Karma :)!!! I love it. My ex got his!

[momrek06]

OP, My mom has spent the last 30+years hating my father. I'll grant you, the man was a useless, abusive snake who never did anything for his kids. He left her with NO house, a broken down car, and five teenagers. After he left(1976) our lives got a lot better except for one small thing--my mother's HATRED for my father. She nurtured and fed it through the years and let us know that it was unacceptable to talk about Dad or have anything positive to say about him. So we shut him out of our lives for 30yrs.

It came back to bite her last year. He was dying from lung cancer, slowly strangling,and had days to live. I became his primary caregiver at the end and through God's grace, he & I were able to make peace. Instead of helping me deal with my pain & grief, Mom took every opportunity to gloat at his misfortune, even saying she wished he'd die horribly(she got her wish.) It left an indelible mark on our relatinoship. At a time when she could have risen above and been a "good guy" all she was thinking about was evening the score. I can forgive the attitude, but I don't think I can ever trust her with my true feelings again.

I won't take away your small happiness at your ex getting a taste of bad news, but I think it is very obnoxious for someone to gloat over another's misfortune. Let's just hope Karma doesn't come looking for you!

WOW! I think this POST is really some serious food for thought, OP. I just finished reading the entire THREAD and QUOTED it as I would hope you would read it again.
I am not here to "beat up on you", OP. BUT so many of us on the DIS are feeling really bad for your DS. (An you as well)! But unfortunately children do NOT pick their parents like you PICKED DS' DAD.
Pick the "battles" you want in life BUT do not throw your DS into any of them. He will have his own battles to deal with as he grows up...he does not need to deal with yours as well.
Like mickeymousemom has said..."get on with your life"....live and learn....in today's world it is survival of the fitness...STAY fit, OP. Move on and upward.

 

[Beth76]

Sorry. The moderators and webmasters have day jobs to pay the bills and sometimes there isn't someone here to read every single thing posted the minute it goes up.

Sorry. Really. Not meant as a criticism. Just an observation. It shouldn't have been put up there in the first place.

 

[Lyn5]

Sorry. Really. Not meant as a criticism. Just an observation. It shouldn't have been put up there in the first place.

Well, to be honest, I put in a request to the Mods to edit the post because of the name/info that was posted...and in less than a couple minutes it was addressed. I am not sure if anyone else requested this also, but I thought a couple minutes (from when I put in my request) was very fast.

 

[annegal]

:. We had 762k in the stock market and he hid it all! I basically left w/one of our houses, one of 6 cars, :

I hope this is a wake up call to anyone reading this thread. You sound like you were almost millionaire-if you add in the cost of 6 homes.


All stocks and mutual funds DH & I have are in both our names.There's no way one of us can "hide " or steal it without the other's siggy.

 

[JerseyJanice]

Just a couple of points of order...

someday if ds wants to see it, it's there... proof in black and white! I copied it to show those who doubted that we had 762k... you're right it was $761,802.02 but who's counting... I don't know how to make it where I can post it other than taking a pix w/my dig. camera and posting it like a picture... but maybe tomorrow.

Please, please, do not post pictures of your stock statements. I can't even imagine the problems doing so could cause you. It's almost in as bad form as posting your son's teacher's name and school.

I've pm'd attorneys on here during this and they basically said I was sol too...w/out acct #'s when they move it... you just have to keep fighting in court...

I gotta say it. It just isn't smart to PM attorneys on the DIS for free legal advice in a million dollar+ divorce case. You need(ed) a good professional attorney in such a situation. Free advice isn't worth what it costs, KWIM?

You won't be the first woman in the world to get raked over in a divorce; you'll hardly be the last. The only thing that really matters after everything is said and done is your son's emotional health and mental well-being, which at his age are dependent on yours. Best of luck to you all.

 

[momof2inPA]

There's no way a husband could keep a joint asset worth almost 800k in a divorce case. It must have either been his from a settlement or from an inheritance.

 

[simpilotswife]

I don't see what is to great. For the sake of your DS, don't you want his father's life to be stabalized? I think it is bad taste to be so happy over someone else's misfortune.

I would never wish any of this would happen to my husband's ex.

Karma...you better keep it in mind.

 

[Pugdog007]

There's no way a husband could keep a joint asset worth almost 800k in a divorce case. It must have either been his from a settlement or from an inheritance.

This is what I think too but she doesn't want to answer questions about it, which is telling.

There's no way that he would have ended up with it all if part of it was her savings, as she is leading us to believe. Not buying it. Not buying that she's an incredible financial manager and managed to save this amount of money before she turned 30, as well as a horrible negotiator that managed to lose said money in a divorce, not buying that any of it was hers to begin with, not buying any of it. Doesn't add up.

 

[mom23boys]

I try to stay out of these threads, but I cannot on this one.

