Keeping the ashes of a loved one...

[EMom]

Not exactly the same thing, but when my father died, we got his headstone from the VA. We were told to wait a certain amount of time before putting it at the actual gravesite. The VA delivered it to our house, not the cemetery. My mother got someone (delivery guy?) to put in in her trunk because it was so heavy. She figured she could get it to the cemetery when the time came and the cemetery staff was available.

Time passed and delays happened. So she drove around with the headstone in her trunk for a fair number of months. Whenever she had someone at a store put purchases in the car trunk, they nearly had a heart attack when they looked inside and found themselves staring at a headstone. We did get a little chuckle out of it.

Eventually it wound up where it was meant to be.

 

[fortheluvofpooh]

my son was stillborn almost 5 yrs ago. I have his ashes in a beautiful box in my bedroom. I say goodnight to him every night after I say goodnight to my living children. Nothing morbid about it. Sad that you think that way.

 

[swald91]

I know a family that recently had a devastating fire & lost their only child. I know they had her cremated & I'm sure they will keep the remains with them. So sad. I'm not sure I would like the idea of it but it sounds like it's comforting to the family.

 

[swald91]

my son was stillborn almost 5 yrs ago. I have his ashes in a beautiful box in my bedroom. I say goodnight to him every night after I say goodnight to my living children. Nothing morbid about it. Sad that you think that way.

I think it's only morbid to people who have never experienced it. So sorry about your loss. No one understands this sadness unless they have gone through it.

 

[PK Disney Dork]

We have the ashes of our chocolate Lab, Sadie in our bedroom sitting on our computer desk. We had her for 17 years and after being with her until she breathed her final breath we just think to anything but keep her with us.

My youngest daughter will often sit in the room alone with her and talk to the urn. She says "Sadie gets lonely in here all by herself."...it's very sweet.

 

[bcvgal]

I have my dad's in an urn by my fireplace. Sometimes when my dh comes home he'll look over at it and ask"Jimmy what did you do today?" My dad would have thought that was funny. Seriously, I find great comfort with them here. I sometime say something to him when I walk by.

 

[HelenePA]

I have both my mom and dad's ashes on top of my computer center in the living room about 3feet above my head. I have them where they are so they can watch the kids grow up. I like having them here. My mom didn't want to be buried so that's why she was cremated my dad donated his body to science and when they were done with him they cremated what was left and sent it back to me. I dont know what I'm going to do with them when I get older. I do know I'd like to send some of my dad's ashes into space I know he'd like this. My mom not so much since she was afraid of heights. Also for my mom, my dad gave some of her ashes out to her best friends to do what they wanted with them.

 

[KristiKelly]

We have the ashes of our chocolate Lab, Sadie in our bedroom sitting on our computer desk. We had her for 17 years and after being with her until she breathed her final breath we just think to anything but keep her with us.

My youngest daughter will often sit in the room alone with her and talk to the urn. She says "Sadie gets lonely in here all by herself."...it's very sweet.

I have our dog Ike's ashes on our dresser next to a picture of him. I talk to him everytime I dust. He was our 1st child, bought him on our one year dating anniversary. Not a person but can have the same or more effect than some people.

 

[mom2taylorandemily]

My father was cremated, and mom asked all of us, 3 children and 5 grandchildren, if we would like to have any of the ashes. The 3 kids took some. My some of my dad's ashes that were given to me are in a glass jar, in my living room. I bought for both of my DDs a necklace with a charm that is an ash container, to put a small amount of my dad for my girls, we are waiting to seal it, in the event the girls want mom's added to it.

 

[mamacatnv]

My Grandmother was in a cardboard box on the piano for several years. When my Grandfather died and was buried, we put her in with him.

 

[chisnpeke]

When my great aunt died, my dad kept her ashes in our garage for a while (months or maybe a year) until he finally scattered them in the river like she requested.

 

[Disneyadore]

I did not read the whole topic but what about making a "diamond "from the ashes?.
There beautiful and you can carry you loved ones right upon your hart.

 

[minnie61650]

Not a person's ashes but DD has her pet cat ashes in a wooden box urn on her dresser.

It looks like the one below but with a photo etching of her cat Tabby who was 18 years old when he passed away.

Keeping Tabby close by gives her a lot of comfort.

 

[crz4mm2]

My DSister has our "father" in her closet.

I think you should do whatever makes you feel most comfortable.
If DH goes before me, he is going to be scattered in the back timber. He loves to hunt and we bought this place with that in mind.

I love the "diamond" idea though

I want to be scattered in Hawaii. I love Hawaii.

 

[goofy4tink]

Not a person's ashes but DD has her pet cat ashes in a wooden box urn on her dresser.

It looks like the one below but with a photo etching of her cat Tabby who was 18 years old when he passed away.

Keeping Tabby close by gives her a lot of comfort.

Mom is in a very similar 'container', but without the photo or inscription!! She is in our living room on a bookshelf. My dd, 15, goes over and 'talks' to her Meme every so often. We all felt that Meme would want to be with us for all those family occasions. So, there she sits.