Let's talk in-laws

[Tea Please]

OK since I know there is absolutely no chance of my inlaws reading this I will say that they just really get on my nerves.
I feel better already

One thing inparticular that really irks me is their "frugal" (can you say CHEAP) nature. I think they still have their communion money.

Anyone else not having a love affair with the inlaws?

 

[tiggerlover]

Sorry to hear that your relationship with your inlaws is less than perfect. I am one of the lucky ones, I have a good relationship with mine, although I don't always agree with them.

 

[JohnsPrincess]

I no longer have inlaws...but when I was married my MIL was an EVIL WITCH!! I kid you not, everyone that met her dubbed her "Cruella Devil". She constantly used to tell me that basically I wasn't good enough for her son. She told him that I was "nice enough". I could go on and on. It was just horrible.
My darling boyfriends family is SO MUCH BETTER. His dad LOVES me, his mom likes me but he's been screwed in the past so she's a little wary and his siblings all like me. (as I breathe a sigh of relief)

 

[Stimpy]

Since DH occasionally sneaks in here, I refuse to answer on the grounds it might incriminated me.

 

[Jeafl]

There isn't enough bandwith or time in the world to begin to tell you about my inlaws.

Although, I have shared with you all some stories of my MIL's spectacular gifts over the years!

 

[preshi]

I love my mother in law even though she's a bit spazzy at times, my father in law never stops complaining about anything so he really gets on my nerves, doesn't matter what joyous occasion it is there he is complaining about something, loudly...

 

[scarlett873]

my MIL is ok...but the rest of them? yikes...

 

[Keggy]

My FIL is wonderful but my MIL - don't get me started....

She isn't worth the negative energy!

Kelly

 

[CBRorBust]

I'm not even going there except to say you can see my life every weeknight on Everybody Loves Raymond. AND I'M NOT EVEN MARRIED!

 

[MickeysMommy]

Here's what I think about my EX-MIL Need I say anything else?!?

 

[HauntedMansionGeek]

I can't even WATCH Everybody Loves Raymond. That's the joke at our house...I get uncomfortable watching my MIL on tv like that! *cringe*



To give you a little more insight, my MIL still calls my husband her "baby boy".

 

[CEDmom]

I don't know how it is the DH's entire family is warm, kind and loving with the exception of his mother and brother. The brother I can somewhat understand because he is a really mama's boy but I don't understand how his mother is the way she is when her own siblings are completely different. My MIL just doesn't have a nuturing bone in her body. She's never been outright mean with the exception of taking candy off of DD's gingerbread house and making her cry but she's just cold. I know this is going to sound really horrible but fortunately she's not getting around much anymore so we don't see her very often. Luckily there are so many other wonderful people in DD's life (including my mom) that she doesn't lack grandmotherly love.

 

[suzannen]

My MIL and I get along fairly well, but sometimes she gets a little wacky. She is very superstitious and recently called me about my nephew. He had won several awards at school and then 2 weeks later was diagnosed with Bell's Palsey (facial paralysis) caused by Lyme Disease. She had me on the phone for over an hour in hysterics because the "Evil Eye" had hit him and it was all because he had won those awards. How do you deal with that type of thinking?

 

[Gupsmom]

I miss my in laws. My FIL passed away 2 1/2 yrs ago and my MIL passed away 13 months after. I especially miss my MIL. She had her quirks but she was a fantastic person.

I'm very close to one of my BIL's and his family. He's probably more of a brother to me than my blood brother. He would truly do anything for me and to defend me. He's great. His wife and I are good friends too. his kids (as well as one other niece) are our main babysitters. I love his kids about as much as I love my own.

My other 2 BIL's are all right. We're not exceptionally close but I don't have a problem with either of them.

On my side, I'm closer to my brother's wife than I am to my brother. She's a great friend. My sister and I aren't very close, but we see eachother at all major holidays and we get along fine. I'd still jump in to do anything I could to help her if she needed it.

