Just need to vent...

[jrmasm]

Not this mom LOL. After trying to help with this year's prom dress I can't even imagine what it will be like for a wedding dress!

Just kidding, I will willingly help my dd and try to make it as stress free for her as possible.

Me either. I had a very small wedding and really hope that my daughters make the same choice.

 

[BusyP76]

Just a little lightheartedness while trying to enjoy the subject at hand.

I know...I was just trying to be funny

 

[design_mom]

Any bride that's looking for kickbacks out of the participation of her "dear friends and family who should love to spend time together and celebrate" and grouses because she doesn't reach the sales level necessary to line her pockets is a nasty, greedy bride.

I don't disagree, but I've seen some brides do some nasty, greedy things. Just speculating on possible motive since what the bride is giving as her reasoning doesn't really stand up to scrutiny.

ETA: I think we had a total of 3 guests book hotel rooms for our wedding, so we got nothing free and were fine with that. Most of our guests either drove home or stayed with family.

 

[Turn the Page]

An after party? How stupid. There's already an after party, it's called the reception. These brides are taking their sense of entitlement way too far.

O/T but I know a girl who got married about 3 years ago now. She and her DH went to the courthouse and got married because she was about to be kicked out of her parents house and they wouldn't let her live with a boy unless she was married which is a whole other story. Anyway, she always wanted a "real" wedding and she planned one all out and her family gave her money for it a few times but things kept happening and they never did it. Fast forward 3 years and she has an 18 month old baby and has decided that she wants to have wedding picture taken. Not renew her vows or anything, just pull her dress out of moth balls, hire a wedding photographer, and stage elaborate photo ops so she can "create that moment." She even wants to create an Alice in Wonderland themed tea party for her DD so she can get a picture of her sitting there in her wedding dress at an Alice in Wonderland themed tea party at her wedding with her daughter.

She asked what I thought and I tried to be supportive but honestly, I just don't get it. Create what moment? You want to create a fake tea party at your fake wedding to get a picture of you in your fake wedding dress? I just don't get it. I think she feels like she got cheated out of all the wedding brouhaha and now wants nice pictures to hang on the wall so she can point to them and say "see, that was my wedding day, look how awesome it was." I could almost see it if they were going to renew her vows or something but no, they are just taking pictures.

 

[gottaluvPluto]

I wouldn't care if someone booked a room or not. I am not their mother or father and if they wanted to drive an hour home, good. Weddings are getting way out of control. A friend spent $100,000 on her wedding and I couldn't figure out where the money went. I would rather spend more money on a honeymoon and save the rest for something else.

I also wouldn't care if someone didn't want to go to an after after party. If a friend got upset that I didn't participate an the after after ..... I would think that person was very high maintenance and loves drama.

 

[weeniecat2442]

Some of you may have seen my post a few weeks back about my friend who is getting married Saturday. We had her bachelorette party- which was really fun, all the girls got along, bride had a great time.
I was so happy that it was such a success. All of the bridesmaids agreed that it was a great nite and Bride loved it.
I got an email two days later from the Bride. She wanted to tell us how disappointed and mad she was about her bachelorette party.

So thats the level of Bride I am dealing with. She has been pretty adamant from day 1 about us all getting our make up done. She would cover hair. Makeup would be $65. She emailed us last night reminding us makeup was $90!! WHAT?!
One of the girls can't swing it. You should see the texts I'm getting from the bride. OHH BOY!
This is HOPEFULLY my last stint as a bridesmaid.

 

[gottaluvPluto]

I will give her marriage a couple of years before it will fall apart, if that. What a "sweet" friend.

Some of you may have seen my post a few weeks back about my friend who is getting married Saturday. We had her bachelorette party- which was really fun, all the girls got along, bride had a great time.
I was so happy that it was such a success. All of the bridesmaids agreed that it was a great nite and Bride loved it.
I got an email two days later from the Bride. She wanted to tell us how disappointed and mad she was about her bachelorette party.

