Ladies ~ have you ever suspected that DH might be playing away from home

[mark&sue]

I agree with SammieG. 1 in 4 partners cheat. For all the partners of the 1 in 4 I bet they all trusted their partner. We all trust our partners but it does not mean they do not cheat.

I really hope there is nothing going on for the OP and that it is just a complete misunderstanding but to think that it never happens and it will never happen to you is to bury your head in the sand.

Both men and women in long relationships sometimes think the grass is greener or they have fallen out of love with their partner, some act on it (they are human and can be weak) and some do not as they are strong.



Susan

 

[carolfoy]

Only just caught up with thsi post and having read all the advice I can only offer a hug I do hope everything turns out ok and that it was all a silly mistake, having been on the wrong end of an unfaithful relationship I know exactly what you are going through and all trust you have in your marriage will be different from now on, as others said I hope its nothing

 

[AnitaCB]

Can't give any good advice but hope you're ok

 

[Minniespal]

Claire ~ Sending you some Hope things went well

 

[Lizzybear]

I hope the situation works out for the best, thinking of you.

 

[Pawpaws]

Hope you're OK

 

[jjpenguin]

Hope it's all totally innocent.
Sending you lots of

 

[AndRu]

I've just come back from a week in London staying in a hotel whilst doing a course (which I passed ) and on Tuesday night despatched three bottles of wine with a female colleague. By 10:30 we were in total daft mode, taking the mickey out of others, laughing, giggling and being generally stupid. My DW rang up to say goodnight and I explained (in slurred speach) what was going on - at which my DW burst out laughing and my colleague looked utterly shocked.

When I came off the phone after talking to my DW my friend asked "Why did I tell my wife that I'd got drunk with another woman?" and "what is she reads more into it?". This bemused me totally. My DW was laughing on the phone and telling me that my room would be spinning after 1.5 bottles. Which it did. My wife didn't and hasn't accused me of anything other than being stupid in getting drunk - just becuase I did get drunk with a woman doesn't mean it did or would lead to anything else!

I had a vasectomy 6 years ago but on at least 2 occasions since I've bought condoms for younger friends that were too embarrassed to buy them. If my DW had found them I would tell the truth - just like I told the truth about getting tipsy with another woman.

Snookams - I hope everything is OK and hope it's just a misunderstanding that can be innocently explained. Not everyman is guilty!

 

[alisonbestford]

I'm hoping that the reason you seem to have been quiet since yesterday isn't bad news

 

[kristieuk]

I've just caught up on this thread, and it seems you have had lots an lots of advice, so I'm not going to add to that, but I just wanted to say that I really hope everything is ok. This must be such a difficult thing for you to deal with whatever the reality, and I really hope that it that it works out ok for you both

 

[cazzie]

I really hope that everything is okay.

 

[snookhams]

Thank everyone for your kind thoughts and wishes.

Well we had a long talk when DH arrived home from work on Friday and DM took the boys out yesterday so we drove to the coast and took a long walk and talked like we haven't for years. DH tells me that there is nothing going on and with regards to the condoms has no idea how they got into his pocket! but he hasn't long started a new job and wondered if it was his colleague idea of a joke. He says that he has been so quiet in the 'bedroom' cos he was tired or I was tired and the time never seemed right. I am so glad that we talked for so long, its hard to do with two children that want taking everywhere, I think things will still be a little cautious between us for a while but I am going to trust him, but I do think that it will take me a while to do this completely. We have made the decision though to make time for us and that at least once a week we will go out if only for a drink - we are going to ask DG to take DS to training once a week so that this can happen.

I can't thank you enough for all your support and wishes. Claire

 

[wilma-bride]

Claire, so glad that you managed to get time to talk things through. Obviously, nobody knows your hubby better than you but FWIW I think you are doing absolutely the right thing in trusting that he's telling the truth. A relationship without trust is not a good relationship. I think it's great that you've decided to have some more time together just the two of you. When you have kids, it is hard to make time for yourselves as a couple but, if you don't do that, you end up 'losing' a certain something and that can be very hard to get back.

Hope everything works out fine for you both

 

[natalielongstaff]

having just gone through some relationship troubles i well aware of how easily it is to get caught up in busy lives and forget to make free time.

i hope everything works out well for you

 

[AlanUK]

I'm glad that you managed to clear the air and I hope everything works out for the best

 

[Minniespal]

Claire ~ Pleased that you and your DH had a good chat. Hope everything works out well

 

[jockey]

Claire - I am so glad everything worked out ok.

 

[Boo Boo Too]

I think things will still be a little cautious between us for a while but I am going to trust him, but I do think that it will take me a while to do this completely. We have made the decision though to make time for us and that at least once a week we will go out if only for a drink - we are going to ask DG to take DS to training once a week so that this can happen.

Fantastic!

Am so happy for you.

I think that the (at least) once a week thing is such a good idea: communication and "quality" time alone together is so important - get out, just the two of you, for a talk and a laugh. You may find that helps revive the bedroom stuff as well (your DH may feel more relaxed...). I really think that is a good way forward

Boo

 

[Lisash]

Glad you managed to talk things through Claire

 

[alisonbestford]

Glad you managed to clear the air

Hope it all works out for you all