Kids victimizing other kids. Advice please.

[Honu]

What advice would you give to a parent whose child was forced by other children to perform a sex act on them? These are all 5 year old boys.

I told her to take him to the police station to file a report and to not let him go to school tomorrow, but that she should go and address it with the principal. I'm so stunned and devastated that I can't even think if that was the right thing to say or not though. I can't imagine what she and her son are feeling right now.

 

[LisaNJ25]

What advice would you give to a parent whose child was forced by other children to perform a sex act on them? These are all 5 year old boys.

I told her to take him to the police station to file a report and to not let him go to school tomorrow, but that she should go and address it with the principal. I'm so stunned and devastated that I can't even think if that was the right thing to say or not though. I can't imagine what she and her son are feeling right now.

OMG... 1 5year old forced another 5 year old boy to perform oral sex? How do 5 year olds even know about that?

I would of went right to the police station.. did it happen at school?

 

[Honu]

Three 5 year olds forced her son to do it to two of them, on the school bus. The only thing I can think is that one of them had to have had someone do it to them. How else would they know about it?

 

[mytwotinks]

Yeah! I think that she def. needs to go to the police. Her son probably is going to need some counseling too. I am thinking that a five year old boy that knew what oral sex was let alone thought to FORCE another kid has maybe been the victim of some kind of abuse. This is horrible.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

This needs police action and a lawyer, possibly. My guess would be this kid is being abused sexually and intervention needs to happen in the legal arena.
School is not the appropriate place to handle this.

 

[DawnCt1]

Yeah! I think that she def. needs to go to the police. Her son probably is going to need some counseling too. I am thinking that a five year old boy that knew what oral sex was let alone thought to FORCE another kid has maybe been the victim of some kind of abuse. This is horrible.

I agree. This is a law enforcement matter. Hopefully the police will involve child protective services because the likelihood that the perpetrators are victims is very high.

 

[Dan Murphy]

OMG... 1 5year old forced another 5 year old boy to perform oral sex? How do 5 year olds even know about that?

I would of went right to the police station.. did it happen at school?

Maybe they watch TV shows??

Very sad.

 

[va32h]

Absolutely tell the police, so the police can find out who has victimized the other children.

5 year olds don't just decide to sexually assault each other one day. They had to have observed that behavior, or had it done to them, or both.

What a horrible situation for everyone!

The police can probably also provide resources for counseling.

 

[rhanditresmom]

I'm certainly not an expert here, but I have had experience with a child (a student of mine) who had been sexually abused. She, and her siblings, were removed from the home and placed with a foster family. These people were in the process of trying to adopt the children when this girl began aggressively sexually abusing her little sister. It seems that these kids just begin abusing. It is what they know. If I were this parent I would certainly say something to somebody. One of these children may be in a dangerous situation.

How absolutely devestating. I am so sorry for her situation.

 

[dmslush]

Yes, you gave her the right information. She needs to go to the police and make a report of what happened. She can also call her local Child Advocacy Center and they can put her in touch with Social Services to get an investigation rolling. I'm satisfied that the child who perpetrated this act has probably had the same thing done to him. Someone needs to get to the root of this and put an end to it!

 

[poohandwendy]

I would also suggest getting a good child psycholigust to talk to the abused child and to help the parents deal with it in the best way possible.

Definitely agree this is NOT a school issue, it is a police matter.

How horribly sad.

 

[Honu]

Thanks all. When you say it's not a school issue though, do you mean she shouldn't say anything to the school?

It did happen on the school bus and I can't imagine that her son will want to go back to school and see these boys.

 

[poohandwendy]

No, the school does need to know what happened, but I would be in touch with the police first. I was just saying don't think of the school as the ones to notify first. Actually, the police may be the ones who will want to talk to the school, I am not sure.

 

[disneyjunkie]

Thanks all. When you say it's not a school issue though, do you mean she shouldn't say anything to the school?

It did happen on the school bus and I can't imagine that her son will want to go back to school and see these boys.

I think she should contact the police and th school.

I would let the principal know so that she/he is aware of what's going on. The principal can then speak to the teachers. This child may have victimized other kids who may be afraid to say anything.

I teach kindergarten in a day care center. Some of things our kids have to deal with just break my heart.

My prayers are with you, your friend and her son.

 

[HaleyB]

I think it clearly needs to be brought to the schools attention as well.

So sorry for all the children involved, but most so for your friends little boy.