Well. let's see...you stated that the previous poster was insulting when they asserted their own opinion to be fact, which they did not. You stated that by posting their own opinion, the previous poster is suggesting that other posters have lied or exaggerated about their own experiences. The poster never stated that nonsmokers "could not" have a problem with the smoking areas. The actual statement was "Also, I am not a smoker, but Pop has a section for them and it does not interfear with the non-smoking guest." So by asserting that he was "therefore implying that complaints about smoking are fabrications." you have suggested that he is calling the OP a lair.
*The poster wrote: "Pop has a section for them and it
does not interfear with the non-smoking guest." He does not say, "did not interfere with me" or "I never noticed it." He asserts that smokers DO NOT interfere with the non-smoking guests. This is not a statement phrased as an opinion, this is a statement presented as fact. There is no hedging here, no room for other experiences. By stating that the non-smoking guest are
not bothered by the current smoking areas, this means that those reporting on their recent experiences
could not have been bothered by smokers, and therefore negates i.e. calls into question the validity of their testimony. You can argue all you want that this is not how he probably meant it. However, I am basing my concerns actually on what he wrote, a matter of record.
Finally you suggest that by stating "I'm sorry you had such a bad time, but it sounds like you are being a little too critical of this magical place.", the previous poster has implied that another poster's "opinions are invalidated b/c she has unrealistic or unfair expectations".
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Finally, and perhaps the most insulting comment is "In addition, the poster called the OP critical, which is an insult invalidating the OP's experience or ability to give a balanced opinion." To suggest that the previous poster's statement calling the OP critical somehow invalidates the OP's experience or ability to give a balanced opinion is just ridiculous. The previous poster is allowed to give their own opinion and the mere fact that it differs does not detract from nor invalidate the OP's opinion in the slightest.
I've explained over and over again that the poster is very much entitled to his opinion, and I don't know what else I can say to explain to you that my argument is not with his opinion of POP. It's as though you want that to be the issue, so you keep returning to it. But that doesn't make it so. And if what you are saying is that he is entitled to his opinion that the OP is too critical, then you've just failed in your own argument i.e. that in chastising me for what you perceive as my insulting him for his opinion, you're defending his ability to insult the OP's opinion.
And finally, simply by calling my assertion (that calling someone critical invalidates their opinion as valid) ridiculous does not give me any information or clarify/make your point that it doesn't invalidate anothers opinions. Are you trying to state that personally you don't find the words "too critical" to be insulting? Good for you, but the fact that I do find the words to be rude shows you right away that my initial and ENTIRE point is made: how we write things can be interpreted in many different ways, so the onus is on us to be careful how we are construed (or misconstrued) if we want our point to be made as we would wish. I would be happy to hear that the poster did not intend to say that the OP was flat out wrong, or that he would not wish to insult her or others opinions. But I'm afraid very very often that is exactly what a number of posters (esp. regarding POP, for whatever reason) do say, as though someone has just attacked their mother's character.
Either way, I guess I'm a glutton for punishment but I've started to enjoy this exchange. Helped my brain rev up a little better on what was looking to be an otherwise dull, fuzzy day.
P.S. I want to apologize to the OP for jumping to a defense she might not have felt was necessary. I usually try to let people defend themselves if they want to, but I stuck my nose in this time.
P.P.S. Poster - I'm afraid your defender is taking this a great deal harder than I am and than you perceive, and I apologize if you feel I've whipped you with a wet noodle. I simply hoped to call attention to what appeared to be an insult to an otherwise innocent OP and give you the opportunity to paraphrase if you cared to. BTW: love the humor about "mom"
I can be very proper and lecture-y -- a long standing habit of going into thesis debate mode.
(not 21 birthday, just 21 trip)and we are POP bound, I am a commando parks gal and will never ever spend extra $ to sleep anywhere else. If u close your bathroom door each night the flushing noise is diminished greatly. We never hear neighbor noise and always stayed second floor. (just by chance not by request) we love mousekeeping, pools and have had clean rooms with zero issues anywhere with POP. We go early and stay late and only swim on non park days(if any) We do our research and dont visit at peak times so as to further our enjoyment! See ya there .........me, DH and DD5
