Kiss & Make Up - Or pillow and blanket in hallway?

[MunFam]

So to those who see an argument on a vacation as being a death knell on the marriage, just stop. Might be for your marriage, wouldn't be for another. If my husband apologized if I looked at him or "yes dear'ed" me, rather than expressing himself and communicating, THAT would be the end for *our* marriage. Every relationship is different.

I would like to clarify. I am not saying that arguments don't happen. My husband and I bickered like crazy on our recent 14 day WBPC cruise. It never escalated to the point where we were so angry, or hated each other so badly that the other had to move out for a night. My point was that if the arguments are that intense now, and a person is seeking out refuge/shelter in advance of the fight, it might be better to just not go...or at least get two rooms. I know people who have "successful" marriages for years and years fighting like this. Im just not sure a cruise ship with a few hundred square feet of living space is a great place to test it...especially with how expensive the rooms are per night.

 

[Carrie in AZ]

Honestly, I find this to be one of the most "out there" questions I have ever read on these boards. Feeling thankful nothing like this has ever even crossed my mind!

 

[ImNarek]

Seven days on a ship, in a confined space, even with the one you love can eventually be stressful. My husband and I had a spat on our last cruise...we were rushing to get ready for dinner on an evening that you dress up. My in-laws were in the cabin next door and we had the balcony opened between the 2 rooms. I wanted to just get away for a second after our argument and couldn't go on the balcony because my in-laws were out there (they were already ready to go). I ended up just stepping out in the hallway, made a lap, took some deep breaths and all was well.

On this particular cruise I was never able to schedule any spa time...I blame that!

In all seriousness, an entire week of 24/7 with your whole family where the only alone time you have is in the bathroom (if even that... you know, kids and all!) is stressful. I'm one who needs a little bit of alone time. Yes, even from my husband.

Some of the members of my family are extreme introverts, so I understand where you're coming from. We simply make it a point of making sure they have some alone time each day. It's easier when it's just my husband and me. If there's something one of us really wants to do as a couple, we say so, otherwise our days tend to be pretty laid back and freeform.

oh, and those round lounge chairs that someone mentioned are only on the Fantasy/Dream I think.

 

[Lorilais_mommie]

I guess you could always go top side and pull up a deck lounge chair!

 

[Donna3271]

It can be a little stressful in confined spaces. You will be fine... just breathe deep!!

We have a couple of acres of property and 6,700 square feet of living space in our home, so we have to adjust to 5 in a cabin. All is well. No one wants the vacation ruined (or they know mom will not rebook!!!), so all are on best behavior.

 

[gzmtlock]

A successful marriage is like a casserole. Only those responsible for it know exactly what goes in it.

So to those who see an argument on a vacation as being a death knell on the marriage, just stop. Might be for your marriage, wouldn't be for another. If my husband apologized if I looked at him or "yes dear'ed" me, rather than expressing himself and communicating, THAT would be the end for *our* marriage. Every relationship is different.

Love, love, LOVE this!

A (way more conservative than I am) church in our neighborhood does the "quote of the week" thing on the sign in front. This week's is, "Do not judge others who sin differently than you do." Another keeper.

 

[anna08]

I'm an early riser and love to get comfy in a padded deck chair on Deck 4 with a book. I'm assuming they leave some loungers out all night there - at least they've been there for late night walks. One side is usually windy and one more sheltered depending on the direction of the wind across the boat, so check them both out to see what conditions you like better for resting. Hope it's not necessary, but it's a lovely place to watch sunrise and sunsets.