Sorry I havent posted in a few days. School started on wednesday. Also band practice, football practice and a scrimmage game last night for Kev.
Kev has been working hard to do both football and band. Remember he coordinated with the coach and band director to do both. Of course this causes him to miss some of both. Well after literally working his behind off, it looks like they arent gonna let him actually play football. I mean, he is there, practicing and dressing for the games, but in the first scrimmage he only got in for a couple of minutes in the very end, and last night they didnt put him in at all. Of course, it was a scrimmage, and they do partly varsity, freshmen, and JV. He is on JV, who played last. Since they were losing pretty bad, they kept the starters in the entire time.
Dont get me wrong , I understand the whole...if you sre at practice, you play thing. But he has just about been killing himself to try to do this. So I feel bad for him.
Anyway, I think the not playing at all thing got to him last night, even tho he wouldnt really talk about it. He did play the drums at the pep rally before , so thats good. Anyway, we got home aroung 11pm. He was going to a friends grandpas house this weekend so we packed his bag. He came in around midnite and said "I'm tired and going to bed, you get some sleep mom".
Fast forward to 2am. Phone rings. It doesnt say who it is, and I never answer the phone if I dont know who it is, but for some reason I did this time. Its Officer someone or other, and he has Kevin.
What??? He explains that he found Kev on Hwy 22 with his bike. And what do I want him to do. I said bring him home. He said he cant with the bike, can I come meet them at a certain spot and get him. So I drive up there and meet them. They are hanging out like old buds. Talking about football. A very nice man. He says Kevin didnt do anything wrong, but of course he's a minor on a dark hwy at 2 am. Several times he says he didnt do anything wrong.
So I take him home, say its wrong to be out at 2 am, no matter what.
The hwy I am talking about is a curvy country road. Unlit. Horrible for bikes during the daytime. Kev has never been allowed to ride his bike there, you can get killed. I have no idea what he was thinking. He says he was just not sleepy and decided to take a walk, then ride his bike around. He stopped and talked to a neighbor who happened to be outside at around midnite. So he was out wandering for 2 hours? I dont get it. Was he just bummed about the game? I dont know, he wont say. He just says it was no big deal, nothign is wrong and he was just stupid to wander off. I know this kid, and he didnt seem guilty at all, nothing. Just completely ordinary. Like its no big deal that the cops call mom at 2am?????? I dont know what to do. Originally I grounded him for a month. But I dont know if thats right. Maybe he really just couldnt sleep because he was upset? There arent any other kids there he was visiting. No girls houses anywhere near (that was my first thought). No one to do any vandalism with ( I dont think that is something he would do anyway). No drug dealers, nothing. Just a dark hwy.
I am feeling sorry for myself about it. I think it may be one of Gods messages. I have been feeling really kind of sanctimonious about being such a good mom! And pretty much dissing my sis for screwing up her kids. Not very nice. So maybe a little smack from God? Humbler? Maybe.
Anyway, I still have to do SOMETHING, but I think maybe 1 week grounding. I will watch carefully tho. And now I guess I have to do a nightly check. I hate not trusting him. He has no idea how he has screwed that up.
I called in sick. I just am not focused enough for my job today.
Oh, and food has been wretched this week. Well, it started out ok, but the last couple of days , I have lost track. I will get back there tho, really I will.
