Just Being Nosy

[DisneyKingpin]

A few things here:

When you're in the public eye, that's the nature of the business, and the podcasters don't seem to understand this. (And, yes, even this semi-under-the-radar podcast is in the public eye.) Examine any public figure or celebrity, and the press will go to the ends of the earth to figure out what happened. Lucky for this team, they don't quite have the following to get this sort of deep investigative treatment. What puzzles me is that I've heard many of the podcasters arrogantly say their lives are none of our business. Yet they CHOOSE to put out a podcast, make public appearances, create events, put on charity lunches even, for the masses. At least one podcaster has continually told us how he is "blessed" by the listeners and how his blessed life is possible only because of the listeners. Yet then we get treated like kids who shouldn't be told why mommy and daddy got divorced.

Look, I don't think anybody is asking about who's sleeping with who or favorite sex toy. These are simple and normal curiosities like, "Where did Shaun and Dustin go?" It's not a big deal, and kind of odd, actually, that it seems to be such a secret.

Unless Shaun and Dustin are now working undercover for the CIA, there's really no reason to be so secretive. In fact, the public (and fame) is fickle. People would move on and leave them alone very quickly. It's the mystery that actually keeps people hooked.

Lastly, while I agree nobody is "owed" an explanation for anything in life including the people in your own family, I believe the truth will always set you free. I've learned this from my personal life and observations of others. For example, how many times have we heard about people who tried to hide their sexual orientation for years only to feel so free after "coming out?" Usually, secrets are masks for fears of something. Maybe it's fear of hate crime. Or fear of failure in a new job. Or fear that he/she will look foolish to try something new. Fair enough. But I just hope the fears behind these secrets are substantial enough to warrant them. Because 99 times out of 100, life is a lot easier when you put yourself out there. In fact, people always root for the underdog. So usually, you're missing out on a lot of love and support that could make your life so much better.

 

[KingLlama]

I would just like to state for the record that I am NOT a "fanboy".

That is all.

 

[DisneyKevin]

A few things here:

When you're in the public eye, that's the nature of the business, and the podcasters don't seem to understand this. (And, yes, even this semi-under-the-radar podcast is in the public eye.) Examine any public figure or celebrity, and the press will go to the ends of the earth to figure out what happened. Lucky for this team, they don't quite have the following to get this sort of deep investigative treatment. What puzzles me is that I've heard many of the podcasters arrogantly say their lives are none of our business. Yet they CHOOSE to put out a podcast, make public appearances, create events, put on charity lunches even, for the masses. At least one podcaster has continually told us how he is "blessed" by the listeners and how his blessed life is possible only because of the listeners. Yet then we get treated like kids who shouldn't be told why mommy and daddy got divorced.

Look, I don't think anybody is asking about who's sleeping with who or favorite sex toy. These are simple and normal curiosities like, "Where did Shaun and Dustin go?" It's not a big deal, and kind of odd, actually, that it seems to be such a secret.

Unless Shaun and Dustin are now working undercover for the CIA, there's really no reason to be so secretive. In fact, the public (and fame) is fickle. People would move on and leave them alone very quickly. It's the mystery that actually keeps people hooked.

Lastly, while I agree nobody is "owed" an explanation for anything in life including the people in your own family, I believe the truth will always set you free. I've learned this from my personal life and observations of others. For example, how many times have we heard about people who tried to hide their sexual orientation for years only to feel so free after "coming out?" Usually, secrets are masks for fears of something. Maybe it's fear of hate crime. Or fear of failure in a new job. Or fear that he/she will look foolish to try something new. Fair enough. But I just hope the fears behind these secrets are substantial enough to warrant them. Because 99 times out of 100, life is a lot easier when you put yourself out there. In fact, people always root for the underdog. So usually, you're missing out on a lot of love and support that could make your life so much better.

I have highlighted a word in your rather dramatic post and the word is CHOOSE.

We have chosen to do all of the things you say we did. We choose to not share every part of our lives.

Consider this arrogant if you will. It doesn't change a single thing about what I'm willing to share with you.

Shaun and Dustin have chosen to move on. They have chosen to step out of the public eye.

The fact that they aren't part of this conversation tells me that they have made the choice to not share their private lives any longer.

As their former employers and co-workers, we have chosen to not over step their choice.

To compare this to something as difficult, meaningful and life changing as coming out is ridiculous and silly.

And with that....I will step out of this conversation.

 

[DisneyKevin]

Hi Folks,

I said I would step out of this conversation and I feel the need to go back on that.

I have been contacted by some wonderful folks and I need to clarify something.

The folks who listen to our show have been exceeding kind and generous with their praise and support. We all feel unbelievably grateful for that.

We try to give that back as much as we can.

Not one single person has ever asked me an inappropriate question or asked for more info that I am willing to share.

The reason I talk about this and use myself as an example in this thread and in others is that I am okay with talking about my feelings. I can share what I'm comfortable with sharing. I do not feel its okay to share other people's information....harmless or not. Thats up to them.

People will come and go from the Podcast. It's happened before and will happen again.

When this happens, I realize that there is curiosity. I guess it's natural.

That being said, these folks are ex-employees, ex-co-workers and friends. As I mentioned, I'm okay with sharing what I am feeling. I don't believe it's right or fair to share other people's info or stories.

I apologize if I have come across as curt or rude. I can be both, but I try to be neither.

This doesn't change the fact that anyone that leaves the Podcast is welcome to share their info...or not. They all know how to get this info out there. If they do not....I think we need to accept that as their choice and move ahead.

Thanks to those that wrote with kind words.

I think I'm done...again.

Kevin