Let the Prom Drama begin....Like Aurora, her dress keeps changing

[horseshowmom]

disneyeveryyear - I've got to admit that we really enjoyed the showing and miss it now that DD is semi-retired due to college. She got a great deal out of it (more than just doing well in classes).

We've been fortunate enough to be able to acquire the horses we've bought without leaving the state (although some of them weren't born here). While horse searching, we have gotten videos on others (one was in New York which would have involved some time and money in looking at him and then getting him down here, but we considered him very seriously before finding the one we wound up buying last), but they just didn't turn out to be what we wanted. We do have close friends who were in Canada a few months ago looking at a horse that also didn't work out. We horse show folks do get around!

As far as the drinks go, I'm probably the only non-drinking member of the Lushettes! I just signed on for the trip to Vegas, but I think the rest of you probably need a designated driver anyway.

Everybody have a great weekend!

 

[mamacatnv]

As far as the drinks go, I'm probably the only non-drinking member of the Lushettes! I just signed on for the trip to Vegas, but I think the rest of you probably need a designated driver anyway.

Everybody have a great weekend!

A DESIGNATED DRIVER YEAH! I might even be persuaded to clean your house for taking on that chore

True Confessions:
Hi, my name is Melissa and I use my DS as a Designated Driver​

I occasionally go out to my girlfriends house (the one wth 10 acres) she and I are fond of Lemon Drop martinis - I take my DS so he can drive me home. (She is the Mom of his Best Friend)
He was also the driver last May for my best friends b-day. We started with champaigne brunch and then went and got pedicures. Poor DS had a mini van full of drunk Mom's - he still teases us. You know it is bad when he comments that he had to be my Designated Driver twice in 1 week!
My Argument/Logic: I am setting a good example

 

[ImarriedGrumpy]

Welcome IMARRIEDGRUMPY (although I thought I did, but that is a whole nother thread Are you in San Jose, CA???? I grew up there.

Yep, I'm in San Jose, CA! We live right downtown in the Julian-St. James neighborhood. Not my MIL's choice for where we should live , but we like being close to everything downtown, we have a great group of friends who also all live within a mile of each other, and we can afford this house! It's tiny, but at least we aren't carrying around an $800,000 mortgage like most of our CA friends and family.

Actually, my husband's the SJ native, and I'm a transplant from MN & WI. DH has lived in the area since he was about 3; grew up in Saratoga, went to Santa Clara University for undergrad and San Jose State for grad school, and has never lived outside Silicon Valley since his family first moved here. He tells me that I come from "flyover states" and grumbles every time we visit my family (especially in winter).


Funny story from today that I thought you'd all enjoy: I do childcare in my home and take care of a 19 mo. old girl full time (Grace) and a young 2 yr. old girl (Mia) "as needed" (usually about 2 mornings a week). These two girls' moms were roommates for a few years, and Grace and Mia see each other a lot. Now Mia, like her mom, is reserved and VERY aware of messes and dirt. Grace, like HER mom, is enthusiastic, loud, and has a very zany sense of humor.

Today Grace decided to hide from Mia, and she went and stood behind the long curtains. Mia didn't notice at first that Grace was hiding, but then she looked around and said "where's Gracie?" As soon as the words were out of her mouth, Grace started giggling behind the curtain. Mia went over to where Grace was hiding, then looked at me and said "I'm scared, Bethany!" Grace totally busted out laughing at that moment, and Mia came dashing over to me as Grace came shrieking out from behind the curtain. Then Mia, holding onto my leg, looked up at me and said "I'm pooping, Bethany!" She paused, then said "but I won't sit in it."

Preschoolers just kill me... and I can't wait to see what these two are like when they are teens!

 

[mamacatnv]

Yep, I'm in San Jose, CA! We live right downtown in the Julian-St. James neighborhood. Not my MIL's choice for where we should live , but we like being close to everything downtown, we have a great group of friends who also all live within a mile of each other, and we can afford this house! It's tiny, but at least we aren't carrying around an $800,000 mortgage like most of our CA friends and family.

