PrincessMo
Disney Princess
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HI everyone!! A week from now I will be landing at Orlando Airport and heading off to WDW. A week from this Wednesday is the wedding day. CRAZINESS!!!!
Anyhoo, as many of you know i had my dress fiasco last week. So, it all worked out more beautifully than could have been imagined but the whole thing was still upsetting. On top of it, i lost 15 pounds in 2 weeks just to be extra sure it would fit and it didn't anyway. Go figure. So, that was last weeks frustration #1.
On top of that, it finally came to my & my brothers attention that my fiance Michael was NOT getting a bachelor party from his best man. Now, my fiance does not get upset about too much. He mostly can let things go but this really upset him and i was beside myself. So, last week I was scrambling to find people to get together for him saturday night and talking back and forth with my brothers, etc. Well, long story short, it all worked out and about 10 guys all got together at a local bar and threw darts, shuffleboard, and of course had drinks. But, in the process i called the best man's girlfriend just to ask her how to handle this as far as calling him and inviting him to bachelor party he did not orchestrate. Well, another long story short she kept pushing me for info and in sheer frustration of the whole situation i let the cat out of the bag that i was upset and this was Andy's job (the best man).
Next day I felt awful, so i called her to apologize and she sincerely understood. But I also felt like I had a right to say something. I am not a mean person and i did not say anything mean or nasty but i was on the cranky side (for me). The next day, Andy visits me in tears that he screwed up and i was mad at him. He said he couldn't handle that. I appreciated that he stopped by and admitted he did wrong and so I have let it go. He then stepped up and brought over some board games him & Michael used to play when they were kids & took him out to dinner before heading to the bar.
So, that all ended well.
Now, Saturday.....
Michael ran out to the store in the morning and the phone rang. It was my brother & sister-in-law's house. Backstory, my brother married her about 4 years ago. At that time, i was a bridesmaid (first time as a bridesmaid). Her mother and sister refused to include my mother and I but insisted to my brother's wife that it was the other way around. Well, Kathy (SIL), yelled at my mom and me and wouldn't even listen to our side of the story. Everything has been down hill from there. She is the kind of person who thinks she talk rudely to whoever she wants and is always right. She has embarrassed me & my mom in front of family on numerous occassions. Other family members refuse to go over her house because of it. There have been too many occassions to mention specifics other than she just yells at people and makes them feel foolish and stupid for no reason.
Anyways, when i first got back from Disney World last December I called to tell my brother roy & her that I was engaged. Well, she answered the phone. I wanted to go over and talk to them about all the details but she didn't let me get that far. After dispensing the usual "oh hi, how are you?" stuff, she asked me very rudely "SO, DID YA GET ENGAGED?" I wanted to scream. She couldn't even let me say it. So, I said yes I did but i wanted to tell Roy & come see him. Well he, is not here, she said, but you can come and see me. So, i refused and said i would come another time when he was there. so, this to me, started the whole theory that she was going to be difficult about this whole thing.
Back in February, we saw them for a family birthday party. Michael (my fiance), was talking to her outside about things and she seemed very annoyed about the whole thing. Anyways, I told her then that i wanted my nephew as the ring bearer, she said well probably not, but i will think about it. She had told me a long time ago, she wanted her family down in Disney World with him for his first trip (even though they are not the disney people, we are!!).
Shortly after this, my parents made a phone call. So, of course my mom gets her on the phone. My parents called to tell them not to worry because they were gonna help to pay for their lodging & tickets. Well, Kathy proceeded to be rude with my mom about that telling her some BS that my mom didn't do anything like that for her wedding and wrong this whole wedding was, blah, blah, blah. So, the point of this section is that she had been offered way in advance money to go, OK?
So, since then she has shown no interest in the Wedding. i will be talking to her face to face about it and she will walk away. She & him told me i was weird for having all guys in the wedding party & i was missing out on stuff, BLAH, BLAH, BLAH.
