Joined DVC Nov 01 - DH wants no part of it

[imgoingtodisney]

So I may either be vacationing alone or just with DS
Anyone want to come with us?

 

[Beth]

imgoingtodisney - Obviously you know your DH better than any of us, but I would suggest <i>trying</i> to drag him along on a trip... Maybe entice him with something he would enjoy - golf?

Once you've got him there, he's bound to be impressed with the 1st class accomodations and ammenities, and I bet that soon <i>he'll</i> be the one planning the DVC trips!!

I really struggled convincing my DH to join DVC, but I think he really likes it now. He pretends not to... but I think he likes it!!

 

[POOH&PIGLET]

Hey, if you're offering (and giving your points away ), my DW, two DDs, and I would love to go with you!!!

 

[chris1gill]

I agree, book a 1 bedroom or larger & schedule something that he REALLY likes... How about that Petty Raceway Experience? Golf? or Boating? Do the length of stay biking/boating if he likes boating.... make sure to do it at WL, or one of the other resorts around Bay lake...

Once he gets there & gets to relax I'd bet he'd be making the next vacation

Either that or you, DS & maybe one of your friends can go!

 

[ZerasPride]

My DH is not a Disney fan either. He has agreed (very reluctantly) to go on the trips I plan but he has made it pretty clear that this will be the last Disneyworld trip he goes on for a while. On the brighter side, he absolutely loves our home resort (Hilton Head - where we plan to vacation most anyway) and is very excited about us spending our anniversary next year at Vero Beach. He actually chose Vero Beach over a cruise!

My point is that maybe Disney isn't your husband cup of tea but there are two wonderful off-site options. My DH would only agree to purchase an interest in DVC if it was off-site and we both were impressed and fell in love with Hilton Head so it worked out for us. Maybe you could try booking a "couple only" trip to Hilton Head or Vero in a one bedroom so he can see there is life outside the Disney resort area. Just a suggestion - oh, by the way, I have my bags packed and am ready to go with you and your kiddos anytime!

 

[yasuern]

I agree with the above suggestions - schedule something he likes - How old is DS - perhaps he would enjoy an evening at one of the kid centers while you and your husband enjoy a wonderful meal at Epcot - stroll around the stop in Germany and have a beer or Italy for some wine - watch the Illuminations fireworks - then head back to whichever kidscenter your DS is in and go up to your spacious accomadations and relax! Being part of DVC means no more "Got to do it all in a week" vacations - the pressure is off - you will be back again! Also remind your DH these points can be exchanged for other top notch non-disney vacations - so the possibilities are seemingly endless! We have not yet exchanged points but are seriously considering going to The Sagamore in Lake George in NY next summer.

 

[Disneyaholic]

My DH was reluctant at first, too. when we bought in 1993. He VERY quickly changed his mind after our first stay in a 2BR at OKW! We have added on at OKW once, and have three contracts at HH.

Just the other day he mentioned that HE was going through Disney withdrawal, since we haven't been to WDW in almost a year. Only 43 more days till our fix, though.

Dottie

 

[Tigger7570]

Is it just the parks that he doesn't like or is it all of it? Like others have said, try to schedule things he likes. People assume when you join the DVC the only thing you do is the parks. When asked by friends don't we get tired of Disney, DH said "Why would I want to go anywhere else. I have it all here. The parks, movies, pool, boats, fishing, entertainment, etc., etc. or just plain relaxing at the condo. I can come down here and just do the pool and the other things and not even go into the parks, if I don't want to. Of course, I want to, but the options are endless." Like everyone else said, I think if you can find his interest, there's hope. Good luck.

 

[Carl]

I can't believe that you actually bought DVC with your husband not liking Disney! How did you talk him into it?

 

[4greatboys]

My dh was not to excited about dvc either. We are in the process of closing an OKW resale. He went for it because it was low points and cheaper than buying thru disney. But really the main reason he agreed is because his wife can be a huge pain in the hiney--lol. Im sure he will go with us a few times--while the 2 oldest are still very small but later one I will have no prob going w/out him. I have friends that would love to go with me or just me and the boys would be fun too. He likes to fish too so Im sure he will do his own thing sometimes while we are there.

