Karma :)!!! I love it. My ex got his!

[lindakmonty]

Ok, I left my ex in 2003 when my ds was almost 3. It took us years to conceive...and when I was pregnant he CHANGED! He did a total 180. I don't understand it. He didn't even take us home from the hospital. He became an alcoholic, possibly in drugs...abusive...you name it. To me and my ds. I gave him almost 3 years to get help or change... wasn't going to happen. So, I left and divorced him. I can't begin to tell you all the crap he did to us. We had 762k in the stock market and he hid it all! I basically left w/one of our houses, one of 6 cars, our clothes and not much more. It wasn't even close to fair to say the least. And while we were together, there were times I brought much more than him home so its not like I ever depended on him at all.... I had to go buy everything over...he didn't pay any child support during our 2 year divorce!! My attorneys fault!! He would have paid over 17k in that time period! Anyway...we divorced and both remarried... he married an attorney who has put her nose in every way possible. She would show up at his preschool w/brownies and stuff...and the teacher would throw them away. they would make fun of her !!!They would inform me that on his days he'd come to school w/ same clothes on again etc! She left him outside in the parking lot alone!! He had NOTHING to do w/ds until he was 4 1/2 when they started dating b/c she has a ds2.... my ds is their babysitter...I'm not stupid! My ex and I did work for the same company for the past 7 years until he quit last month... he'd brag to everyone about his wife being a lawyer... well ... his brother and my mom talk all the time...and he told her last night that her practice is going under. I can't help but laugh!!! She thinks she is SO GREAT!!!She makes sure everyone around her knows she's a lawyer!!! We live in a small town!! She is telling my ex that her help stole from her... if that were true, don't you think a LAWYER would report it???? AHHHH I love it! I just had to share. I'm sure all of you w/ex's that are difficult like mine know how it is! Nothing is going to ruin my day today. I can't help but just giggle! It is hilarious.

 

[we3disneygo]

 

[lisajl]

Karma is such a sweet thing...

 

[Pugdog007]

nice

 

[Miss Jasmine]

I don't see what is to great. For the sake of your DS, don't you want his father's life to be stabalized? I think it is bad taste to be so happy over someone else's misfortune.

I would never wish any of this would happen to my husband's ex.

Karma...you better keep it in mind.

 

[Cool-Beans]

Being happy when someone who wronged you has some type of misfortune is very human...but something you might want to keep to yourself.

I think it is one of those emotions we're supposed to rise above. (Been there.)

 

[lindakmonty]

I don't see what is to great. For the sake of your DS, don't you want his father's life to be stabalized? I think it is bad taste to be so happy over someone else's misfortune.

I would never wish any of this would happen to my husband's ex.

Karma...you better keep it in mind.

If it were anyone else on the planet it would be different! This woman has kidnapped my child from school! She has left him unattended in a school parking lot 3 doors from a child molestor and the teachers reported it to me, he has come home telling me how he walked out on their pond that was "frozen" unattended at age 4. It is spring fed so it doesn't freeze!!! I could go on and on! She lets my ex give her son beer because he doesn't sleep well at night! COME ON! His own parents will not speak to him because everything he's done. His brother lived with him and he kicked his brother out and he had only that day to move because he wanted her to move in.... no notice at all! this isn't a decent man to say the least! It's not like he's broke... remember he has our 762k that WE both worked hard to save! He deserves everything HE gets! This man wouldn't even watch our son while he was ASLEEP so I could go to the grocery store alone! NOTHING! he is a total low life. His own parents don't want him to have any visitation rights... his life will never be stabilized and if you can't do that w/over a million in assets... then $ isn't the problem!

 

[cardaway]

I don't see what is to great. For the sake of your DS, don't you want his father's life to be stabalized? I think it is bad taste to be so happy over someone else's misfortune.

I would never wish any of this would happen to my husband's ex.

Karma...you better keep it in mind.

Exactly.

If anything this has me wanting to hear the other side.

 

[tiggersmom2]

I don't see what is to great. For the sake of your DS, don't you want his father's life to be stabalized? I think it is bad taste to be so happy over someone else's misfortune.

I would never wish any of this would happen to my husband's ex.

Karma...you better keep it in mind.

Very well said..I agree.

 

[Pugdog007]

So share with us - how exactly do you save $762k before the age of 30?

 

[Iott Family]

This post is coming from a divorced mother who is now remarried so i understand the angst you must be feeling BUT dont wish bad or gloat on the bad misfortune of others it only comes back to haunt you and makes you a very petty person.Even if it is your ex or their SO. Im not terribly religious but I do hold to the golden rules and to be christian is not to wish or gloat on others.....face it ,we all live in a glass house and he who casts the first stone........

Besides all this do unto others and la da da.....why weigh your life and your emotions down with this hate. You should give your life a lighter feel and just let go. He moved on, you moved on-or you should move on and so it didnt work out and you are angry in the end most will say so what!Let go and take the life you have and have a party.

JMHO!

