Less than 2 weeks to live

[136368]

A close family friend has just learned that his cancer has spread and he has two weeks to live. How do you even tell someone that? I can't imagine what he must be going through...

 

[JennaDeeDooDah]

It does suck, but maybe he could try and look at it as a glass half full kind of way. None of us knows how long we have. I could get hit by a bus when I am out checking the mail this evening. He knows. He has the time to say goodbye to people, to take that last vacation, if he so desires, and to get everything in order. Thoughts and prayers to do out to him as well as all family and friends, though.

 

[Art 1]

I can't imagine.

 

[DebbieB]

I'm surprised they said 2 weeks, got that specific. My grandmother was supposed to die by Christmas and lived to February. My mom was given the "nothing more we can do" news (no timeline) and died in 10 days.

 

[JessicaR]

I think it would be terrible to tell a person that. Everyone is different one may have 2 weeks or less, another may have so much longer. I think it would be horrible to tell a person that, no matter. Hope - I always hold out hope.

I am so sorry to hear this about your friend.

 

[EPCOTatNight]

Even though your friend will probably pass away within the next 2 weeks, maybe he won't. Medicine is not an exact science. My father was given 6 months to live 18 years ago. He should be getting off work in about 30 minutes. While I understand that my fathers situation is not typical, you never know what will or won't happen.

 

[Art 1]

I'm surprised they said 2 weeks, got that specific. My grandmother was supposed to die by Christmas and lived to February. My mom was given the "nothing more we can do" news (no timeline) and died in 10 days.

A buddy of mine had stomach and intestinal issues. He ended up going to a hospital in Cleveland, I think it was, was opened up in surgery, the surgeons did not like what they saw and closed him back up. When he awoke later he was told that he had two weeks, go back to Florida and take care of things. He died a few hours later.

 

[4nana]

Can't imagine that heartbreaking and hopeless news . God Bless and sending prayers your friend fools them all!

Atho I realize many times the drs are correct with their estimates...they are not God. I had a good friend dx w/liver cancer and was given 6 mos. He decided to get a second opinion, had surgery, treatment, and lived another 6 yrs. completing his bucket list. The power of the modern medicine, mind, and faith are amazing.

 

[happygirl]

Try to be postive, Drs. have been proven wrong a few times before.

 

[Robinrs]

They gave my Mom 3 months.

She died in 3 weeks.

She spent the time calling all of her old friends and getting her things in order. She even told me what she wanted to wear.

She laughed and talked till the day she fell asleep and passed away.

It's SO much worse on those around this person. My Mom had resigned herself and as I heard her say to one of her friends "My kids are grown, they're all doing well, I'm ready." But WE weren't.

 

[Feralpeg]

So sorry to hear this about your friend. My heart breaks for him.

 

[honeydiane1953]

Well for me I want to know. I want to tell everyone one last time I love them and make sure everything is in order. Then I will once again tell EVERYONE what to do lol.

 

[powellrj]

They told us my dad wouldn't live through the night and that was back in 1985! We have been told it several times again since then and he just proves them wrong each time!

My DFIL on the other had was given that news and never took it serious. He was mad that DH wasn't taking him to buy a new car and the night before he went into a coma he was buying clothes over the phone. A few days after he died he had a package of pants delivered. He had lung cancer and even after he was bed ridden with just days to live, he just wouldn't believe he was ever going to die.

 

[Sgt Mickey]

I am sorry. Just had a close family friends pass away not to long ago and they had given him less then two months at the time and they were pretty close. He had cancer and just in those last few months he dropped so much weight it was hard to see.
I am sorry again.

 

[disney1990]

Nine years ago, my Mom was in the hospital. The doctors took my sister and I aside and told us to be prepared because my Mom organs were all shutting down and that she probably wouldn't live to leave the hospital. She just turned 89 this past March.

I don't think doctors should pull out a number.

I am so very sorry to hear about your friend. All the best to the family.

 

[mrsstats]

My friend/co-worker was given 4 weeks to live about 8 weeks ago. She is losing the battle now and her DH says it should be a few more days. She is fighting to the end.

 

[minkydog]

Well for me I want to know. I want to tell everyone one last time I love them and make sure everything is in order. Then I will once again tell EVERYONE what to do lol.

Me too. I'm sure it's hard to hear, but perhaps it gives people time to make their arrangements, check their will, say goodbye and tie up loose ends. My stepdad had Mast cell leukemia. There was no treatment and they gave him about a year. He lived 10 days. Unfortunately, he did not change his insurance beneficiary, so his ex-wife ended up with the $100,000 that he had meant for my mother.

Personally, I would want to know. I would want to see my children and tell them how great they are and apologize for wrong-doings.

 

[Sabrefan]

I'm very sorry about your friend but never lose hope.

Last summer my aunt was in the hospital, her organs were shutting down, she was in ICU, they couldn't figure out what was wrong, they suspected cancer but said she'd never survive the surgery to take a biopsy. The doctor told us to make her final arrangements. We all sat around in shock (she is only 50 years old and still had young children to take care of) We called funeral homes and made her arrangements, the doctors gave her a week.

Today she is alive, healthy and home taking care of her young boys.

You just never know.

 

[Princess_Meghan <3]

I agree with the pp who said it can be so much harder on the people around them- my grandmother accepted the fact that she didn't have much time left. She planned her funeral and helped my grandfather write letters to each of the grandchildren. She even told my grandfather which pieces of jewelry she wanted each of us to have. Watching her do all of that was so incredibly hard for all of us.

She said that if God wanted to take her, then she was ready to go because she'd had a good life. We weren't ready for her to go, though.

I'll be keeping your friend and everyone around him in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[chisnpeke]

I'm so sorry

You never know. Doctors do not know everything. When my grandma was dying of stomach cancer I think they said in May about 10 weeks and it seems like it was about that. She died July 2nd that year.