Well, she called me on Saturday. At this point, her & my nephew are not going but my brother Roy is going. Now, usually she is so rude, i don't answer the phone if it is them, i just let them leave a message. So, no message was left and I thought maybe it was Roy calling about the bachelor party for Michael that night. Well, that's right, you guessed it, i got her on the phone. So, I asked her oh hi how are you, she said..."I've been better Maureen, much much better." I stupidly asked why...she proceeded to tell me she has been putting it off, and putting it off but now it is causing problems between her & her husband so she had to get something out. So, since i am stuck at this point, i ask her what is that. she asks me verbatim: "WAS IT A FAMILY CONSPIRACY OR WAS IT YOUR DECISION NOT TO HAVE ME IN YOUR WEDDING?" I told her it was mine. So, then she says: "Just to be a b****" I then said, Kathy we aren't close anymore. She then proceeded to tell me how that is all my fault cuz she told me when i was 16 not to get involved in a serious relationship and lose all my friends and BLAH BLAH BLAH. So, after her yelling at me for about 2 min's I finally yelled: Look that was michael & my decision to have only guys in the wedding so deal with it!" Then I hung up. At this point i am crying because i am upset. She then calls back, of which i did not answer. She left a message saying "oh i think we got cut off, and now you are you out, guess you don't wanna talk but that is what your family likes to do, they don't like to talk which is a shame...it's a real shame because it didn't have to be this way....good luck."
So, am i wrong but my idea of talking is not standing there being called rude names and being yelled at and not listened to anyways. Why call me when you know all the answers.
So, that was saturday. Now, I have a cold. It is like the week that wouldn't end. Tell me if i am wrong for thinking she was out of line. No where does it say THOU SHALL HAVE THY SISTER-IN-LAW IN THY WEDDING! I told her back in February when she asked me about people in the wedding, that i am only having 15 people there including the bride & groom and quite frankly wanted some people in the audience to watch. I can't have everyone stand up there. What is so wrong about that? It is the truth. She could have been a part of this wedding without standing up there. I am not begging someone to show interest in my wedding. Especially not someone who is so rude & nasty. Well, after her phone call my brother called. Just to talk about it i guess. Well, he wanted me to then call her and tell her how important it was for her to be at my wedding and to see if she would come. I started crying because i could not believe he would ask me that. Of course, i did not do that. It is almost a week before the wedding and i couldn't add her even if i wanted to (which i don't).
So, of course my whole family knows, and she is no longer welcome in our home according to my fiance.
Ok, that is all for now, just wanted to vent. Just hoping she does not show up here this week. I will call the cops.
Hugs everyone, love you all!!
Have A Disney Day!!!
Anyhoo, as many of you know i had my dress fiasco last week. So, it all worked out more beautifully than could have been imagined but the whole thing was still upsetting. On top of it, i lost 15 pounds in 2 weeks just to be extra sure it would fit and it didn't anyway. Go figure. So, that was last weeks frustration #1.
On top of that, it finally came to my & my brothers attention that my fiance Michael was NOT getting a bachelor party from his best man. Now, my fiance does not get upset about too much. He mostly can let things go but this really upset him and i was beside myself. So, last week I was scrambling to find people to get together for him saturday night and talking back and forth with my brothers, etc. Well, long story short, it all worked out and about 10 guys all got together at a local bar and threw darts, shuffleboard, and of course had drinks. But, in the process i called the best man's girlfriend just to ask her how to handle this as far as calling him and inviting him to bachelor party he did not orchestrate. Well, another long story short she kept pushing me for info and in sheer frustration of the whole situation i let the cat out of the bag that i was upset and this was Andy's job (the best man).
Next day I felt awful, so i called her to apologize and she sincerely understood. But I also felt like I had a right to say something. I am not a mean person and i did not say anything mean or nasty but i was on the cranky side (for me). The next day, Andy visits me in tears that he screwed up and i was mad at him. He said he couldn't handle that. I appreciated that he stopped by and admitted he did wrong and so I have let it go. He then stepped up and brought over some board games him & Michael used to play when they were kids & took him out to dinner before heading to the bar.
So, that all ended well.
Now, Saturday.....
Michael ran out to the store in the morning and the phone rang. It was my brother & sister-in-law's house. Backstory, my brother married her about 4 years ago. At that time, i was a bridesmaid (first time as a bridesmaid). Her mother and sister refused to include my mother and I but insisted to my brother's wife that it was the other way around. Well, Kathy (SIL), yelled at my mom and me and wouldn't even listen to our side of the story. Everything has been down hill from there. She is the kind of person who thinks she talk rudely to whoever she wants and is always right. She has embarrassed me & my mom in front of family on numerous occassions. Other family members refuse to go over her house because of it. There have been too many occassions to mention specifics other than she just yells at people and makes them feel foolish and stupid for no reason.
