Just an Update on Crazy Mother of Ex-Bride (Long)

[Antonia]

For those of you who may have read my previous posts, here is the latest. None of our family including me, DH, DS have spoke to ex-bride since February 4. We still don't know what the actual cause of the broken engagement was, but we no longer care. Just glad that it is broken. On Monday, after days of not hearing from ex-bride's crazy mother, she called wanting the wedding band back - it had been in their family, but DS was having it refurbished for now ex-bride-to-be. She wanted back groom's wedding band that her daughter had purchased - it had been left at our house. So no problem. I met her at a retail store parking lot and took my dad with me since I am convinced that this woman truly has a screw loose. I have blocked every number that I think she would call from, because we do not want contact with these people and I am tired of looking at the caller i.d. every time before I answer the phone. Can't block her cell phone, however. So today, I am making the bed, the phone rings, I answer on the phone in the bedroom without caller i.d. and this crazy woman yells something about me being in the same parking lot as her daughter (ex-bride-to-be) and yells that she is going to get a warrant for my arrest TODAY. I say "don't ever call here again" and she hangs up on me. Well, the morning passes and about 11:30, I decide maybe I better talk to the magistrate and sure enough she had been there trying to get a warrant for my arrest!!!!! Thank God the magistrate had denied her the warrant. I thanked him and explained a little of the situation. He said she may get a restraining order against me - she really hates me - her daughter always said she was jealous of me - and I told the magistrate a restraining order would not bother me because I had no desire to be near her or her daughter.So this afternoon, on the advice of my mother and MIL, I had our phone number changed and it is now non-published. I have lived in this town my whole life, never had any trouble, We are known as friendly people and I can't think of anything anyone could say bad about us. I have tried to live a good life and do no one any harm and now this woman can't leave us alone. I may end up in the same parking lot as her daughter again - because like I say this is a small town. One of my best friends assures me that all anyone would have to do is talk to her and then talk to me, and they would know who the crazy one is. I find some comfort in that, but I just want this woman to go away. DS is really doing good and got a new truck today. I, on the other hand, I a little fearful of this woman.

 

[DISshopkeeper]

Wow, sounds like a GOOD thing they broke up.

 

[nativetxn]

YIKES! I know that you are glad that you don't have to associate with this person anymore.

 

[RitaZ.]

{{hugs}} to you.

There was someone on Oprah's show a long time ago that said, "If you see crazy coming, cross the street". It's a good thing that your DS "crossed" the street. That woman is definitely not stable from what you have described and this all happened for the best.

Hang in there.

 

[CEDmom]

Wow, that woman is incredible. I bet you're counting your lucky stars that she's not your son's MIL. Although this would probably cause more headaches than it's worth, if I were you I'd be tempted to get a restraining order against her.

 

[Duchie]

Hope this helps...

 

[Serena]

Wow, what a nutcase.

 

[olena]

Be glad you don't share anything with her.....especially grandchildren. *HUGS* to you. This shall pass. Soon the daughter will have a new BF with new parents for this woman to terrorize.

 

[Antonia]

RitaZ - I love your Oprah show quote. I have written it down to pass along to my family.
Olena - I am waiting for the day when she has a new family to terrorize. I wish ex-bride-to-be a swift time finding a new man - and I mean it.
I had thought about getting a restraining order against her - but I am hoping if she can't call us and we lie low, her vengefulness won't seem so fun to her and this will all fizzle out. Of course, if not and she continues to pursue us, and for what gain we don't know - then I will have to do something. Tonight I am going to say a special prayer that this will come to a peaceable end.

 

[HappyMommy2]

Thanks for updating us. I had read your earlier posts and I had just thought that the almost-MIL was just controlling and eccentric, but from what you've said now I can see that she is truly off her rocker! I'm sorry you've had to deal with her at all and I hope she'll be out of your life forever very soon!

 

[Disney Doll]

I have a suggestion for oyu. Buy the book entitled "The Gift Of Fear" by Gavin deBecker. It is a wonderful book about dealing with these sort of security issues. He is an expert in the field of security, human behaviot etc. He has consulted with the Secret Service, provided security for celebrities, sports figures, business leaders etc. He is recognized as an expert in the field of human behavior as it relates to personal security issues.

One of the strongest pieces of advice he gives is to not respond in any way to someone who is stalking or harassing you. Each time you do anything to respond that they find out about, it fuels the fire. I would suggest you report the sitution to your local police to get it documented, but don't do a restraining order or anything else. You have done well by changing your phone #, and thus limiting this crazy woman's ability to attempt to contact you. If she does get a hold of you after taking this step, then report that to the police. Keep very clear documentation of what's happening, and also the fact that you are not, in any way, responding, either verbally, or in writing.

Buy the book. It could save you a lot of turmoil.