This is a sore subject for me. The last time I had a birthday party and a birthday cake was when I turned 19 and still lived at home with my parents. I got married 3 months later and have never had a party or cake since and I’ll be 57 this year. I refuse to make or buy myself a cake. I certainly don’t expect my husband to bake a cake for me but he could at least buy something but it hasn’t happened yet. Nor has our son or daughter-in-law bothered and I quit my full time job in 2011 to babysit my granddaughters free for them, which usually ends up being about 40-50 hours a week. A little gratitude on my birthday would be nice!