Just remember, if he cheats with you,

[imsorry]

he'll cheat on you!

I am shocked by all the stories I have been hearing about women hitting on married men. My nephew is married with 4 children, and I couldn't believe the stories he told me about women he does business with who know this and still hit on him!

I hope they realize that what goes around, comes around.

 

[Seagrove]

Perhaps these women aren't interested in a monogamous relationship with your nephew.

 

[Lady V]

yes--and they deserve every painful moment of it!

 

[Camicar]

Perhaps these women aren't interested in a monogamous relationship with your nephew.

Exactly. They want a quick screw, that's all.

When I was travelling for business in my 20s and 30s, I was hit on every day by a businessman. Every day. Even though I was wearing a ring and if I were alone in a restaurant, I would always be reading a book to discourage "loitering." Every time I would wave my left hand, point at my ring, and say, "Sorry. Married." And their response would be to raise their left hand with a ring on it and say, "Married too. So what?"

My personal favorite was the time I was in a hurry and at 6am stopped in at McD's for an Egg McMuffin and a guy asked me if I wanted a quickie in the open bed of his truck. Then again, this was Kentucky -- maybe that kind of proposition is high class there! (JK!)

 

[LoraJ]

Perhaps these women aren't interested in a monogamous relationship with your nephew.

Then they should go out with 10 single men.

 

[imsorry]

Perhaps these women aren't interested in a monogamous relationship with your nephew.

Are you kidding me? So that makes it OK? What about his monogamous relationship with his wife?

 

[imsorry]

Then they should go out with 10 single men.

Exactly! Women start talking to my DH when I am standing right next to him, and we are 50! I worked for 32 years and it never occurred to me to flirt with male co-workers, whether they were single or not, I was married.

 

[CapeCodTenor]

My personal favorite was the time I was in a hurry and at 6am stopped in at McD's for an Egg McMuffin and a guy asked me if I wanted a quickie in the open bed of his truck. Then again, this was Kentucky -- maybe that kind of proposition is high class there! (JK!)

You should have asked if he had pillows in his truck.

Seriously though, I think its because the guy, your nephew in this case, is in a relationship. I was told by a female friend once that it shows a man can be in a long term relationship. That it shows its not just all about sex.

 

[imsorry]

You should have asked if he had pillows in his truck.

Seriously though, I think its because the guy, your nephew in this case, is in a relationship. I was told by a female friend once that it shows a man can be in a long term relationship. That it shows its not just all about sex.

So when one asked him to her apartment so she could "cook him dinner", and another asked if his wife would be interested in a three way, it wasn't about sex???? come on.

 

[NY Disney fan]

Are you kidding me? So that makes it OK? What about his monogamous relationship with his wife?

 

[Disney Doll]

I had a male colleague tell me he'd take me out to dinner if I took off my weddig ring. I told him that the ring wasn't the thing that made me married.

My DH has said that he has gotten more propositions since he got married than he did when he was single.

Women that I have known over the years gravitate toward married men because, as they say "someone has already done all the work in trying to figure out if he was worth it. If he's married, he must be a pretty good guy".

Then there were the ones who "didn't want to deal with a relationship" so they chose a married man figuring he wouldn't be as quick to "fall in love" and want to take anything further than the sex. But then I hear the single women say that there are no good single men who want a relationship, so I wonder where these other single women are finding the single men who would be so quick to jump into a relationship that they decide to go with marrieds instead to avoid them??????

Sometimes I also think it's an ego or self-esteem thing. I think there are some women who want to be able to say "Hah, I got the happily married man away from his wife. I must be pretty hot".

Regardless of what the reasons, I think karma bites you on the butt eventually for that. As my mother is fond of saying "God will get you and it isn't always pretty".

 

[CapeCodTenor]

So when one asked him to her apartment so she could "cook him dinner", and another asked if his wife would be interested in a three way, it wasn't about sex???? come on.

I was just giving my opion, you don't have to agree with it.

 

[NY Disney fan]

Sometimes I also think it's an ego or self-esteem thing. I think there are some women who want to be able to say "Hah, I got the happily married man away from his wife. I must be pretty hot".

Except the women who go with married men don't realize that the men they are "stealing" are damaged goods to begins with. These men are spiritually broken, men who cheat are made of tin not platinum.

 

[imsorry]

I was just giving my opion, you don't have to agree with it.

I just don't understand, are you saying these women are looking to have a long term, non sexual relationship with a married man?

 

[diznygirl]

No, the point was that they know he already is capable of having a long term relationship, and they want that. (and the sex!) But the prob is they completely forget to think long term that being unfaithful is a big flaw that they should run away from!

 

[dcgrumpy]

Are you kidding me? So that makes it OK? What about his monogamous relationship with his wife?

Who said it was OK? They were just responding to your post "Just remember, if he cheats with you, he'll cheat on you!"

 

[CapeCodTenor]

I just don't understand, are you saying these women are looking to have a long term, non sexual relationship with a married man?

Yes. Now, that's not to say that it isn't just a relationship thing, it could be sexual. But it could also just be a relationship thing, or a combination of both. I just know from what I've heard from some of my female friends.

 

[Tybug]

Okay, I get that these women who knowingly persue a married man are not very nice women. But honestly, wouldn't you thank the woman that slept with your husband as she exposed his true colors? It's not like she forced him for heaven's sake. He does have a brain and it's not located below the waist.

Your nephew didn't take these women up on their offers. Seems the thread should be more about how happy you are that he's a stand up guy! Just remember, for every single woman that would approach a married guy there is probably a married guy(sans ring) approaching a single woman. A woman can't make a guy cheat anymore than a guy can make a woman cheat.

 

[Disney Doll]

A woman can't make a guy cheat anymore than a guy can make a woman cheat.

Truer words were never spoken Tybug!!!!!

I always get annoyed when someone will post about their cheating husband, and invariably someone responds with "Well, you know how men are"...as if men are one step above apes and cannot control their animal instinct to have sex with every woman they meet, or with every woman who makes a pass at them.

We do men a great disservice by thinking that about them...first of all because I think most men are better than that, and second of all that "boys will be boys" attitude really does give men a "pass" for bad behavior, as if we should "expect" it. We shouldn't expect it. Men are perfectly capable of finding someone attractive without acting on the urge to sleep with them.

 

[Minnie_me]

I know this!

My ex cheated on me -- with my best friend! After living without him for 6 months and going to a support group and a therapist (LOL!), I realized I was better off without him. I told my friend she could have him. And have him she did.

She moved into "our" house, kept all of our furniture the same, kept my decorating the same, bought a car just like mine, and even named their first child the name that he and I were going to name our first child - EWWW!!! (and it's a very unusual name)


They're separated now. He had an affair with a friend of hers.

And it just keeps going around and around and around.................