letting newborns cry it out

[surfergirl602]

This blog post came up on facebook - has anyone else seen this? there are many different reactions but it seems the blog author is only approving those comments that agree with her, and deleting those that are speaking up. This woman puts her 8 week old in a closet to sleep, with the door shut and a fan running for white noise, and lets her cry it out all night long, so that the mother can sleep and not hear the baby. I find this really disturbing.

http://www.honeybearlane.com/2012/0...earLane+(Honeybear+Lane)&utm_content=FaceBook

 

[happygirl]

This blog post came up on facebook - there are many different reactions but it seems the blog author is only approving those comments that agree with her, and deleting those that are speaking up. This woman puts her 8 week old in a closet to sleep, with the door shut and a fan running for white noise, and lets her cry it out all night long, so that the mother can sleep and not hear the baby. I find this appalling.

http://www.honeybearlane.com/2012/0...earLane+(Honeybear+Lane)&utm_content=FaceBook

I think I'm probably going to get flammed for this but oh well, I think as long as a baby has full belly and has been burped and has a clean diaper. I think a baby can cry for a little bit. I think if you pick up a baby all the time when they cry you are making a bad habit. I would never allow my baby to cry all night.

 

[sissy_ib]

This blog post came up on facebook - has anyone else seen this? there are many different reactions but it seems the blog author is only approving those comments that agree with her, and deleting those that are speaking up. This woman puts her 8 week old in a closet to sleep, with the door shut and a fan running for white noise, and lets her cry it out all night long, so that the mother can sleep and not hear the baby. I find this really disturbing.

http://www.honeybearlane.com/2012/0...earLane+(Honeybear+Lane)&utm_content=FaceBook

Ok, I don't have kids so I don't usually voice my opinion on child raising techniques. But WTH! In a closet! Crying it out is one thing (which I don't agree with) but to shut your child in a closet all alone? That poor baby.

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

This blog post came up on facebook - has anyone else seen this? there are many different reactions but it seems the blog author is only approving those comments that agree with her, and deleting those that are speaking up. This woman puts her 8 week old in a closet to sleep, with the door shut and a fan running for white noise, and lets her cry it out all night long, so that the mother can sleep and not hear the baby. I find this really disturbing.

http://www.honeybearlane.com/2012/0...earLane+(Honeybear+Lane)&utm_content=FaceBook

That is really disturbing.

I let my kids "cry it out"...BUT I would go in every 5 to 10 mintues and reassure them that they weren't abandonded. That was how my pedi told me to do it. No talking or eye contact when you go in.You just rub their back or whatever to let them know you're there and then leave again.

I would NEVER do what this woman did...That is neglect in my opinion.

 

[surfergirl602]

I should add that this is a BFing baby, and they require feeding much more often than a formula fed baby. But what should happen if that baby choked or something, and you couldn't hear it because its in your CLOSET, with a fan on???

 

[shinysparklybubbles]

I hope that is all a joke.

 

[happygirl]

I should add that this is a BFing baby, and they require feeding much more often than a formula fed baby. But what should happen if that baby choked or something, and you couldn't hear it because its in your CLOSET, with a fan on???

this lady sounds very very overwhelmed. She needs some help ASAP

 

[JessicaR]

8 weeks old in a closet to cry it out. Yeah I could NOT disagree more! That baby can't be satiated for very long. The baby needs to eat I am sure. We don't have the facts was the baby a premie? The night? How long is that exactly according to this mother?

 

[mefordis]

You may not have any kids but what you DO have is COMMON SENSE.

Ok, I don't have kids so I don't usually voice my opinion on child raising techniques. But WTH! In a closet! Crying it out is one thing (which I don't agree with) but to shut your child in a closet all alone? That poor baby.

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

this lady sounds very very overwhelmed. She needs some help ASAP

I don't think she sounded overwhelemed in the blog.

She almost sounds "proud" of it.

I don't get why she doesn't put the baby in her own room. She can get a video moniter...Be a little more AWARE of what is going on with her baby.

 

[happygirl]

I don't think she sounded overwhelemed in the blog.

She almost sounds "proud" of it.

I don't get why she doesn't put the baby in her own room. She can get a video moniter...Be a little more AWARE of what is going on with her baby.

I didnt read the blog guess I should lol

 

[luvmy3]

A newborn cries because it needs something so I would never let an 8 week old cry it out. I wouldn't even put my dog in a closet when she was barking, so I can't believe the mom puts her baby in one.

 

[Magic Mom]

The closet part doesn't really bother me, it's like a tiny bedroom. And the cry it out thing doesn't bother me. That method worked for my son (not for my Dd though). But the fan to drown out the noise thing is awful. How can they hear if the baby starts to choke?

