Let the Prom Drama begin....Like Aurora, her dress keeps changing

[FINFAN]

Hi all, running of to a client estimate...but my friend just called saying her son's date mentioned finding the perfect garter...
There's a garter for Prom? AAACCCCCKKKKKK! My friend said the guys get one whne they rent their tux and put give it to the girl...and the girls buy one and then the guy hangs it from their car rear view mirror....it's all coming back to me now, I remember from HS...but DD will not want anything to do with any type of garter for any reason...and I can't imagine the look on Art Guys face...one of joy or panic!
So, once DD has decided on her dress, she needs to get a matching garter. One more thing to remember. Help me out ladies...is this still done at your schools? DD has put in a request to hit math recources after eating each lunch...she said Jerk is making life difficult during lunch and she may as well be productive instead of agrivated. Hey, if it keeps her on High Honor roll...works for me!
Another thing...are your kids planning the day after events? Ours want to go to Great America ( six flags) but they tix are 45 each and the park closes at 8..and can guarantee they are not going to be up at 8 to get to the park by 10 when it opens ( we live just over an hour away) Of course it will be weather dependant, but just wondering what your kids are doing over Prom weekend. DD only works during the week so she doesn't have to ask off of work, but I know a few of the other kids will have to ..could be iffy.


Pam

 

[Sandy V.]

Hi Pam,

Sorry that Jerk is still being a jerk. But your DD is resourceful in using the time for math!! Good for her.

I have never heard of the garter thing. It's not done here in Colorado, to the best of my knowledge.

As far as what's happening the next day, our school does an After-Prom at the high school that lasts from midnight to 5:00 a.m. The theme this year is Las Vegas, and they have parents that act as blackjack dealers, etc. They have games, mazes, etc., as well as food. Throughout the night, they have raffles for prizes. The longer you stay, the bigger/better the prizes are. In order to prevent drinking in the parking lot, once you leave After-Prom, you are not permitted re-entry. Once After-Prom is over, the kids either go out for breakfast or to a parent's house who fixes breakfast for the group. Then they all go home to sleep until about 4:00 the next afternoon!!

Good luck with all of this, and let us know when she finally chooses a dress.

 

[horseshowmom]

Hi Pam,

Sorry that Jerk is still being a jerk. But your DD is resourceful in using the time for math!! Good for her.

I have never heard of the garter thing. It's not done here in Colorado, to the best of my knowledge.

As far as what's happening the next day, our school does an After-Prom at the high school that lasts from midnight to 5:00 a.m. The theme this year is Las Vegas, and they have parents that act as blackjack dealers, etc. They have games, mazes, etc., as well as food. Throughout the night, they have raffles for prizes. The longer you stay, the bigger/better the prizes are. In order to prevent drinking in the parking lot, once you leave After-Prom, you are not permitted re-entry. Once After-Prom is over, the kids either go out for breakfast or to a parent's house who fixes breakfast for the group. Then they all go home to sleep until about 4:00 the next afternoon!!

Good luck with all of this, and let us know when she finally chooses a dress.

Ditto to what Sandy V. said. I've never heard of the garter thing (except for a wedding). After checking around, I don't know of anybody in our area who does that.

Also, most of the schools in our area do the After-Prom thing. I've never heard of the "next day" activities.

Good luck!

 

[mamacatnv]

Hey gals - our server died & crashed the network so the puter has been down all day - I am running out the door (way past going home time) I'll read & catch up tomorrow.

 

[FINFAN]

