James and Jeffrey PJ - 05/10/11 - SBP/Attic/UK DP/Wedding Day 2 Arrival

[Groom Mickey]

I followed you over from your post on the G&L Board. Thanks for an entertaining read so far. I likely won't post much, but, will enjoy laughing along.

I also think a dalmatian was a better choice than more flowers.



Does NY recognize you as married once you get married in VT?

I'm asking because there was a case in the NY State Supreme Court that said they need to recognize as legal marriages performed in Canada. I haven't followed these things closely, but, there was a brief tourism surge right afterward. I thought I'd mention it just in case it makes a difference for you.

I have to say that although you may not be a typical couple you sound like an awfully giving couple. We are also foster parents and it's a lot of work and commitment and you really need a strong bond with each other to support each other through the stress.

Enjoy the planning!

Thanks we are having fun with the planning,we shall see as it get closer . Thank you for the information, that was nice of you. New York is bizzare, they kind of recognize marriage, but is nowhere (that I am aware of) to register it. It basically allows me to see my parter in the hospital etc but nothing formal yet. I just find it bizzare that they will allow us to adopt but not marry??? That is ok they will someday. Until then whenever we go to VT we will be married and when we come home we are single again (in NY that is ). You don't get that with traditional marriage
Bless you for doing foster care. It is one of the hardest things we have done but so glad we can. It is great to see a child who has had a rough start in life find a loving family who will take care of them always. It is hard though to let them go but so the right thing to do. We both love it.

 

[hematite153]

Bless you for doing foster care. It is one of the hardest things we have done but so glad we can. It is great to see a child who has had a rough start in life find a loving family who will take care of them always. It is hard though to let them go but so the right thing to do. We both love it.

And you! We've only had teens so far and so we've gotten to see how pervasive the trauma can become when a child didn't get that early intervention and loving family. It is so important for there to be people willing to love them and then let them go so that they can have those opportunities. Keep up the good work!

(And, enjoy your multiple weddings!)

 

[Groom Mickey]

I have a dilemma! I need some advice. We have our planning session Oct 1 and our tasting has been scheduled for 2:30 but Randy Chapman can only meet us at 3:00n to discuss the photos. Obviously something has to go. Which oh which shall I chose? Tasting food (yum) how can you go wrong. However, we are doing brunch and how can Disney go wrong with breakfast food. Meeting with Randy would mean he would get a feel for us as a couple before the wedding and would give us a better understanding of what to expect from him. My theory is the pictures will last forever but the food is a here and now kind of thing. Food is easily forgotten (unless you get food poisoning like I did at a cousins wedding... you try to forget that food). The only thing I want to change on the menu is an addition of Mickey waffles ( I love those waffles). Do you think I need to taste brunch food or can I let it go? Let me know what you think.

 

[erin.w]

You can't change your menu tasting to another day? Or another time of day?

 

[jtanddolly]

I'm with Erin...you shouldn't have to choose between the two. If the photographer can only do it at 3:00...as much as Disney is getting paid...your coordinator should be able to find a different time for the tasting.

 

[KitKat5]

I agree with jtanddolly and erin...surley Disney can rearrange your tasting? Dont they know that you're the glitter queen?! I have to say though, if they are really going to make you choose...I'd say meet the photographer. You're so right, you'll have these photos forever, the food is just for one day (and I've never had a brunch at Disney that hasnt been amazing!)

Im a UK bride and couldnt fly over for our PS or for a food tasting so Im doing everything over the phone and via email and Im totally ok with that! Im sure our food will be great whether I get to taste it before or not!

By the way, Im totally loving your PJ and cannot wait to read more!!

 

[Hayley94]

Oh Jasper is absolutely beautiful! I think I just fell in love a little bit! plus I loooooove the glitter favour boxes - very proffesional looking!

 

[Groom Mickey]

This is sort of kinda related to the wedding. Since we are going to Mickeys Not So Scarey Halloween I thought I would post a picture. I know we all love pictures and I have been limited on them:

Since we are flying I decided not to go with any bulky Halloween costumes, but we did want to get into the Halloween mood. I still have one more to make.
Hopefully soon I will have more "wedding" stuff to post. It has been a madhouse this summer. My focus was surviving until fall when the boys would finally go back to school. I "MADE IT!!!!!". Right now the focus is getting the house back in order and lots of .

 

[Groom Mickey]

I think my theme is Martha Stewart meets Mickey Mouse in a vintage garden. Here are some cakes I like.

How fun would this one be with mickey confetti

This is my favorite

 

[brer rabbit 28]

Gorgeous cakes. The last two are my favourites. Very stylish looking.

 

[2nd Time Bride]

I think my theme is Martha Stewart meets Mickey Mouse in a vintage garden. Here are some cakes I like.

How fun would this one be with mickey confetti

This is my favorite

Just found your PJ and of course, am reading it backwards! LOVE your favorite cake, it's amazing! Were you able to reschedule your tasting? I hope so because I agree with the other posts, you should be able to do both! Although the brunch food is always good, don't you want to taste the cakes? Yum!

 

[Groom Mickey]

You can't change your menu tasting to another day? Or another time of day?

I'm with Erin...you shouldn't have to choose between the two. If the photographer can only do it at 3:00...as much as Disney is getting paid...your coordinator should be able to find a different time for the tasting.

I agree with jtanddolly and erin...surley Disney can rearrange your tasting? Dont they know that you're the glitter queen?! I have to say though, if they are really going to make you choose...I'd say meet the photographer. You're so right, you'll have these photos forever, the food is just for one day (and I've never had a brunch at Disney that hasnt been amazing!)

Im a UK bride and couldnt fly over for our PS or for a food tasting so Im doing everything over the phone and via email and Im totally ok with that! Im sure our food will be great whether I get to taste it before or not
By the way, Im totally loving your PJ and cannot wait to read more!!

