Lame excuse for a dad

[torinsmom]

So, you have your kids for 36 hours twice a month per your choice. Kids in question are 15 and 15 months. The little one is sick, but you insist on getting her overnight anyway. Take them to your mom's house, which is a 1000 sq foot 3 bedroom house that houses grandma, grandpa, oldest grandchild, 18, and two fortyish men who can't manage to support themselves on their own.Cram yourself, the 15 yo and the 15 month old in a tiny room, where noone gets any sleep.

Then you leave the kids with their grandma to go out and sing karaoke with your girlfriend and her teenage daughter for most of the one evening/night they are with you. Then you post this on your Facebook page.

Some people just don't deserve to be parents.

 

[cheermom1]

So, you have your kids for 36 hours twice a month per your choice. Kids in question are 15 and 15 months. The little one is sick, but you insist on getting her overnight anyway. Take them to your mom's house, which is a 1000 sq foot 3 bedroom house that houses grandma, grandpa, oldest grandchild, 18, and two fortyish men who can't manage to support themselves on their own.Cram yourself, the 15 yo and the 15 month old in a tiny room, where noone gets any sleep.

Then you leave the kids with their grandma to go out and sing karaoke with your girlfriend and her teenage daughter for most of the one evening/night they are with you. Then you post this on your Facebook page.

Some people just don't deserve to be parents.

I hear YA!! I just got a mess. from my kids father's aunt, whom they haven't seen in 15 years, making excesses for why he hasn't seen them.

 

[torinsmom]

Yeah, I guess some would say at least he sees his kids. I don't know which is better though.....

 

[Forevryoung]

That's up there with the "dad" who takes his 19 year old son with special needs with him to the gay bar on their weekends together

Nothing wrong with a gay bar, just not a place for an individual with the understanding of an 8 year old

 

[punkin]

Or the father who fought tooth and nail in court for more time with his son (and therefore less child support) and then leaves him with relatives whenever he has a "hot" date.

 

[laurie31]

That's up there with the "dad" who takes his 19 year old son with special needs with him to the gay bar on their weekends together

Nothing wrong with a gay bar, just not a place for an individual with the understanding of an 8 year old

Don't they card? I thought you had to be 21 to enter a bar, any bar, period!


OP - I'd be mad, too. I hope the little one is at least feeling better. It's shocking how selfish some "parents" are.

 

[rie'smom]

Don't they card? I thought you had to be 21 to enter a bar, any bar, period!


OP - I'd be mad, too. I hope the little one is at least feeling better. It's shocking how selfish some "parents" are.

In many places, you can enter a bar at 18 but cannot buy a drink until you're 21.

OP, he's a piece of work!

 

[MizTink]

That's up there with the "dad" who takes his 19 year old son with special needs with him to the gay bar on their weekends together

Nothing wrong with a gay bar, just not a place for an individual with the understanding of an 8 year old

yikes!

 

[torinsmom]

Little one is not mine--that's his daughter from the marriage that lasted 11 months, LOL. If she was mine, he wouldn't have taken her when she was sick. Sorry, but babies want their mommies and their normal routine when they are not feeling well.

My DS15 knows exactly what his dad is all about. I never said a bad word to him about his dad, but he figured it out on his own. I guess he is learning what NOT to do.

Marsha

 

[cheermom1]

Little one is not mine--that's his daughter from the marriage that lasted 11 months, LOL. If she was mine, he wouldn't have taken her when she was sick. Sorry, but babies want their mommies and their normal routine when they are not feeling well.

My DS15 knows exactly what his dad is all about. I never said a bad word to him about his dad, but he figured it out on his own. I guess he is learning what NOT to do.

Marsha

IF he is a good dad there is no reason he can't take care of his own kid when they are sick. Remember I said IF he is a good dad.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Don't they card? I thought you had to be 21 to enter a bar, any bar, period!


OP - I'd be mad, too. I hope the little one is at least feeling better. It's shocking how selfish some "parents" are.

Some allow 18 and then often will "mark" those that are 21 and up to drink--depending on the venue.

 

[torinsmom]

Okay, so I was wrong on one point. He did not leave the kids, he took them with him to the sports bar for karaoke. Don't know if that is worse or better.

I have no doubt that a good dad can take care or their sick child, but when they are sick, they usually want to be in their own bed and be in their normal routine.

Marsha

 

[DarthKTrava]

And I'll bet he made the 15 yr old take care of the sick baby while he partied.... Hope he didn't drink too....

I don't know which is worse... a sorry "dad" or one who was NEVER there for his kids. And then wants to keep in touch now that he's an old man now.... (my "dad")

 

[torinsmom]

He did leave the baby with DS15 and his gf's 15 year old daughter while they went shopping. Luckily, she is a good baby and loves DS.

 

[DarthKTrava]

And I'll bet he made the 15 yr old take care of the sick baby while he partied.... Hope he didn't drink too....

I don't know which is worse... a sorry "dad" or one who was NEVER there for his kids. And then wants to keep in touch now that he's an old man now.... (my "dad")

 

[cheermom1]

Okay, so I was wrong on one point. He did not leave the kids, he took them with him to the sports bar for karaoke. Don't know if that is worse or better.

I have no doubt that a good dad can take care or their sick child, but when they are sick, they usually want to be in their own bed and be in their normal routine.

Marsha

Again if he is a good dad they will have their own bed and he can take care of his kid...

eta: while this man may not be a good dad any good dad would love the opportunity to take care of their sick kid as he would take the good with the bad just to be there for his kid and any mother who doesn;t want to do that is wrong. OF course I am talking about a good dad.

 

[torinsmom]

Again if he is a good dad they will have their own bed and he can take care of his kid...

eta: while this man may not be a good dad any good dad would love the opportunity to take care of their sick kid as he would take the good with the bad just to be there for his kid and any mother who doesn;t want to do that is wrong. OF course I am talking about a good dad.

We will have to agree to disagree there. If you have a bed at one house that you are only in 1-2 nights a month, that is not the same as the bed you are used to sleeping in the other 28-30 days. Even as adults, most of us would prefer to be in our own bed in our normal environment when we are sick. And a portacrib in a room with two other people in a loud house, with people smoking and yelling and all that is NOT the same.

You could obviously substitute mom for dad in any of these instances, if that is what is bothering you. This post just happened to be about a "dad".

 

[sunnyday123]

Again if he is a good dad they will have their own bed and he can take care of his kid...

eta: while this man may not be a good dad any good dad would love the opportunity to take care of their sick kid as he would take the good with the bad just to be there for his kid and any mother who doesn;t want to do that is wrong. OF course I am talking about a good dad.

I think from her post we have determined he's not a very good dad.

 

[need2cruise]

I dunno about your kids--but when mine are sick--they want to be in my bed or on the couch--not the bed they always sleep in!! lol

Basically what the pp is stating is that--both parents (especially when fit parents) have a right to care for their child when sick-no matter whose house is the primary household. Seriously--if you are in Disney for a week-and your child isn't feeling well are you going to rush them home to sleep in their ususal bed?

 

[DVCLiz]

It's a moot point if there is a legal agreement - I took many a sick child to her dad's for the weekend when we BOTH would have preferred that she stay home with me on that particular weekend. It was her dad's weekend, though, and illness not serious enough to warant a hospitalization was not enough to change that schedule.

Of course a divorced mom would want to keep her sick child with her and think it was "better" for her to stay in her own bed with her own routine. That doesn't matter at all, though, when there is a legal custody arrangment. No judge would alter the agreement on that basis and the non-custodial parent would have every right to insist that he have his regular visitation.