Kevin - An Apology

[shellynn24]

I have a feeling at some point in the (hopefully) not to distant future our children's generation can look back at the present in the same way we look back at the civil rights movement on the 1960's. There really are so many parallels. Sometimes I am shocked at our collective inability to learn from history.

I hope this is true, I know I try to raise my kids to love everyone the same.

 

[Sarabi's Cubs]

I deal with the foster care system frequently in my job, and these policies are such an injustice - to the children, to potential foster and adoptive parents, and to us as a society. I totally agree with Firedancer's post and I really look forward to a conversation with my children down the road where they speak of these discriminatory laws in the same way I talked to my parents growing up about segregation - with disbelief that it could ever have been that way. And I believe that it will happen!!

 

[Cyrano]

I'm in a stable 9 year relationship, I have stable employment, I own my home, I dont drink, I dont smoke, I dont take any recreational drugs but I'm too old, too fat and too gay to be an adoptive parent and yet....there are children in the system desperate for a good home and someone to love them.

I hope that someday people see how much is wrong with this.

Decent people have already seen that this discrimination is so wrong on so many levels. But we are only ordinary people and not part of government and legislators.
Children brought up by heterosexual couples, single parents or same sex parents have one thing in common. Being brought up by a parent(s). That is what matters most

What happens if a heterosexual couple separate and mum or dad get a girlfriend or boyfriend? Does it make a difference… of course not. Well the trauma of a separation, but I am sure everyone knows the point I am making.

I find it sad beyond the words that I can express, that there are loving people in this word and children who would love to be loved

As has been said I am glad/hopeful that my children will grow up in a more tolerant and enlightened age.

PS I have 3 children that you and John could adopt Only kidding troops

 

[kpadalik]

The state of Florida doesnt allow folks like John and I to adopt.

I used to teach kindergarten...so I've cared for other people's kids.

It's very sad that gay couples/individuals can't adopt here in FL. There are so many children that need a happy, loving home and plenty of people that are willing to provide one. DCF sucks in this state - it's unbelievable some of the home environments that children are allowed to stay in. I work in a hospital and I get an uneasy feeling when I see a baby going home with parents that clearly shouldn't be parents Maybe one day, FL will get over their ignorance and get with the times!

On a more positive note- Kevin, you must have been a wonderful kindergarten teacher! Lucky kids!!!

 

[JamieSimms91]

The state of Florida doesnt allow folks like John and I to adopt.

I used to teach kindergarten...so I've cared for other people's kids.

I was reading through this Thread and I saw this comment.

I cannot believe that they will not allow you to do this Kevin, you and John would do a fantastic job looking after children

 

[chrisw127]

I'm in a stable 9 year relationship, I have stable employment, I own my home, I dont drink, I dont smoke, I dont take any recreational drugs but I'm too old, too fat and too gay to be an adoptive parent and yet....there are children in the system desperate for a good home and someone to love them.

I hope that someday people see how much is wrong with this.

Oh, and don't forget that guy who who lives down the street (he's on every street) on his third marriage. But that's okay because he's married to a woman.

Do these laws also apply to private adoptions in FL? We have friends in CA who recently did a open adoption through a private agency. The birth mom chose them (they are a gay couple) and they went through the pregnancy with her. I don't know how they would have faired going through the state, although private adoptions are very expensive. Fortunately for them, they are a good match with the birth mom, so everyone wins.

 

[sjsjbrook]

I'm in a stable 9 year relationship, I have stable employment, I own my home, I dont drink, I dont smoke, I dont take any recreational drugs but I'm too old, too fat and too gay to be an adoptive parent and yet....there are children in the system desperate for a good home and someone to love them.

I hope that someday people see how much is wrong with this.

Here's hoping it is sooner than later. I don't know why there is so much fear in the world about this.

 

[alaskanmommy]

I will NEVER understand the ignorance of some of our lawmakers. I'm sure some of them are women, or African-Americans who both have had to fight for their civil rights in this country.

I will NEVER understand the law that allows for ignorant people to dictate what other humans can and cannot do. It doesn't matter if the issue is abortion or gay marriage or how you tie your shoes. Everyone should be equal in the eyes of the law PERIOD!

As much as I love Florida for WDW I am very disheartened to learn of this law. How disgusting.

 

[crazy4stitch]

For what it is worth, I think Kevin would be an awesome parent.

So do I, I know he was an educator at one point, but I am always amazed how in tune he seems to be when it comes to kids... I know they always said they wanted to get a parents perspective on the podcast, but I always felt like the podcast covered the children issues pretty well before Julie became a mom. But I am glad Kathy and Teresa are on board now, everyone has such great chemistry!

 

[roomthreeseventeen]

So do I, I know he was an educator at one point, but I am always amazed how in tune he seems to be when it comes to kids... I know they always said they wanted to get a parents perspective on the podcast, but I always felt like the podcast covered the children issues pretty well before Julie became a mom. But I am glad Kathy and Teresa are on board now, everyone has such great chemistry!

Bob was also a parent.

 

[wishspirit]

The state of Florida doesnt allow folks like John and I to adopt.

I used to teach kindergarten...so I've cared for other people's kids.

I'm in a stable 9 year relationship, I have stable employment, I own my home, I dont drink, I dont smoke, I dont take any recreational drugs but I'm too old, too fat and too gay to be an adoptive parent and yet....there are children in the system desperate for a good home and someone to love them.

I hope that someday people see how much is wrong with this.

My heart breaks for you Kevin!

Coming from a country that has civil partnerships and gay adoption, as well as living in the 'gay capital of the UK' for the last three years, has made me question more than ever why people feel the need to dictate the lives of others. Especially when all the other people are doing is loving each other. I just can't understand why people believe love is wrong!

So many children out there just want love, why should other peoples hate overcome this?

 

[Iggipolka]

I'm lesbian and when I came out to my parents at age 20, my father burst into tears. He was so sad that he'd "never be a grandfather to my daughter's children". That just broke my heart and at the time, I didn't know all of the options for same sex couples to have kids.

Fast forward many years later and my legally married wife (in California and until the law is overturned again) and I have a beautiful baby girl. My wife and I are both listed on our daughter's birth certificate as Parent 1 and Parent 2. My father is an overjoyed grandfather.

I feel so sad and angry about the restrictive laws that are still in place that keep GLBT folk from being treated just like everyone else. These laws are one of the main reasons why we won't fulfill a dream of moving to Florida.

Of course, the baby (and the hope for baby #2 ) is also preventing us from doing fun things like the ABD trip!

 

[fakereadhed]

They keep running those ads for adopting foster teens where they say you don't have to be perfect and some kid would love to put up with you. Yeah, right! Apparently that doesn't apply to everybody. And the sad thing is those kids age out of the system at 18 and are all alone.