Actually, my husband's the SJ native, and I'm a transplant from MN & WI. DH has lived in the area since he was about 3; grew up in Saratoga, went to Santa Clara University for undergrad and San Jose State for grad school, and has never lived outside Silicon Valley since his family first moved here. He tells me that I come from "flyover states" and grumbles every time we visit my family (especially in winter).

Small world - my Dad graduated from San Jose State. We moved there when I was 7 from Redwood City and he was in his last year at State. We lived over off of Tully/Mclaughlin when it was a brand new neighborhood. I went to Yerba Buena HS. My brother and his wife live over off a Berryessa where they just bought a 20yr old condo for $450K and that was a bargain!

The area has changed sooooo much - DH and I left there in 87 and now when we go visit some of it is easy to navigate and comes right back to me but then with all the new freeways & expressways we get totally lost half the time.

Julian is familiar sounding but I am having a hard time wrapping my brain around a visual map.

Your preschoolers sound like a lot of fun!

 

[mamacatnv]

Son just called - he got his tux!

 

[Sandy V.]

ImarriedGrumpy - your toddler story is so cute!! You never know what they're going to say.

Melissa, glad that your DS got his tux. One less thing to deal with!!!

Everyone have a good weekend!

 

[mamacatnv]

Good weekend to you all - I'll be back on the puter come Wednesday morning.

I'm about outta here...................gotta pack, buy booze to pack, lay out 4 days of DD's clothes so that her Dad/Brother don't send her off in something hideous or embarrassing.....Dad is an Engineer, nuff said!

Pam:
Tell your DD the dress suspense is killing us

Sandy:
One less thing to do, one more bill to pay

Have a great time ladies - catch up with ya & the Prama soon.......................

Melissa

 

[horseshowmom]

Sandy V. - Hooray for the tux!


MamacatNV - Have a safe trip! (I totally understand about the DH and DD. I was gone on a business trip one time and asked DH to please take DD to get her hair trimmed. When I got back and saw it, her long, straight hair was cut at an angle across the bottom - shorter on one side and longer on the other. He hadn't even noticed it - and it was very noticeable! )



ImarriedGrumpy - Cute story! She really was scared, wasn't she? I was watching the gym at church last Sunday evening before church started, and a few of the kids started throwing a ball at each other. I reminded them of the gym rules (posted on the wall) and read them to them. Our preacher's little boy is 4. He listened intently until I got through reading the rules. Then he looked up and said, "It doesn't say anything about not throwing rocks at these walls..." and as he walked away, I saw him roll his eyes towards the ceiling and heard him quietly say, "And I've got a rock in my pocket... " (I've got to add that he really is a good boy though. )

 

[Sandy V.]

Happy Monday to everyone.

Well, here's the update on the Colorado front:

The limo is back ON! On Thursday, DS's friend squawked about the price of the limo (average for what you pay for one around here; I checked) and said that his dad could get one for a lot less. Fine, I said - go for it, young man. Called the limo company, got their answering service, and left a message that I wanted to cancel the limo.

Fast forward to Saturday. Well, apparently DS's friend never talked to his dad about getting another limo until Saturday morning, and the dad told this friend that the price we got was a good one, so the killed called DS - could we please get the limo that I had cancelled BACK?!?!?! I called the limo company. Well, the stars were alligned in the right places, because I got one of the owners on the phone. He told me that it was against Colorado state law to cancel my reservation until he talked directly to me (something about the fact that I used my credit card to put down a deposit) so that the limo was STILL reserved in my name!! Oh happy day! At least something is going in my favor. We've got 3 couples for the limo and DS is seeking a 4th. He is being very picky about who that will be - he has one friend that wants to join, but DS says that the guy is very immature and will "bug" him the entire night, so he doesn't want to have to deal with that on prom night. Can't say as I blame him.

Yesterday, DS and I went tuxedo rental shopping. We first went to the place that DS had a $40 off discount coupon in the mall. The place was overwhelmed with kids looking to rent, as well as kids returning tuxes from their own proms. Not wanting to wait at least an hour to get helped, we left the mall and went to another place just across the street. Found a great looking tuxedo for what I thought was a reasonable price. $93, including tax. That includes shoes. I was just happy to get out of there and not pay over $100. DS is thrilled and so am I - I can hardly wait to see how handsome he will look in it (yes, I am a very biased mother ) and I will try my best to post some photos when the time comes in May.

