I just tested out my 'am I correct, or loosing it???" question. I went to four different friends pages, then clicked on a BUNCH of their friends that I am NOT friends with. I could see almost everything...the town they live in, I could see ALL of the pictures they were in, I could see who they were married to and What they posted as a personal message. 2 of the 10 people I looked at had their cell numbers in their 'personal message'...all I had to do to get it was click twice (on my friend and on her friends). ALL of them had pictures available to me...and they are 'friends of a friend of mine"
The fact is, that SOME of us (including my DH, Myself and my parents) know that PEOPLE NEED TO CHANGE THEIR SETTINGS IF THEY DON'T want people (other than their direct friends) to see their info. MOST PEOPLE HAVE NO CLUE that they need to change that setting. If you let FB choose it for you, A LOT of your info. is open to friends of friends and even sometimes more.
A lot of parents who's kids have FB pages don't even know that their kid is on FB, or who their kids friends are on FB, or know what the security settings are on FB...The big thing for the kids safety is that a parent KNOWS these things! I think that any parent who is concerned about their kids on FB is doing the right thing when they get involved and monitors them. There is nothing wrong with protecting information. Posting it on the internet only makes it EASIER for people to access it. I know, anyone can spend an hour and find out almost everything about MY life. I know that. BUT, why should I make it easier for them? The more places I CHOOSE to put my info. online, the more CORRECT info. gets placed out there. 1/2 of the sites I've seen with my info. doesn't even have the correct info.! That's not an over statement either- it's at least 1/2!
When people are on fb or twitter ALL the time, leaving updates- a lot more people have access to: when you are and are not home, when a child is home alone, when a family is going on vacation (their home will be empty from this day to that day), when a spouse is traveling and the wife is home alone, what problems a family is having, what makes a certain person happy/angry/excited...and a lot more. Leaving your own trail makes the info. more personal, more intamate...
There was a local family (a town about an hour away from me- and it was in the news ALL OVER here last summer) that went on vacation. The wife had a FB account and talked about this big trip they'd be taking...got into details about WHERE they were going, where they were staying, what dates they were leaving...all messages were posted on her wall.
A friend of a friends friend (3 times removed) of hers lived about 3 hours away from this family...went to their home, BROKE in, stayed in the home the entire time they were gone and like 2 days before they got home, then left...the only reason why they knew was because there were some groceries left in the fridge that they didn't buy...and the guy dropped a phone number of his friend in their town...along with a name in their bedroom...So, this is why I CHOOSE not to put everything on face book...It happens. Turns out this person wasn't a trouble maker at all before this happened. He said he 'saw an opportunity' he had seen pictures of the famiy on FB, saw how nice their home looked and he 'wanted to experiance their good life'...
I'm sure this has happened to more people than just this one family- and I KNOW there are news stories about it.
I know people can access my info...I know they can get all the info. they want. MOST people don't attempt to go looking for it, but if it's handed to them with LITTLE TO NO EFFORT at all, more people get thoughts in their heads about things they could do.