Kat and Torin - 12/28/10 Escape SBP

asouthernbelle

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I am not a fussy PJ person. the facts will expand depending on my mood and if i feel like typing but here goes

Travis and I met 4 years ago, I was in high school and he was in college. Eventually, Travis began telling me desires and thoughts, and over time, we realized that Travis's one desire was to become female. Torin (her new name) was adopted shortly after, and now we are a same-sex couple. I always say I followed the heart and soul, and not the body.

Our engagement was more out of - well we probably should get married after this long and before you have to go to your job in alaska 6 months out of the year.

so we picked out rings and decided innovative ways to give them to each other. Torin put my ring in the box, wrapped it in a giant ball of string, and tossed it by my feet. When I started to throw it to the cat, I was advised I might want to investigate further. It was fitting being my name is Kat, and well I thought it was cute.

On christmas day, I inflated 50 balloons, and Torin had to pop them one by one to find which one had the real ring. I had put little rings and toys from vending machines so that it wouldnt be easy.

Then we went to find wedding rings. I walked into Tiffany, thinking I would get a one mm band of diamonds and leave it at that. 2mm didnt look right no matter what I did. I hadnt decided on a one mm yet, then just for fun, I asked to try on this huge 3mm shared setting band. I saw the two rings together, and almost fainted. And no, I am NOT kidding. I was mezmerized, and It then went home with me. (the rings can be seen on the engagement ring forum)

Torin has yet to find hers --picky picky!

Dress shopping!

I purchased a Maggie Sottero for my fall wedding (the paper) and then an Allure gown for the DFTW. its posted under the post your wedding dress thread. I found a sixpence for my shoe at davids bridal, along with a semi belle dress for one of my bridesmaids, and a sexy mermaid cocktail for another bridesmaid.

The general plan:
Over fall break we will go to a state with same sex marriage rights and get married. We will then have the wedding in december.

Guests:

four of our best friends and their other halves will be there, along with at least 5 parent/grandparents. depending, there might be up to 25 if the whole family comes, but being it is so close to xmas, I doubt we will have many past that.

Colors/theme:

The wedding is beauty and the beast theme. colors are champagne, ivory and red.
Each bridesmaid is allowed to wear a different dress provided its the same red. I wanted them to be able to wear it after the ceremony.
To celebrate Torin's italian heritage, we are having our reception at the Venetian Room, at the Royal Caribe. they have a beautiful grand staircase, and lovely decor. Very good food. with appetizer, salad/soup, main course, and dessert, its about 100 per guest.

Thats all for today! - sweet dreams~!
 
Welcome to the boards! Definitely glad your cat didn't get that ball of string after all!
 
I am apparently a bride on drugs or something. People who arent getting married for 2 years are in a flurry doing all sorts of random things. this is my current checklist
1. makeup and spa arranged
2. get Torin's dress
3. find shoes and jewelry
4. arrange the hotel
5. make the dinner reservation
6. make sure i tell my planner how many people are going.
7. sign the contract and give them money.
8. send out the invites

Am i crazy? it seems this simple. we chose disney because I didnt have time to plan a wedding. and thats what they promised.


*I LOVE AMANDA DEARLY* BUT SHE COMES UP WITH 90 MILLION LITTLE THINGS ( you arent supposed to tell me theres more stuff to do! :P)

my brides maids have free reign. i dont care to have them look like little barbies all in a row. they are all beautifully different, and i love them like that! i want to be surrounded with fun and personality on my wedding day, with the most kick *** friends ever! And my new family! I suppose I date an Italian, so there really isnt much formal going on anyway, our wedding will be a big party. I hope and pray that my grandmother will attend.

random thoughts at 5 40 am.
 
can i get a list of things i should care/ask/think about? your thing about allergies I had not thought of.

im a bride who has her head continuously in books. I need some help! and you seem to have time/advice/knowledge/have thought about this?
 

I'm getting hitched about 3 weeks before you in the same place so if I can help at all, just let me know.

It really depends on how detailed you want things. You could get into details like the kind of hairclip your bridesmaid wears or just say "wear red/blue/pink etc". With an Escape wedding, we're set to a basic frame but we can accessorize the hell out of it lol.

Most of my decisions/changes were based on money, do we make or buy invitations What kind of hotel? Can we afford characters/the photo package. We had our basic must haves (the Christmas Party) as our foundation and we're building on that.

From reading your above post, just as a reminder, if you have more than 20 people (including you and your DF), Disney will charge you $500 for having an extra 5 people (then add on for the champagne/cider). I don't know if they have another charge for over 25+, but if it's 1k, it might be worth looking at a Wishes.

If you really want things to think about:
Where will your guests stay/how will they get around (simple answer, there are buses that go from the hotels to a park and then to Boardwalk. Expensive answer: purchase limos/motor coaches)
What kind of flowers will you have: You get a basic $ allotment. We're doing silk flowers so we're going to use that allotment for decorations.
Flavors/style of cake: on the disneyweddings.com site is the basic styles & flavors, but you can buy up and get fancy.

A great book to get, it's about $8-$9 is the PassPorter's Wedding Guide, written by LurkyLoo. It gives all of the details, prices and gives ideas of things to do (and it's honest about prices, ie it tells just how much time you get with the characters or the carriage).


