Looking For Control Freaks & Worry Warts too........

[Debbie6221]

Okay, I know I'm a little late (that's what happens when things get out of your control), but I'm here now. I'm a take-charge-in-control personality TYPE A. Whew thanks for letting me get that out.

My name is Karen and I'm a control freak. Not so much a worry wart (dh does that), but definitely not one to relinquish control of situations lightly. When I'm not in control, I worry (OMG I am a worry wart).

I need to have a place to come and vent, but I DO NOT want to change. I seriously like my control freak personality and would be happy to be a control freak inspiration to others. We are the ones who rule the world and we are the ones who accept full responsibilty for our freaksihness.

Welcome, welcome, welcome, you have found your place! A place where you can vent, a place where you can complain about those who don't get it, a place where we understand you, a place where we all realize we probably aren't going to change!
Yeah...stick around.

We're friendly!
Debbie

 

[disneyohana]

Debbie & Pam - Thanks for helping me get over some of my fears about the plane. I have a portable DVD player and my DD loves stickers & coloring. I just hope she doesn't see my fear. I love flying but also get so nervous. Go figure.
Tinklvr - You and Debbie have made me want to go to Disney during the holidays. My sister has wanted to do that for years but I wasn't sure it was going to be so exciting. Your stories and pictures make me realize that it is worth trying. Although my dh can't get off work from end of Sep. to mid Nov. so halloween is out.
Eeyoremama - Welcome. I never thought of myself as a control freak until recently. I am a worry wart and it does seem like if I can't control things that is when I worry the most.

 

[EEYOREMAMA]

Welcome, welcome, welcome, you have found your place! A place where you can vent, a place where you can complain about those who don't get it, a place where we understand you, a place where we all realize we probably aren't going to change!
Yeah...stick around.

We're friendly!
Debbie

Thanks Debbie It's time to begin taking control of the holidays so I know everyone will have fun. I can't believe people leave their holidays to chance. Dh thinks that we should just let nature "take its course," but nature does not work as hard as I do. Mother or no mother, she's a slacker when it comes to organization.

I have my list and forget about checking it twice (leads to mistakes) I have probably gone over it at least a dozen times. Now if I could just hire a few more people like me, I know I can get it all done. I think I'm compulsive and I think it's a good thing.

 

[pbharris4]

Eeyoremama: Welcome to CFNWW Anon! Vent, worry, or anything else...we all understand!

Pam

 

[pbharris4]

I'm curious....since we are planners, worriers, etc. are your DH's or SO's the exact opposite? More laid back..not much bothers them? Goes with the flow?

My DH is...which is why I have become the way I have. He is soooo non-confrontational..if someone overcharged him..unless it was an enormous amount, he'd just pay it instead of say anything. He never plans anything. Thanks to my planning we have had really nice vacations and have saved money. I think it would be hard to live with another Type A person or a planner type.

 

[Debbie6221]

TinkLvr..Am I reading your ticker right? Are you going back again to WDW you lucky duck!!!!

 

[Debbie6221]

I'm curious....since we are planners, worriers, etc. are your DH's or SO's the exact opposite? More laid back..not much bothers them? Goes with the flow?

My DH is...which is why I have become the way I have. He is soooo non-confrontational..if someone overcharged him..unless it was an enormous amount, he'd just pay it instead of say anything. He never plans anything. Thanks to my planning we have had really nice vacations and have saved money. I think it would be hard to live with another Type A person or a planner type.

I agree with you on all points. My husband is VERY laid back. I think it makes our marriage work. I'm a spaz...he doesn't stress over very much. Sometimes I think he is too laid back too though. He would let someone over charge him in a minute. He would never bring back, let's say, a messed up charge to get his due money back. Maybe if it was 50 bucks! He would also just go to the first store he thought of if he wanted something and would just buy it. I have to investigate every avenue before I actually make the purchase! Christmas gifts make me very nervous now that we are married. He ALWAYS gets me great gifts but I always know that he probably has paid too much for it. I'm bad!

 

[EEYOREMAMA]

I'm curious....since we are planners, worriers, etc. are your DH's or SO's the exact opposite? More laid back..not much bothers them? Goes with the flow?

My DH is...which is why I have become the way I have. He is soooo non-confrontational..if someone overcharged him..unless it was an enormous amount, he'd just pay it instead of say anything. He never plans anything. Thanks to my planning we have had really nice vacations and have saved money. I think it would be hard to live with another Type A person or a planner type.