So thats the level of Bride I am dealing with. She has been pretty adamant from day 1 about us all getting our make up done. She would cover hair. Makeup would be $65. She emailed us last night reminding us makeup was $90!! WHAT?!
One of the girls can't swing it. You should see the texts I'm getting from the bride. OHH BOY!
This is HOPEFULLY my last stint as a bridesmaid.

 

[Heidict]

I have known a couple of bridezillas in the last decade or so and what always amazes me is that they end up divorced. Or should I say, doesn't amaze me. It seems when you are dealing with a narcissistic, self absorbed, controlling & demanding shrew that attitude carries over into the marriage. They aren't just like this for the wedding, it's a life long trait. I feel horrible for the husbands who have had to endure years of their abuse.

I can't imagine picking my maid of honor and bridesmaids based upon if they could attend an after party. If that is your criteria, than you aren't picking them because they are your loved ones and friends but based on what they can do for you and how much you can control them. Being a bride doesn't give you permission to control peoples lives or to demand their presence at the snap of your fingers. It's disgusting how shallow and self-absorbed people can be these days.

 

[Allison]

Some of you may have seen my post a few weeks back about my friend who is getting married Saturday. We had her bachelorette party- which was really fun, all the girls got along, bride had a great time.
I was so happy that it was such a success. All of the bridesmaids agreed that it was a great nite and Bride loved it.
I got an email two days later from the Bride. She wanted to tell us how disappointed and mad she was about her bachelorette party.

So thats the level of Bride I am dealing with. She has been pretty adamant from day 1 about us all getting our make up done. She would cover hair. Makeup would be $65. She emailed us last night reminding us makeup was $90!! WHAT?!
One of the girls can't swing it. You should see the texts I'm getting from the bride. OHH BOY!
This is HOPEFULLY my last stint as a bridesmaid.

Well, that's lovely.

What disappointed her about the party that everybody else enjoyed?

 

[Hikergirl]

Some of you may have seen my post a few weeks back about my friend who is getting married Saturday. We had her bachelorette party- which was really fun, all the girls got along, bride had a great time.
I was so happy that it was such a success. All of the bridesmaids agreed that it was a great nite and Bride loved it.
I got an email two days later from the Bride. She wanted to tell us how disappointed and mad she was about her bachelorette party.

So thats the level of Bride I am dealing with. She has been pretty adamant from day 1 about us all getting our make up done. She would cover hair. Makeup would be $65. She emailed us last night reminding us makeup was $90!! WHAT?!
One of the girls can't swing it. You should see the texts I'm getting from the bride. OHH BOY!
This is HOPEFULLY my last stint as a bridesmaid.

But she is your friend, aren't you supposed to bend over backwards for her

 

[DopeyDame]

Some of you may have seen my post a few weeks back about my friend who is getting married Saturday. We had her bachelorette party- which was really fun, all the girls got along, bride had a great time.
I was so happy that it was such a success. All of the bridesmaids agreed that it was a great nite and Bride loved it.
I got an email two days later from the Bride. She wanted to tell us how disappointed and mad she was about her bachelorette party.

So thats the level of Bride I am dealing with. She has been pretty adamant from day 1 about us all getting our make up done. She would cover hair. Makeup would be $65. She emailed us last night reminding us makeup was $90!! WHAT?!
One of the girls can't swing it. You should see the texts I'm getting from the bride. OHH BOY!
This is HOPEFULLY my last stint as a bridesmaid.

Oh I remember that post! Did you ever find out exactly what was so horrid and disappointing about the bachelorette party? I can't even imagine.

 

[powellrj]

Silly me, I thought our wedding day was about sharing our special day with our guests. Thats why they are called guests. It wasn't all about me, it was about making those we invited feel welcome. If I wanted it to be all about me, why in the world would you invite other people.

