Okay I'm so frustrated. Before I quit work, minus my job at a certain university, I made more than Carlos. I never said a word. So when WE decided I would stop working to stay home, it was a JOINT decision. I've never, nor has he, viewed money as "his" and "mine" but ours.
A couple of you know, but we had to use credit cards for things, and I'm in the process of paying that stuff down. So, that is why we are saying no vacation this year, etc - so hopefully by early Spring 2010, we'll be out of debt -- well credit card debt at least. We never got too bent about it, because we knew this going in.
My BF's birthday is in April. She turns 40. Our husbands are relatively the same. Lovely men, that we love, but not so thoughtful in the making things special department. SO... I really want her to have a special 40th. I thought I could take her on a weekend somewhere. We discussed it (Carlos & I) he would take a Friday off, we need to be back by Sunday.
I look at WDW and try to talk to him yesterday and he just got NASTY. Told me it was her husband's place to do something special, not mine and I should just do dinner or something like that, but he wasn't going to send "US" on a vacation if he wasn't going to get one. His response was "Not just NO but **** NO!"
Okay, I'm ticked today. She is my best friend. I want it to be so special for her. She has gotten the raw end of the deal during her life. Just to give you a glimpse, her mom left her & her sisters at home for 3 days while her dad was out of town. Thankfully her dad came home early to find her in her crib. The oldest was 6 at the time.
She is so giving, loving and just special. I want to do a nice trip for her. She is having a crappy time at work .
I'm the maddest that suddenly he gets to call the MONEY shots, and I'm at his mercy because I don't work. I'm really not happy at all about that.
On one side, I get that we said we were going to pay off the debt and we should stick to it, but then again, I'm talking about less than $2000. Probably $1000 because she insisted she pay her way. That is honestly - as you all know, 5 good trips to Target. ERRRRRRR......
I never ask for things for myself. That ring is the first thing I've asked for since CKU - and before that I don't think I asked for anything. My clothes come from Target mostly - and I'm cool with that - I'm very low maintenance. I just don't understand his right to tell me no, it isn't my place.
SO... I need some honest girl talk here. Am I in the wrong? If I am - please tell me & I can accept that. I just am very frustrated right now.