DD was back from college for the weekend. Very nice to have her home. She and I went shopping for a dress, as she's going with boyfriend and his family to Texas for a wedding on Thursday. But no luck, so I sent some $$$ with her to go shopping this week near Boulder.

I hope that everyone has a good day, today. Can't wait to hear the updates.

 

[horseshowmom]

Happy Monday to everyone.
She and I went shopping for a dress, as she's going with boyfriend and his family to Texas for a wedding on Thursday. But no luck, so I sent some $$$ with her to go shopping this week near Boulder.

I hope that everyone has a good day, today. Can't wait to hear the updates.

Too funny! That's what we spent Saturday doing too. Her BF's roommate from college is getting married down on the coast next month, and BF is in the wedding. Although DD has met some of the people (at least once or so), she doesn't really know them well. You can probably guess where this is going. She wanted to find something that would knock everybody's socks off (let me add a disclaimer here that she won't wear something tight or short - hooray for that!).

I noticed that you said you had no luck. I was amazed at what was out there. I finally looked at DD and asked if it was just me or were most of the dresses just plain ugly (not to mention very cheaply made)! She tended to agree with me. We did finally find two that we really liked at JCPenney. One was 40% off, and the other one was 50% off.

They both looked great on her, and she can wear one to the rehearsal dinner and one to the wedding.

Congratulations on both the tux and the limo. As the A Team used to say, don't you love it when a plan comes together?

 

[Sandy V.]

I noticed that you said you had no luck. I was amazed at what was out there. I finally looked at DD and asked if it was just me or were most of the dresses just plain ugly (not to mention very cheaply made)! She tended to agree with me. We did finally find two that we really liked at JCPenney. One was 40% off, and the other one was 50% off.

They both looked great on her, and she can wear one to the rehearsal dinner and one to the wedding.

Congratulations on both the tux and the limo. As the A Team used to say, don't you love it when a plan comes together?

Glad that your DD found not one, but two great dresses. And it sounds like you got them for a great price. Way to go! We were very frustrated by the selection. Given that it's so close to prom, some were WAY too dressy for her. Or else they were the cottony sundress things that weren't dressy enough. Plus, DD is on the "picky" side so that probably didn't help. She saw what boyfriend's mom is wearing and wanted to find something in a similar vein. We had a couple of contenders, but nothing that we felt like buying without feeling like she was "settling" for one of them. Fortunately, Flatirons Crossing is a wonderful shopping center about 15 minutes from DD's dorm. She called a friend last night and the two of them are going shopping today.

DD has met some of these family members through their visits to Colorado. I know she's a little nervous about being asked, "So, does this mean that you and boyfriend are going to get engaged/married?" She's already got the prepared speech in her mind, "Hey, we're only 19. We have a LONG time to decide anything." Good girl!! They are a very nice family and everyone has always treated DD very well, so I'm sure she'll have a good time. Boyfriend has a brother and no sisters, so boyfriend's mom has quasi-adopted DD as "her" daughter on these occasions.

Yes, I am very glad about the limo and tux plan coming together. Now all they have to do is figure out dinner reservations and corsages and DS will be set! I'm still not old enough to have my "baby boy" go to prom. Sniff, sniff.

 

[horseshowmom]

Glad that your DD found not one, but two great dresses. And it sounds like you got them for a great price. Way to go! We were very frustrated by the selection. Given that it's so close to prom, some were WAY too dressy for her. Or else they were the cottony sundress things that weren't dressy enough. Plus, DD is on the "picky" side so that probably didn't help. She saw what boyfriend's mom is wearing and wanted to find something in a similar vein. We had a couple of contenders, but nothing that we felt like buying without feeling like she was "settling" for one of them. Fortunately, Flatirons Crossing is a wonderful shopping center about 15 minutes from DD's dorm. She called a friend last night and the two of them are going shopping today.