Thank you. I am afraid it is becoming a bit dull. I hope not. My next craft project will probably solve that problem. I just do not want to lose a limb.Thanks so much for the suggestions. For some reason I DID NOT EVEN THINK to change the time. I blame the kids. I swear they take brain cells,whenever the stand next to you, through osmosis. A quick email to Diane resolved the problem and we have now scheduled everything.

Oh Jasper is absolutely beautiful! I think I just fell in love a little bit! plus I loooooove the glitter favour boxes - very proffesional looking!

I think Jasper is adorable too. He is getting cuter by the day. Thanks about the boxes. I just hope I can find a way to keep the glitter on. Whenever you touch them they rain glitter. Glad they look good in pictures though.

 

[hematite153]

\I just hope I can find a way to keep the glitter on. Whenever you touch them they rain glitter. Glad they look good in pictures though.

Could you coat them with nail polish? (And, if that works on one, can you come up with something similar but faster? I seem to recall something along the lines of watered down white glue creating a clear top coat.)

 

[Princess Dahlia]

Just signing into your blog... I love your favorite cake. Have you thought about putting some hidden mickeys in it?

 

[jtanddolly]

Thanks about the boxes. I just hope I can find a way to keep the glitter on. Whenever you touch them they rain glitter. Glad they look good in pictures though.

Go to Michaels or Hobby Lobby and ask them what they would recommend...there is bound to be a product that will seal the glitter...I would buy one bottle/can and try it out to ensure that you don't loose the sparkle. It seems like a shallack (spelling?), decoupage...something would be able to seal it so that the glitter doesn't "rain" off without loosing the sparkle. If there is a spray on product...that would be easier than trying to paint something on and loosing a bunch of the glitter in the process.

And you say you aren't crafty...but I think I read that you had one more mask to make for MNSSHP...you are definitely the glitter queen...if you can do that...you can make printables for your wedding!!!

One last thing...I love the last cake...and having hidden mickey's in it would make it perfect.

 

[Groom Mickey]

All I wanted today was a lunch date and some time to talk to DF. It is amazing how much easier it is to carry a conversation without three boys trying anything to get your attention (hollering, throwing a brother, building a swamp in the bathroom etc...). We talked mostly about our trip to Disney coming up in 12 days and working out the details of our planning session. Jeff wants to try to catch up on some sleep and I am going for DISNEY! I have already informed him that I will be in the parks every day and that he is more than welcome to catch up on his sleep. The only day he is required to get up is the day of our planning session.
We also met up today to go look at rings. Now up to this point niether one of us has really discussed what we wanted or had even looked at anything until we went into the jewelry store today. It was a tad akward becuase as you all know we are a gay couple. While we are not ashamed of it we try to keep kind low key. Oh who am I kidding, there is nothing low key about me, Jeff had been sorta, kinda, in the closet with family, friends, and co-workers until he met me (they had been wondering). However, once he started introducing me to everyone his closet door was thrown WIDE open with me throwing glitter everywhere There was no more wondering about Jeff anymore.

It is always a bit akward though when you are a gay couple in Upstate New York and you introduce yourself. You are never certain how people will react. We told the guy we were looking for rings and waited for his reaction. There was not even a pause and he started showing us rings. In todays economy there shouldn't be any pause. We started off looking at this new space age stuff that does not scratch or break (betcha if I gave it to my five yr. old he would could). It just didn't look right us. When we started off I though I was going to like the white gold but when we tried them it looked mhhhh. So next we tried a classic yellow gold band and for some reason it just felt right. We put our order right there. Mens rings are not as much fun as womens rings but we did add something special to them. In a few weeks we will have bands and when they come I will have to take a picture. I was so dazed today that I forget to even take a pic to share with everyone. I just thought we were window shopping today and did not plan to order them today. OMG it has just hit me today that we are planning our wedding. It just feels so bizzare and foreign but felt so perfect today.

 

[DisneyGirl4188]

However, once he started introducing me to everyone his closet door was thrown WIDE open with me throwing glitter everywhere There was no more wondering about Jeff anymore.

BEST line ever! I literally LOL!

I love your plans and those Mickey boxes are adorable!

My favorite cake is the fourth one.

 

[smileycrissy]

OMG, I so love reading your posts! You always make me chuckle. Your DF is so lucky to have such a funny person.

I can't wait to see the rings.

I love the masks, simple but not so simple, and of course very easy to travel with. See you are very crafty.

The cakes are beautiful. I love the last one too, what color(s) did you think of putting in there?

Yay, you're almost on vacation/planning/tasting!

 

[rpmdfw]

We told the guy we were looking for rings and waited for his reaction. There was not even a pause and he started showing us rings. In todays economy there shouldn't be any pause.

Regardless of the economy, there shouldn't be any pause. If a store wants your money for a major purchase, they should treat you with respect.

I know what you mean,though. It was a bit awkward for us, too. Especially when we said "we'd like to look at wedding rings, please" and the standard response was "which one of you is engaged?" We ended up getting ours online.

Congrats on ordering your rings, though! How exciting! And you're planning session is coming up. How fun!

I love reading your posts!

 

[FutureMrs.B]

Hi! I just found your pj so I'm joining in. Better late than never. I'm loving all your plans so far. I thought your proposal was so perfect. You did get your disney proposal. Maybe not how you expected but you got it. Damn wishing you always have to be so damn specific. We also hired Randy to do our photography. I will be looking forward to see your pics. Also for someone who says they're not that good with the DIY your things come out amazing. I luved those mickey favor boxes! Also I'm probably going to be down there for my planning session around the time of your wedding. I'm looking forward to reading more.