Hi all!
Melissa, I think you laid a whammy on my PC! It has been down and costing me big time! Finally , service is restored. Any word from your DS yet? We had siad no limo 'till Senior year also, but bottom line is that now that our kids have school all day us parents are worried about them being tired and racing...so going witht helimo to rest easier...many of the kids around here go for the Excursion and exotic limos...so we said no way to that...a stretch to hold 10 will be thrilling enough I think!
So, here's the latest...ran the whole garter thing past DD who looked horrified and said, "I'll pass on the whole garter thing...creepy!" So I no longer need to look into it. Pretty much that garter is a "trophy " of the evenings conquest..and the guys hang it from the rearview mirror. Yep, not promoting that little event.
We have a Senior lock in...from 10 pm 'till 5 am, but that was last weekend ( DD is a Junior, so my job was tear down after the event) sounds like what your after Prom stuff is. I suggested the Zoo, or maybe a day trip into Chicago, hop the train and grab a bus to Navy Pier, etc. DD is pretty familiar with the city, but I am not too sure about the other kids. Weather will be a BIG factor here...mid May is dicey at best. We'll see, there's time for that decision.
DD and Art Guy are really hitting it off, and DD asked him last night if he for sure told his Dad about Prom as she would be buying the tickets today and didn't want to blow $130 if he wasn't allowed to go. Art Guy said HE is buying the tix... , and DD said, but she did the asking, she should buy them...he insisted (not sure if he knows how expensive they are tho)saying she had the guts to ask him... and DD said that she will pay for the Limo and pictures then. He said o.k. and that his family was talking at dinner and DD was the subject...and that his Step Mom was upset that she didn't get to meet DD....so there's a Step- Mom! YAY! DD was surprised he hadn't mentioned her before, but was glad that they seem to like her, or at least his dad does.
Ladies, you are not going to believe it but DD has added yet ANOTHER dress choice! One of the girls in the group asked DD to go dress shopping with her and DD saw another B/W dress, and in a size 1, but more ballroom style...and put it on hold. I picked it up today, very pretty , ( it can be returned, ALL of her choices had to have that requirement)and needs zero alterations!
Although I like the Aquamarine one best, it needs the most done to it, and DD is on the fence about that many fittings. I told DD she has to decide by tonight as if alteratins are needed we need to allow 2 weeks.
Jerk didn't go to Art Club which was a huge relief to DD. He is still giving her grief when he can, but funny thing...one of Jerks best friends has been contacting DD , trying to stay on her good side. While he is being loyal to Jerk, he agrees that DD was honest and upfront and wishes a former GF would have been as decent to him...and that he still wants to hang out with her /group. DD si fine with it, even fine with Jerk staying in the group, just wants him to grow up already. This is important info as the friend of Jerk rides the bus with Art Guy and could have caused a problem if he wanted. Right now, all the kids from the group are goin to Prom but Jerk...and he had/has plenty of time to ask another girl...so many feel he is just whining for attention.DD feels pretty good about stickin gto her guns and asking someone she really likes.
Well, need to make some calls and get work done...any news form the rest of the Lushettes?


Pam

 

[ElizaB39]

Thanks for the update! Glad to hear all is going well. I am following along even though my DD has a few years to go before prama unfolds in our house.

 

[Sandy V.]

Hey ladies!!

Pam, sounds like the limo idea would be a good one. Especially if they have a full day of school, etc. Our prom is on a Saturday, but the dance is about 45 minutes away from the high school, so thought the limo was the best thing as kids tend to get disracted with all of the prom excitement (our school had a prom fatality 3 years ago when a young driver ran a red light and hit another car ).

I called around and got one that seats 8 passengers. The price included sparkling cider, sodas, bottled water, fuel surcharge AND the driver gratuity, so I think we have everything covered. DS's job over the next week and a half is to secure 3 other couples to ride in it. He's on my s******* today as he's copped a major 17-year old attitude about some "stuff", but hopefully we'll get things ironed out at the end of the day.

Sounds like Art Guy is gonna work out well!!!! I'm glad that DD and he are hitting it off. The Stepmother thing could work in your DD's favor as well, as she (hopefully) will be aware of corsages, etc. And the best part for you - there may actually be a financial contribution from Art Guy (or his family). Yay!!!

Also glad your DD has some support in Jerk's friend. That's a good thing. Jerk sounds like he's "cutting off his nose to spite his face" by not trying to find another date. His loss!

The dress sounds beautiful. You know, when all of this is said and done, we need to make sure and post some pics of our kids in their prom finery. I promise I will; I'm not the best with downloading pictures, but I'll give it my best shot!! You're right about the alterations; they can take awhile to complete.

Good luck with the "day after prom" excursion decision. I agree; there's still plenty of time for that one.

The next steps around here involve trying to find out what color dress girlfriend is wearing so we can get some sort of matching shirt when we rent the tux. Once DS (and right now the D does NOT stand for "dear") figures out the limo occupants, then we need to make dinner reservations.

I actually haven't been too "lushy" lately. I'm on Weight Watchers and just had my weekly weigh-in yesterday, so I swore off the booze until that was done.

Have a great day, everyone. Welcome ElizaB39. Just look at what you have to look forward to.