 

[phorsenuf]

If it were anyone else on the planet it would be different! This woman has kidnapped my child from school! She has left him unattended in a school parking lot 3 doors from a child molestor and the teachers reported it to me, he has come home telling me how he walked out on their pond that was "frozen" unattended at age 4. It is spring fed so it doesn't freeze!!! I could go on and on! She lets my ex give her son beer because he doesn't sleep well at night! COME ON! His own parents will not speak to him because everything he's done. His brother lived with him and he kicked his brother out and he had only that day to move because he wanted her to move in.... no notice at all! this isn't a decent man to say the least! It's not like he's broke... remember he has our 762k that WE both worked hard to save! He deserves everything HE gets! This man wouldn't even watch our son while he was ASLEEP so I could go to the grocery store alone! NOTHING! he is a total low life. His own parents don't want him to have any visitation rights... his life will never be stabilized and if you can't do that w/over a million in assets... then $ isn't the problem!

No offense, but if they are putting your son in so much danger and he's that bad of a person shouldn't you be reviewing visitation rights?

 

[Chicago526]

In the OP's case, I wouldn't gloat, exactly. But I'd walk around with a smirk on my face for a day or two...hey, I'm only human!

And I agree, if ex-DH and his wife are taking such poor care of your son, you need to start to document this stuff and give it to your lawyer, then take it to the judge. If serious life-threatening stuff is happing, you need to report him to the athorities.

 

[palmtreegirl]

I don't see what is to great. For the sake of your DS, don't you want his father's life to be stabalized? I think it is bad taste to be so happy over someone else's misfortune.

I would never wish any of this would happen to my husband's ex.

Karma...you better keep it in mind.

I agree.

 

[S. C.]

In the OP's case, I wouldn't gloat, exactly. But I'd walk around with a smirk on my face for a day or two...hey, I'm only human!

And I agree, if ex-DH and his wife are taking such poor care of your son, you need to start to document this stuff and give it to your lawyer, then take it to the judge. If serious life-threatening stuff is happing, you need to report him to the athorities.

My thoughts exactly. Sounds like he needs supervised parenting time.

 

[laura001]

I think the OP was just trying to share her little smirk and giggle that she is feeling today. I can't believe that anyone who is "human" wouldn 't feel just a little after hearing what she has heard. If the OP was running all over gloating to death, I could see that that would be overboard, if you can't share your little bit of happiness with other DIS'ers , who can you share with?

 

[LindaR]

As a long-time divorced woman.........I think you need to focus your time, energy and thoughts on your child. This anger is not healthy for you OR your son and your ex IS the father of your child. Don't make your child choose who he can talk about and love.

If you LET your ex have the 762K, then that is YOUR fault............sounds like there's an untold story here......

 

[lindakmonty]

Yes...a total smirk... I am the only female here working w/about 60 guys... they've both known us for the past 7 years. No one liked him...they know the whole situation and they think its funny too... they were here when I'd come to work w/knots and bruises!! I'm sure in a day or two it'll be over... Yes, I have documented EVERY visitation from DAY 1...every conversation, everything you can imagine!!! I have all the police reports, all the charles schwab paperwork showing what we had... someday if ds wants to see it, it's there... proof in black and white! I copied it to show those who doubted that we had 762k... you're right it was $761,802.02 but who's counting... I don't know how to make it where I can post it other than taking a pix w/my dig. camera and posting it like a picture... but maybe tomorrow... I don't like being called a liar... and my grandfather is a preacher...so I know..... I'm just human...he deserves reality! He told his brother that he already regrets marrying her...but that's their problem

And after fighting w/attorneys and him for 2 years I decided its NOT worth fighting over. He moved it from acct. to acct... and was not paying child support at all. It got to where it wasn't worth fighting over because he would get his in the end...and he IS... I have shown his parents all they've asked to see...and they are going to make it right... so I'm not worried. They've taken him out of their will and everything. I've pm'd attorneys on here during this and they basically said I was sol too...w/out acct #'s when they move it... you just have to keep fighting in court... so..now w/my dh... our money is completely separate.. he went through a similar situation...unless you've been through it it's hard to imagine.

Again, it is hard to prove lots of things... especially when all you have is the word of a 5 year old. All I can do is document it, take pictures of anything that is visible and wait til the attorney thinks we have enough to make it all supervised...Its not as easy as you think. You have to sit there helpless not knowing what might happen to your child this weekend! But he's in NJ right now so he won't get him this weekend! Shew!!!!

 

[MaryAnnDVC]

My mother gloated about my sister's ex having marital problems (2nd marriage). It really annoyed me; first, he divorced my sister for very good reasons, and 2nd, you'd think my mother's priority would be wanting a good solid happy home for her grandchildren, since they weren't getting it from my sister.

And I agree...if your ex is THAT bad, I'd be reporting it if I were you. Why are you so surprised about the new wife not reporting "the help" for damaging the law practice, IF in fact she didn't (as if that proves that's not really what happened), yet what have you done to protect your own child? Especially if HIS PARENTS don't think he should have visitation!

 

[grimley1968]

you're right it was $761,802.02 but who's counting...

Well, I'm not counting it, but it looks like you are, right down to the penny, in front of approximately 100,000 other DISers (but who's counting).

Who has called you a liar? I don't see where anyone in here has done that.

Like others, I feel that a) it's bad form to take pleasure in someone else's misfortune, especially when they are your child's parent, b) you need to take care of yourself and your kids and not focus on the ex, c) if they have done all these horrible things to you and your kid, you need to be reporting it to appropriate authorities, as the DIS can do absolutely nothing about that.

You may say you "love it", but I think it's pretty sad that you "love" that something bad is happening to the father of your boy. Regardless of how badly those people may have acted, it's disturbing to see someone so obsessed about someone else's misery. Remember, the best revenge is not taking anger out on someone, but living well.