Just the two of us.. and i am terrified!

[libcon]

My DH and I go alone every year for our anniversary. We really take it easy and don't really make much of a plan. Last year we splurged on the DDP and it was a ton of food, but we ate at many 2 DC restaurants and tried a lot of great food! Don't worry, you'll have a great time!

 

[bdoyledimou]

All that planning and secretiveness all gone to waste --

I was making lunch and the doorbell rang, and my wife being ever so helpful went to answer the door and the UPS driver just handed my wife the ME package ...

She is .. but boooo!

 

[njmom47]

OH nooooo!!!!
Well, at least she is !
Have fun...this is something I would love to do but I think my kids would disown us!

 

[Dancind]

That's funny. Maybe ME would have delivered to your workplace if you had asked.

We love our couple only trips. Our DD is older and very easy to travel with (and loves fine dining), but it's much nicer in a studio with just two people! Heck, we even get a 1 bedroom for just the two of us.

 

[Linleedo]

We went last year for our 35 anniversary. It was the first time without kids.It's a totally different experience. We had sooooooo much fun. Actually, we liked it so much, we are returning this October. Next year, we return with the kids& grandkids. It was great to enjoy delicious meals at fine restaurants(Narcoosees was our favorite). We loved being little kids again. The rides were a blast. We strolled through Epcot & had time to spend in each country.Hollywood Studios was great. We went in September & there was no wait in lines at all.The Animal Kingdom was so much fun.We were able to enjoy the shows. I specially for her birthday. Disney will give her a pin to wear.So, whereever you go to eat; she will receive an extra birthday surprise(card, cupcake, etc.) It will certainly make her feel special & she will never forget this birthday!

 

[Krissalee]

My wife is turning 40 this year, and i am planning a surprise trip to Disney world for the two of us.. no kids for the first time..

I am terrified..!! When we go as a family, the kids kind of set the pace of the day. Where we go, what attractions we see, where/when we eat etc .. this time, it is just the two of us, for 5 days alone at the world.

Many years ago (before my wife) i had an adult only trip with a girl i was dating. It was her first time there, and she HATED it. She hated the heat, the food, the crowds, even Disney itself and we ended up spending the entire week in the hotel room... and no it wasn't fun.

My wife does love Disney and she has been hinting that she wants to go for her birthday (by telling me how cool it would be to go for her birthday) so it won't be as bad as a situation as before but.....

I could really use some adults only advice to make this trip wonderful!

Wow! So much information! You are "terrified" about vacationing with your wife alone without the kids. Great relationship.

I don't know how to proceed. You have been to WDW with you wife and kids. Your wife knows what to expect. Why did you even bring up the girl your were dating years ago? Is she anything like your wife? Your wife wants to go to WDW for her birthday, so I don't think the issues your former girlfriend had any impact on this current trip.

 

[kathie859]

It's a more relaxed, laid back trip without kids. DH and I celebrated my birthday/ anniversary last year and he surprised me by having flowers delivered to the room. Very sweet and unexpected. We lingered over dinner, sat and watched people and just took things at our own pace. We had fun! When we travel with our now grown daughter, DSIL and grandkids, it's a bit more hectic. Kids need to be entertained, fed, watered, and tended first.

We're doing 5 days in early December (just the two of us) to see the decorations. The trip after that will be a multigenerational trip--not particularly relaxing(but I love seeing the grands enjoying WDW)

 

[bdoyledimou]

That's funny. Maybe ME would have delivered to your workplace if you had asked.

I did have them delivered to my workplace We both work from home (work for the same company as well)

Wow! So much information! You are "terrified" about vacationing with your wife alone without the kids. Great relationship.

We have been together for 6 years now. Every vacation we have taken has been with the kids. This will be our first vacation NO kids. When we go there with the kids, we usually move at the kids pace, and do the things the kids want to do. (think this was clear in the last post). As this trip will be our first adult only trip, i was originally concerned we would end up sitting in the hotel watching tv just like last time.. I really wasn't sure if she loved Disney , or loved the experiences with the kids at Disney -- these are two different things.

She is very excited now though..

Note that since we work together, at home, we basically spend 24/7 together. The fact that we have survived 6 years 24/7 -- and we don't argue, and we love each other, and have fun together, means we have an awesome relationship if ya ask me.

 

[beansmom]

you MUST have ADR's to any place you really want to eat. MUST.

and now that she knows...and is sooo excited...you can ask HER what she'd like.

I think a carriage ride at FtW would be wonderful...as well as just sitting on the Poly beach and watching wishes.

We go without people more than with..(*well, we USED to...our last few trips have been with and we are eager to go alone again) and it is wonderful. You can also have a special birthday cake made for her (check out the cake chatter thread)...I did that for DH and he loved it.

I can't wait to have a report when you get back.

 

[kwdw]

Now that she knows - I, too, would suggest making a few more ADRs for "adult only" meals. You still have a bit of time before your trip - so you can probably get a few things.

I book some ADR's I'm not 100% sure about it because we can't plan all our days that well - as my other half doesn't like that. I program the Disney number into my phone and call each morning to cancel or try to make different reservations.

 

[gatrbait]

What a great guy you are! Ok so the mouse is out of the bag butttt there are so many more surprises you can arrange if you want...you can go to Disney Floral and surprise her w/ flowers or strawberries or some totally impractical something you can also fed ex/ups yourself something to the resort and have her open her gifts from the kids or just a little something(cards) from the kids on her b-day. Take a night to go to Jelly Rolls it's a blast, if you don't order a cake run over to boarwalk bakery and get her a mini mickey head cake and I bet they will give you a candle , act like a couple of newlyweds or better yet teenagers who are experiencing puppy love for the 1st time...sounds like you both have an amazing relationship and you are just keeping the fire burning Congratulations to you and happy birthday to her...make sure that everyone knows it is her b-day make a note on all your reservations from dinner to spa to resort...and make sure she wears her button!

