Lifetime movie had a new episode last night

[imgoingtodisney]

With 22days to go, DH tells me again last night that he is NOT going! Ahh! He mentioned back when the cruise was booked that he wanted to go tanning before we cruise. For his Aug birthday I bought him a tanning cert. A week ago he said he was going to go tanning for the month of Nov. Last night I asked when he was going to start. He threw the cert on my dresser and said he's not going!
Oh my! And this weekend I was hoping to get him fitted for his tux. Do I need to call w/his measurements 1 wk ahead or 2?

Anyone willing to take bets now on will he or wont he be on the cruise?
Stay tuned for another episode on the Lifetime Channel!

 

[Lisa F]

Instead of watching Lifetime, you should watch TVLand for some old episodes of the A-Team. Do what they always did to Mr. T. Drug his milk, drag him over to get measured for a tux and then bring him back. He'll never know. Drug his milk again when it's time to go on the cruise. He'll wake up on the mickey boat, probably when they blow the horn. He'll ask "how did I get here???" and you can say "shut up and drink your pina colada!"

Lisa

 

[SC Minnie]

My vote would be to say OK and unpack all of his things. Then say you are inviting a good friend since he doesn't really want to go. If he doesn't baulk then do it. From your previous posts it sounds like you would have much more fun with less complaining.

Just my $.02- no flaming please.

 

[pal2pluto]

I'd agree w/SCMinnie...

But then again.....is he truely uneasy about this cruise, or is he just "pushing your buttons"? Without knowing him, it is hard to know where he is coming from.

I took a cruise w/2 girlfriends, and it was the most fun ever. Don't get me wrong, I loved my cruises w/dh, but us girls kinda cut loose and made it a point to have fun, staying up all night, not missing a thing.

 

[imgoingtodisney]

even DS10 is ready to go w/out Dad! "I dont want grouchy Dad along, we'd have more fun w/out him!"
Ive been packing a large suitcase for DH, DS and myself and a med size w/all the "stuff". This morn I moved DHs suitcase to the back. If he's ready on the 27th I'll pull it back out for him, if not then he can unpack it himself! If he decides to go all he needs to add is underwear/sox and a few bang-around clothes. I have all else already packed.
If he has a tux for the formal & semi-formal nights fine. If not then I'll take DS10 to dinner even if DH is on the cruise.
If he comes along and gets sunburned oh well. He had his opportunity to tan.
If he doesnt come then DS and I have more money to enjoy ourselves - we can use DHs tip money.

 

[FOJMO]

I sure hope you stick by your guns and do what you say you will, cause DH sounds like someone I wouldn't want to be around on a vacation anyway. I think he IS "pushing your buttons" cause he knows how crazy you are for this cruise. Call his bluff, and go without him. It also might be a little too much talking about it to him. It's not like it is with other DISers -- try not talking about it and asking him questions and maybe he will ease up.

Good luck -- I hope you manage to have a wonderful time on the cruise no matter whether he ends up going or NOT!

 

[mcnuss]

I think you should call his bluff too. Tell him that you've called DVC and cancelled his points and that you are selling his plane ticket on eBay. (You can't but what the heck, he won't know!!) Take his tanning certificate and go yourself or give it to a girlfriend and go together for some fun. And whatever you do, do not mention one more word to him about the cruise. Not one.
Find something that will really bug him and just do it on purpose. I probably sound petty and spiteful but I think that's what he's being to you, and it's not right for him to ruin your enjoyment of your vacation.

 

[imgoingtodisney]

you know Ive never been tanning - just may need to try it out
thanks for the support

 

[wovenwonder]

At this point I have to say that I don't understand why you would want him along anyway. You've planned for this trip for too long to have it ruined by someone acting like a child -- and I don't mean your DS10 either! I'd leave him at home and not even give him the option of going along at this time. Just think of the wonderful memories you and DS will have from a stress free vacation -- one where you won't have to wonder if Hubby is going to be Jekkyl or Hyde from one minute to the next.

