Lisella
Mouseketeer
- Joined
- Oct 8, 2007
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I thought it was about time I posted something about myself and upcoming plans. Ive been lurking and doing some posting for the past few months. I did ask a bunch of questions when I first came on here but havent gotten into too many details since. I try to be kind of a "private" person on the internet, but also fun, silly and knowledgable so I decided to throw a little caution to the wind in doing this.
I dont want to start a planning journal yet because I dont have an official date (my guestimate for one is at least 18 21 months away). I very much enjoy reading all of the planning journals here and feel that they are a great way to get to know the people here. So I figured Id start a little wishbook type blog kind of a place I can tell my story, record my wedding wishes, organize my thoughts, ask questions, get some ideas, and then maybe you all can get to know me a little.
So, Whats My Story?
Well, I could write a novel but I will try to keep it as simple as possible. My name is Lisa and I live in the Boston area. Ive lived here all my life. I am not a first timer when it comes to weddings and I am embarrassed to say that I am not a second timer either
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My DF, John and I have been part of the same circle of friends since about 1982/1983. I first met him when I was about 15 and he was about 19 (yes, do the math - I am kind of old). Of course we didnt catch each others interest at that point because of the age difference (although years later he tells me that he thought I was a cute kid LOL). Weve attended each others weddings, been part of watching each others families grow and have been friends ever since.
So I was a teenage mom - married my 2nd day of my senior year in high school with my first son being born about 5 months later. I had my second son 17 months after that. The marriage did not last long. Unfortunately I was a naïve kid in a very unhealthy situation (unhealthy for me & the boys). Thinking I learned a very tough life lesson, and being a scared timid young mom, I ended up head over heels into another very unhealthy marriage by the time I was 22 (what happened to the spunky, smart little spitfire Lisa I used to be?).
A couple of years into the second marriage (1992), I finally learned a lot about myself, got my act together, got strong and moved on with my life. Around this same time, Johns marriage also fell apart. We began spending lots of time talking. We were both going through so much. Over that time we made a very special connection and have been together ever since.
We have been living together since 1993. We are best friends & soul mates. Our children are now mostly grown (my DSs are 22 & 21 and Johns DDs are 23 & 18 we also help raise my DNephew who is 15). Like most people growing up and old together, we have dealt with our share of challenges, heartaches, sickness, loss, tragedies and joy. But through it all, we have had each other. We have never questioned our love it has just always been (does that make sense)? He has been my rock through some awful events, and he tells me I am still the love of his life.
Sometimes we think, why we didnt get together years earlier how did we miss the chemistry? But we dont like to dwell as we cannot change the past. We figure we had life lessons to learn and stuff to go through before we were ready to come together. Those things made us stronger and wiser and they could have helped us be more prepared to deal with some of the tragedies weve dealt with together and possibly handled much better than we would have without those previous lessons.
So that is where my Wishbook will begin. If you are still interested stay tuned for the next installment: Why Arent We Married Yet?
I dont want to start a planning journal yet because I dont have an official date (my guestimate for one is at least 18 21 months away). I very much enjoy reading all of the planning journals here and feel that they are a great way to get to know the people here. So I figured Id start a little wishbook type blog kind of a place I can tell my story, record my wedding wishes, organize my thoughts, ask questions, get some ideas, and then maybe you all can get to know me a little.
So, Whats My Story?
Well, I could write a novel but I will try to keep it as simple as possible. My name is Lisa and I live in the Boston area. Ive lived here all my life. I am not a first timer when it comes to weddings and I am embarrassed to say that I am not a second timer either
.My DF, John and I have been part of the same circle of friends since about 1982/1983. I first met him when I was about 15 and he was about 19 (yes, do the math - I am kind of old). Of course we didnt catch each others interest at that point because of the age difference (although years later he tells me that he thought I was a cute kid LOL). Weve attended each others weddings, been part of watching each others families grow and have been friends ever since.
So I was a teenage mom - married my 2nd day of my senior year in high school with my first son being born about 5 months later. I had my second son 17 months after that. The marriage did not last long. Unfortunately I was a naïve kid in a very unhealthy situation (unhealthy for me & the boys). Thinking I learned a very tough life lesson, and being a scared timid young mom, I ended up head over heels into another very unhealthy marriage by the time I was 22 (what happened to the spunky, smart little spitfire Lisa I used to be?).
A couple of years into the second marriage (1992), I finally learned a lot about myself, got my act together, got strong and moved on with my life. Around this same time, Johns marriage also fell apart. We began spending lots of time talking. We were both going through so much. Over that time we made a very special connection and have been together ever since.
We have been living together since 1993. We are best friends & soul mates. Our children are now mostly grown (my DSs are 22 & 21 and Johns DDs are 23 & 18 we also help raise my DNephew who is 15). Like most people growing up and old together, we have dealt with our share of challenges, heartaches, sickness, loss, tragedies and joy. But through it all, we have had each other. We have never questioned our love it has just always been (does that make sense)? He has been my rock through some awful events, and he tells me I am still the love of his life.
Sometimes we think, why we didnt get together years earlier how did we miss the chemistry? But we dont like to dwell as we cannot change the past. We figure we had life lessons to learn and stuff to go through before we were ready to come together. Those things made us stronger and wiser and they could have helped us be more prepared to deal with some of the tragedies weve dealt with together and possibly handled much better than we would have without those previous lessons.
So that is where my Wishbook will begin. If you are still interested stay tuned for the next installment: Why Arent We Married Yet?
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. It was wonderful. Now, I did not go with the whole family. I went with DFs DD, and a daughter of my friend along with our dancing school (they were both students there at the time).
I mean the castle...one of my favorite places in the whole wide world!
