hi all! soo, i've got an irritating situation going on and i'm really stressed about it. Please bear with me as I try to condense my issue as much as I can to avoid a long post
so i'm the baby of 3, my brother is 6 yrs older than me and my sister is 2 yrs older. My brother was married, I work with his ex (not in the same dept anymore) and she gained a lot of weight, joined WW and lost it all again, got new found confidence, cheated on him with someone we worked with (and is still with that person). Needless to say they got divorced and we learned how sensitive he really is. He's really trying to find "the one" to spend his life with, he'll date someone for a bit, they'll turn crazy and then he's so down and depressed my mom really worries about him. I'm convinced he's the favorite, he could never do any wrong in my parents eyes (he is very successful with his own business etc).
My sister is married also (her 5 yr anniversary is on our wedding day) and they have my adorable nephew. My sister works from home full-time and my mom watches the baby when she needs to go on appointments etc, so my mom is constantly trying to help my sister and watch the baby etc.
Then there's me. I slightly get the shaft because I don't have relationship issues, I don't have a baby etc. Maybe its normal for siblings and it hasn't really bothered me until now. I feel like it's "my time" to enjoy my planning and etc and right now everyone else seems to take a higher precedence than me.
Cue the family drama.
So we went to Disney in October. DF and I planned our trip last Feb, before we were engaged etc. We always go the same weekend and planned well in advance last year. Few months before, very close to before we got engaged, my sister decided she wanted to come too. My mom booked them a room. Then my mom came too (feels like she has to watch the baby). I was excited for wedding planning while we were there and really tried to take it in as much as I could. My mom cared about the money aspect only and otherwise wanted to get back to my sister and the baby. fine, I was over it.
So I took a lot of pictures just like I always do, at the pool etc. My sister had my nephew almost 2 years ago now (bday is 5/23), she gained a bunch of weight with him and has been struggling ever since to lose it. Now that we're engaged and planning the wedding, I'm convinced she sees our wedding as her new "coming out". She's all of a sudden working harder than she has in the last 2 yrs, going to the gym 7 days/week, on a strict diet, she threw a fit to make me order her dress a size smaller, etc. I took pictures of her with the baby at the pool, none of her direct, and she's by no means big (maybe 140-150 lbs if that). She was around 110lbs for her wedding 2 yrs ago and has always been small her whole life, and she thinks shes getting there by May. Frankly, I'm sick of hearing about it. She's more worried about losing weight and looking good for my wedding than I am!! I'm not on any diet, I got my dress to fit me the size I am.
Back to the pictures- so there are pictures of her holding the baby in the pool etc, nothing un-flattering or etc. I posted them up on FB just like I always do, 4 months ago. Friday night I get a text from my BIL that they've asked me not to post pictures of them on FB and she saw the pctures of herself in her bathing suit, she's trying to get her body back and this isn't helping her and what is my problem.
Immediately my defense went up, since again I posted these pictures 4 months ago. Why now?? Who knows!! I told her I wasnt home and she could log in and take the ones down if she wantd herself, I continue to get texts from her husband, so I tell her I'm just going to defriend her that I don't need this drama in my life. I get multiple phone calls and emails from my mom the next day (NYE morning) that I am breaking up the family and why am I being so hateful etc. I tell my mom I'm sick of taking a back seat to all of this BS and she needs to get over this. I took almost 1/2 of my pictures off FB and I was so angry with them I de-friended my mom too. FB, I know, I know. but I was LIVID!
Then I get an email from my sister that afternoon to "lose her information. we are done" so now I've been sick to my stomach since, my sister and I are very close and obviously this is terrible timing with my wedding 4 months away. My bachelorette is in a month and I'm really not sure what to do. Do I need a new MOH? Is she going to cancel my bach? (I have two girls flying here from DC and CA for it). DF doesnt really understand, it's also "." which is flipping great timing for crying and everything else. LOL.
I emailed one of my other BM's this morning and asked her to ask my sister to send out an itinerary for the bach to see if she's really serious about this or if she'll send it meaning she's still coming. Saturday I really wanted to just go to a courthouse here in CT with DF and get it done. Forget Disney altogether, forget this grand affair for my sister to reintroduce her new body, etc. We have so many people already with their travel arrangements, I've paid thousands for my photographer, etc. and this is really what DF and I want. I'm really close to my family and I just feel like this is ruining my entire wedding now. Soo if I drop off for a bit, this is why. Hopefully she'll send out the bach. email and all will be fine.
Yes that turned into a really long post so thank you to anyone who read the whole thing. I really feel sick about it and am stubborn too. I guess an easy solution would be to call my sister and talk about it but I just want it to go away at this point.
please send some pixie dust that my drama goes away and doesnt come back! and thank you for letting me vent/listening. some of you are friends with my on fb and likely saw my status... happy f-ing new year.
I'm sorry your sister is being petty. I hope she comes around and realizes that it isn't her private coming out party. People get so weird when it comes to weddings. I hope she calls to smooth things over soon.
Hugs!
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Good job! The big day is right around the corner! Yay!