OP I really feel sorry for your DS. The Ex's new wife has made some mistakes, but I think it was nice of her to bring in treats. I know some schools do not allowed baked goods, but that does not seem the case.

You say her child went to the same school, why then was she not allowed to give your Ds's class the treats, they must of known her.

Also, you need a new lawyer. Boy if my DH stole money, and had all those houses and cars, you are darn sure I would get half. Also if my DH owed my $17,000 for child support I would be in my lawyers face. You either got stiffed or maybe your name was not on these things. If that was the case why not?

As I said I feel sorry for your DS, please do not drag him into this and get a new lawyer.

 

[lillygator]

This is really hard to believe.....OP, I hope you get the help you obviously need not only for your sake but your son's as well.

 

[Shugardrawers]

All those whose total B.S.ometers went off the chart in the first 30 seconds, raise your hand

 

[sajetto]

All those whose total B.S.ometers went off the chart in the first 30 seconds, raise your hand

I've been thinking about this and there is absoutely no way her ex could have "stolen' 800K. It had to be his to begin with. You don't even need a prenup when it comes to money earned and in a seperate account before the marriage or an inheritance.

 

[Missy1961]

All those whose total B.S.ometers went off the chart in the first 30 seconds, raise your hand

Count me in!

 

[Shugardrawers]

I've been thinking about this and there is absoutely no way her ex could have "stolen' 800K. It had to be his to begin with. You don't even need a prenup when it comes to money earned and in a seperate account before the marriage or an inheritance.

I'll say it out loud: I don't think this 800k even exists. People with that kind of money, 6 cars and multiple homes don't feel the need to brag about it on message boards. I don't believe teachers in pre-school would throw out something the step parent brought in simply because they knew the mother didn't like her. Especially when the step parent is already a client there. If a father is 17k behind in child support then the court is very interested in making his acquaintance. I don't believe that any mother with more than a pea for a brain would sit by and not demand her child's share of his father's income. There's a reason she's not getting it. Even if it's not considered community property, all the father's income and assets are taken into account for purposes of child support.

Sorry, I'm with the posters who say there is a whole other side to this. I think between those two sides lies the truth.

 

[phorsenuf]

I also don't think a lawyer is going to jeopordize(sp) her career being married to a man that owes that much in back child support and knows he hid that much in assets. That could come back and bite her in the butt too!

 

[MBeds]

I don't know - for some reason after reading all this - this song popped into my head:

My balony has a first name; it's O-S-C-A-R. My balony has a second name; it's M-A-Y-E-R. Oh, I love to eat it every day, and if you ask me why, I'll say, cause Oscar-Mayer has a way with B-O-L-O-G-N-A!

 

[lindakmonty]

I also don't think a lawyer is going to jeopordize(sp) her career being married to a man that owes that much in back child support and knows he hid that much in assets. That could come back and bite her in the butt too!

First of all SHE HELPED HIM DO IT!

She no longer has a career. She packed up and called it quits!

I can not believe how many people here have misquoted, totally took things out of context and have no clue what laws are here and probably have never been through a divorce... let alone had to fear for their life when they went to bed at night! When assets are in one persons name they can do whatever they want with it. That is my fault for trusting the man. Won't do that again! Another thing... don't judge someone until you've walked a mile in their moccasins!

She didn't take her son to my sons school until she saw where my son went!

Guess you people don't watch too much tv. I see people on talk shows everyday that have been through much worse that I ever have. And as far as child support until you have temporary orders, they can't do anything. I did change lawyers as well, but that didn't matter.

Oh, and a child molestor can live 3 doors from a preschool/daycare! Just not a SCHOOL.

 

[MagicalMom]

All those whose total B.S.ometers went off the chart in the first 30 seconds, raise your hand

 

[inaminute]

Guess you people don't watch too much tv.

And some people watch far too much.

All those whose total B.S.ometers went off the chart in the first 30 seconds, raise your hand

 

[phorsenuf]

First of all SHE HELPED HIM DO IT!

She no longer has a career. She packed up and called it quits!

I can not believe how many people here have misquoted, totally took things out of context and have no clue what laws are here and probably have never been through a divorce... let alone had to fear for their life when they went to bed at night! When assets are in one persons name they can do whatever they want with it. That is my fault for trusting the man. Won't do that again! Another thing... don't judge someone until you've walked a mile in their moccasins!

She didn't take her son to my sons school until she saw where my son went!

Guess you people don't watch too much tv. I see people on talk shows everyday that have been through much worse that I ever have. And as far as child support until you have temporary orders, they can't do anything. I did change lawyers as well, but that didn't matter.

Oh, and a child molestor can live 3 doors from a preschool/daycare! Just not a SCHOOL.

Did you call the BAR association to tell them that a lawyer was a helping a client hide assets in a divorce proceeding. I don't think they'd be to happy to hear that and the fact they were romantcally involved.