Anyways, when i first got back from Disney World last December I called to tell my brother roy & her that I was engaged. Well, she answered the phone. I wanted to go over and talk to them about all the details but she didn't let me get that far. After dispensing the usual "oh hi, how are you?" stuff, she asked me very rudely "SO, DID YA GET ENGAGED?" I wanted to scream. She couldn't even let me say it. So, I said yes I did but i wanted to tell Roy & come see him. Well he, is not here, she said, but you can come and see me. So, i refused and said i would come another time when he was there. so, this to me, started the whole theory that she was going to be difficult about this whole thing.
Back in February, we saw them for a family birthday party. Michael (my fiance), was talking to her outside about things and she seemed very annoyed about the whole thing. Anyways, I told her then that i wanted my nephew as the ring bearer, she said well probably not, but i will think about it. She had told me a long time ago, she wanted her family down in Disney World with him for his first trip (even though they are not the disney people, we are!!).
Shortly after this, my parents made a phone call. So, of course my mom gets her on the phone. My parents called to tell them not to worry because they were gonna help to pay for their lodging & tickets. Well, Kathy proceeded to be rude with my mom about that telling her some BS that my mom didn't do anything like that for her wedding and wrong this whole wedding was, blah, blah, blah. So, the point of this section is that she had been offered way in advance money to go, OK?
So, since then she has shown no interest in the Wedding. i will be talking to her face to face about it and she will walk away. She & him told me i was weird for having all guys in the wedding party & i was missing out on stuff, BLAH, BLAH, BLAH.
Well, she called me on Saturday. At this point, her & my nephew are not going but my brother Roy is going. Now, usually she is so rude, i don't answer the phone if it is them, i just let them leave a message. So, no message was left and I thought maybe it was Roy calling about the bachelor party for Michael that night. Well, that's right, you guessed it, i got her on the phone. So, I asked her oh hi how are you, she said..."I've been better Maureen, much much better." I stupidly asked why...she proceeded to tell me she has been putting it off, and putting it off but now it is causing problems between her & her husband so she had to get something out. So, since i am stuck at this point, i ask her what is that. she asks me verbatim: "WAS IT A FAMILY CONSPIRACY OR WAS IT YOUR DECISION NOT TO HAVE ME IN YOUR WEDDING?" I told her it was mine. So, then she says: "Just to be a b****" I then said, Kathy we aren't close anymore. She then proceeded to tell me how that is all my fault cuz she told me when i was 16 not to get involved in a serious relationship and lose all my friends and BLAH BLAH BLAH. So, after her yelling at me for about 2 min's I finally yelled: Look that was michael & my decision to have only guys in the wedding so deal with it!" Then I hung up. At this point i am crying because i am upset. She then calls back, of which i did not answer. She left a message saying "oh i think we got cut off, and now you are you out, guess you don't wanna talk but that is what your family likes to do, they don't like to talk which is a shame...it's a real shame because it didn't have to be this way....good luck."
So, am i wrong but my idea of talking is not standing there being called rude names and being yelled at and not listened to anyways. Why call me when you know all the answers.
So, that was saturday. Now, I have a cold. It is like the week that wouldn't end. Tell me if i am wrong for thinking she was out of line. No where does it say THOU SHALL HAVE THY SISTER-IN-LAW IN THY WEDDING! I told her back in February when she asked me about people in the wedding, that i am only having 15 people there including the bride & groom and quite frankly wanted some people in the audience to watch. I can't have everyone stand up there. What is so wrong about that? It is the truth. She could have been a part of this wedding without standing up there. I am not begging someone to show interest in my wedding. Especially not someone who is so rude & nasty. Well, after her phone call my brother called. Just to talk about it i guess. Well, he wanted me to then call her and tell her how important it was for her to be at my wedding and to see if she would come. I started crying because i could not believe he would ask me that. Of course, i did not do that. It is almost a week before the wedding and i couldn't add her even if i wanted to (which i don't).
So, of course my whole family knows, and she is no longer welcome in our home according to my fiance.
Ok, that is all for now, just wanted to vent. Just hoping she does not show up here this week. I will call the cops.
Hugs everyone, love you all!!
Have A Disney Day!!!
I know how stressful families can be. 
We both took Airborne (an herbal supplement that boosts your immune system--we got it at a local grocery store) every 4 hours RELIGIOUSLY!! We also took Tylenol Cold and drank TONS of water (which made for an interesting drive down to Disney, LOL--I think we stopped for bathroom breaks hourly!!). Believe it or not, all of those things combined actually worked and we both felt GREAT on our wedding day!! I was soooo relieved. And that's even with one of us having an already compromised immune system! Anyway, start taking Airborne, Tylenol Cold, and h2o today!!
He sounds like a very understanding and supportive person.