 

[imgoingtodisney]

actually when we bought in nov he wanted to join!!

 

[kem330]

So what has changed??

 

[Pa@okw95]

Is he going on the cruise with you in a couple of months??He has already been to the WL so he knows what WDW and the WL area is like. He wanted to buy into WLV when you made the purchase!! Well people change. Who knows?? If he is going on the cruise then I would say just go with the flow he may or may not go to WDW. On the other hand if he is not going on the cruise with you then this may not be a case of someone that is tired of WDW and does not want any part of it. This may be something entirely outside of just not wanting any part of WDW. Good luck!!

 

[joepoe]

Originally posted by imgoingtodisney
So I may either be vacationing alone or just with DS
Anyone want to come with us?

Not to be nosy, but could you elaborate? Has he ever been to WDW? Some people have a pre-conception of what it is like based upon a twenty year old experience or whatever.

 

[Caskbill]

Some people have a pre-conception of what it is like based upon a twenty year old experience or whatever.

I definitely agree. When we first purchased DVC 9-years ago, I was working with someone who had only been to Disney World once in her life, back when it was only the Magic Kingdom. So that was still her whole perception.

I tried to explain things but a lot of it was like talking to a wall.

About 5-years later, her daughter and SIL were going and invited her along. The chance to vacation with the grandkids was all it took.

When she got back she couldn't believe everything she had seen. She knew Epcot existed, and MGM, but didn't have any feel for them. Plus the expansion in the whole area inclucing DD, water parks, hotels, PI and so on.

But even after that trip, her accommodations experience had strictly been a DVC hotel (one of the moderates I think, or possible one of the Value resorts), she still could not fully understand the DVC concept. Face it, without someone actually seeing the DVC accommodations, they'll only compare it to their own experiences. Usually that's a hotel experience of some type. Also since she had never stayed in a Condo of any type ever, she had no understanding of even that.

Of course we all know that comparing DVC to a hotel is strictly apples to oranges, and even comparing to other Condo's is....well, just not the same.

 

[imgoingtodisney]

Nope - we werent planning on WDW this year. Its the cruise he doesnt want

 

[imgoingtodisney]

Nope - we werent planning on WDW this year. Its the cruise he doesnt want

 

[chris1gill]

Oh, so the problem isn't with WLV's or the theme parks? It's the cruise that's the problem? Hmm, can't say as I blame him, I'm not sure I'd want to go either Maybe you could book him in a studio at the BWV's while you're on the cruise???

 

[TrudyZ]

You know what, my husband wasn't excited about it either. But, he did it for our nearly 4 year old daughter, who is just thrilled with Disney.

He sucks it up and goes twice a year; and he is a good sport about it. It is about the only place that we can go with a small child and do things as a family. And although I know it is not his first choice for a vacation spot; he knows that it is a great place to escape the real world for a week and have some family time. Now, I am not Disney obsessed either; but I enjoy getting out of the cold Michigan weather a couple of times a year.

Don't you have a son? Tell him it's a family thing to do once a year; he can go snowmobiling with the boys some weekend in the winter ! Or, go to WDW one trip; and somewhere he wants to go the next trip.

And of course, there are some compromises that I make too. He likes OKW (can't see spending more points for somewhere else)--so we stay there. He can't take the heat of Florida in the summer; so all vacations are planned between Oct-April. Can't see the "waste" of extra points on a 1 bedroom., so I suck it up and make studio reservations for the 3 of us--even though we have plenty of points for the 1 bedroom. And the cruise--won't even mention it as it is not seen by him a great value for your points (he would go on cash, however; just not in the next few years). Please don't think I am whining--as none of these things are big; but just to show you that we both make adjustments to our expectations so that everyone has a good time.
Regards,
Trudy

 

[dianeschlicht]

THe cruise would be a problem for me too. I can't see myself couped up on a ship with nothing but themeing to keep me interested. Just not my thing though.