Thank you for all the well wishes, prayers, and sincere caring.
A small update:
I talked to his current employer and his job will be waiting for him when he is able to return. His new employer said "I'm so impressed with his abilities and knowledge of our company, his job isn't going anywhere. Tell him not to worry about it at all." Big sigh of relief.
Tomorrow he will be having more surgery. The cardiologist is going to place to more stents to open up the last two arteries for now. The only way they will do open heart at this time will be if there are complications during surgery. Tho, the cardiologist side it will be tricky since he currently has 13 stents and one of the blocked ones is near one of the other stents which creates more risks than normal. Please, no matter what our choices have been, no matter what how irrsponsible you think we are...please pray for him. He needs prayers more than anything right now.
To those have offered to help our family with gifts: This is the Disfamily I have come to love and carry the upmost respect for from the boards. In such horrible economical times, you represent the true meaning of giving. Giving from the heart. It's an honor to know such a wonderful group of ppl exsist. As I mentioned earlier, my family is going to help but I will ask you to consider this if you would like to help someone. Please buy something small and deliver it to the children's hospital or the peds unit at your local hospital. For almost 25 years, we have been the secret santa to a local needy families and/or helped with gift raising for St Jude's in Tennessee. At St. Judes, those families are facing great hardship, spending weeks away from home, less understanding employers, financially strained all the while trending to a critically ill child.
To the vocal opinionated few: Everyone is entitled to their opinion and I respect that. I only pray that you never have to chose between morally responsiblity and your family. Living with a life threatening disease isn't a cake walk when it comes to right decisions. Yes, we had been to WDW many times. Yes, we shouldn't have went and just created memories here. Yes, I should have just threw a hissy fit when he kept insisting we/he was going. He was at that point in his life when he facing his demise. I decide to be supportive of my husband's decision instead of condemning his choices. My darling DH has worked his entire life-this is the first time he has ever been without a job and the stress was enormous. We paid off our home in 15 years instead of 30. He paid off our cars and CCs with our savings to insure if anything happened we would be free of outlandish debts (thus a few months ago the small saving balance). He made his will that very morning from a link I found on here-disboards so nothing would be tied up in probate forever. He/we busted our butts to get the savings back up to a reasonable comfort zone. Yes, we took our trip as it was two weeks prior to us leaving and considering the amount of money we would have lost VS the pleasure and happiness I seen in my husband's eyes and spirit...I'm glad we went. As for the insurance...complete irrsponsibility and/or communication breakdown between us. This is not here nor there-whats been done or not done can not be changed. All I pray is Karma doesn't bite you back...that when you are completely down and out, someone doesn't make the comments that was made to me. Life is full of unpopular decisions. But those decisions are lived only by the ones who make them.
Also, I want to tell each of you, those few typed heartfelt emotional words, encouragement, and caring has meant the world to me. Last night, I faced losing my wonderful husband. We have been together 25 years and I can't imagine life without him. I had to last night as I seen his lips turn blue and his face so gray as he almost fell to the ground. I heard his whispered words of "if I don't make it, remember I love you" as they wheeled him into surgery. I came home lost, scared, and needed friends. I found them here on the Disboards. So no matter what anyone's opinion is, no matter how irrsponsible we have been, no matter how you would have done this or that...life is short, friendships are a treasure and I have met many treasures here on Disboards. Your kind words and advice have enormously helped me through today. Thank you!
Please say a small prayer-no matter how you feel about our decisions-that surgery cames out perfect tomorrow. It's in God's hands and I know he will hear your prayers. I'll update when I get home tomorrow.