 

[4nana]

Barb ~

You are sharing your personal life with us, so I assume you don't mind our opinions.

I am sorry you are going thru this when it should be such an exciting and happy time for you and your son. 4Nana is not into playing games of this nature and would not be dealing as well as you have. His behavior is a poor example to your son, not to mention he is taking all the magic out of your trip. Maybe he needs to stay at home alone, in his shorts, where he'll have time to do some soul searching

Go ~ have fun with your son making special memories.
Life is short and you deserve it Best of luck!

 

[BarbOKW]

I'm sorry, but I have to agree with most the other people who responded. There is no way I'd take him along. Unpack his bag and go have a wonderful vacation without him.

Does he do this only with vacations or does he rain on your parade with other things as well...if this is his standard behavior, I'd be asking do I need this? I'm sorry but I can not abide people who like to play these kind of mind games.

 

[Michelle]

Just want to mention that even if you tan you still need to WEAR SUNSCREEN or you will burn like a lobster.

Your son is a wise kid.

 

[Rose_Greenthumb]

I say go without him and have some fun! Believe me, spending the whole week arguing is no fun at all, you could do that at home and save the money. Whatever you do, have fun!

 

[SC Minnie]

Give him a deadline. You can't cancel things at the last minute and expect to get a full or sometimes even a partial refund. If he doesn't go do you lose those DVC points? If I am not mistaken there is a cancellation policy there too.

He may be yanking your chain because he has heard so much about the cruise (he is obviously not addicted like the rest of us ).

If I were in your shoes I would give him a deadline for a final decision then say no more about it. You need enough time to cancel excursions, rentals, etc.

 

[imgoingtodisney]

Yup - I will have lost those DVC points. DS will change to 2nd person points and I will loose DSs points (about 55) and it will cost me at port to have DHs name taken off the cruise
The airfare will be lost too.
I will check on the park n fly though - not sure about my deadline there.

 

[4crusinransiers]

I agree with all of the ubove posts, although If It were me I would not give him a deadline. I would tell him I was sick of his games and thaT HE IS A BAD EXAMPLE for your son and go without him. I was once with a man as you descibe, 16 years ago, I left him for my kids sake! I now have a wonderful husband and we have been together for 14 years. That jerk I left, he's still alone.......need to start thinking about what this is doing to you and especally your SON!

 

[LarryC]

I'm just amazed that you are packing with THREE WEEKS to go.

 

[tlens]

I think you really do want him to go or you wouldn't care about all his details (tux, tanning etc).

Try this: Stop talking to him about the cruise. I know it'll be really difficult especially with how close it is but that may just work. He probably will wonder what's up and end up asking YOU about the cruise. At this point you have nothing to lose.

It sounds like he's not a detail person and you are. I'm a detail person too but I've learned my husband doesn't want to hear about all the details. He's just happy to see what I've done when we get there. Also, with him not being involved in everything, I can do what I do best (planning)without any interference. He's never been disappointed in a trip I've planned yet.

 

[FOJMO]

Originally posted by LarryC
I'm just amazed that you are packing with THREE WEEKS to go.

LARRYC -- you obviously haven't been keeping up with imgoingtodisney - LOL! Barb's had every detail planned since they booked this cruise (and maybe even BEFORE)!

I agree with TLENS, if you don't mention the cruise at all for the remainder of the time, he'll probably wonder what's going on and bring it up himself. Then, I'd say to him "I thought you weren't going?"

 

[SuAnne]

This must be so upsetting for you Barb.

Sound like my "ex" when we were married and first went to WDW when my DD was two. He never wanted to go...thought anything Disney was just fluff and somehow "beneath" him. He did come and pretty much ruined the trip AND my relationship with my parents who had come with us. That's when I gave my head a shake as that was a real wake up call for me.

My DD is now 9 and since then she and I have been to WDW twice and we're going on our second Disney cruise in December with my Mom and can say that those have been the best vacations ever!

You and your DS are going to have a great time, don' t let him ruin that for you.