I guess we're lucky. My DH is very close to my parents too. We don't believe much in the whole "in-law" thing. When you marry into our family, you are family...simple as that.

Jess

 

[GoofItUp]

My in-laws are ok on the whole, but we're not particularly close. They view in-laws as just that....in-laws. My MIL, SIL, DH's aunt and grandmother all have a very tight clique that they'd just as soon not have anyone else in on. I use to really enjoy being with my FIL, but he had some health problems last year and is really starting to act OLD. It kind of gets on my nerves sometime. All the in-laws are nice enough to me, but we're not really like a family. I feel bad for DH in all this, because he really wants for US to be close to his family.

We did have a wonderful trip to WDW last TG (mostly because I read these boards, read books, and planned a phenomenal vacation that nobody could have messed up! ) with the SIL, her DH, two kids and MIL & FIL. We're trying an Alaska cruise with MIL and FIL this summer. So, we're still making an effort to be part of the family. Wish me luck!

 

[coliebird]

Wow, after reading these I realize how lucky I am. I am as close to my in-laws as I am to my family. My parents and his parents get along great, we all have holidays together. It is one huge family. I couldn't ask for better and my daughter has 4 amazing grandparents. My brother-in-law is a doll and I love his girlfriend, I hope he marries her. Even my sister and brother invite my in-laws to events and parties.

 

[jacksonsmom]

Oh my MIL is a piece of work!!!
We see her on average about twice a year, and believe me THAT is too much!

Talk about cheap, when my son was born, she came up to the hospital & while most people bring a card or a little gift for the baby, she brings up 3 garage sale outfits!!!!! I know they were garage sale outfits because there were stains on them!!! Needless to say, they went right in the TRASH!!
I just thought that was rude. I would never bring garage sale clothes up to the hospital when the baby isn't even 24 hours old.

She is a very negative person. I am not good enough for her son, I took him away from his family
She called up here one time & was crying saying to DH that he liked my family more then his own.
Truth is HE DOES!!!!!
At least my family treats him decent & enjoys his company.

My in-laws treat me like a second class citizen when I am over there!
And they wonder why we don't go over there

Oh yeah, MIL never even called her own son on his birthday!!!! She feels people should call HER!
So needless to say, DH's own mother never wished him a "Happy Birthday"

 

[MOMTOMOOTOO]

Oh I have a doozie. They are nice enough but also very cheap. She never bought the kids anything when they were infants because they wouldn't know I mean how can you attend a Christening empty handed? But now that they are bigger, she shops the dollar store. Oh well, they produced my husband and thats way more than I could ask for .
A few of the better gifts for me over the years:

Our first christmas together she made me a sweatshirt that was all crafty and was painted "The New Mrs. John Doe" I mean come on where the hell would somebody where that? It was all lacey and pink and stuff, just horrible. And then the following year an apron!! That was the best, a hand made apron with my
name on it, (I guess so nobody would steal it?) This past Christmas got better though, my DH got a $200.00 GC for a Golf Store and I got a roll of parchment paper
I couldn't contain myself. I went into the other room to keep from laughing. too funny. And the kids got some cheap funky snow globes, again, dollar store find. I thru them right out I was afraid they were toxic and the baby would start sucking on it. Like I said real doozies, but generally pretty nice.

 

[ShuisFan584]

My parents both love their in-laws! And with my boyfriend, my mom always tells everyone that he's her future son-in-law. My parents are like second parents to him and always love having him over. My mom is especially anxious to see us get married, but that won't be until another 3 years. I like his parents but I don't see them nearly as much as he sees mine.

 

[Kallison]

Originally posted by jacksonsmom
[Talk about cheap, when my son was born, she came up to the hospital & while most people bring a card or a little gift for the baby, she brings up 3 garage sale outfits!!!!! I know they were garage sale outfits because there were stains on them!!! Needless to say, they went right in the TRASH!!
I just thought that was rude. I would never bring garage sale clothes up to the hospital when the baby isn't even 24 hours old.
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same here! A big bag of garage sale clothes for her first grandchild.