kids not ready for disney but going

[saratogadreamin09]

Sorry but this is the whole family's business why??? The parents, in my mind, should be making the decision & I am sure they are able to talk to their doctor & make this decision. I don't think this is something that anyone else should be sticking their nose in. Sorry!

like i said my family is very, VERY close and i'm only trying to help my aunt and gather advice

 

[saratogadreamin09]

once again i'm going to post, i dont want to hear that this isnt my business


i want tips and advice for my aunt on how to deal with the kiddlits

 

[The Disney Bunch]

like i said my family is very, VERY close and i'm only trying to help my aunt and gather advice

what advice? it seems to me that you are being used to ask your aunt NOT to go - I still don't see how it is anyone's business but your sunt & uncles, no matter how close you all are. If they are grown-ups & have the means to do so, then it is their decision.

What advice are you looking for?

 

[saratogadreamin09]

i am looking for advice or my aunt on how to help her epileptic son and her daughter that are very afraid of big things

 

[Mouse House Mama]

first, i'm sorry if my writing style is teenish but like i said i'm a 23 year old adult and i'm engaged(planning a disney wedding)


i didnt post this for people to tell me why i should butt out because my aunt and uncle want opinions from the family so we told them our honest opinions. My family is very close and all of my cousins are like siblings so its not like i just randomly called my aunt that i never talk to to tell her dont go to disney! I talk to my aunt on a regular basis( like twice a week).



I want advice from people on how to help the kids overcome their fears and how to deal with a child with epilepsy in disney.

Can anyone give me advice?

The best advice is to leave the parents alone and let them make the choices that they deem fit for their kids.

 

[saratogadreamin09]

my aunt asked me for advice so i'm trying to give her some


sorry for being a good niece

 

[noodleknitter]

A good niece for whom? The aunt you are ttrying to undermine?

 

[saratogadreamin09]

A good niece for whom? The aunt you are ttrying to undermine?

she asked me for advice


so can i please just get some advice for her

 

[MO Nurse]

I have been epileptic since I was a kid and I'm not sure what medications they have had him on but mine has remained the same for many years. I have grand mal seizures (the worst ones you can have) so maybe they need to seek another medical opinion. I had to live at home until I was in my 20s because I couldn't live alone but it never stopped my parents from letting me be a normal kid and do normal things.

I believe if they are aware of what triggers his seizures then they should be left alone. I understand your concern but after all they are their children.

 

[The Disney Bunch]

my aunt asked me for advice so i'm trying to give her some


sorry for being a good niece

What advice did she ask you for? - in all your previous posts you only mention your grandmother & mother - If you want to be a good niece, tell her to explore all her options & trust herself - Apparently they are going anyway to a wedding so why wouldn't they want to stop at Disney & have a vacation (especially since you said they haven't had a vacation in 7 years - they deserve this time as a family).

i am looking for advice or my aunt on how to help her epileptic son and her daughter that are very afraid of big things

Your aunt needs to talk to her son's doctor on how to help her son - that is not something a family member can help with. As for the daughter - that is the age but if it handled well, it won't be a problem - As I said if you have been to Disney as many times as you said you have, the characters know not to approach a child who might be frightened - There are not a ton of big things in Disney so I am not sure what big things you could be referring to.

 

[noodleknitter]

Have you read this thread?

kids not ready for disney but going
I have an aunt and uncle who are taking their kids (3 and 5) down to disney in december. The whole family agrees that they shouldn't be going because 1) they are also going to a awdding and the kids might provide too much stress, 2) the older kid has epilepsy and they are still trying to put him on a good medicine so he might not be "well", and 3) both kids are very clingy and afraid of many things. we all know that they wont like the characters and while the older one might like some of the rides, he might not be ble to go on them because of his epilepsy


despite all of this my aunt still wants to take them because she doesn't know when she'll ever get another chance, we're all trying to convince her to save up money nad take them back in 3 or 4 years


any opinions

At this point you were attempting to undermine the aunt. All of a sudden, you just want to help her, because she asked you to.

 

[Merriwind]

I have an aunt and uncle who are taking their kids (3 and 5) down to disney in december. The whole family agrees that they shouldn't be going because 1) they are also going to a awdding and the kids might provide too much stress, 2) the older kid has epilepsy and they are still trying to put him on a good medicine so he might not be "well", and 3) both kids are very clingy and afraid of many things. we all know that they wont like the characters and while the older one might like some of the rides, he might not be ble to go on them because of his epilepsy


despite all of this my aunt still wants to take them because she doesn't know when she'll ever get another chance, we're all trying to convince her to save up money nad take them back in 3 or 4 years


any opinions

Doesn't sound like your aunt was asking for advice.

