Lisella
Mouseketeer
- Joined
- Oct 8, 2007
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The Proposal
Let me be upfront and tell you that sometimes DF comes up big and is quite romantic (like my Valentines story) and then sometimes not so much. With that said, I will say that this proposal story might be very different from the stories you are used to reading on these boards.
Last August, I celebrated one of those milestone birthdays. I called it the big ugly one. Well, for my birthday I really wanted something fun to make me forget that I was turning 40. Of course I asked for a diamond ring as I included one on each and every gift list there was an opportunity to make such a request. What do you want for Christmas, Lisa? A diamond ring, of course. What do you want for Easter? A diamond ring of course. Im going to the mall, do you need anything? A diamond ring, of course. It was kind of an ongoing joke that went on for years, I think you get the idea, LOL. The request eventually became more detailed instead of simply a diamond ring, I would ask for a perfectly cut diamond that explodes with sparkle. I got the idea from a commercial I heard.
But for this birthday, I was more serious about my request. There was nothing holding us back from getting married anymore. I didnt need anything for a gift and there was nothing else I could think of that I wanted that I couldnt just go out and buy. Since there was no big surprise dance party with a disco ball (that I had been requesting), the timing for a romantic birthday seemed perfect. Like I said, I could remember my 40th as the birthday I got engaged instead of simply the one that I turned 40. In the weeks and days that preceded my birthday, when asked what I would like, I would simply say, you know or take a big guess.
DF has Tuesdays & Wednesdays off from work at the tattoo shop (his weekends) and since I was unemployed, he decided we would spend this particular Tuesday & Wednesday together to celebrate my birthday (which was Wednesday). Of course, the weather on Tuesday was cool and drizzly so we could not think of too much to do together. It turned into one of those all day affairs of so, what do you want to do? I dont know, what do you want to do? It was easy to get caught up in the usually daily stuff around the house and watching junk on TV. But every so often, DF would get a bit frustrated and say he wanted to do something for my birthday, so to please tell him what I wanted. I was also being stubborn and wanted him to surprise me, but could also not come up with any ideas of what I wanted to do to help him along.
After quite a bit of back and forth, the following conclusions kind of lingered in the air:
DF knew that I really wanted a ring.
DF wanted to get me a ring.
DF did not want to get me a ring for my birthday. In his words, he thought it would be cheesing out on a birthday present I dont think so
DF wanted to take me shopping to buy the ring before he proposed.
I wanted to be proposed to before I got the ring.
Of course, the funny part is that neither of us was admitting any of the above facts. Most of them were discussed later on. But finally, the conversation went something like this:
DF: What do you want to do for your birthday?
Me: I dont know. Its so lousy out. All the things I keep thinking of involve being outside like the beach or fishing, so I dont know.
DF: Well, I would like to buy you something or take you shopping. What do you want?
Me: You know what I want.
DF: No, for the past few weeks you will only tell me what you dont want no money, no gift certificates, no flowers.
Me: You know what I want.
DF: Well, you have to come with me to pick it out.
Me: Yes, but you have to take care of something first.
DF: No, we have to go shopping first.
Me: You can do it without shopping first. We can go shopping after.
DF: For crying out loud, we have been together all these years. You know I want to marry you.
Me: Yeah.
DF: So lets go to the friggin jewelry store.
Me: OK
So there you go...
The entire day up until then was very frustrating. But in the end, we picked out a beautiful diamond ring. Its called a Leo Diamond, which is known for its brilliant sparkle. DF loved the Leos as he knew I wanted sparkle! I picked out a simple solitaire as that is what I like, nothing over the top. We had to have the ring sized so I did not have it on my finger for about 4 days. I was hoping that there would be some kind of romantic moment when we finally had the ring in our possession, but that never happened.
We later discussed the fact that he thought a diamond would be a cheesy birthday present or an easy out to getting a present. I assured him that it was a diamond after all, nothing cheesy about it, and definitely not an easy out to birthday shopping. I told him that if he still felt that way, I was letting it slide.
Though there was not much romance about it, all was well in the end and it did turn out to be the birthday we got engaged. I think in this category (weddings) we dont exactly see eye to eye on what should happen DF coming from the thought that weve been together so long that we are just making it official and then me thinking that we still deserve something special. We decided to hold off a bit on picking a date. After all, we dont want to rush into anything
Ill try to get a picture of the ring up soon.
Next up Why Am I Here (on the Dis)?
Let me be upfront and tell you that sometimes DF comes up big and is quite romantic (like my Valentines story) and then sometimes not so much. With that said, I will say that this proposal story might be very different from the stories you are used to reading on these boards.