 

[horseshowmom]

FINFAN - It sounds to me like your DD is a very level headed young lady. I thought the carter thing sounded like it might be what you found out it was. I agree, not something I'd want to encourage. I'm also glad things are working out with ArtGuy. He sounds like a pretty nice guy, and it's great that they're having fun.

Sandy V. - Hope your day starts to improve soon (concerning DS)! I'm sure it will.

ElizaB39 - Hi! I can promise that this will come about a lot faster than you think it will. It seems like my baby (20 in July) was just two the other day. Now, she's almost a grown up young lady.

 

[FINFAN]

Hi ElizaB39....yep, they are grown before you know it! DS who is 12 is a little sponge about all this...makes me feel like he will be gone all too soon as well. Sandy, well, y'know teens, and the "D" has had alter meanings around here as well! Just happen to be in a good stretch these days.
Alright, off to the taxi service and dinner run...no decent meal out of me today and basically a turn around for DS, get him from paractice at 5 and then back to the school for a Socilal Studies event tonight...can you say 'drive- thru?"

Yes, told DD she has to decide on a color for Art Guys sake, so he is not left with the bottom of the barrel...
Bye!

Pam

 

[mamacatnv]

It snowed AGAIN - just had to get that off my chest...

Lushette checking in.........

I am not giving in on the limo thing, honestly with all the other expenses he has hit me with I am tapped and if he wants a limo then he can find a group and pay his share. I understand the safety thing but our prom is 10 minutes from home on a route he drives all the time and we don't have any after events.

Pam:
So sorry about your computer - I have been playing catch up all day.
Another dress????? I love the ballroom style (princessy) hope your DD sorts it out soon. My DD is only 8 but we bought 4 & returned 3 dresses for the Father/Daughter winter formal they went to since either her or I kept seeing "the one". DH just rolled his eyes and I told him "you just wait until she is Prom age" I thought when I went looking for a tiarra that he was going to go over the edge!

Glad ArtGuy has crawled out from under the rock and offered to buy the tickets, that is great!

Sandy: the "D" of DS stands for dumb... or dang/darn/damn when appropriate. I know how that attitude thing goes, it is on a light switch and I need a voltage tester to check to see if it is on/off before having any kind of conversation with the Son so I can quickly know what "D" to assign to him at that moment.

Sandy, too bad alcohol has such a high point value. Wednesday is my WW weigh in day and then we usually get a burger or a pizza. My DD who loves her burgers looks forward to Wednesdays! I am headed to Portland, Or. to deal with Mother issues this weekend and will be gone for 4 days. (she is mentally ill, severe dementia and I am her Legal Guardian) I stay with my Aunt who could easily be the President of the Lushette group and we consume vast amounts of vodka and gin. I am really not a heavy drinker but those Portland trips............man oh man, lots of smoking, eating and alcohol involved. I have been eating cucumbers and shredded lettuce in preparation for the consumption of calories that is about to take place.

Ladies:
You know, I must really live in the sticks.
The kids don't creatively ask each other to the prom.
There are no garters involved.
There is a very limited # of places in which to buy formals so the selection can be very limited. Many go to Sacramento to shop so as to avoid the duplicate dress issue.
We don't have an after party or a day after event......(our all night party is the night of Graduation)

DS has decided to go to the prom stag - he just called. He wants to know if I can just call and order the same tux he had in February ......I'll have to check on that. It was all black with a silver tie, this way if he does decide on a date those colors will go with just about anything and he is soooo handsome in the black.

HorseshowMom: Ain't it the truth about how much we do that no one other than another involved Mom can understand? My kids don't get it and neither does DH. My housekeeper who is single with no kids gives me more cuddo's since she is one of the few people in the "family" who gets how much I do since she gets to do all the other stuff I don't get around to doing.

ElizaB39: Hi glad to have you here.

Now, I must go get some work done....stay warm

Melissa

 

[Sandy V.]

Good morning, everyone!

Well, DS has somewhat redeemed himself, so we are on better terms now. I love that child with every fiber in my body, but he can be such a pain sometimes. The good news is that he's found 2 couples thus far to ride in the limo, so he only needs one more to fill it up. I put together a fact sheet to give to the kids to take home to their parents (yes I am a LITTLE anal about details) so we can get this all planned. The girlfriend is wearing a black dress, so that makes "matching" with the tux pretty easy. Just need to figure out what color of flowers for the corsage when the time comes to order that. DS and I are going on Sunday to look at tuxes.

