Dawn,
Been there, done this. Our vets drug of choice was the peroxicam for our Keeshond...compounded by a local pharmacy (in beef flavor no less). Frodo had been through lots of tough stuff by the time he was diagnosed with the bladder cancer...rocky mountain spotted fever, autoimmune hemolytic anemia, diabetes and cataracts. We really thought that the diagnosis was the beginning of the end, but he held on nearly another two years, and it was a stroke, not the cancer that finally took him from us at the age of 12.
Our vet was wonderful. She researched every option, and this was the one she thought would do best for him, with the fewest side effects. I also think that the dogs personality has something to do with how they do...Frodo was a really laid back and happy dog, and he just took each obstacle as it came. Even the blindness from the cataracts didn't phase him for very long. We just had to make sure that he knew where he was, and not change things around too much.
In short, I guess I'm saying that although the diagnosis isn't what you wanted to hear don't think that you don't have wonderful times left with Jude. You will just know in the back of your mind that these moments are the ones to treasure even a little more than those that have come before.
I wish for you the time that we got to have with our "best boy".
Thank you. Your post is so inspiring. He is a happy boy, he doesn't know he has cancer and we are going to make sure he enjoys every day he has left. Peroxicam it is! I will call his vet tomorrow and tell him I am switching to it.