Karma :)!!! I love it. My ex got his!

[ChrisnSteph]

I don't see what is to great. For the sake of your DS, don't you want his father's life to be stabalized? I think it is bad taste to be so happy over someone else's misfortune.

I would never wish any of this would happen to my husband's ex.

Karma...you better keep it in mind.

Well said. What's with the throwing away of brownies at yours son's school? What is that teaching your little boy? I can understand your feelings, but that's just spiteful.

 

[JudicialTyranny]

(mental note-do not just "quick claim" property to someone-make them re-finance it in their name only).

Just an aside - it is a "quit claim" (not "quick")...

 

[lindakmonty]

Well said. What's with the throwing away of brownies at yours son's school? What is that teaching your little boy? I can understand your feelings, but that's just spiteful.

The teachers did, not me... they saw me taking my ds to school and picking him up for 4 years and know the two of us very well, then all of a sudden this GUY shows up stating he's his dad and his wife starts taking her son there too... they had no clue who these people were and knew they have never been part of his life... she was bringing in brownies for a halloween party and the teacher threw them away her response was" I don't know that lady, and she's not his mom!" and she's right. Then, she mocked her and put her hands on her hips and said" well, I'm a lawyer" they cant stand her because she was interrupting his class everyday to stop and say "hi"... they feel that it is not her place, he is not her child. If THEY feel that way, that should show ya something!

She also took donuts on his birthday, and they threw them away too... they see the things she does and they don't like her. She brings donuts for the kids, but she sends my son to school w/the same clothes that he wore from my house the day before. Or if he did change...he's had his pajamas under his clothes... all kinds of things...

and I posted what he took financially to show it's not like they'll be eating ramen noodles!! I just don't think she has any clients, and wont even more so since the laws changed...

 

[jtnsami]

I think the OP was just trying to share her little smirk and giggle that she is feeling today. I can't believe that anyone who is "human" wouldn 't feel just a little after hearing what she has heard. If the OP was running all over gloating to death, I could see that that would be overboard, if you can't share your little bit of happiness with other DIS'ers , who can you share with?

ITA. What he did came around to bite him in the @$%! and as far as gloating . Sounds like OP was living a nightmare to begin with. So OP, if you are giggling today .

 

[inaminute]

Sounds like your son is paying a huge price for the way the adults in his life are behaving. Would you really stoop to showing him the things you are documenting about his father? Whether he asks to see it or whether you show it to him, the information will be hurtful. Do you dislike your son so much that you'd willingly hurt him in that way? Keep the info for your lawyer, but never let your son see it.

I'd also reconsider a school where the teachers feel free to make fun of the children's parents/step-parents. Why throw away brownies? How did your son feel about that? He brought the treat, and the school threw it out. Not good. I'm surprised that the school hasn't reported the neglect of your son. I thought they were legally obligated to do so? Were I in your shoes, I'd consider reporting the shool for not reporting it.

Well, I'm glad you're happy that your exes wifes business is going under. I don't understand why you'd be happy about it, though. It just means she has an opportunity to come back bigger and better than ever. She's still a lawyer. The only thing changing is that she's no longer working for herself. She could probably easily become a partner somewhere else--making three or four times a much money as she was on her own. Losing her business could be the best thing to ever happen to her.

 

[ChrisnSteph]

The teachers did, not me... they saw me taking my ds to school and picking him up for 4 years and know the two of us very well, then all of a sudden this GUY shows up stating he's his dad and his wife starts taking her son there too... they had no clue who these people were and knew they have never been part of his life... she was bringing in brownies for a halloween party and the teacher threw them away her response was" I don't know that lady, and she's not his mom!" and she's right. Then, she mocked her and put her hands on her hips and said" well, I'm a lawyer" they cant stand her because she was interrupting his class everyday to stop and say "hi"... they feel that it is not her place, he is not her child. If THEY feel that way, that should show ya something!

She also took donuts on his birthday, and they threw them away too... they see the things she does and they don't like her. She brings donuts for the kids, but she sends my son to school w/the same clothes that he wore from my house the day before. Or if he did change...he's had his pajamas under his clothes... all kinds of things...

I find this whole thing rather disturbing. I feel sorry for your son that's caught up in the middle of all this.