Last August, I celebrated one of those milestone birthdays. I called it the big ugly one. Well, for my birthday I really wanted something fun to make me forget that I was turning 40. Of course I asked for a diamond ring as I included one on each and every gift list there was an opportunity to make such a request. What do you want for Christmas, Lisa? A diamond ring, of course. What do you want for Easter? A diamond ring of course. Im going to the mall, do you need anything? A diamond ring, of course. It was kind of an ongoing joke that went on for years, I think you get the idea, LOL. The request eventually became more detailed instead of simply a diamond ring, I would ask for a perfectly cut diamond that explodes with sparkle. I got the idea from a commercial I heard.
But for this birthday, I was more serious about my request. There was nothing holding us back from getting married anymore. I didnt need anything for a gift and there was nothing else I could think of that I wanted that I couldnt just go out and buy. Since there was no big surprise dance party with a disco ball (that I had been requesting), the timing for a romantic birthday seemed perfect. Like I said, I could remember my 40th as the birthday I got engaged instead of simply the one that I turned 40. In the weeks and days that preceded my birthday, when asked what I would like, I would simply say, you know or take a big guess.
DF has Tuesdays & Wednesdays off from work at the tattoo shop (his weekends) and since I was unemployed, he decided we would spend this particular Tuesday & Wednesday together to celebrate my birthday (which was Wednesday). Of course, the weather on Tuesday was cool and drizzly so we could not think of too much to do together. It turned into one of those all day affairs of so, what do you want to do? I dont know, what do you want to do? It was easy to get caught up in the usually daily stuff around the house and watching junk on TV. But every so often, DF would get a bit frustrated and say he wanted to do something for my birthday, so to please tell him what I wanted. I was also being stubborn and wanted him to surprise me, but could also not come up with any ideas of what I wanted to do to help him along.
After quite a bit of back and forth, the following conclusions kind of lingered in the air:
DF knew that I really wanted a ring.
DF wanted to get me a ring.
DF did not want to get me a ring for my birthday. In his words, he thought it would be cheesing out on a birthday present I dont think so
DF wanted to take me shopping to buy the ring before he proposed.
I wanted to be proposed to before I got the ring.
Of course, the funny part is that neither of us was admitting any of the above facts. Most of them were discussed later on. But finally, the conversation went something like this:
DF: What do you want to do for your birthday?
Me: I dont know. Its so lousy out. All the things I keep thinking of involve being outside like the beach or fishing, so I dont know.
DF: Well, I would like to buy you something or take you shopping. What do you want?
Me: You know what I want.
DF: No, for the past few weeks you will only tell me what you dont want no money, no gift certificates, no flowers.
Me: You know what I want.
DF: Well, you have to come with me to pick it out.
Me: Yes, but you have to take care of something first.
DF: No, we have to go shopping first.
Me: You can do it without shopping first. We can go shopping after.
DF: For crying out loud, we have been together all these years. You know I want to marry you.
Me: Yeah.
DF: So lets go to the friggin jewelry store.
Me: OK
So there you go...
The entire day up until then was very frustrating. But in the end, we picked out a beautiful diamond ring. Its called a Leo Diamond, which is known for its brilliant sparkle. DF loved the Leos as he knew I wanted sparkle! I picked out a simple solitaire as that is what I like, nothing over the top. We had to have the ring sized so I did not have it on my finger for about 4 days. I was hoping that there would be some kind of romantic moment when we finally had the ring in our possession, but that never happened.
We later discussed the fact that he thought a diamond would be a cheesy birthday present or an easy out to getting a present. I assured him that it was a diamond after all, nothing cheesy about it, and definitely not an easy out to birthday shopping. I told him that if he still felt that way, I was letting it slide.
Though there was not much romance about it, all was well in the end and it did turn out to be the birthday we got engaged. I think in this category (weddings) we dont exactly see eye to eye on what should happen DF coming from the thought that weve been together so long that we are just making it official and then me thinking that we still deserve something special. We decided to hold off a bit on picking a date. After all, we dont want to rush into anything
Ill try to get a picture of the ring up soon.
Next up Why Am I Here (on the Dis)?
Well, I probably would have died if it went that way years ago. Sometimes I still say that I am going to give the ring back and make him do it right...we actually laugh about it together though so its all good... 
And thanks for the congrats. Your wedding colors worked beatifully. I think you can get away with so much more at Disney and other warm weather locations - but the way you decorated would have worked anywhere. And like you both said, weddings are your own so I need to get past the whole seasonal thing.
. We have been married almost a year, and to this day he has still never asked me to marry him! Says that if he ever wants out, he can claim the wedding wasn't his idea
. And more importantly this working thing is totally cutting into my DIS time. I have so much catching up to do in everyone's PJ's & TR's - I feel like I'll never be able to read them all, but I am trying!!