DD has met some of these family members through their visits to Colorado. I know she's a little nervous about being asked, "So, does this mean that you and boyfriend are going to get engaged/married?" She's already got the prepared speech in her mind, "Hey, we're only 19. We have a LONG time to decide anything." Good girl!! They are a very nice family and everyone has always treated DD very well, so I'm sure she'll have a good time. Boyfriend has a brother and no sisters, so boyfriend's mom has quasi-adopted DD as "her" daughter on these occasions.

Yes, I am very glad about the limo and tux plan coming together. Now all they have to do is figure out dinner reservations and corsages and DS will be set! I'm still not old enough to have my "baby boy" go to prom. Sniff, sniff.

DD had just about resigned herself to waiting until she got back to school this week too. They have LOTS of trendy shopping boutiques, but I was "a little bit" afraid that the desire to "wow" BF's friends had the potential to translate into big dollars if she shopped at college! I was very happy when we found those (and my credit card got to stay at home with me ).

Again, another coincidence, DD's BF has a brother but no sisters, so his mother had also "adopted" her. Right now, they have come to the point where they are planning on getting married but aren't engaged. DD doesn't want to get married until she gets out of pharmacy school and doesn't believe in extremely long engagements (as in multi-years), so they probably won't get engaged until her last year of school. BF on the other hand, would get married next week (he's 23 and teaching school), but he understands where she's coming from. She does want BF's mother to go with us when she gets ready to look at wedding dresses though, because his mother won't have any girls of her own to go with. Oddly enough, his mother and I are the same age. She was born the day before I was!

 

[Sandy V.]

DD had just about resigned herself to waiting until she got back to school this week too. They have LOTS of trendy shopping boutiques, but I was "a little bit" afraid that the desire to "wow" BF's friends had the potential to translate into big dollars if she shopped at college! I was very happy when we found those (and my credit card got to stay at home with me ).

Again, another coincidence, DD's BF has a brother but no sisters, so his mother had also "adopted" her. Right now, they have come to the point where they are planning on getting married but aren't engaged. DD doesn't want to get married until she gets out of pharmacy school and doesn't believe in extremely long engagements (as in multi-years), so they probably won't get engaged until her last year of school. BF on the other hand, would get married next week (he's 23 and teaching school), but he understands where she's coming from. She does want BF's mother to go with us when she gets ready to look at wedding dresses though, because his mother won't have any girls of her own to go with. Oddly enough, his mother and I are the same age. She was born the day before I was!

I gave DD some cash, so if she spends more than that, it comes out of HER pocket. I think she'll be "motivated" to find something within that budget. At least Flatirons is a huge regional shopping center and not a specialty place.

That's funny about the similarities between your DD's boyfriend/family situation and ours. DD and boyfriend started going out after prom junior year (they didn't go together to that prom) and since we all live in the same community, I've seen boyfriend's family around quite a lot. Actually his mom and I are quite a bit alike and she's a very friendly person. Both dads are a bit more reserved (I'm a little off the scale, extrovert wise! ). I think that your DD has a good head on her shoulders regarding finishing school first. That's what we've pounded into our kids' heads since they were younger, and it seems to be sticking. We honestly don't know what's going to happen with the relationship. They'll be together 2 years in June, but a lot can happen between now and college graduation. We're just happy that THEY'RE happy, that he treats our DD very well, and it seems to be a very healthy relationship.

 

[horseshowmom]

That's funny about the similarities between your DD's boyfriend/family situation and ours. DD and boyfriend started going out after prom junior year (they didn't go together to that prom) and since we all live in the same community, I've seen boyfriend's family around quite a lot. Actually his mom and I are quite a bit alike and she's a very friendly person. Both dads are a bit more reserved (I'm a little off the scale, extrovert wise! ). I think that your DD has a good head on her shoulders regarding finishing school first. That's what we've pounded into our kids' heads since they were younger, and it seems to be sticking. We honestly don't know what's going to happen with the relationship. They'll be together 2 years in June, but a lot can happen between now and college graduation. We're just happy that THEY'RE happy, that he treats our DD very well, and it seems to be a very healthy relationship.

