LTT waitress said WHAT????

[beattyfamily]

IMHO, that would not be an appropriate thing to say to a child.

 

[dohgusgus]

I would be one confused little boy if someone told me that.

but i'm not, I'm a girl...born one too!

 

[tigger536]

TMI! TMI! T.M.I.!!!!

 

[kona-kraft]

I would be one confused little boy if someone told me that.

WEll, I am one BIG girl, and even I am confused on this one ....... OMG !!!!!

 

[mom2my3kids]

I have to laugh my father in law always says to my youngest who is 3, are you being a good little girl.. He will say I am a boy grandpa..

 

[50 years Too!]

I don't think it is appropriate to say to an adult either. Nor would it be okay for me to say I was getting a divorce, my mother just died, etc. There is a difference as to what one says to someone they know and what one says to someone they are waiting on in a restaurant, or in any other professional encounter. Like the rest have said TMI.

 

[dizkids]

Some people are nervous around others and just say the oddest things...perhaps this person was feeling a little anxious for some reason. I for one have said to myself more than once "I can't believe i just said that".

 

[Stinky_Pete]

Nor would it be okay for me to say I was getting a divorce, my mother just died, etc.

Interesting comparison.

 

[DisneyGirlie]

I don't think it is appropriate to say to an adult either. Nor would it be okay for me to say I was getting a divorce, my mother just died, etc. There is a difference as to what one says to someone they know and what one says to someone they are waiting on in a restaurant, or in any other professional encounter. Like the rest have said TMI.

IMHO, that would not be an appropriate thing to say to a child.

Agree totally.

 

[jcc0621]

TMI! TMI! T.M.I.!!!!

TOTALLY AGREE....I don't know what I would have said to her or m son

 

[annie1995]

Truthful or not, you just don't blurt that out. Especially to a child.

 

[tinker&belle]

I guess I'm interested in all the "TMI" responses. I teach young children, and am about to be a parent myself. I can see how this might be something you wouldn't want to address with a child in the MK, but these kind of occurances are real and moments when you can have an authentic conversation with the child. Children will learn these things, (I can see why the MK is not where you want to have the conversation, but life can get in the way of other plans KWIM?) Instead of shuddering at the topic answer the question (if the child even asks) with something appropriate for the child's maturity.

 

[tigger536]

Its just not info you normally blurt out to complete strangers, that's all. I don't blurt out my unsolicited medical history to complete strangers, either. And with a child, it should be up to the parents how/ when to introduce such a topic, too.

 

[TDC Nala]

Whatever she went through, it isn't professional to be sharing something so personal with customers.

 

[Jubilee]

She probably just blurted it out. Afterall, it is all part of her life.

I do think it would be a great kindness if you would edit her name out of your post.

If she said it to members of the public, then what's the difference if it's posted here?

 

[MPLsDad]

First of all, this person was their server. There was no need for this exchange to happen. When I'm eating in a restaurant, all I expect is for the server to let me know what the specials are and to take and deliver my order. I do not need or expect any personal information from the server. Sometimes they offer a name. I used to work as a server and I would never, ever volunteer any more information than my first name. I would have called the manager over immediately. If I went in expecting a meal and left having to explain gender issues, I would have been annoyed to say the least. My agenda = dinner. Server's agenda = Bring me dinner. Anything beyond that is unacceptable.

 

[Chloesmom]

IMO, someone should not be ashamed or have to hide something like that however its way too personal of a comment to make to a customer at a restaurant. I dont really want to know THAT much about who is bringing out my food. I would be just as put off if they mentioned a health issue or a private life issue like divorce or death.
As far as said to a child.. I have tried to raise my child to know that each and every person is different and has a story unique to their own lives. Since she has diabetes and unfortunately has had many deaths in her young life she is has spent ALOT of time in hospitals and has just grown up knowing people are different. Handicap, short, tall, man ,woman, homosexual, african american, asian.. they are all the same to her so I am not sure she would bat an eye at that comment.
That being said.. if they were made uncomfortable by it they should have expressed it to her in some way. If they got poor treatment as a result ( you said she was not great after they laughed) then they for sure should have said something.

 

[SnackyStacky]

I think it's TMI as well. And I have nothing but respect for transgendered folks. But there's a time and a place for everything. Dinner time is neither the time, nor the place to make such an announcement.

And I would have no problem with my kids hearing something like that - just not at the dinner table!

 

[BCV23]

If she said it to members of the public, then what's the difference if it's posted here?

The difference is several thousand people. Do unto others and all that....

While I agree it is TMI (and boy it took me a long time to figure that one out!), I doubt she meant to share it. Just the same casual chitchat a server might have akin to realizing she's from the same little town as the guests. She didn't discuss her medical history...just a nickname she had in the past. Her nickname was a part of her life.

I'm with whomever expressed surprise that a docor and her family blinked an eye at this.

To the OP, I glad you didn't use the real name. Now let's just hope no Teresa works at LTT.

 

[slug]

What am I missing here? That comment was inappropriate and bizarre. It has nothing to do with expressing who you are. It's not appropriate to share these types of intimate details with a young child unless that child is your own child and you decide to do so. What if the conversation went like this:

Waiter: How are you today
Child: I'm good how are you.
Waiter: Well, not too good. I'm a little sore from having a vasectamy yesterday.

Is that appropriate? Of couse not. Keep your intimate medical procedures to yourself or to those who want to hear about them.