long wedding vent- I give up- AM I bridezilla?

[surfergirl602]

Or you could throw everyone for a loop and do this for your wedding!!!
http://www.facebook.com/ext/share.php?sid=106636244188&h=CqSJB&u=Vr48o

 

[Nicolepa]

I agree with those who say to cut the strings NOW. I had to do this with my MIL and it was the best thing I could have done. DH & I live on the West Coast, IL's live in Ft. Lauderdale. DH & I planned and booked a Disney Wedding. MIL wanted the wedding in her backyard. Said none of her friends would go to Orlando. I told her it was either Disney or local for us. She threw a fit about Disney so I said OK the wedding will be where we live. I doubt any of your friends will fly that far.

My family didn't care, except for my parents, they all had to travel anyway. My family would have gone anywhere we wanted. So we planned the wedding locally. I refused any money from dh's family until after all the final deposits were paid. That way she had no say. For our wedding they gave us a very large check. I thanked them and told them it would help with our honeymoon and very much appreciated.

The only thing we regret is that we didn't have our Disney wedding. But my MIL learned very early on that she could not control me and that has been a huge blessing. (Not that she doesn't try.)

 

[Notatourist]

A friend of mine solved this the best way possible in my opinion.

Her family lived locally while his was in for a visit to meet the other family etc. They have dinner at her mom's house and the doorbell rings, it's the minister.

She had hidden his tux and her dress in the house and they married in front of all the immediate family then and there.

That takes care of it.

Good luck

 

[bethy]

I agree with the other PP's, stand up to your mom now. Do not let her ruin your wedding and yours (and your dads) dream of walking down the aisle together. Plan your small wedding and I bet they will still attend. Don't let them push you around.

Agreed. I am usually the one who is anti-bridezilla and who does think it's nice when compromise is made between the bridal couple and everyone else who is affected by their wedding. For me, a wedding shouldn't be JUST all about the bride and groom. But these mothers are WAY crossing the line.

We gave into my MIL and had the big wedding we didn't want (and that MY parents paid for!) so that she could invite all her friends and coworkers. It wasn't the end of the world but it also wasn't the wedding we wanted. I regret it but I also don't dwell on it since it's ancient history. I was young and just wanted to please everybody.