Pam, my dh is worse than me. He is really the planner in the family, but I like to take over and be the doer. I'll make all the reservations that need to be made and make sure we have all our i's dotted and t's crossed. I think we compliment eachother very well. I'm also pretty sure after 22 years, no one else would have us.

 

[disneyohana]

My dh is very laid back too. He calms me down all the time. It really does help to be the opposite. Sometimes I do just go with the flow and have a really great time. Other times I plan everything and he is glad I did.

 

[pbharris4]

Interesting!! While it is nice that my DH is laid back and non chalant about things, sometimes it pisses me off. Why can't he just do some planning for once and let me sit back and some eat some bon bons for once! (Joking, of course). Although I say it would be nice, I'd probably take over half way through! Why couldn't I be the care free one? I think people like us care ALOT. We have big hearts and want everyone to be happy. It's just realizing that that's the problem. Less than 26 days to go!!

 

[Debbie6221]

I hear ya Pam but don't you think it would be hard to trust in them (not that they aren't trustworthy but because of our own issues).
The ironic thing is my Mom does most of our WDW trip planning (we always all go together)and I completely trust her. Let me explain though....My Mom very, very, rarely makes mistakes or does anything without a well thought out plan. I am the way I am because of her. She is a big planner, worrier, budget shopper, organizer, etc. Plus she has planned our vacations perfectly my whole life so there is a comfort zone thing going on there. I get all the info (coupon codes, discount info, answered questions from the DIS, dinner menus, all the computer stuff) for her and she makes all the phone calls and reservations. We are a perfect team! Yes, it would be awesome if my DH was like that but what are ya gonna do? It all works out, right? (Remember we all live together in an in-law house!)
Debbie

 

[pbharris4]

You and your mom are the perfect team! It's great that you are so close. Yep, truth is if DH did some of the planning, I'd probably change it anyway. LOL I just ususally ask him if there's anything he wants to do and work it in. I'm planning our summer trip now. I have to make reservations on Dec.4th. I already have 1/2 of our reservations made for VWL and then on the 4th I can call for the other days at OKW. Then, on the 26or 27th I have to make ADRS and haven't even thought about it yet. I just want to make it through Xmas and it'll be much easier after that.

I heard there's a stomach bug going around at WDW. Gosh, hope it makes it way somewhere else while we're there. I finally just got over what we all had before.

How's shopping, decorating, etc. coming along for everyone?

 

[pbharris4]

EEYOREMAMA:

I'm so jealous! You are leaving in 1 week! Have a great trip and lots of fun!

Pam

 

[disneyohana]

I'm jealous of you all. Going to Disney more than once a year. That would be great. I hope you have a great time. I am so... excited about going in May. I haven't been there since May 2003. We go w/family also. My sisters, nephews, and my aunt & uncle are going.

 

[pbharris4]

Both of my parents have passed away. I wish I could have taken them. We did take my FIL and MIL in 2004 and stayed at the BWV. It was ok. I feel like they didn't have a good time. They are kind of small town, not used to new things, kind of people. We like to do things, try new things, new foods, and then relax (well, try to) kind of people. They hung out in the room alot and I think they had sticker shock when they saw the prices at the restaurants. I think if they went again, I'd take them to Hilton Head or Vero Beach...that would probably be more their cup o'tea.

Personally, I don't like taking vacations with others just because I feel like I have to cater to them (even if they don't make me feel that way). I am always worried if they are having a good time and then I feel like we don't get to do what we want to do. I guess it would depnd on who they are. I'd go with my one sister and her family, but they have DVC too. DH's side of the family are always asking us for things and wanting something from us.

 

[Debbie6221]

Hi Everyone,
Vacationing like the seven of us do is what we are used to so it's just natural. I've never vacationed with my other side. No offense to my in-laws I just don't hang with them like that. They are just different then my family. Not bad, just different. Everyone is used to the way they have grown up and the way their family does things, right?
Like Pam, I think if I went with someone else I would worry about how much fun everyone was having and I would feel like it was my resposibility. I kindof feel like that now with my DH since he just started this whole WDW craziness after my DD was born in 2002 that my side has been doing my whole life.

I feel like I am starting to get my act together. Got a lot done today but it's never enough.

At least everyone is starting to feel better.

Ate breakfast under the famous Marshall Field's Christmas tree downtown on Tuesday, That was fun!

