Love: A poll

[Art Vandalay]

Do you believe you can be in love with someone if you've only been with them in person for a few days?

Does it make a difference if you've known them for a long time online? Talked on the phone a lot?

Poll coming...

 

[CraftyMouse]

I'm not really sure which option to pick. I think that two people can meet online, spend lots of time talking/getting to know each other and know that there is a connection. I do think that that connection then depends on an in-person meeting to be solidified. In some cases things will go well and in others they won't. If things go well it is easy to say that the love was there before the in-person meeting, but who really knows? I think it comes down to circumstances and the two, specific people involved. So yes, I think it is possible, but I don't think it happens very often...sort of like Love At First Sight.

 

[mumom95]

The minute I saw my husband ( I had never met him and didn't even know his name) I told my friend next to me "that is the guy I'm going to marry". She still jokes with my to this day about it. Did I love him in that instant, no, but there was something there, because I just knew. He asked me out that night and we married 3 1/2 years later (we were in college when that happened, and waited until we graduated to get married)

I do think people can fall in love in just a few days, and I think some people fall in love over time. It just depends on the people.

 

[Art Vandalay]

Kinda why I put other... a lot of different perspectives to consider

 

[ryanmilla]

I'll bite on this one. Especially, since my 10th anniversary is coming up next week. My DW and I met while both living overseas. I knew the moment I saw her that I wanted to be with her the rest of my life. And this is coming from a person who, before her, believed that I was going to have to live with someone a year or two before I would get married. I was just awestruck when we met.

Our timeline goes like this;
8/7/1997: We meet
10/15/1997: She moves in with me.
1/30/1998: We get engaged
3/28/1998: We get married
3/28/2008: 10 yrs and two kids (DD6 & DS3) later and we are still going strong. Celebrating our 10th in NYC at The Regency.

 

[Art Vandalay]

I'll bite on this one. Especially, since my 10th anniversary is coming up next week. My DW and I met while both living overseas. I knew the moment I saw her that I wanted to be with her the rest of my life. And this is coming from a person who, before her, believed that I was going to have to live with someone a year or two before I would get married. I was just awestruck when we met.

Our timeline goes like this;
8/7/1997: We meet
10/15/1997: She moves in with me.
1/30/1998: We get engaged
3/28/1998: We get married
3/28/2008: 10 yrs and two kids (DD6 & DS3) later and we are still going strong. Celebrating our 10th in NYC at The Regency.

Happy Anniversary! Congrats

 

[ryanmilla]

Happy Anniversary! Congrats

Thanks!

 

[JennyMominRI]

I absolutely knew I loved Ed the day we met..He felt the same

 

[HelenePA]

I knew when I saw DH too. Never talked to him before. He was dating some other girl, found out my boss at the time was his best friend made him introduce us anyway... the rest is history. 12 years (WOW!) and 4 kids later here we are. I have no clue how he felt. Even if I asked he wouldn't tell me.

 

[crazyforgoofy]

A poll? Hmmmm, yes I love the occasional poll. I like to think my vote counts.

 

[lilyv]

28 years later, yes...I still believe in love at first sight.

 

[Art Vandalay]

More than I thought would believe in love without much time together Such the romantic bunch

 

[Fizzgig]

DH cheated. I knew he was the one immediately. He didn't have to do flowers, courting, anything. I didn't like getting my freedom curtailed, but ya know, I have no regrets. He's the bomb. Married something like 9 years now.

But as to whether I believe that's normal, that's a different story. I know I've needed the 10 years to get used to him, and I still hold out hope that my daughter will get more time than I did to make sure that her soulmate is really a good fit.

 

[stinkerbelle's mom]

I'm not sure what I believe.

I think people may think they're in love w/o ever meeting such as in online. You don't know if what the person is telling you is truthful not to mention you fanticize about what they're really like.

I believe more in love at first sight, but I think true love takes time to find out what's in a person's soul.

 

[Cyndibear]

Count me in! Met DH on a blind date and the minute he waked in the door I knew he was going to be my Husband. We met in Nov 1995, engaged Feb 1996 and married in April 1997. It's been wonderful.

 

[CraftyMouse]

I think people may think they're in love w/o ever meeting such as in online. You don't know if what the person is telling you is truthful not to mention you fanticize about what they're really like.

I agree. But if both parties are being open and honest about who they are/what they want then I think you can connect via an online "relationship". I do think that that connection is only part of the whole deal though. You definitely need the in-person part to work as well.

DD15 and I have been talking about online friendships a little bit lately. We've been talking about how you can get to know somebody online and really click with them when that person might not be someone you'd ever approach/talk to in the real world. In the case of a romantic attraction, you might end up really falling for the person's personality through an online friendship (again, provided it is not fabricated) where you might not give that guy/girl the time of day in the real world based on first impressions. It's just an interesting new twist to the whole process.

 

[PlainJane]

I believe that while you can fall in love in mere days, that that kind of love can be fleeting. I believe that long lasting love develops over years.

 

[shortbun]

I knew my husband was the one in less than an hour. I was living with another man who brought him home for dinner. I ran next door and told my best friend that my future husband was in my house and I didn't mean my boyfriend. She reminds me of that event from time to time. lol! We've been together since 1982.

 

[Chloe'sMom]

I wanna know the backstory to the question

That being said - I knew I was attracted to my husband when we first met but I don't think true love developed till much later. Of course I was only 15 when we met, so some of that had to deal with maturity.

~Amanda

 

[mirthmaiden]

Like somebody else said, I think you can fall in love without spending a lot of time together, but true lasting love can only come about with time and mutual experience. YMMV