Your plans sound awesome, all you can do is worth within yourselves and have a wonderful time :)
 
Am i crazy? it seems this simple. we chose disney because I didnt have time to plan a wedding. and thats what they promised.


*I LOVE AMANDA DEARLY* BUT SHE COMES UP WITH 90 MILLION LITTLE THINGS ( you arent supposed to tell me theres more stuff to do! :P)


Hi and welcome! I'm looking forward to reading more about your event.

About the quote above... but its fun! Planning is super fun. It is probably the only time in my life where I will plan something so elaborate and fun. Fun fun fun fun! :woohoo:
 
Well, we own 410 points per year with the disney vacation club, so housing is taken care of. guests will have their own cars, but i will rent limos for the reception/wedding day etc.

i am allergic to half of the planet, so i need to take care of that. And i think i am going to bum off of Ms Etsy (ME) for anything else. I take care of the family, household, bills, school and household schedule, so i will make itty bitty posts now and again. What kind of flower budget do we get? i thought it was just for the flowers for the brides? :grouphug:
 
With the Escape wedding you get a bouquet and boutonniere. But what they actually do is give you a certain dollar amount (for example 100 for the bouquet and 10 for boutonniere). If you don't want those flowers, you can either lose the money or put it towards another floral arrangement.

With all the outside responsibilities, I love having a PJ. I can throw random links in, pictures, ideas and they are all in one place :)
 
i thought i would post some elements. the link is to the dress i will be wearing to the license signing in massachutses (sp?) . since the transformation will cause us to be a lesbian couple, it needs to be signed in a state that acknowledges both marriages.

http://www.maggiesottero.com/dress.aspx?pageSize=100&page=2&style=A3283

this is the dress i will wear in my DFTW! its Allure i believe.
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the ring (s) 1.32 ct center stone, 0.91 ct in the wedding band. platinum . tiffany and co.
G VS1, Excellent

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we are still looking for her a wedding band. at the moment she has a 18kt white gold 3 mm band with blue and pink sapphires and diamonds in rotation.
this computer doesnt have a memory card input, so i will post it later.

the save the dates: please note: we are environmentalists: she does marine biology and i do botany, they suit us well.


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we will look for invitations around april 28th when we get our time.

hopefully they will be champagne paper, with gold ribbon, and gold wording, or champagne with red ribbon and gold wording.


any ideas as to a good reverend for a transgender-lesbian wedding?
i thought about a methodist one, being i am methodist and we accepted homosexuals in the church a while ago.


she is partly transformed as of now, and although quite feminine, doesnt want many pictures to remind her she wasnt fully transformed. ideas?

also, my princess is Belle. should i get pics in front of Cinderella's castle? it feels traitorish and doesnt suit my wedding theme. on the other hand, i dont like the world showcase photo shoots. they seem so plain to me. i did think about the resort bridal portrait.

for other lesbian couples, did they include your boquets as they would a boquet and boutineer for normal couples or did you have to pay extra?
 
here is the total guest list :

1. Me!
2. Torin
3. Kathleen - friend of ours and maid of honor for Torin
4. Mike - kathleens other half
5. Helena - my maid of honor
6. Jade - my bridesmaid
7. Eddie - Jades partner
8. Nancy - bridesmaid
9. Andy - nancys husband
10. Lillian - my grandmother
11. Vickie - Torins mother
12. Paul III- Torins father
13. Sandra- Torins grandmother on mothers side
14. Roy - Sandras husband
15. Paul Jr - Torins grandfather on fathers side
16. Pat - Paul Jr. s partner.
17. Pam - Torin aunt
18. Nikki - pams daughter
19. Jason - pams son
20. julie- torins other aunt
21. brian - julies husband
22. makenzie - julies 5 year old
23. aj - julies son. 11
24. kurestin - julies eldest daughter.
25. guest for my grandmother.


we just told the whole family that torin is transgender, so we might have pam or julies family drop out if not the kids. hopefully my grandmother will come, she has doctors orders to stay home but i hope she will make an exception.
 
I have to tell you that I love all of your plans so far. Your dress and rings are beautiful!!

I too am a Belle lover. We looked at the castle and we looked at it because everyone convinced me that its more "the castle" instead of Cinderellas Castle. Same with the chocolate cake topper - everyone said its the castle and doesn't have as much to do with the princess. So you could def do pictures and think of it as being the castle and the magic of disney and not cinderella.

On a side note - you know they are putting the Beasts castle in Fantasland right? I asked if we could buy the package and hold off and do it when the B&B castle is finished. Our WP never got an answer back -but it could be a cool idea.
 
Your plans so far sound great.

On a side note - you know they are putting the Beasts castle in Fantasland right? I asked if we could buy the package and hold off and do it when the B&B castle is finished. Our WP never got an answer back -but it could be a cool idea.

Where in Fantasyland is the Beasts Castle going to be? I'm intrigued! Wonder how long it will take to be finished?
 
i love the idea! when we have our second wedding/vow renewal 10 years from now, we can get pictures in front of it hopefully!:cutie:
 














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