You misunderstood me. I think that Jon is having an affair. I was just saying that they may not want to actually "say" it on tv or print because like Jon said my kids will someday google me.
Sorry, I mixed a poster specific comment with a more general one.
My take on what Kate has said as a whole is that she is totally throwing him under the bus, but in a way that allows her to look somewhat weak and victimized (the opposite of how she is usually seen). She is not defending him, which could make her look like a fool (depending upon how much is out there). She isn't saying nothing. And she isn't stating it straight out, which could look either witchy and disloyal or portray her as strong and straightforward, which might gain her some admiration but would take away the victim role.
She's taking a middle route. I'm so hurt that I can't just say nothing at all, I don't know what happened, I don't know what to believe, but Jon screwed up and made poor decisions. I think she's deliberately trying to not play into the general image people have of her.
People might tune in to watch her berate Jon every two minutes because it's a bit of a train wreck. Watching her behave that way with the only people left, the kids, I think is a much different story. I think the show feels ok to people because Jon has been there to balance the snarky, obsessive Kate. He plays, he's more laid back. Mom is uptight, but that's ok because dad balances her out. Without dad, it becomes kids in a nasty situation. I don't think that will be ok with people.
If she's determined to go forward with the show and without Jon, she's going to have to be softer and more sympathetic. Already people are commenting that she seemed a bit more laid back at the party. My husband is sure that the kids ate more candy that day than he has ever seen them eat.
Maybe this isn't as calculated as I think. But it sure would have seemed totally in Kate's character to kick Jon's butt to the curb and tell the whole world, "I can handle this on my own!"