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I really like your pictures Deb, since you've posted them I've been looking at those I had taken in July. As you know winter for us "natherners" seems to last forever, and gives me the blahs. :scared: So sometimes (not all the time) they really perk me up! :thumbsup2
 
Hi! I am going thru dis withdrawls!! I've been dying to jump on and tell you all about our trip, but we went straight to my mom and dad's from the airport and stayed until Sunday AM! I do not get on my mom and dad's computer. It's an ordeal. My kids were having computer withdrawls too, but I think it was a great break for all of us. We spent Friday and Saturday watching Christmas movies, eating, visiting w/family (my grandma is here from Chicago!), and eating!!! Yesterday was Darrin's birthday, and we put up our Christmas decorations, so it was impossible for me to get on yesterday. I knew that I had a lot of catching up to do, so it would take me awhile. I am getting caught up at work, but I couldn't resist hopping on. I haven't read anything since my last post, so I need to get busy. I plan on doing it at lunch today. I missed you all! I have tons of things to say about our trip, but I do not do trip reports! You'll get it in pieces, probably right up until our next trip, which Darrin says is Nov 09, but we'll see about that! I hope that you had a most fabulous Thanksgiving!!!!

Love to all,
Pam2
 
Hi everyone!!! Again, I hope that you all had a great Thanksgiving!

Debbie – I love your pics!! Keep ‘em coming! Your kiddos are adorable, and is your son’s hair getting redder? I am so disappointed that neither of my girls got my red hair. It could be because it’s from a bottle! I am glad you guys had a great time. I am sorry about your Thanksgiving dilemma. I know exactly how you feel. I always feel torn at the holidays, like I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings, spending more time w/one than the other. I would just rather do Christmas Eve at one house, and Christmas day at another, and Thanksgiving and Easter every other year (we could celebrate the weekend before w/the one that we wouldn’t be with on THE day). Both are close to each other, about 15 mins apart, and about 45 mins from us, but it’s hard to split the day, and hard to eat 2 big meals. We are so blessed that we have them, and I know that when we don’t, we will miss it all. It does get frustrating, but try not to let it ruin your holiday. I am finally learning that you cannot please all of the people all of the time, no matter how hard you try. We try our best, and that’s the best that we can do. I just have to keep reminding myself of that! My mom is a die hard 1pm holiday meal person, and I know that my MIL doesn’t always want to have it late, but she can’t have it at 3pm because I cannot eat and run at my mom’s. Uggh! I am just curious to see how my brother having kids will alter our Christmas plans. We go to my MIL’s for breakfast at about 9am, open gifts, then run to my mom’s to get there at about noon to open gifts and then eat. They’ve gotten a little better about it because her breakfast used to be earlier, and my brother and sister would be upset that they had to wait so long for us to get there an open gifts. We would get to my mom’s by 11am! That all meant that I had to get up at 5am to shower and get ready so that after the girls opened their gifts, we had to get out the door to the IL’s. One year, I had to wake DD14 up! For the past several years, they’ve gotten up around 5am because they are so excited.

That’s great news about June, Sewer! So, where’s your ticker??

Tessa – congrats on getting the trip paid off!

Tammie – I am sorry about you not getting to spend Christmas w/your son and his family. I hope that your Thanksgiving w/them was wonderful!

Pam – Thanks for the Crocs deal link. I need to see if it is still good. Most of us wore Crocs the entire trip and they were so comfortable. I only wore my tennis shoes on one day.

Cammie is having a blast in WDW!

Hi to all of the newbies! Welcome!