These two have been together since she started her Senior year in high school. They actually met in our yard a few years before that. BF was riding with the guy who shod our horses at the time to learn how to shoe his own. At 14 and 18 though, the age difference wasn't right (although they did "notice" each other ). They ran into each other from time to time since he worked at the Co-Op part-time. They started talking one day about the rodeo coming up at the county fair, and he told her that she ought to come run barrels. She went, and the rest was history (as they say ).

They did break up for about 6 months, and we did NOT care for the boy she dated during part of that time. We were very happy when she and BF worked out their differences. Mainly, both kids were raised the same. As he puts it, "No doubt about it, you and mama are definitely on the same page!"

As you said, lots can change in the next few years, but if it doesn't, we'd be very happy to add this boy to the family.

 

[Sandy V.]

They did break up for about 6 months, and we did NOT care for the boy she dated during part of that time. We were very happy when she and BF worked out their differences. Mainly, both kids were raised the same. As he puts it, "No doubt about it, you and mama are definitely on the same page!"

That's one of the things I like about boyfriend and his family - like your two families, we're also cut from the same bolt of cloth. If DD and boyfriend ever do break up, it will be SO weird for her to bring another guy home, at least for awhile.

 

[horseshowmom]

That's one of the things I like about boyfriend and his family - like your two families, we're also cut from the same bolt of cloth. If DD and boyfriend ever do break up, it will be SO weird for her to bring another guy home, at least for awhile.

We bent over backwards with the "in between guy", because we were afraid that our growing dislike was because we were just being partial to the BF we're so attached too. Eventually, we decided that the guy was way too possessive and he was the problem, not us. Still, I know what you mean. If DD and current BF ever do part company, it would be strange.

BTW, BF's little brother is also prom bound. He should be cute in his tux too!

 

[Sandy V.]

We bent over backwards with the "in between guy", because we were afraid that our growing dislike was because we were just being partial to the BF we're so attached too. Eventually, we decided that the guy was way too possessive and he was the problem, not us. Still, I know what you mean. If DD and current BF ever do part company, it would be strange.

BTW, BF's little brother is also prom bound. He should be cute in his tux too!

I can relate to your thoughts, even though we haven't been in that position.

I hope BF's little brother has a great time at the prom. Less than 3 weeks to go here.

 

[FINFAN]