I just spent 3 straight afternoons in the cold Colorado spring wind watching DS play lacrosse. Thankfully no games again until Saturday. Love to watch him play, but I need some time to thaw out!!! (And to get all of the tangles out of my hair.)

Mamacatnv, have a good trip to Oregon. I read your previous post about your mom and the "cuddling" with the guy in the facility she's in. Wow, sounds like you have a lot to deal with there. My FIL is in a Veteran's Nursing Home, and that's ONE issue we haven't had to deal with. He's getting progressively more confused and less interested in things around him. So hard to deal with them growing older. Fortunately, the nursing home staff have been wonderful to him. As for the WW, I had to smile when you talk of eating cucumbers and lettuce to save up your "points" for your rendevous with your Aunt - I can relate to that. I hope your DS has fun at the prom; in a lot of ways going stag can be a LOT easier!!

Pam, Horseshowmom and anyone else who peeks in to read our diatribe, I hope that you guys have a great day!!! Feel free to join in any time. All are welcome.

 

[ElizaB39]

Well my DD is 13 and I think the prama will be here before I am ready for it! She is emotionally and physically more mature than most for her age... I even let her get a temporary tattoo when we were at Busch gardens two weeks ago and then thought to myself, "what kind of permissive mother does that girl have?!" I was looking at her like the 13 year old she is but DH informed me that he saw GUYS looking "appreciatively" at her!!!

She had on her bikini top (she's a 34B already) , shorts and the tattoo was on her lower back.

WTH was I thinking?!

 

[Sandy V.]

ElizaB39 - 13 years old?!?! The "fun" is just beginning!!

The middle school years are so hard, with hormones, cliques, more homework and less hand-holding by teachers. For us, high school actually got better. DD is 19 and I just love her to pieces (she still has her moments, though). But we talk on the phone almost every day since she went away to college. So my thoughts about "losing" her when she left home never materialized.

You sound like a fun mom - I probably would have let my kids try the temp tatoo - what the heck?!? But my DH would have had a fit it he saw ANY guy looking at this little girl like that!

 

[ElizaB39]

ElizaB39 - 13 years old?!?! The "fun" is just beginning!!

The middle school years are so hard, with hormones, cliques, more homework and less hand-holding by teachers. For us, high school actually got better. DD is 19 and I just love her to pieces (she still has her moments, though). But we talk on the phone almost every day since she went away to college. So my thoughts about "losing" her when she left home never materialized.

You sound like a fun mom - I probably would have let my kids try the temp tatoo - what the heck?!? But my DH would have had a fit it he saw ANY guy looking at this little girl like that!

"When my 13 yo DD told me her homework last night was to spend time with her mom... "

I just posted this on the sweetest moments thread. I think she thinks I am cool, most of the time... She has had some drama, but is so much more level headed than most of the hormonal girls. Her neighborhood friend is currently "not talking to her" and she has no idea why, and when I asked her if it bothered her, she said, "Not really." She even wished this girl good luck at her upcoming track meet and got a strange/nasty look in reply. DD just said, "what? like I shouldn't wish you good luck?" And so it begins...

 

[Sandy V.]

"When my 13 yo DD told me her homework last night was to spend time with her mom... "

I just posted this on the sweetest moments thread. I think she thinks I am cool, most of the time... She has had some drama, but is so much more level headed than most of the hormonal girls. Her neighborhood friend is currently "not talking to her" and she has no idea why, and when I asked her if it bothered her, she said, "Not really." She even wished this girl good luck at her upcoming track meet and got a strange/nasty look in reply. DD just said, "what? like I shouldn't wish you good luck?" And so it begins...

Awww . . . she sounds like a really good kid. Give her a hug for me.

 

[horseshowmom]

DD is 19 and I just love her to pieces (she still has her moments, though). But we talk on the phone almost every day since she went away to college. So my thoughts about "losing" her when she left home never materialized.

That's the way it has been with us. The first year and a half, DD commuted to school, but she moved over there the first of February.

One of her friends had a roommate move out, but the roommate still had to pay her half of the rent since she's on the lease. The one who moved out told DD that she could move in and use her stuff if she'd just pay her what she was spending in gas money, so DD gives the old roommate $100 a month and splits the utilities with her friend. It was a great deal, and I honestly don't notice her being gone too much, because she calls at least once a day and sometimes more.