WDW - - we had a wonderful time, the kids had a wonderful time – and that is most important to me. Our weather couldn’t have been any better. I wore jeans and short sleeved shirts on all days, and had a jean jacket for evening. Taylor wore shorts, then was chilly at night, but didn’t want me to pack jeans in my backpack. We didn’t get rain until Thursday, just as we exited Festival of the Lion King and decided that we were going to head back to the resort to pick up our carry on items, grab a bite to eat and head to the airport. We only used one rain poncho each as we headed to our bus stop at AK. Our flights were on time and things could not have gone any smoother. Our room at Pop was clean, and we spent very little time there – only getting ready in the AM, getting ready for bed at night and sleeping! We didn’t stay at all of the parks from opening until close, do any extra hours, or take any afternoon breaks. This was our first visit to AK and we loved it! I wish that we could have spent a full day there, but we did it on Thurs. We did get to do almost everything that we really wanted to do there, except for the Nemo show. I was amazed by Festival of the Lion King, but am amazed by most things Disney. Most everything there makes me cry, and if I look at my mom, it’s a definite. My parents had not seen most of it before, having only been to Disneyland several times and DW once several years ago, but only to MK. Mom used a wheel chair the entire trip. She was not feeling that well, she’s still having trouble breathing after her car accident, and can’t walk far, but if you don’t know her well, it was hard to tell. I felt bad for my dad, having to push her in the wheel chair the entire time, but he would not let any of us give him a break. There is no way that she could have done all of that walking. We tried to plan it so that we rode something, saw a show, rode something, ate…Her being in the wheel chair allowed us to Fast Pass almost everything, and not have to wait for buses, which was nice. I did feel very guilty about that. I feel like Mom missed out on a lot, especially in the shops, because it’s hard to get around some places in a wheel chair. She and my dad would wait outside while the rest of us went in and looked at some shops. We all stayed together 100% of the time, as I knew we would. My family won’t do anything on their own. A couple of us would get ahead or fall behind, and my mom would worry about where everyone was. It made it hard, but it was OK. It was crowded, and lines were long. On our other trips, we didn’t have someone in a wheel chair and didn’t get to Fast Pass as much stuff, and we managed to see just about everything that we felt we needed to see. This time, it wouldn’t have been that easy. To me, it seemed a lot more crowded than any other time we’ve been there. I took tons of pictures that I need to sort thru and put onto Photobucket and post here. I need to work w/my Photopass. I think we got a lot of pictures taken by them. It seemed like a lot to me. I bought my coffee mug and a 2-CD set that includes music from a lot of the rides and the MK opening song! I listened to it on the way to work and I love it!!

I had a ham sandwich in Africa (AK) for Thanksgiving lunch, and chicken pasta Alfredo in POP for Thanksgiving dinner! The girls, my sister and I went to my parents when we got home Thursday night, and stayed the weekend, coming home Sunday to put up our decorations and celebrate Darrin’s birthday. We had a second Thanksgiving dinner of turkey and dressing at about 1am! It was a fun weekend of lounging, eating, watching movies, visiting and more eating! My brother and his wife and my aunt were there most of the time, too. Darrin came by a couple of times, but stayed home to unpack and get a jump on the laundry. It was hard to come back to reality today. My saving grace is that I am on vacation from Dec 21 – Jan 2. We just have so much to do before then!! I love this time of year!!!

Every night this week I’ll be finishing up the Christmas tree and getting the house back in order from the trip. I need to squeeze in some Christmas cards and shopping as well. I am so behind!! We still have souvenirs on the kitchen counter. Darrin couldn’t do outside decorations this weekend because it rained all weekend, so I hope that he can get them done this coming weekend. My grandma is here from Chicago until the end of December, so we’ll be spending a lot of weekend time at my parents. It’s usually the girls and I that spend the night, Darrin stays home w/the dogs. I pick up the dogs from boarding today because they’ve been closed since we’ve been back.
 
I had to get rid of the pickle man. He was cute, but kind of creepy!! :eek: I need to put some more holiday cuties in my siggie!
 

Hiya - not been around for a while -had to sit down for a bit after we PAID FOR OUR HOLIDAY - woo hoo - :woohoo:

makes it all seem VERRRY real - they had our booking just fine AND gave me a code to check things on line and modify things like in-flight meals etc....

Mind you couldn't get 4 seats together yet, got to wait for check in when they release blocks of seats...

Now just got to book the coach to the airport , the airport hotel the night before (I get tooooooooo stressed if we travel to catch the flight - worry wart coming in there) - we have grocery tokens you can exchange for hotel stays etc so won't cost anything in REAL money thankfully!!

Am busy buying dollars right now - woo -hoo over $2 to the £1:woohoo:

I am getting excited with MONTHS to go!! (can you tell??)

Cheers,
Tessa

ps. good to see you back Pam2 hope it all went well!!
 
