Look mom, my that's my kindergarten teacher!

[ICF]

One question in the "family" locker room option that I have seen addressed here (and in the other similar threads)....

In theory, are there both naked men & women running around this "family" locker room with their children in that type of set up??

Or does "family" mean only women and their children since us guys are all sexual predators to begin with???

 

[FlightlessDuck]

If I were that teacher, I'd never want to show my face in my school district OR the fitness center again.

 

[kimmar067]

...Imagine an 8 yr old girl in a men's locker room, is that alright as well?

 

[NHdisneylover]

One question in the "family" locker room option that I have seen addressed here (and in the other similar threads)....

In theory, are there both naked men & women running around this "family" locker room with their children in that type of set up??

Or does "family" mean only women and their children since us guys are all sexual predators to begin with???

On many places in Germany yes. Occasionally here--and pretty much always that I saw in the US, it means individual stalls (which are pretty darned big meant to hold an adult and a few kids) for each family. They are nice but take a lot of space for the amount of people they can handle and cost more to maintain and build (partly because more space is needed for the same # of people) which drives the costs up for everyone.

 

[Mickey's Minion]

There is a difference between this and art. The normal and decent people that I know would not think an 8 year old boy should be in a woman's locker room.

Imagine an 8 yr old girl in a men's locker room, is that alright as well?

Viewing the human body is never child abuse, no matter the sex.

If my 8 year old daughter saw male parts, I wouldn't be mad about that part. There is no shame in the human body.

I would be upset at the person who brought my daughter into the room, essentially teaching her that rules do not apply to her. I would be more infuriated by the lesson that was being taught to my child.

As long as there wasn't sexual acts happening out in the open, I wouldn't be happy, but also wouldn't be too concerned if she saw a ***** or two.

 

[Mickey's Minion]

in the winter I take the kids swimming at a fitness center, there is no family dressing room, there is a sign right on the door to the locker room alerting everyone who goes in of this fact, and to just be respectful.

well it never fails that someone is walking around naked, and gives me a dirty look because my 5 yo ds is in there
hello, there is a sign on the door, I think the people IN the dressing room need to be respectful too in that situation.
no I don't want my ds to see YOU naked, he doesn't walk around naked after coming out of the pool, neither does my dd.......they go into the shower which is behind a curtain,e
If there was a family dressing room, I would gladly use it

I disagree with you there. In a women's locker room, there is the expectation of it being female. Yes, there is a sign on the door regarding the absence of family locker rooms, however, it is the parent who assumes all responsibility if they decide to bring an opposite gender child into the locker room with theme.

They need to weigh the possibility of their child seeing a naked body vs. the convenience of bringing the child into the locker room with them.

The other women should bare no responsibility for the parent's decision. As I mentioned previously, in our town pool, there are no curtains. You walk in and there are toilet stalls and then a large open area with the sinks, lockers and the opening to the large open room with multiple shower heads. So, the women showering are in full view of the locker area if one peeks into the open arch. You can wrap a towel around you to get to the lockers, but once there, the towel has to come off eventually to get your clothes on.

In our fitness club, there are showers with curtains, however, the unspoken rule is that you finish your shower and then head over to the lockers to dress. You do not monopolize a shower by dressing behind the curtains too.

So, again, the towel needs to come off eventually to get that bra on.

 

[mkel34]

No children (or adults) of the opposite sex in the children's locker room.
Female parent + female child(ren) = girls locker room
Female parent + male child or a mix of male/female children = family locker room
Male parent + male child(ren) = boys locker room
Male parent + female child or a mix of male/female children = family locker room.

This is how my club works, I don't know if there any official rules and there are no gender formula signs posted. I guess its just common sense. There is a sign in the family locker room in regards to respecting a mixed gender changing room and children. But, there is no need for nudity in the family locker room as there are about 10 giant stalls to change in.

As far as the single sex locker rooms, I've seen people brush their teeth and hold 5-10 min conversations while nude (not something I would do) and my wife says the female locker room is the same way.

 

[sbell111]

I belong to a large fitness club. They have an amazing family locker room. There are signs on both the men's and women's locker room doors that no opposite-sex children are allowed in that room and to use the family locker room.

The lady standing next to me had just gotten out of the shower and she had no clothes on. A mom walks in with her son.


The boy yells at the top of his lungs, "Look mom, it's Mrs. Smith, my kindergarten teacher!" Yes, the poor lady standing next to me sans clothing was naked in front of one of her former male students. I handed her my large beach towel. ...

At least it wasn't a current student.

(Come to think of it, this is something that several posters appear to not have notice.)

There is a difference in choosing to let it all hang out, vs. thinking you are in a semi-private (same sex situation) and having not only a male see, but a male child from your class.

The child wasn't one of her peers. As an authoritative adult over a child, she probably lost a sense of dignity and privacy. Not a situation she chose as in going to a nude beach, and whatever happens, happens.

Ummm, she was not the child's current teacher. Therefore, she wasn't "an authoritative adult over a child" (whatever that is).

