Ladies, WWYD if your husband shaved his head bald w/o telling you?

[xoprincessmomxo]

I'd be jumping for joy if hubby did it. Really! He'd rather wear his hair long which I can't stand. Thankfully, he knows I don't like long hair on guys, so he lets me keep it cut short. (Yes, I cut his hair.) He's got quite the receding hair line and I keep trying to convince him to just cut it all off, but he's not quite going for it.

I just don't understand why guys would rather do a comb-over or other nasty attempt to hold onto a few tiny hairs when bald looks so much better.

LOL! My Grandpa has the best combover ever! It's about three hairs, kind of like Homer Simpsons!

 

[jsmith]

Mine has done-hes balding anyway and when he is in Iraq shaving it is easier and more comfortable-its not very attractive on him-mostly because he is very fair and when you have a fair guy with no color wearing a tan t shirt he looks kinda ghostly-but its not a big deal.

 

[disykat]

I would be angry. He doesn't need my permission to cut his hair, however he has asked my opinion and I've told him I think it would look horrible and why. DH is very skinny, bald looks much better on a rounded head IMO. I would consider it a very passive aggressive move if he went out and got it shaved without telling me, knowing how I would hate it.

Of course you have the right to do what you want with your hair regardless of anyone else's opinion. But if you're going to do it, at least tell her before hand and don't try to sneak out and do it like a naughty little boy. There just isn't room for that kind of sneakiness in a marriage IMO.[/QUOTE]
Are you serious? It is a haircut! I don't really see that as being sneaky but okay.

You sure like to get worked up about my posts, mhm! I was quite clear in my post that dh and I have discussed it. He specifically knows I don't want him to do it. Yes, I would expect him to "man up" and tell me he was going to do it rather than sneaking out to do it. I gathered papa has had a similar conversation with his wife, but people were recommending he surprise her.

There's a big difference between randomly deciding to do something with your hair having no idea how your spouse will react vs. deciding to go out and do something that you specifically know your spouse is stongly opposed to. One deserves a heads up IMO. "I know you're not crazy about this, but I've decided to..." Not giving that courtesy is pretty much giving them the finger.

Passive aggressiveness is my biggest pet peeve. As I said before, of course people can do what they want. However, why would you want to give what you know would be seen as an unpleasant surprise to the person you love?

You're missing the point. It's not about the hair. It's about "I know my wife will hate this, so I'm going to go out and do it without telling her."

 

[tzolkin]

Well, I would probably freak out, but my DH has hair past his bottom and I've never seen him with it shorter than lower back.

If it was the OP hair situation I would like to know-- we discuss everything including minor purchases, etc-- but it would not cause any lasting problems in our relationship if it were a surprise. (That said, I have not had DD4's hair cut because DH asked me not to although I think it would be cute.) I think the issue is that she has expressed that she doesnt think she would like it. Maybe if you approach the topic by saying that you just want to try it out and it will grow back in a few days and you will wear a hat around her if she's really bothered by it she will agree to it. Good luck.

PS. My uncle let a friend shave his head for a $50 bet. It was not even and my aunt had to clean shave it with a razor. She would have been upset, but she really enjoyed making fun of him.

 

[jfulcer]

It's gone! I did it. DW rolled her eyes, DD#1 was there when I got it done - she keeps professing to not know who I am.

DD#2 said 'cool'.

I'll post a picture.

 

[Stacerita]

It wouldn't bother me in the least bit. I just hope he doesn't have a lumpy head or it be egg shapped under his hair.

 

[bamajill]

You know....it SO depends!

I think I would hate it if my husband did it...I like his hair short--but I HATE the buzz cut.

BUT--

One of our best friends has shaved his for years b/c he was going bald...and I think his bald head looks sexy.
(Probably shouldn't tell dh the 'sexy' thing, right???)

Soooooo....ask your wife if she'll give you the one chance to get the sleek look. If you can be back to 'normal' in seven days there is NO WAY this can be a big deal, lol.