 

[bdoyledimou]

She has been busy with Disney Reservations (trying to) booking tours and stuff.
We want to see the side of Disney we can't see with the kids my fears have been alleviated.. should have known -- she is an awesome woman!
Thanks for all the support/ideas!

 

[Wandalemur]

I'm glad you're feeling better! This is gonna be such a great trip for you too. My DH and I always go just the two of us (no kids) and we love it there. He has to ride all the scary rides by himself, cause I'm afraid of heights and I get motion sick. I'm super fun. He just gets in the single rider line, which usually moves quick, and I get a snack or drink for us to share when he gets back. There are tons of things to do together. I think it's a great place to share experiences. I hope you have a wonderful time on you trip.

 

[sewmess]

okay, so I'm jumping in at the tail end here, and forgive me while I . I understand your origianl fears. DH had an AWFUL experience (so awful he won't go into details about it with me) with a GF at WDW before he met me and that made him a little more anxious about our first "just us" trip as well.

But, being the wise man that he is, he married a woman who is thrilled just to hang out with him & spoils him (I HATE ToT but promise him that I'll go once a trip if no one else is with us.)

I suspected that you were a wise man as well, and since your DW has taken to the trip planning, I was right.

However, if you can sneak a special magical moment that she hasn't planned, she'll be all the more happy.

Have a good time- relax, do things you wouldn't usually do, don't push anything. You'll be amazed at the romance that will surprise you.

 

[saintstickets]

DW and I went by ourselves the week after Thanksgiving last year and LOVED it!! We took our time doing everything - no commando! We went to nicer restaurants for food WE wanted to eat instead of finding places the kids would prefer. We went on a tour and visited most all of the resorts to see the Christmas decorations. It was fantastic!! You'll have a ball - especially when you see some frazzled parents trying to cope with a tired, whiny child!

Our TR link is below.

 

[hotcarib]

Thanks for the support --- heres the sit

Its not that there is nothing to do.. or that we won't find something to do..

I am terrified of the repeat of the last experience with an adult trip.
When we go as a family, if there is an attraction the kids want to go on, and one of US didn't want to that was fine.. the one who didn't want to didn't.. saw a show, browsed the shops, had a snack as suggested and we would meet up after the attraction,

In this situation... we don't have that option. I would never just leave her to go on a ride/attraction alone. She would never leave me to go one an attraction alone. Although there are attractions that one of us LOVE and the other HATES.

Well, don't you think that's part of the whole relationship thing? DH and I have some very similar and also disparate tastes. However, during our trips we just sort of go with the flow and it all works out. Other than the trips when the kids were quite young and everything was magical I think our solo trips are some of my fav. memories. Also, the solo trips with DD as an almost adult are (totally unanticipated but fantastic) parts of the evolution of family dynamics. Sort of like "to everything there's a season". It's definitely different, but wonderful in it's own special way. It took me ages to convince my husband he'd love it, but he finally caved and now we're here 2 x/ yr.

 

[EvilQueenT]

it's a different type of vacation but i love love love being able to BE the kid...do what we want when we want. it's liberating walking into the park with just your keys to the kingdom card and your id and no stroller, no back pack etc... when my husband and i go we approach it like a honeymoon. we hit the parks early, when it gets hot in the afternoon we head back to the hotel for a while then hit a signature dinner then back to the parks. it's nice being able to just go into a lounge and have a drink if you want to, you don't have to ride anything you don't want to...wonderful!!! when my sister and i go (took her for her 40th last year) it was like a bunch of kids riding rides etc...but on a week long bachlorette party who were old enough to drink and eat at nicer places. heaven

 

[wdwtheplacetobe]

So far, it is STILL a secret. I actually got the reservation package yesterday which is what prompted me to come back here (been very busy summer and i had almost forgotten about it!!)

So far things are working out.. Epcot (her favorite park) has Extra Magic hours on her birthday, i have breakfast booked @ Chef Mickeys (her fave Character experience) and Dinner booked at Bistro de Paris, and a couples relaxation spa package at the Saratoga .

Then we have a full week after that to chill relax and do Disney like kids.

(and the "little ones" are 14 and 12 .... its harder to keep it from them, cause they will spill the beans..)

Bistro de Paris is our favorite!!!

 

[RDP]

Sounds great! We are planing a New York trip without children for my wife's 40th in a couple of years! WDW has plenty for adults. Restaurants , Spa, shopping offsite and all at your pace.

 

[bdoyledimou]

Was very surprised to see this pop back up -- (this was from 2011!)

But here's how things worked for us --

We LOVED IT!

We missed the kids, we thought about them a lot, and we had a BLAST!
DW made new friends all over the place and is still in touch with them
When i wanted to go on TOT she went shopping
We ahd her birthday lunch at Chef Mickeys and Dinner at 50's Prime Time Diner -- she loved it!



It was very relaxing and very fun and very peaceful.

Then in April we went on a cruise for MY 40th birthday ---

and now, in a week , we are doing a 5 day cruise and 10 days at AoA -- but with the kids

we have found it very relaxing without them, we miss them dearly, but they appreciate that we need adult time as long as we make sure they get the same experience eventually as well