 

[minkydog]

Why on earth would you keep this for your DS and how could seeing it possibly benefit him? If your ex is as big of a scumbag as you say, he'll prove that to your DS by his own actions.

I agree. Your ex will do it for you.

OP, My mom has spent the last 30+years hating my father. I'll grant you, the man was a useless, abusive snake who never did anything for his kids. He left her with NO house, a broken down car, and five teenagers. After he left(1976) our lives got a lot better except for one small thing--my mother's HATRED for my father. She nurtured and fed it through the years and let us know that it was unacceptable to talk about Dad or have anything positive to say about him. So we shut him out of our lives for 30yrs.

It came back to bite her last year. He was dying from lung cancer, slowly strangling,and had days to live. I became his primary caregiver at the end and through God's grace, he & I were able to make peace. Instead of helping me deal with my pain & grief, Mom took every opportunity to gloat at his misfortune, even saying she wished he'd die horribly(she got her wish.) It left an indelible mark on our relatinoship. At a time when she could have risen above and been a "good guy" all she was thinking about was evening the score. I can forgive the attitude, but I don't think I can ever trust her with my true feelings again.

I won't take away your small happiness at your ex getting a taste of bad news, but I think it is very obnoxious for someone to gloat over another's misfortune. Let's just hope Karma doesn't come looking for you!

 

[Magickndm]

She also took donuts on his birthday, and they threw them away too... they see the things she does and they don't like her.

The fact this amuses you just seems petty. I can honestly say as a divorced mom with a remarried ex, if his wife actually cared enough to bring something to school, I would be thrilled.
The other abusive things you have described do seem bad, but also sounds like a few sour grapes could be mixed in there.
I hope for your son you can all grow up before it's too late.

 

[lindakmonty]

Sounds like your son is paying a huge price for the way the adults in his life are behaving. Would you really stoop to showing him the things you are documenting about his father? Whether he asks to see it or whether you show it to him, the information will be hurtful. Do you dislike your son so much that you'd willingly hurt him in that way? Keep the info for your lawyer, but never let your son see it.

I'd also reconsider a school where the teachers feel free to make fun of the children's parents/step-parents. Why throw away brownies? How did your son feel about that? He brought the treat, and the school threw it out. Not good. I'm surprised that the school hasn't reported the neglect of your son. I thought they were legally obligated to do so? Were I in your shoes, I'd consider reporting the shool for not reporting it.

Well, I'm glad you're happy that your exes wifes business is going under. I don't understand why you'd be happy about it, though. It just means she has an opportunity to come back bigger and better than ever. She's still a lawyer. The only thing changing is that she's no longer working for herself. She could probably easily become a partner somewhere else--making three or four times a much money as she was on her own. Losing her business could be the best thing to ever happen to her.

My son didn't bring a treat...she just showed up with them... telling the teacher that "they" had worked so hard on them she thought she had to bring them in... and the teacher knows the schedule and knows he was not there...

I took him out of that school because of all the things they did and he now goes to a private sitter where he is safe and can learn!

 

[cardaway]

IMO the worst thing divorcing/divorced parents to their children is involve them in the battles between each other. Very few, if any, things need to be told to them. Even when they do it should be told to them in a way that removes emotion and personal issues between the parents as much as humanly possible.

It tears the kids up when each parent rips into the other. I know from experience.

 

[Miss Jasmine]

IMO the worst thing divorcing/divorced parents to their children is involve them in the battles between each other. Very few, if any, things need to be told to them. Even when they do it should be told to them in a way that removes emotion and personal issues between the parents as much as humanly possible.

This is so true.

And OP remember that when you put down your ex you are putting down your DS's father. And your DS is 1/2 his father. Kids take that as you are putting THEM down. Please never, ever, ever show your DS those papers you are saving.

I find this whole thing rather disturbing. I feel sorry for your son that's caught up in the middle of all this.

I also agree with this. I feel so bad for the OP's son.

 

[Skywalker]

Tell your mother to stop reporting what your ex's brother tells her. You are way too wrapped up in what goes on in their lives. And I also don't believe the teachers would respond that way without a little bad-mouthing and prodding from you to mistrust the new wife.