Her dad's a different story though. He looked up out of the blue the other night and said that he just couldn't get used to her being gone. I told him to go call her, and he said she might be busy. I told him to get up and go use the phone (anybody else have a DH who acts like he can't use the phone on his own? ). Anyway, he felt better after he called her.

She called laughing about her BF this morning. One of the guys she used to horse show with is a high school senior and will be attending her university next year. He called yesterday and said he had a meeting on campus tomorrow after lunch and wanted to see if she could meet him for lunch. Of course, she said yes. His sister is her age (also showed horses), and she's known them for years. He's always had a little bit of a crush on her, so her BF was not too sure he wanted her going out to lunch with him. I don't know whether he's concerned more about the boy or about the fact that he drives his dad's Porsche (and DD is a car buff )!


mamacatvn - Have a safe trip. I hope things go as well as possible.

ElizaB39 - Tell your DH that he'd better get used to it. As far as the other girls, my DD was never into that "girl stuff" and used to just be amazed at how snotty some of the girls acted. From time to time, it did hurt her feelings but for the most part, she was like your DD and just didn't care (just wasn't worth her time). Good luck to your DD! BTW, did you know that Wal-Mart actually has tiaras? They're in the crafts sections where the wedding stuff is. It really depends on the store. I've seen some that were beautiful and some that were pretty plain. Anyway, they're there and have pretty good prices. ebay has them too. Take care!

 

[Sandy V.]

Horseshowmom, your DD's housing situtation sounds like a really good one! My DD will be living in an apartment this fall with a college friend that she knew from her high school soccer playing days. Nice girl with nice parents; I feel more comfortable because I know them at least, even if it's only slightly.

Dads and daughters - what more can we say? And my DH also has a phone "thing". I think it's in part because he spends a lot of his work day on it - the LAST thing he wants to do is talk on it after 5 p.m. DH will always have a soft spot for "his" baby girl. She's always had him wrapped around her little finger. And she always will.

DD would be able to relate to the jealousy thing. DD is a tutor with the University of Colorado Athletic Department. She's currently working with one of the football players. Boyfriend is not exactly thrilled with it, he really has nothing to worry about and he knows it (he IS a great kid; we love him), but he is a little jealous.

 

[horseshowmom]

Sandy V., the apartment worked out great. She won't even have to worry about the the summer's rent like the other will. Their agreement was the $100 a month for the time she would have been paying for gas (came out to $300 ).

She had already planned to move over there in August. She'll be living with my cousin's DD (also in pharmacy school). Growing up, they were never close even though they're the same age (different interests and lived in towns 15 miles apart), but they've gotten to be good friends now. That's nice, because her dad and I were very close growing up.

My DD is hoping to get to tutor next year. The pharmacy school gives them a pretty good scholarship for it and that would certainly help.

DD's BF definitely has nothing to worry about since this guy is two years younger than her. He's a great guy though (very tall and well mannered - great parents). I told DD to introduce him around next year, because he would be a great BF for somebody. We're also like y'all, though, we love her BF. He's a member of the family, and if they every break up, I think I'd adopt him (can you adopt a boy who's 23 - guess not, huh? )!

 

[mamacatnv]

Quick update I am so far behind here at work:

Just rcv'd text msg. from DS - now he has a date! I give up! She was going to go single like him and they have decided to pair up and split costs. They are going to go pick out his tux - hummmmmm there may be more to this than he is letting on.

Background:
When DS was young, I told him that he wasn't going to be allowed to date until he was 40. That he would always be my little guy and I wasn't going to share him with an icky girl. (He was probably 9 or 10)
My DH says I warped him and thus he doesn't tell me about the girls until he is sure they will pass muster and he has all the details to answer my bazillion questions. That deep down somewhere he still thinks I was serious about the 40 thing - kerplunk, kerpluck goes the coins into his therapy jar!

I'll catch up on all your posts later today

 

[Sandy V.]

Mamacatnv, it's a never-ending drama with kids, isn't it? While DD is pretty much an "open book", it's a little harder to get DS to open up - although if I sit back long enough, he usually lets me know what's going on.

Keep putting $$$ in that therapy jar!!!

I just cancelled DS's limo. Apparently, some members in his group thought it was too expensive. They're working on some alternate plan. Just let me know where to show up to take pictures, kids.

Have a safe trip!