Just curious- does DH help

[PollyannaMom]

If I'm not working a lot in a particular week, I usually grocery shop on a weekday when I'm the only one home. But when I do have to do it on the weekend, DH comes out to help carry things in.

I usually put the immediate stuff away in the kitchen, but he'll take stuff down to the freezer or pantry if I ask. - It's just a matter of saying which bags are supposed to go.

 

[EeyoreEma]

Mine would do it without me even asking.

 

[kiddo76]

When I shop, he helps without me having to ask. When he shops, I offer to help, but he always says he has it. So I usually just put the groceries away. I'd be annoyed if I always had to ask and really annoyed if he gave me attitude about it.

 

[Acklander]

If we're both home, we both go to the store together (though sometimes dh does it alone) and both unload the groceries. Other than that, usually dh does the shopping/unloading/putting away.
Being that we both work full time, we pretty much split the duties at home. There are some things he pretty much exclusively does (i.e. cooking, mowing) and some I do exclusively (laundry, clean bathrooms) the rest we share.

 

[brockash]

He would never come do it on his own. He would do it if I asked, but I'm sure would complain at least a little. My son on the other hand, knows it's just expected (I'm trying to teach him better.)

 

[shortbun]

Just wondering if you came home from the grocery store and asked DH to help carry in groceries, would he willingly, would he do it but complain? Or would he flat out say NO?....

"complain?" 'Flat out say no?" I'm afraid to read the rest of this thread. If my husband ever refused to do household jobs...I don't know what I'd do but I DO know it will never happen. More like *I* help him. These kinds of threads remind me of grown women saying their husbands 'babysit' the children they have fathered. Mature, intelligent grownups take responsibility for whatever needs to be done in their lives, period. Are we encouraging men to be idiots?

 

[Carly_Roach]

Mine would do it without me even asking.

Ditto.

 

[ilovemk76]

If DH is home then he goes to the grocery store with me. He loads all the groceries into the car and then unloads the car at home.

If I went to the grocery store and when I return he is home he will unload the car without my asking.

The only time I carry in the groceries is if I shop when he is not home.

 

[allison443]

If my dh is home, he immediately comes to get the groceries as soon as he hears me come home. Even if he is stretched out on the couch watching a game or show on tv. Even if it's raining. Even if he's half asleep. (For some reason he can carry in one trip what would take me three trips )

I cannot imagine either of us "flat out saying NO" to the other person's request for help with this or any other household chore.

 

[ilovepcot]

I have a problem with DH. No, it's not having to ask to bring in the groceries...he constantly buys groceries...lots and LOTS of groceries. Can't keep him out of grocery stores! He even travels to specialty stores and experiments with new and odd things. Sometimes it turns out great, sometimes we have to pitch things into the trash. He just likes to try new and different foods and different ways to prepare them. There are only 2 of us but we spend more than a family of 8. So here, definitely don't have to ask him to bring in the groceries.

 

[hinodis]

Mine would help me without asking. He is a true gentleman. He always opens doors for me including the car as well. And I have not taken the trash out in 25 years.

 

[The Pink Cupcake]

I can't imagine even having to ask

DH hears car pull in, he is right down in garage hauling butt. When he goes shopping I also go downstairs and start carrying.

I could not imagine being in a marriage where a man would watch his wife carry groceries while he did not help.

The saying "no" and "complaining while helping" would happen once before I decided where my marriage was heading. Nowhere good.

 

[The Pink Cupcake]

He would never come do it on his own. He would do it if I asked, but I'm sure would complain at least a little.

Be honest-When he is complaining, do you wonder what is wrong with him? What is he complaining about? That he has to help his wife bring in food to his house!?!?

I am truly curious and hope I am not coming off as mean. I just can't even fathom this attitude form a partner

Good for you for teaching your son better!

 

[The Pink Cupcake]

My DH does help me but always with a snotty remark. I think it just isn't very nice. I NEVER ask him to put groceries away, I just like help every once in a while. Don't get me wrong my DH is a good guy, but for some reason this asking of help is a thorn in his side....

If he is a good guy (which honestly, a good guy doesn't get snotty to his wife when she asks him for help), why do you think he is so mean about this? What kind of snotty remark is he making?

 

[Carly_Roach]

I cannot imagine either of us "flat out saying NO" to the other person's request for help with this or any other household chore.

Yeah, that seems strange to me, too. My DH hasn't flat-out refused to do any household chore I've asked of him. He may have dragged his feet once in awhile or asked if I could wait for the commercial or some other time before he did it, but he doesn't just flat-out say, "NO".

Be honest-When he is complaining, do you wonder what is wrong with him? What is he complaining about? That he has to help his wife bring in food to his house!?!?

I am truly curious and hope I am not coming off as mean. I just can't even fathom this attitude form a partner

Good for you for teaching your son better!

I don't know if this is true of that poster, but if my DH picks up the heavy bag with all the cans or laundry soap in it he'll say, "Good God what's in here?" or "What the heck did you get?" or something along those lines. I don't necessarily consider it complaining, just his way of acting surprised because the bag's so heavy.

 

[npmommie]

Mine always helps. He comes right out if he hears me, but if he doesn't hear the car and I come in with bags, he goes right out for the rest of it.
he helps put it away too.

 

[PatriciaH]

DH and I do the grocery shopping together and carry in the bags together. Once in a while one of us will run to the store to get something on the way home from work or while out- but bigger shopping is always together. For 16 years now.

 

[njmom47]

I call him on my way home so he can round up ds (who eats most of the food anyway) to help him bring in the groceries.

 

[tink20]

I shop during the day, so usually I bring the groceries in by myself, but if he is home, he will help without asking. DD and DS never help, unless asked, DD will complain and DS won't!

 

[ccgirl]

Just wondering if you came home from the grocery store and asked DH to help carry in groceries, would he willingly, would he do it but complain? Or would he flat out say NO?....

I usually get my groceries delivered. But, if DH knew I went to the grocery store he would hear my car and come out to help. No need to ask. He also knows when I cook he cleans (and vice versa). So, yes my DH helps.