 

[barkley]

i would hope the op would have her own affairs in realy great order-if absent dad has not relinquished nor a court has severed parental rights-if god forbid she became incapacitated such that she could not care for the child (or worse) he will be number 1 on the list for child placement. i can't imagine a child going to live in an environment that both his mom and prior teachers have mocked/disdained-it would truly be an emotional tragedy.

 

[Iott Family]

This is a thread that should never have been started. Its like a bad train wreck.....right off its tracks!

I feel so bad for the OP's son. To be caught in the middle of this petty triangle of Mom, Dad and Step-mom..........

Again....like one poster mentioned we are getting only one side here and the OP seems to be adament to make HER point known. If I had earned 762K and was such a big wig I wouldnt spend my day here gloating and posting but out there turning that big wheel to earn another 762K. As it is here, we are simple folk. Reading all this just turns me green with nausea and not envy. Ughhh.....I hope the OP's son finds sunshine in his life because his parents are too busy making storm clouds hang on his horizon.

 

[lindakmonty]

Tell your mother to stop reporting what your ex's brother tells her. You are way too wrapped up in what goes on in their lives. And I also don't believe the teachers would respond that way without a little bad-mouthing and prodding from you to mistrust the new wife.

I didn't know the woman... they're adults and they make their own decisions. She wasn't going to give 16 kids food from a woman that shows up and claims "I'm his step mom and I'm a lawyer"... his teacher told me about days later only because she had the pan and wanted to see if I would give it back. She wasn't going to give homemade food to kids from someone she didn't know! For all she knew they could have had something in them! I didn't tell them anything...because I have to drop my son off at 6:30am and the teachers arent even there yet...

 

[Holly]

You had nearly a million dollars invested and your ex somehow managed to hide that amount of money?

Originally Posted by ChrisnSteph
I find this whole thing rather disturbing. I feel sorry for your son that's caught up in the middle of all this.

I agree.

 

[lil mermaid]

OP, it sounds like you may have had the world's worst divorce lawyer.

I agree with some of the previous posters - the OP's poor little boy is caught in the middle and it is very sad.

 

[willis37862]

Bah...go ahead and smirk if you want!! Anyone who says they never secretly felt a little good when someone who hurt them had some misfortune...well, I guess you are going straight to heaven.

And she had to say how much she made because somebody was calling her out on it. (and no, it wasn't "just a question.")

Although I forgot, the people on this boards are saints. (most of them )

ITA Do we all practice what we preach out there? You have never felt happy when something bad happened to someone bad or someone who had it coming? Sorry but I don't believe that, no one is perfect. And if the biggest flaw I have is being a little happy when the jerk gets it in the end then I can live with that.

 

[ChrisnSteph]

I didn't know the woman... they're adults and they make their own decisions. She wasn't going to give 16 kids food from a woman that shows up and claims "I'm his step mom and I'm a lawyer"... his teacher told me about days later only because she had the pan and wanted to see if I would give it back. She wasn't going to give homemade food to kids from someone she didn't know! For all she knew they could have had something in them! I didn't tell them anything...because I have to drop my son off at 6:30am and the teachers arent even there yet...

Good grief. I'm having trouble buying this whole thing. For one, all the teacher had to do is call you and confirm who the woman was bringing the brownies/treats into the class. Not only that, but I'm sure your son could also tell the teacher who she was, obviously he knows her. And how can the teacher say that they can't serve the brownies because she's a stranger? Obviously the teacher knows that she's picking your son up/dropping him off, allegedly in dirty clothes, so she has to know her. Furthermore, how is this woman getting on the campus or onto school grounds? Doesn't the school check out people before they show up in classrooms? And let's give the school the benefit of the doubt and say they tossed the brownies because they weren't sure of who they were coming from. How do you explain the throwing away of the donuts on your sons birthday? That's just sad, sad, sad. You shouldn't involve your son's teachers in your personal vendetta against your ex. School should be a place where your son can get away from it all. You spend way too much time involving yourself in your ex's affairs. I agree with another poster that we're only getting one very biased side of the story here - something tells me that there's a lot more to it. You need to let it go, and be happy that your son's dad and step-parent are even involved. I'd have been a happy camper when I was a little girl if my step-parent had brought me treats to school on my birthday.

 

[Miss Jasmine]

OP, it sounds like you may have had the world's worst divorce lawyer.

Maybe the Ex's new wife was her attorney. That would explain the animosity.