Kids in liquor stores.... First impressions?

[paintnolish]

I bring the dcs with me! They like to ask for cigar boxes to Modge Podge!

 

[Nancyg56]

Oh goodness, talk about taking something out of context and going obnoxious with it... Your right, you really must be a heathen..... As another poster said, its something that just doesn't sit well with me. Sorry if thats such a problem for you. I have no issue with an adult going into a liquor store, but when they have a child with them, I don't think its overly appropriate. JMO

We all get to choose what is appropriate for our kids. We do not get to choose, nor should we, what is appropriate for others when they are parenting their children. I cannot understand why taking a kid into a store is an issue, liquor is not illegal, it is not evil and children know that.

Now if I was going to be rude and judge others I might comment on how snarky your response was in this post...............

With all due respect, the only thing wrong I see with the original post is the passing judgment about a bunch of total strangers



My point is, please be careful with who you decide to share that story with in the real world. You don't know this family, their agenda for that day, you know nothing about them. If you started talking to your friends about them, sharing your judgment to them, that story could travel right over to the school that your kid and that lady's kids go to and what a mess that would be

ITA>

Sorry, you don't have it right at all. I mentioned the cigarrets because that was one of the 3 things she got (cigarrets, beer, and hard liquor). Personally, I dont smoke, and wouldn't smoke since I have kids, but thats a whole nother thread! LOL
And yes, I made a point of saying that she had a pre-written check, but not because I was trying to say she was poor "'cause she can't pay cash or use a credit card" but because it was a PRE-WRITTEN check, hence this wasn't her first trip around the liquor store, seemingly.

I have no problem with people drinking (moderatly) in the house or out to dinner and infront of their kids. But to me, I would never bring my children into a liquor store. I'd wait till my husband was home to watch them, or there was a neighbor that could watch them for the 10 minutes it would take to get there, etc. To me, liquor shouldn't be that important. Just me. And sorry, but bringing your children into a wine tasting is not OK. Just me.

Holy Smokes! Opinionated aren't you? I am a Nana, raised three very productive adults and have to say that they would laugh at this. I was a single parent so I took my kids almost everywhere with me and that included a stop intot he package store on occasion. Neither of my sons drink at all and my DD's idea of cutting loose is having a mojito once in a blue moon.

On vacation they have wandered into wineries with me and have survived a wine tasting without any long lasting scars.

I am also that perosn who could be the poster child for Visa debit cards...........I use checks and often have prefilled them because my DD has pointed out that i do hold up the line filling it out. I know I am the last of that species who refuses to use a debit card so I am trying to be a polite as I can be to the folks waiting for my check to clear the machine.

OP- be careful that your narrowminded view of people who are more open about their activities than you are does not backfire. My first husband dies at 25 due to alcohol. He left three children under the age of 5. My DMIL was horrified that I taught those childen to respect how alcohol, drugs and cigarettes can affect people. She wanted me to"shield" them the way she had shielded her children from the evils of liquor. They never drank in her home, she disparaged those who had a glass of wine with dinner and was uncomfortable when people orderd a cocktail at dinner. Her own husband used to hide in rhe basement when he wanted a drink and it was clear that he was an alcoholic. She would not see that becasue it was no within her line of sight.

My children were not offended by alcohol, they saw people indulge responsibly and on occasion not so responsible. We discussed both. I never tried to hide the world from them hoping that they would be safe, using people whose decisions differed from my own as examples of how not to behave. I prepared them for Life as a adult by allowing them to participate in my life, knowing that they would be using me as an example..............not the woman buying wine in a package store with her kid in tow. Oh dear............that was me.

 

[onelilspark]

I went into liquor stores with my parents all the time. My Dad really likes one kind of wine and used to order cases of it through the liquor store every couple months (1 case at a time.) So the guys who worked at the store knew him, and in turn knew us. We'd go out to dinner and stop at the liquor store on the way home. I don't see what the big deal is.

Edit: My parents also had a glass of wine with dinner most nights. When I was about 12 or 13 I learned how to mix Cosmopolitans for my parents. And once I was a teen, I was allowed to have a small glass of wine if I wanted it with dinner (only when I was staying home the rest of the night.) The majority of the time I turned it down, and when I went away to college, I didn't have my first "drink" until I was 20! It was never a big deal to me because I was always around it. To this day I can count the number of times I've been "drunk" on one hand. I credit my parents with teaching me how to indulge appropriately. I also watched when we went out and my Dad would order Diet Coke instead of wine since he was driving. I firmly believe it's important to teach your children how to respect alcohol and not that it's totally evil and to avoid it.

 

[rotlex]

Would you prefer the parent left the children in the car? Seriously, I see nothing wrong with this, and do it all the time when picking up wine, gifts etc.

Why would this be a problem to anyone?