Good morning all! Looks like everyone is moving along on Prom and dare I say...weddings? LOL....you know, they say next to a girls wedding Prom is the biggest event ( not sure I agree, but) so these two go hand in hand.
Sandy so glad the limo was still there, our friends son had called and arranged one a few years back, thinking he hasd it all locked up, but forgot the minor detail of a credit card deposit.. yep, Prom rolls around, kids are waiting, no limo...finally they had to hop into various cars as no limos were to be had. We all learned from that one on the block!
I can't wait to see the guys in their tuxes either, after all the dress stress I would welcome seeing the decisive James Bond look...while girls can do the make-up/nails/hair gig whenever, guys are rarely in a tux and that put together. O.K. Drum roll.......DD has decided on the dress. She is underwhelmed as she was after Lime Green, but her size just limited her to 2 dress makers...Jessica McClintock and Morgan and Co. Neither had a lime green style/color (that we found anyway)in a 0 or 1...so
Drum Roll please.....
It's a black and white strapless with the black on the top, 1/3 of the bottom and an underlayer of white organza. There are white flowers here/there and some simple beading. It was Saturday and DD and Art Guy were out and Art Guys folks picked them up at the end of the night. DD met the mom for the first time who immediately brought up Prom, and I don't blame her one bit as they needed to get info for their son's tux, flowers etc. Anyway, the mom asked what color dress and DD had to make a decision ritght then and there. The B/W one required no alterations, so DD said that one...and Art Guy, said "cool, black si like my fav color" so that INSTANTLY made the dress more acceptable in DD's eyes. Art Guy went for a tux the next day, so were off and running. Here si a link to the dress but it is in pink and white, the pink part is black for DD's. This was the only picture I could find.
www.julie-ann.com/store/p/1294-Morgan-Company-Prom-Dress.html
hope this works...
DD has shoes, evening bag, and plans to use a black ribbon choker -style with some sort of charm, decorative stone/whatever for a necklace..she likes to make her own stuff. So , the damage is minimal...$154, $70 for Limo and not sure on pictures, maybe $50? and hair. She could stand some color in this dress but refuses to tan, I am not a tanning bed person, kinda like microwaving yourself to me, but thought maybe the spray on, but DD says eeewww...so, pale it is! She's up in the air about her hair, but we have an appointment set. Not that it will matter as she has her black cowboy hat wit lime green flames painted on the side as an "accessory" fo rthe evening...gotta love that girl. That hat is her most prized possession after her dog. It has been everywhere and repainted/repaired I don't know how many times...gets passed around every football game, every party, just everything. I think the only time I will see DD blow is if anything happens to that hat. I think I will have to get assisstance from my Colorado friend to replace it if ever necessary..SANDY! And Horseshowwoman too, it's funny tho, we have yet to see this same hat at any shows, fairs, etc... I digress...Thursday is Art Guys B-day and his family is taking him to his restaurant of choice...and he asked if DD would like to go along..at first she couldn't because she works , but they have 1/2 dasy for ACT testing, so she will go to work early and then can make dinner. I still won't be able to meet his folks as DS has a track meet and I will be there...I called yesterday and left amessage saying hello, asking them over for pictures etc., time...but they have not called back yet. Everyone is so busy these days.
DD is stressing on a Bday gift idea...I suggested a paintball certificate as he likes to play and so does she...the kid has every electronic/digital/musical/item....plus not in DD budget. We'll see what she comes up with.
gotta run....have a good one ladies!


Pam

 

[FINFAN]

Just got off the phone with Art Guys Mom....she is soooooo coool! YAY! We had a great talk, almost an hour( made my last post take a while)...I think DD will be very comfortable anytime she is at his house. We have the same thoughts on a lot of teenage stuff, not too stuffy, y'know? I run into a lot of that where I live. She describe her sons tux and it sounds very hip...kinda Matrix style with the black on black pin stripe, little longer jacket, I guess he was happy to find a style he liked so this is really working out good for the kids.
So, now I REALLY have to go....so behind! I love having you gals to talk with, I am so happy to hear of all the great , deccent kids out there in the real world...makes letting DD go when college hits a little easier...although you have me wondering now after stating the ages your DD's have met their Beaus...this guy sould turn out to be pretty important to DD ...or it aould all end at the Prom... not even gonna go there...DD is in such a happy place right now. She really was true to herself in asking Art Guy and not caving to the jerk...who by the way is STILL acting like a 2 year old.
O.K. Ladies...must do work, must do work....


Pam

 

[horseshowmom]

FINFAN - Glad everything is progressing so well!

The dress is gorgeous, and I have to think that it's even more striking in black/white. His tux sounds great too. They'll look great together.

Your idea for a birthday gift sounds like a winner to me. It's something that he's "into" and not overly personal (since they haven't been together for too long).

I'm not crazy about the tanning beds either (although DD does use them from time to time for stuff like that). She doen't allow herself to get dark (just some color), but she's about decided that she's worried about doing even that (her organic chemistry teacher has been preaching on the dangers of using them ). I know a lot of girls around here do the spray on thing, but if your DD is happy like she is, I say good for her. She'll be gorgeous!

I'm glad you heard back from ArtGuy's mom. She sounds like she'll be great to work with. She's probably thrilled that your DD asked him and that he's going now.

As far as the wedding situation goes, that will be awhile, but it amuses me that DD and her BF have started planning it! It's kind of funny, but she was never one to have any interest in that sort of thing at all (you know how lots of girls talk and plan for the future - not her, not at all). The dress that she really likes is white with red accents. Apparently, wedding dresses with color added are the current "high fashion" thing. It's not too common down here in the Deep South though , so I'm hoping that the style changes back to just plain old white by then!