Lisa, I still would like to meet you at Yorktown. Let's throw some dates around. I have to go to Von Maur and use a big store credit there.

Take care everyone.
Debbie

 

[Tinklvr]

I am going back to WDW in January with my FIL and BIL. I don't know how much of a vacation it will be. pbharris, I completely agree with you about vacationing with others. You really do wind up catering to them. Last January, we went with my FIL. He is a great guy. He takes care of all the kids when I work so I am very lucky, but going away with him is a different story. He likes to do things his way and my husband doesn't stand up to him at all. Now that he went to WDW with us, I think he expects to go with us all the time. I planned my quick Nov trip to just have a little time away as a family, and I could tell he was annoyed that he wasn't included.

My father lives in FL, so usually he meets up with us for one day and that is enough for me. He is not very "child-friendly" and his views on parenting are very different from mine, so it is not very stressful to be with him and my kids in WDW. My mom passed away 3 years ago, and I wish so could have gone with us. I was watching Holiday Wishes and I started to think of my mom and how much she would have loved to be there with us. She loved Christmas, so she would have been so happy to see all the Christmas festivities. Of course, I started to cry! I think it is hard to spend a week away with others, but to go away with in-laws is extra hard, because they seem to have completely different ideas!

Glad to hear that you are getting things accomplished, Debbie. I did some online shopping for the kids yesterday and DH put up the Christmas tree, but like you said, it is never enough. I cleaned the whole house and had every bit of my laundry done before I went away, but now there are mountains of laundry everywhere again. I just can't keep up! DH helps, but he doesn't always do the things that are most critical. I feel bad complaining about him b/c he is so good with the kids, but sometimes I don't understand how I can get a million things done when I am home with the kids, but when I get home from work, the house is a mess b/c he was "busy taking care of the kids." I think it is just a guy thing, but it is so annoying sometimes!

Hi to eeyoremama and disneyohana, too! I hope everyone is doing well and not getting too stressed out with the holidays. I guess I better get off the computer..DS is proudly strutting around wearing his sister's Princess hat!

 

[Debbie6221]

Glad to hear that you are getting things accomplished, Debbie. I did some online shopping for the kids yesterday and DH put up the Christmas tree, but like you said, it is never enough. I cleaned the whole house and had every bit of my laundry done before I went away, but now there are mountains of laundry everywhere again. I just can't keep up! DH helps, but he doesn't always do the things that are most critical. I feel bad complaining about him b/c he is so good with the kids, but sometimes I don't understand how I can get a million things done when I am home with the kids, but when I get home from work, the house is a mess b/c he was "busy taking care of the kids." I think it is just a guy thing, but it is so annoying sometimes!

We all are so much alike it's scary!
I feel the same way about my DH. We just multi task and I swear they are NOT capable of this skill!! What are ya gonna do? Like you said and I agree....they are good guys!!!
Debbie

 

[macfamily]

I'm not a control freak myself, but I'm definitely a worry-wart! I have these little horror-scenes that play out in my mind, and have since I was pregnant with my DD11. Nothing like a little self-torture! And then a couple of years ago, my neice was killed in a horrendous car accident, she was 18 months old, so here come all of the horrific visions in my head again; sometimes I consider counseling, it gets so bad. But that's something that's out of my budget range. So! I'll just deal with it; I'm sure it'll go away eventually...

I did find out that my mom had the same type of thing when we kids were young, which was interesting. She still does to this day, but it's different, about her grandchildren now.

Apparently worry-wartiness is inherited!

 

[Debbie6221]

I'm not a control freak myself, but I'm definitely a worry-wart! I have these little horror-scenes that play out in my mind, and have since I was pregnant with my DD11. Nothing like a little self-torture! And then a couple of years ago, my neice was killed in a horrendous car accident, she was 18 months old, so here come all of the horrific visions in my head again; sometimes I consider counseling, it gets so bad. But that's something that's out of my budget range. So! I'll just deal with it; I'm sure it'll go away eventually...

I did find out that my mom had the same type of thing when we kids were young, which was interesting. She still does to this day, but it's different, about her grandchildren now.

Apparently worry-wartiness is inherited!

I got like this way when my DD was born and now that she's 4 it comes and goes. I have a DS who is 13 months but I am better with him. There are things that trigger it on occasion to come back and it is an awful feeling!! I am so sorry about your niece. I think that would make me permantly in aparanoid state. I can't imagine. I think hormones play a MAJOR factor with this!!