 

[Chocolate Cake]

Some of you may have seen my post a few weeks back about my friend who is getting married Saturday. We had her bachelorette party- which was really fun, all the girls got along, bride had a great time.
I was so happy that it was such a success. All of the bridesmaids agreed that it was a great nite and Bride loved it.
I got an email two days later from the Bride. She wanted to tell us how disappointed and mad she was about her bachelorette party.

So thats the level of Bride I am dealing with. She has been pretty adamant from day 1 about us all getting our make up done. She would cover hair. Makeup would be $65. She emailed us last night reminding us makeup was $90!! WHAT?!
One of the girls can't swing it. You should see the texts I'm getting from the bride. OHH BOY!
This is HOPEFULLY my last stint as a bridesmaid.

I saw your post!! OMG! This girl is horrible. VERY ungrateful.

I hope all of you bridesmaids unite and tell her NO WAY are you paying $90 for makeup. Even if I could swing it, I would tell the bride enough is enough.

 

[weeniecat2442]

Well, that's lovely.

What disappointed her about the party that everybody else enjoyed?

Oh she had a whole list of reasons ranging from the fact that not all the bridesmaid were able to attend both Friday and Saturday night. She had wanted everything to be a surprise. We originally planned the party for Saturday night only. Her cousins wanted to spend an extra day with her so they took her to the casino/hotel a day earlier. Most of us couldn't afford it or have little kids at home so we couldn't make it. She was mad people wanted to go to bed too early, then mad that people wanted to stay up later.
It goes on and on and on.
But- she hopes she didnt offend us because she did have a great night.

 

[Chocolate Cake]

Oh she had a whole list of reasons ranging from the fact that not all the bridesmaid were able to attend both Friday and Saturday night. She had wanted everything to be a surprise. We originally planned the party for Saturday night only. Her cousins wanted to spend an extra day with her so they took her to the casino/hotel a day earlier. Most of us couldn't afford it or have little kids at home so we couldn't make it. She was mad people wanted to go to bed too early, then mad that people wanted to stay up later.
It goes on and on and on.
But- she hopes she didnt offend us because she did have a great night.

Divorce in 5, 4, 3, 2.......

Those kind of gals don't last long in marriages. Her husband will tire of that behavior quickly.

 

[ChattaAlley]

I have always said I wanted a Marriage NOT a wedding. I was in my brothers wedding and his wife was a bridezilla. I can't handle that stuff. At that moment I said I never wanted to have a huge wedding.

 

[weeniecat2442]

my 6 stints as a bridesmaid has made me realize that I do not want any sort of wedding party and will be happy with a cookout in the back yard!

 

[Turn the Page]

One of the reasons we decided to have immediate family only at our wedding last year was because just the thought of a big wedding was sssooooooo stressful to me. Just all the little details you have to arrange and decisions you have to make and listening to everybody's second cousins neighbors bosses daughter's coworkers opinions about the location you chose is just too much for me. I have had several friends have big weddings and in the weeks leading up to it when asked if they are excited they invariably say they are tired of dealing with it and just want to get it over with. That is just so sad to me. I was more interested in enjoying the engagement period and planning process and being able to really enjoy the wedding day itself without having to worry about every inconsequential detail and about 150 other people I barely ever see.

No thank you.

 

[TheIncredibles!]

Oh she had a whole list of reasons ranging from the fact that not all the bridesmaid were able to attend both Friday and Saturday night. She had wanted everything to be a surprise. We originally planned the party for Saturday night only. Her cousins wanted to spend an extra day with her so they took her to the casino/hotel a day earlier. Most of us couldn't afford it or have little kids at home so we couldn't make it. She was mad people wanted to go to bed too early, then mad that people wanted to stay up later.
It goes on and on and on.
But- she hopes she didnt offend us because she did have a great night.

You better ask her now if there's an after party after the party that comes after the ceremony. You don't want to think your time as her s̶l̶a̶v̶e̶ Bridesmaid is over when the pictures are done etc.

 

[TAX GUY]

But she is your friend, aren't you supposed to bend over backwards for her

Can't seem to just let it go, can you