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Hi Gang…I hate to be gone for a little bit and then just jump back in crabbing but I am dying… My SIL just sent me an email saying they were doing Christmas Eve dinner and such at the same time as my side!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I swear I can’t take it. My anxiety is at a peak and I don’t know what to even do about it. She has always served a little later than my Mom but then the family would get together much earlier leaving us time to go there and visit for a couple hours and still get back here for dinner
…now what?
I typed out an email asking her if they could get together earlier but I am afraid to send it…probably because I know the answer will be no! There must be some reason they picked that time and I know from Thanksgiving that they aren’t going to change times to help me out…. I am sick about this. I cannot blow off my family Christmas Eve! I just can’t! There is no other time to get together with his side either but it’s the only time I get together with my Mom’s sisters whole family (who we are extremely close with). Seriously, I feel like I am hyperventilating! I need a brown paper bag or something…
Should I start by sending the email asking them to get together earlier???
I am really beside myself at the moment…
Are you guys starting to think I am a loon? I wouldn’t blame you! Sorry I still have to go back and read previous posts. I just needed an ear from unbias friends!
 
Breathe, Debbie!!! You are only human. I guess I am pretty calm today as I went for a very relaxing massage this morning. I wonder if your SIL did it on purpose so you'd be forced to choose. In a way it can be good for you to be forced to choose. I am sure your DH will understand if you do your family this year and his the next or the next day. You guys need to work out something. You shouldn't have to deal with it all the time. You just can't be in two places at the same time. A BIG HUG to you. If your SIL doesn't want to move anything (and she probably won't) then go to whoever you committed to first or do your Xmas Eve at your house. HTH
 
SEWER......awesome.....we'll be there that week too!!!! June 22-25 at the Poly and June 26-July 1 at BCV.
 
Debbie...BTW...I LOVE the pictures! I think that one of the castle with icicles has to be my favorite photo of Disney EVER!! Can you email me a copy?

Pam in TX.....hope you had a great time!!!!
 
Oh Debbie, I am so sorry for your Holiday stress! It seems you face this with every event! You are going to have to take a stand for what you want for your family, and everyone will have to deal! You know, Christmas is just one day in the whole year! I know it is an important family day with lots of memories, but you are now making memories for your kids! How do you want them to see Christmas? Are there any compromises you can make with both sides besides asking someone to change their dinner time?
(I am trying to be your "big sis" now :goodvibes )

We were faced with the same thing when we first moved back here. My in-laws had gotten divorced, so we had three families, plus my aunt and uncle to see on Christmas. Our boys were 4 and 6 then. We tried to be in 3 places on Christmas day, and to have Christmas Eve with my parents. What we saw is that our kids didn't even get to play with their new toys - it was hurry and go here, open your gifts, hurry and go there, open your gifts...... We decided that was not the way it should be. So, we started having Christmas morning at our house with everyone invited - not everyone shows up, but we got to make our own memories with our kids. We did Christmas Eve with my parents when we could, and Christmas afternoon with DHs parents when we could. Very relaxed.

Now that they are grown, they are informing us that it will be every other year for us and the other parents, and we better get used to it! ;) We are proud of them for deciding what works for their families, even though it feels a little empty. This year, we are doing "Christmas Eve" on Dec 22nd with our oldest and the In-laws. Hope this helps. :hug:
 
Bravo...Tammi!!!:thumbsup2 That's how my parents were when I got married. They understood that they would have to share me on holidays and since I was the youngest they were used to it. DH's family was another story. Everyone would just do what his parents wanted them too (Jim's sister's spouses were too happy with this all the time-of course..they are all divorced like 3x a piece-literally). Me..being the outspoken gal that I am flat out told my MIL that we'd switch every year. I said it very politely. She still didn't want to hear it and when I got mad at her and me or her precious, only and baby of the family son didn't talk to her for 2 weeks she saw the err of her ways and apologized and actually THANKED me because she didn't realize how she was being!! :rotfl: She's a very sweet woman...just likes getting her way and no one challenged her before me. Of course DH & I are still married (13 yrs). We probably wouldn't be if I didn't make myself known. Good for your kids for telling you and great of you to be understanding.
 