 

[PrincessBree]

Okay I have not read this entire thread, but I have to say I see nothing wrong with children going into a liquor store, I mean what are they seeing other than a bunch of bottles, which to small children that is all it is. Around here where I live the beer and liquor in grocery stores is usually on the same aisle as the pepsi and other sodas so I guess they shouldn't go down that aisle either?

Also concerning the pre-written check, maybe she was picking up liquor for her job or work function and called ahead to find out how much the stuff cost, so her job sent her with a check already made out. I know my place of employment will do this.

The owner could be a friend, relative, next door neighbor, etc. The kids could just be chatty, some kids speak to everyone. So I don't know why them talking to the owner/cashier would be of any importance.

 

[LisaNJ25]

I see nothing wrong with it.

 

[LisaNJ25]

Wow. I can't believe someone would even take the time to notice that a woman was purchasing alcohol with her children present, much less take the time to post about it. And God forbid children might actually happen to know the owner of a liquor store. They couldn't possibly be neighbors or friends with the owner's children or anything. Good grief.

I agree I guess I now will have to look over my sholder to see if anyone is watching me when I have my kids lol.

Dont most walmarts, targets, etc around the country have alcohol right in the store(We dont here in Jersey). Do people get grief for checking out with diapers and beer both in the same shopping cart?

 

[jrmasm]

Unless your state has a law banning minors from entering liquor stores, I can't imagine why anyone would even notice.

 

[golfgal]

Are you positive the check was pre-written and not that it was completed on the computer? Maybe the clerk was a neighbor/relative/friend. I know a lot of the clerks at the stores around here and so do my kids. We bring the kids into the liquor store if they are with us when we go there, big deal. As kids we BEGGED to go to the liquor store because they handed out tootsie rolls to kids . Our kids don't drink, we rarely drink-taking kids into a liquor store isn't going to turn them into alcoholics .

 

[luvmy3]

Are you positive the check was pre-written and not that it was completed on the computer? Maybe the clerk was a neighbor/relative/friend. I know a lot of the clerks at the stores around here and so do my kids. We bring the kids into the liquor store if they are with us when we go there, big deal. As kids we BEGGED to go to the liquor store because they handed out tootsie rolls to kids . Our kids don't drink, we rarely drink-taking kids into a liquor store isn't going to turn them into alcoholics .

I don't think it would matter to the OP, she has her mind made up about the woman, she brought her kids into a liquor store that she is no stranger to, and that her and her dh may be raging alcoholics because she was there on a Wednesday.

 

[ozarkmom]

I have a part time job at a liquor store. I don't think twice about people bringing their children. We also have cokes, candy and chips for sale. We give out suckers to children and we have dog treats for the dogs. I live in a small town and I know alot of the customers by name and some of the kids too. I have a few customers that buy several cases of beer/wine or liquor and part of what they buy is for others. It's none of my business though. They are not engaging in an illegal activity. As long as the children are behaving and don't touch the merchandise it's fine.

 

[marcyinPA]

We all get to choose what is appropriate for our kids. We do not get to choose, nor should we, what is appropriate for others when they are parenting their children. I cannot understand why taking a kid into a store is an issue, liquor is not illegal, it is not evil and children know that.

Now if I was going to be rude and judge others I might comment on how snarky your response was in this post...............




ITA>




Holy Smokes! Opinionated aren't you? I am a Nana, raised three very productive adults and have to say that they would laugh at this. I was a single parent so I took my kids almost everywhere with me and that included a stop intot he package store on occasion. Neither of my sons drink at all and my DD's idea of cutting loose is having a mojito once in a blue moon.

On vacation they have wandered into wineries with me and have survived a wine tasting without any long lasting scars.

I am also that perosn who could be the poster child for Visa debit cards...........I use checks and often have prefilled them because my DD has pointed out that i do hold up the line filling it out. I know I am the last of that species who refuses to use a debit card so I am trying to be a polite as I can be to the folks waiting for my check to clear the machine.

OP- be careful that your narrowminded view of people who are more open about their activities than you are does not backfire. My first husband dies at 25 due to alcohol. He left three children under the age of 5. My DMIL was horrified that I taught those childen to respect how alcohol, drugs and cigarettes can affect people. She wanted me to"shield" them the way she had shielded her children from the evils of liquor. They never drank in her home, she disparaged those who had a glass of wine with dinner and was uncomfortable when people orderd a cocktail at dinner. Her own husband used to hide in rhe basement when he wanted a drink and it was clear that he was an alcoholic. She would not see that becasue it was no within her line of sight.

My children were not offended by alcohol, they saw people indulge responsibly and on occasion not so responsible. We discussed both. I never tried to hide the world from them hoping that they would be safe, using people whose decisions differed from my own as examples of how not to behave. I prepared them for Life as a adult by allowing them to participate in my life, knowing that they would be using me as an example..............not the woman buying wine in a package store with her kid in tow. Oh dear............that was me.