 

[saratogadreamin09]

What advice did she ask you for? - in all your previous posts you only mention your grandmother & mother - If you want to be a good niece, tell her to explore all her options & trust herself - Apparently they are going anyway to a wedding so why wouldn't they want to stop at Disney & have a vacation (especially since you said they haven't had a vacation in 7 years - they deserve this time as a family).




Your aunt needs to talk to her son's doctor on how to help her son - that is not something a family member can help with. As for the daughter - that is the age but if it handled well, it won't be a problem - As I said if you have been to Disney as many times as you said you have, the characters know not to approach a child who might be frightened - There are not a ton of big things in Disney so I am not sure what big things you could be referring to.

yes i've been to disney as many times as i said i had



and i dont want to har anymore about me butting out of my aunt's business



can i just have some real advice

 

[The Disney Bunch]

she asked me for advice


so can i please just get some advice for her

What specifically did she ask for your help for? we could probably help you better if we knew what she was asking - you keep jumping around & it really didn't sound like she was asking you for advice - what is she asking & why is she asking you? No offense but you are young & have no kids - what would you be bringing to the table for her? She is the mother.

 

[saratogadreamin09]

she is asking me because i've been to disney many times and i've been with young kids



she wants to know:


how to help her 3 year old that is afraid of anything bigger then her?
how to help her 5 year old with epilepsy and keep him safe?( and yes she's talked to her doctor but she wants to know about the safety in disney)
which rides her kids would be comfortable on?
and what are the opions on the downtown disney resorts?

 

[GOOFY4DONALD]

If the OP is legit..I do not think she is asking for advice on how to help the kids enjoy Disney, anyway. She seems to want a whole group of Diser's to agree with her and her family. My family is very close, too. Many relatives have tried, in the past, to tell me what to do but that didn't last long. If your mom and grandmother really wanted to make their grandchildern's lives better they would want what would make their daughter and grandchilden happy. They would want to learn about resources that they could pass on to the children's mother (ie disABILITIES board)The only people they want happy are themselves and only when they tell others how to live.

I have seen many people go to Disney with various disabilities. I used to work with developmentally disabled children and worked with a boy who was developmentally disabled, blind and deaf but loves every minute at DL, with his parents. I guess he shouldn't have gone either.

If you are so worried that the children's parents can't watch them at WDW what makes you think they should be allowed to be alone with them at home? Maybe you and grandma, great grandma should move in with them so you can all keep an eye on the kids 24/7.

 

[saratogadreamin09]

were worried about the parents watching them at disney because 1) they're going to a wedding and 2) their a lot of people their and my grandmother is always going to be worried about the kids



and yes i'm legit and i dont care if any of you agree with my family but i jsut want advice, please do it so the kids can have better trips

 

[Allison]

I want advice from people on how to help the kids overcome their fears and how to deal with a child with epilepsy in disney.

Can anyone give me advice?

Your story seems to have changed. That's certainly different than your first post. You wanted opinions not advice because you said you think they should wait a few years.

I'm guessing that's because you are of the opinion that the children are too young according to your posts on another thread.

I have a niece about your age. She doesn't get to tell me how to raise my kids.

 

[noodleknitter]

I have a niece about your age. She doesn't get to tell me how to raise my kids.

edited because I just got my pm's back!

 

[vcgirl925]

I have an aunt and uncle who are taking their kids (3 and 5) down to disney in december. The whole family agrees that they shouldn't be going because 1) they are also going to a awdding and the kids might provide too much stress, 2) the older kid has epilepsy and they are still trying to put him on a good medicine so he might not be "well", and 3) both kids are very clingy and afraid of many things. we all know that they wont like the characters and while the older one might like some of the rides, he might not be ble to go on them because of his epilepsy


despite all of this my aunt still wants to take them because she doesn't know when she'll ever get another chance, we're all trying to convince her to save up money nad take them back in 3 or 4 years


any opinions

Your original post only talked about how they shouldn't go and what our opinions were about that. Now you are compketely changing your story. Now you want to know how to make the trip easier for them to go? When you were set on them not going and waiting a couple of years. Or maybe you've realized that trying to convince them not to go is none of your business.

It doesn't matter how close of a family you are, you can't tell someone else how to parent their children. end of story. It doesn't sound like they've asked for your opinion, because you've said that your grandmother and mother have done nothing but ask you to get your aunt not to go.