I appreciate you guys listening and your advice. I know I am asking you to put yourselves in my shoes and that's hard to do but YES this does happen with EVERY holiday...not birthdays....just Christmas, Thanksgiving and Easter, (Mother's day and Father's day but not as extreme). I am sick of it!!!!!! It is truly what I stress about more than anything else in my life. I am always trying to make EVERYONE happy and I don't see a solution if everyone has set ways they do things. My dream would be for DHs side to mix things up and celebrate on a different day or different time but they don't. My family has been doing the same traditions my whole life so I don't want them to change...... I am so jealous of families who have a system where everyone is happy. I am only happy when I can go both places and not have to switch off. I REALLY can't bare the thought of the year (the first time ever) I am not with my parents for our traditions...
I really am at a loss right now.......I am so upset about it I really feel a bit melodramatic and like I'm not even thinking straight......
I'll be back and again thank you for listening...I know I am venting right now more than listening but I will take some deep breathes and see what happens...
 
I appreciate you guys listening and your advice. I know I am asking you to put yourselves in my shoes and that's hard to do but YES this does happen with EVERY holiday...not birthdays....just Christmas, Thanksgiving and Easter, (Mother's day and Father's day but not as extreme). I am sick of it!!!!!! It is truly what I stress about more than anything else in my life. I am always trying to make EVERYONE happy and I don't see a solution if everyone has set ways they do things. My dream would be for DHs side to mix things up and celebrate on a different day or different time but they don't. My family has been doing the same traditions my whole life so I don't want them to change...... I am so jealous of families who have a system where everyone is happy. I am only happy when I can go both places and not have to switch off. I REALLY can't bare the thought of the year (the first time ever) I am not with my parents for our traditions...
I really am at a loss right now.......I am so upset about it I really feel a bit melodramatic and like I'm not even thinking straight......
I'll be back and again thank you for listening...I know I am venting right now more than listening but I will take some deep breathes and see what happens...

Deb, Deb, Deb, Deb I think this time of year is VERY stressful for all of us. Try not to be too upset (look who's talking) put all of your favorite music on your I-POD, pour a nice glass of wine and .....................
 
Hey there Deb... I have been in your shoes.. I moved 5 hours away from my family and got married a few years later to someone that is just as close to his family as I am to mine, Christmas and all holidays are stressful. I have learned to deal with it. My mom is single so it is easier for her to tag along with us to my inlaws but before my grandparents passed away I always felt that pressure to go there for christmas (5 hours away). I just had to tell them look this year I will be spending time in Boston so have a great Christmas , thanksgiving or what ever holiday it was. I would go with or without my husband. On the years that I didn't head to boston my grandparents would drive up to see us the day after christmas but my heart broke on those Christmases, but I had to be fair.
Now here is the tough thing My Dad just moved to Maine and he wants us to do thanksgiving next year at his house and my sister in law has invited us to her house in syracuse for dinner... YIKEs!!! Then where does my mom go??
Oh and inlaws always always did christmas eve... three years ago SIL from syracuse didn't want to drive up to xmas morning.. So we had to have Christmas night with them and inlaws so my mom said that she would switch and have us over on xmas eve... but it seems like every year something switches So I know how you feel.
This year I stood strong and demanded that thanksgiving dinner was to be held at NOON!! Why because I had to work, I said no one else has to work on this day I do therefore I call the shots!! then I get out of any obligation for christmas because I will be at DISNEY!!!!!
Hope that you can figure out something! maybe all get to gether at one place?? and have joint family celabration??
 
Hey there Deb... I have been in your shoes.. I moved 5 hours away from my family and got married a few years later to someone that is just as close to his family as I am to mine, Christmas and all holidays are stressful. I have learned to deal with it. My mom is single so it is easier for her to tag along with us to my inlaws but before my grandparents passed away I always felt that pressure to go there for christmas (5 hours away). I just had to tell them look this year I will be spending time in Boston so have a great Christmas , thanksgiving or what ever holiday it was. I would go with or without my husband. On the years that I didn't head to boston my grandparents would drive up to see us the day after christmas but my heart broke on those Christmases, but I had to be fair.
Now here is the tough thing My Dad just moved to Maine and he wants us to do thanksgiving next year at his house and my sister in law has invited us to her house in syracuse for dinner... YIKEs!!! Then where does my mom go??
Oh and inlaws always always did christmas eve... three years ago SIL from syracuse didn't want to drive up to xmas morning.. So we had to have Christmas night with them and inlaws so my mom said that she would switch and have us over on xmas eve... but it seems like every year something switches So I know how you feel.
This year I stood strong and demanded that thanksgiving dinner was to be held at NOON!! Why because I had to work, I said no one else has to work on this day I do therefore I call the shots!! then I get out of any obligation for christmas because I will be at DISNEY!!!!!
Hope that you can figure out something! maybe all get to gether at one place?? and have joint family celabration??