I totally agree with you.

I think raising kids with the attitude that alcohol is forbidden is setting them up for possible disaster. Anything, really, that is made "forbidden", is sometimes wanted more. Ever see a kid who is never allowed to have candy, and then goes to a birthday party where there is candy?

 

[NMAmy]

To me, liquor shouldn't be that important.

I think the point you're missing is that to many people, possibly including the woman at the liquor store, buying liquor is unimportant and thus not worth stressing over or worrying who will see who buying what.

Just me. And sorry, but bringing your children into a wine tasting is not OK. Just me.

Oh, goody. Some ammunition I can use against my mom. She and my aunt used to travel across country with five kids in a motorhome. We stopped for winery tours along the way--I learned a lot about wine making and Mom and Auntie would always taste while we kids had grape juice.

I used to work in a party store which sold liquor, beer, and convenience store items when I was in college. I've known the owners all my life. They know my parents and my dd. When buying for a big party, I'll call in advance and sometimes get the prices so the family can split the cost and I'd pay by check which I'd write out in advance. If dd were with me, I'd take her in and, yes, she'd be chatting with the workers. I'd rather spend my money to support a local business owner who is also a friend and gives me a good price.

The OP kind of reminds me of my grandmother who used to hide my grandfather's cans of beer in the crisper in case the minister came over. I'm not sure why she was sure that nice minister was going to go snooping through her fridge but she was always prepared.

 

[PaulaSue]

OP and others, I dont see a big deal. My girls go shopping with me all the time. I dont leave them in the car, to me that would be worse.

 

[StacyMarie]

Oops! I took my daughter to the liquor store last Friday, I bought a fabulous bottle of wine while she was with me, AND OMG, I drank it all! I am not a big drinker but I had a stressful week last week so I cut loose at home on Friday night and drank a bottle of wine. My kids were here too, UH OH!

In all seriousness, to each their own!

 

[marcyinPA]

Oops! I took my daughter to the liquor store last Friday, I bought a fabulous bottle of wine while she was with me, AND OMG, I drank it all! I am not a big drinker but I had a stressful week last week so I cut loose at home on Friday night and drank a bottle of wine. My kids were here too, UH OH!

In all seriousness, to each their own!

Do you mind if I ask what wine it was? I'm always looking for a fabulous bottle! My favorite right now is Menage a Trois...

 

[luvsJack]

My brother and my niece's ex both work in a liquor store so you could pretty much bet that we would be talking and exchanging hugs and what not while in the store. I never really thought about anyone thinking anything??

As for taking a child in there, I didn't even know you could. I think that in this state there is a sign on the door that says "no one under 21 allowed". I could be wrong though. If I did see a kid in there I really wouldn't think anymore about that than I would a kid being in the beer/cigerette store next door.

Now the first time I went to Mardi Gras in NOLA and saw a kid in a bar I almost fell out!! But then I realized the kids were not drinking and the parents weren't falling down drunk nor were any of the other patrons in the bar. Just having a drink and listening to music. --I don't know if that is a NOLA thing or a Mardi Gras thing or a just that particular bar thing. I have really no clue what the laws in NOLA are for a minor in a bar.

 

[Fantasmic23]

:We are responsible parents...I would hate for people to judge me based on bringing my kids into a liquor store!

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[KimR]

I have no problem with kids in liquor stores, although I think around here it is illegal as well, but I'm not sure. I know it used to be legal, though, because we used to go as kids at least once a week. We knew the proprietor by name - Walter - and he used to give us gum and candy. Oddly enough, we grew up to be responsible, productive adults.

This is slightly OT, but what I don't understand is that apparently in some (not all) restaurants around here, it is illegal for kids to sit at the bar in the restaurant's lounge. The parents can sit at the bar and the kids can sit at a table or sofa nearby, but the kids cannot sit AT the bar. And it's not in every restaurant, just a few. I guess maybe it's a clause in their liquor liscense? Or maybe it's illegal everywhere and only a few restaurants enforce it. At any rate, it makes no sense to me.

 

[WeLoveLilo05]

Nope, wouldn't pass judgment at all. I don't know her life, I don't know what is going on. I would be obviously concerned if we spoke and I smelled alcohol on her breath and she was driving with the kids in the car, but she may have been there for someone else, she may have been getting alcohol for an upcoming party, wedding, etc.

I live in NJ, we can only get alcohol at a liquor store, so whats the difference if i lived in NH and I walked by a mom from DD's kindergarten class and she had in her wagon groceries and some alcohol?

Weird, when i was little we used to walk over to the liqour store and get soda, pretzels, popcorn, and candy and then walked over to the park and would sit on the swings and eat everything lol.
Wonder what adults thought of us, I think we were like 10.