get shocked.
Okay... I should quit typing and go take a minute to myself. I'm still all worked up. I needed to get this all out and that's a step in the right direction
Thanks for listening/reading 
I hate being semi-disrespectful, but when it comes to decisions and deposits needing to be made it's sooooo aggrevating!! Thanks for being here 
It'll all work out for us and people will WISH they were there!!
I even carried my mood into work! I found out that the other girls at my counter got to choose one of our new lipsticks for being #1 in the country last month. I'm there at night so I miss out on a lot... and I have thousands of lipsticks at home but I was 
Needless to say, I hung up on her and got in the shower to cool down. 
'ing in my head) My aunt doesn't want to fly because she thinks all planes are broken, and my stepmom is going to NYC for Thanksgiving the next week so she doesn't want to travel that much in 2 weeks. My aunt has offered to pay for my dress and I was like 
I will probably ask for my veil, headpiece and crinny for Christmas and that will be taken care of!!
! I'm glad everything is alright though-- you definitely knew your body best. I definitely understand why they want to check out all of the options, though. Yuck about those taxes-- I only owed a little bit, but it's still a headache1
I'll check out your link. I want a very wide aisle runner with a ribbon boarder, added rhinestones and a glitter & sign between our names. I've already taken it down a notch because I wanted rhinestone ribbon down the whole thing originally. I may have to try my hand on a cheap one to see what I can do. 
