Just returned from co-worker's funeral, he committed suicide!

[Simba's Mom]

And I have 3 words-DON'T DO IT!!! How could he leave those grieving family members? And he was a football coach-2 busloads of players/students were there. All teenaged boys-think they were too "manly" to cry? Not under these circumstances. The minister's message was about "Why?" No one knows the answer. Coach Schmitt-rest in peace.

 

[Pin Wizard]

How sad AND selfish! I'll say a prayer for his family.

 

[nativetxn]

How very sad

 

[addicted_to_WDW]

It's very sad that this man was in such pain that he felt death was a better alternative than life. I hope he has found relief and that his family will find peace.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

very sad

 

[olena]

 

[Big V]

Very sad indeed.

 

[Dan Murphy]

Sad and senseless. My prayers and best wishes are with his family, friends and players.

 

[grinningghost]

Very sad for his family and friends.

 

[Pam]

Speaking from experience as one who lost a brother to suicide 12.5 years ago - I second the sentiment to anyone even contemplating ending his/her life, "Please don't do it!!"

The pain, sadness, and sorrow never ends. We are left wondering, "Why?" and what could have been done differently to avert such a tragedy. Two hours before he died, my brother was with friends and had his life planned for the next 6 months. And then, after a fight with his GF, it was all over.

But please don't think of those who end their life as selfish. Unfortunately the burdens and woe of life overwhelm all of us, and some feel as though they can't go on. But there are friends, family, and yes, even strangers that do care. Please - reach out to someone, anyone and ask for that help and love and support.

I have never thought of my brother as being selfish. I still love and respect and admire my brother. I don't hate him for leaving us - but I can tell you that, after all these years, we are still brokenhearted and confused over his death.

Pam

 

[Mermaid02]

..... tragic for those left behind. A woman I went to high school with committed suicide the day after Halloween... apparently distraught over the remarriage of her ex-husband to the woman he had an affair with. Now that ex and his new wife will be raising her 2 children.... makes no sense to me.

 

[Saffron]

Suicide is always so tragic. Like Pam said, it leaves loved ones wondering forever. I'm so sorry.

And Pam, that was a beautiful post. {{{{{{Hugs}}}}}}

 

[helenabear]

That is so very sad My thoughts and prayers are with his family and all who loved him

 

[kylara]

Simba's mom, I agree. A couple of years ago one of the security guards at the college committed suicide. His wife also works at the college, and I know that it was very rough for her. She didn't totally understand it and she was trying to explain it to the students and staff who really liked him. It was very hard on all of us who knew him...trying to second guess why we didn't know and help support her through the trying time (while she second guessed also). To this day, I know that it still hurts her.

 

[Serena]

That's so sad.

 

[lisajl]

I am so sorry to hear about this. My uncle killed himself 3 years ago. He was in his 80's and just tired of living. We don't and never will understand it.

My daughter has contemplated suicide before. She said she could never do it, and she could never leave us behind. I am glad she was in that frame of mind. Yes, we are getting her help.

My thoughts and prayers and with the Coach's family.

Lisajl

 

[DreamsDoComeTrue]

It's amazing how depression twists your ability to reason. A great woman at my daughter's doctor's office had everything to live for and was great at handling big problems, that was her job. She had just had a beautiful baby girl and was about to go to part-time to enjoy her more. She amazed everyone by committing suicide also. That was so confusing to me, that I did some research. Depression makes our usual ability to reason, go out the window. Most are really not thinking with their usual capacity, when the act is committed. It's certainly a life lesson for the rest of us. As was said before, if the feeling comes up, just don't do it. Remember that before this bad day, bad week, etc., you knew that you could handle such problems, so just ride it out. Talk to someone, even a stranger on a help line for some company during the wait. For all of us, it's a good reminder to be observant and supportive to everyone we know.
Depression can really take control of a mind. Forgive and love.

 

[browneyes]

My aunt killed herself when she was 28 yo. That was 13 1/2 years ago (Mother's Day weekend ). Her ds and his dw were due to make her a grandmother a couple of weeks ago. She cheated her grandkids out of a very special, loving grandmother.

 

[Margie J]

So sorry to hear about this tragedy. Sometimes we just never know the depth of emotional pain a person is suffering until it's too late. Unfortunately, the person who commits suicide will never know how many people real do care for and love them.

A co-worker of mine commited suicide last year. She had a full and successful life ahead of her but could only focus on her troubles, real and imagined. Plenty of people reached out to help her but she ultimately rejected it all. Those left behind will never look at life the same way again. A very hard lesson for everyone. Out of all the sadness and pain though can come an appreciation for life, relationships and the kindness of those around us if we move beyond "why".

 

[Nutsy]

It is very sad when a loved one feels the need to the unthikable thing of commiting suicide.

I have a friend who is now a widow due to her DH doing the same thing just over 12 months ago. She still has no answers as to why & he has left behind 2 daughters aged 13 & 10 & a dear little son who was not even 12 months old when this happened.

It is so tragic & something I don't think anyone can fully understand