I would think that is because the majority of the time the mom is with the kids rather than the dad and that is why the kids are entering the women's locker room rather than the men's.

I suspect that it's (1) because most people on this board are women and (2) the average woman might be more likely to take note of this issue and dredge it up later on an internet forum than the average man would be. I get that this last idea is total speculation.

I generally walk out of a shower nude? Did not know there was another way to shower.

Have you ever watched Big Brother?

One question in the "family" locker room option that I have seen addressed here (and in the other similar threads)....

In theory, are there both naked men & women running around this "family" locker room with their children in that type of set up??

Or does "family" mean only women and their children since us guys are all sexual predators to begin with???

I assume that the family room only serves one family at a time. Which, of course, would explain why kids are occasionally brought into the regular locker rooms.

 

[npmommie]

I disagree with you there. In a women's locker room, there is the expectation of it being female. Yes, there is a sign on the door regarding the absence of family locker rooms, however, it is the parent who assumes all responsibility if they decide to bring an opposite gender child into the locker room with theme.

They need to weigh the possibility of their child seeing a naked body vs. the convenience of bringing the child into the locker room with them.

The other women should bare no responsibility for the parent's decision.

I am going to respectfully disagree here.
yes there is a sign on the door alerting everyone about the situation.
I am not sending my 5 yo in the mens room alone.
it doesn't bother me if he gets a glance, it happens.
but the people giving the dirty looks are the ones who go in the shower, come out naked, go to their locker, comb their hair , then walk over to the mirror NAKED, do their makeup, still naked, walk to another area of the locker room, you see what I mean.
its not just come out naked, go to their locker and get dressed, I see people walking all over the locker room naked when there is no need to. that is what I mean about respect going both ways.
so if my kid sees you OH WELL, don't give ME a dirty look, cuz trust me he doesn't want to see you either

 

[DisneyJen0504]

While I have no issue with nudity, as a teacher, if I was a member of a health club in the same town as where I teach, I would think twice before strolling out of the shower nude.

 

[Mickey's Minion]

I am going to respectfully disagree here.
yes there is a sign on the door alerting everyone about the situation.
I am not sending my 5 yo in the mens room alone.
it doesn't bother me if he gets a glance, it happens.
but the people giving the dirty looks are the ones who go in the shower, come out naked, go to their locker, comb their hair , then walk over to the mirror NAKED, do their makeup, still naked, walk to another area of the locker room, you see what I mean.
its not just come out naked, go to their locker and get dressed, I see people walking all over the locker room naked when there is no need to. that is what I mean about respect going both ways.
so if my kid sees you OH WELL, don't give ME a dirty look, cuz trust me he doesn't want to see you either

All perfectly normal behavior in every single locker room I have ever been in. There are always women doing their hair, talking, walking around, etc stark naked. It is a LOCKER room. This is to be expected. Some people are more modest than others, so cover up with towels, some are not and don't mind walking around uncovered. But since it is a locker room, nudity should be expected.

A woman using a woman's locker room should not have to cover up because another parent has some fear about sending their 8+ child into a bathroom of their own gender and makes the decision to bring their boy into the locker room. That is the parent's choice to make, but the parent cannot expect other women to acquiesce to their choice.

Personally, I have never, ever seen a woman give a dirty look to a parent with a child 5 or under. But when the 7, 8, and 9 year olds (OP's example) come in, then a parent should expect dirty looks by some. Not nice, but definitely not unwarranted.

I would never give another parent a dirty look, but I definitely would not cover up if some mommy has issues about men's bathrooms and because of that chooses to bring their 8 or 9 year old boy into the women's locker room.

If mommy is ok with 8 year old Johnny getting a better view of a women's bodies than Uncle Earl's playboy centerfold, then so be it. Not my business how she parents. Just don't expect me to throw on a towel while I am dressing (and no I don't blow dry my hair naked - just get dressed) to protect the little boy's sensibilities if mommy decides to bring him into a women's locker room. Even the women blow drying their hair in all their glory should not be guilted into covering up in a locker room because somebody brings an older boy in.

You want these women to respect parents with fears, how about respecting the women that don't want young boys seeing their nakedness?

 

[npmommie]

as I said before,not sending my 5 yo into the mens locker room alone, isn't based on fear, its just common sense.
he is too young.
and no I don't see walking all over naked as normal behavior, at least put some underwear on.
and no a glance here or there does not bother me, its when someone is walking naked all over and then chooses to give ME a look for my 5 yo ds being in there.
i say too bad.

 

[PrincessMomto2]

an 8 year old boy is way too old to be in a woman's locker room. My dd was very shy about being in the locker room herself and it would make her feel very uncomfortable to have an 8 year old boy in the locker room while she was trying to dress or undress. Never mind the women being uncomfortable what about the girls? Why should they have to be uncomfortable because this mom decided to bring her 8 year old into the locker room. My daughter would have been mortified especially at a certain age.

Our Y has a rule no child of the opposite sex in either male or female locker rooms they have family changing rooms available for this purpose. I still see women breaking this rule. People only care about themselves not about others and how they would feel. If they have family changing areas use them! They are there for that purpose.