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

A newborn cries because it needs something so I would never let an 8 week old cry it out. I wouldn't even put my dog in a closet when she was barking, so I can't believe the mom puts her baby in one.

You're right... 8 weeks IS too young to let "cry it out".

I don't think I started that until the twins were around 6-7 months.

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

The closet part doesn't really bother me, it's like a tiny bedroom. And the cry it out thing doesn't bother me. That method worked for my son (not for my Dd though). But the fan to drown out the noise thing is awful. How can they hear if the baby starts to choke?

A closet could be like a little room, you're right.

I think it just sounds so WRONG(and IMO it is) because of EVERYTHING combined. The crying...The fan...The closet. It's llike she just wants to shut the baby away so she can get some beauty sleep.

 

[disneychic2]

That is wrong on so many levels! Praying for God's protection for that poor child!

 

[DMickey28]

Ok, so while I don't agree with everything she said ... she doesn't sound overwhelmed or like a neglectful mother.

Perhaps she has a walk in closet and only 3 bedrooms in her house. Maybe it's not possible for the baby to have her own room. She said she checks on her frequently. She may have a monitor in there as well, she didn't say. She did not say that the fan was so she couldn't hear her. I know my youngest son WILL.NOT sleep if I am close to him. He was like that since the day he was born. My DH snores a lot and wakes up the kids if they are in our room. Even on vacation, my youngest sleeps in a closet or the bathroom.

CIO - eh, it's a personal thing. I do think that 8 weeks is way too young for the CIO she described. That I don't agree with that. My youngest, also did not sleep through the night until he was at least 14 months old and it's not consistant even at 22 months. He ate a lot!

I don't see the flame worthiness of this poor mom and I don't think she sounds overwhelmed (at least from that post alone.)

 

[luvmy3]

You're right... 8 weeks IS too young to let "cry it out".

I don't think I started that until the twins were around 6-7 months.

I have let my kids cry it out too, but not when they were that young. I am all for finding what works to get your baby to sleep, my youngest had colic, I know how stressful it can be for the entire family when a baby screams all night. My ds slept in his car seat for 3 months (don't worry it wasn't in the car ) After reading her blog it doesn't sound as bad as I thought, the closet is in the mom's room, so I assume its a walk in and I thought she said she puts the fan on for white noise for the baby, not so the mom can't hear her I still wouldn't let a baby that young cry it out, or sleep on their tummy but mom said she checks on her frequently.

 

[VAfamily1998]

I agree with the others on the closet...my closet is very large, has a window and everything...I wouldn't think twice about converting my closet into a nursery if I had a newborn...BUT, that would be so I could reach my baby quickly if they cried in the middle of the night, not to ignore their cries!

I'm firmly against "crying it out" at any age, and I don't think even Ferber advocates allowing an 8 week old to cry it out!

 

[Magic Mom]

I just went back and re-read the whole blog entry. She's harmless IMO. She dotes on her babies. Evening bed routines, lavender night time lotion, music. The fan is white noise for the baby, not the parents. At the end of the entry she even talk about how the cry it out method didn't work for her son so they stopped it.

Hee are the "offending" paragraphs:

Confession: She Sleeps in The Closet

She sleeps in our closet right now. I had horrible anxiety about an earthquake causing all the boxes to fall on her so we took them all out. She has a fan in there for white noise. And ever since we moved her in there we’ve all been sleeping better. I think she can’t smell me or whatever so she sleeps rather than waking up every hour to eat. Hooray!

Confession: She Cried It Out

I had to resort to a couple of things to get this wonderful schedule. After several weeks of every single night spending HOURS trying everything to get her to go to sleep at night, we finally just let her cry it out. She spent about a week in training, every time she’d go down she’d have to cry if she didn’t go to sleep. She’d cry for about 20 minutes max before falling asleep, which really is not bad. Towards the end she only cried for a minute or two. Now she rarely cries herself to sleep. She is much easier to settle down and it only takes about 20 minutes to get her down. It’s better that she cries for a few minutes and gets hours of great sleep than have me wrestle with her for hours (still with crying) and lose all that sleep

I assume the baby is rooming in with the parents so as not to disturb the other kids, and if they were both keeping each other awake (parents and baby) a good solution is the closet....close to parents, away from siblings and with a barrier to make sleep easier. The fancreates white noise so mom and dad 's movements and talking don't wake her up. The crying it out is over. It did it's job, baby is fine and in a good sleep routine.

I'm not really seeing how mom is such a monster.