Thanks for stopping by and sharing your story... I appreciate hearing it all. Sometimes I think "get a real problem" right? ....there are lonely people who have no family to stress over but I just can't stand that I can't find this miracle solution where everyone is happy!
 
Hi everyone! Debbie, I totally understand how you feel. I wouldn't mind doing the every other year thing w/the families and celebrating the Saturday before w/the other family, but I should have started that from the very beginning. It's too late to change things now, and it's getting easier running around to everyone's house w/the kids being older. We're used to opening gifts in the AM and running out the door for my MIL's breakfast. I did start celebrating w/my family, just the 4 of us, on Chirstmas Eve, about 4 years ago. We wake up that AM and open gifts from each other and stay in our PJ's all day. I cook fixings to go w/a Honey Baked Ham and after we eat, we get ready for Christmas Eve service, then go look at Christmas lights. On Christmas AM, only Santa's presents are out, unwrapped, and we look at those pretty quickly, then get ready to go to MIL's. It is very important to her, and who knows how long we'll be lucky enough to have our parents. I am just stressing out about all that I have to do! I am just getting my plan together on what I am getting everyone, and now I have to get my rear out there and shop!! I hope to get a few things online this week, go early Saturday AM, and maybe some on lunches next week. With my grandma being here, we will be at my mom's a lot on the weekends. This weekend, we do have a date night. Yippee!! After a Chirstmas parade w/Taylor's GS troop, my MIL is picking up the girls and we are going out to dinner. Our reservation is at 8:30, so it will be too late to go shopping afterwards, and there won't be enough time before. We'll pick up the girls Sunday AM and go to visit at my mom's. We still have to finish putting the decorations on the tree and do the outside decorations. I love it, but am worried about getting everything done! I am making many lists - the only way that I can accomplish anything. I just feel so overwhelmed sometimes. Thanks for listening!

I want to get the family a Wii, and I think I will have trouble finding one! I am on a mission!!

Good night, all!!
:grouphug: Pam2
 
Hiya - not been around for a while -had to sit down for a bit after we PAID FOR OUR HOLIDAY - woo hoo - :woohoo:

ps. good to see you back Pam2 hope it all went well!!

Yeah, Tessa! Congrats!!! :cheer2: Our trip was awesome! I promise to get some pictures out here soon!

SEWER......awesome.....we'll be there that week too!!!! June 22-25 at the Poly and June 26-July 1 at BCV.

Pam - Where's your ticker? :confused: It seems like you were just there!

Deb, Deb, Deb, Deb I think this time of year is VERY stressful for all of us. Try not to be too upset (look who's talking) put all of your favorite music on your I-POD, pour a nice glass of wine and .....................

Sewer - wine or a margarita sounds wonderful!! I wish that all of us could get together for a ladies night out!! Maybe someday!!


DISNEY4XMAS - Your trip is very close! I need to read your pre-trip report! Welcome to our wonderful thread!!!

Pam2
 
Yeah, Tessa! Congrats!!! :cheer2: Our trip was awesome! I promise to get some pictures out here soon!



Pam - Where's your ticker? :confused: It seems like you were just there!



Sewer - wine or a margarita sounds wonderful!! I wish that all of us could get together for a ladies night out!! Maybe someday!!


DISNEY4XMAS - Your trip is very close! I need to read your pre-trip report! Welcome to our wonderful thread!!!

Pam2


We so need to plan a ladie's DIS meet!!!! :dance3: Maybe someday when your kids are older, so you don't feel guilty :sad2: Just don't wait until I'm so old I need an ECV, okay?? :lmao:
 
Hi everyone! I am in the mood for sharing, so here are some pics of our grandbabies on Thanksgiving!

Mason's greeting:
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Londynn had too much turkey:

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So did Mason:

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We took our Christmas card photo:

DS Mark, Myles, Lindsay, Londynn, DH Jim, Me, DS Ryan, Dana and Mason

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