It's worth it, right?

[StitchesGr8Fan]

Let me put a disclaimer: I know how lucky I am to be pregnant. I know there are people out there who struggle with infertility for years, some who get pregnant only to lose their little ones, and those who never can get pregnant. I'm not trying to upset anyone. I just need to vent.

I am so over being pregnant. I don't want this little girl to come out to early, but I am counting the days until I get my body back.

I already had foot issues, and pregnancy has made them exponentially worse, to the point that I can barely stand and have to limp everywhere.
I have heartburn so bad it is choking me in my sleep and making me sick. I can barely breathe because I am carrying her very high. My hands hurt so bad it hurts to hold a pen. I can't sleep because I can't get comfortable, and then when I do fall asleep I have to wake up every hour or so.

I just keep telling myself that it is all in my head. If I think that I feel great I will feel great. But it's not working. I see my BFF, who is now pregnant with her 3rd child, feeling great, like that mythical pregnant unicorn they talk about in the What to Expect movie. Maybe she just isn't letting it show like I am. But I get so frustrated that I can't do all of the things around the house or at work that I want to because my body won't let me. It makes me feel helpless.

Everyone keeps telling me that it will all be worth it when I hold this little girl in my arms. I'm holding on to that thought. Because I am breaking down it tears daily from the constant pain my body is in. And I know I am going to go through this again because we want a second child.

Thank you for listening to me. I really don't want to seem ungrateful, even though I know that is exactly how it comes across. I am fully expecting people to tell me to "suck it up, buttercup" and those posters are right. I just needed to vent a little, because holding it in just makes me feel even more upset.

 

[mommasita]

I assure you it is all worth it.. I was the pregnant woman from hell with my first, so I understand you... We are not all alike, and pregnancy doesn't suit us all.. Having said that (since you mentioned it ) my second one was 9 months of greatness. None of what the first one brought, so hoping that is the case for you

But once she arrives, it is all put on a back shelf. Nothing can nor will prepare you for the love you will feel. I know you think you may know, but really there is nothing like it..

Even though mine are 14 and 17, and everyday can bring some new challenges, I know how you feel, and you have my FULL compassion. Just think a few more weeks, and you will be at the end zone..

Vent away any time..

 

[Christine]

Yes, it will be worth it. Although, hey, you may decide you never want to be pregnant again!!

I had the "all day" sickness until the 6th month with both pregnancies. I also had hellacious heartburn with #2 and it was amazing that right after delivery it disappeared completely!!

Other than that, physically, I felt fabulous when I was pregnant. I'm sorry, I don't want to make you feel worse, just want to show that everyone is very different with pregnancy. I was not happy when I was wretching for 6 months. It's always something, right?

Hang in there, you will be feeling better soon (but maybe tired instead!!).

 

[aylarosie]

Don't feel bad ,its tough when you feel physically sick.You should talk to your Dr about all theese issues you are haveing. I found that sleeping on a wedge (think foam rubber cheese )helped with both heartburn and sleeping. Also plenty of water ,Iknow just what you need but it helps. Also I did have to sleep in a recliner type chair the last month.It might help to elevate your legs as well. Yes it will be worth it ,the love you have for her is pretty intense.But it won't be easy babies are hard and anyone who says there not is not telling the truth.Give yourself time to relax when the baby comes and take help now and after shes born from anyone that offers. Good luck Nan

 

[StitchesGr8Fan]

Two months until my due date. As much as I want to be done being pregnant, I am absolutely terrified of the actual birth. Being a parent doesn't really scare me. I'm excited to hold my cute baby girl, and know DH and I can figure out how to take care of her. It's just the birth that terrifies me.

I'm afraid of the pain. I have a pretty high pain tolerance, but a lot of women tell me nothing can prepare you for the pain of childbirth.

I'm afraid of the pain meds. Actually I'm afraid of all meds, especially if I have to have a c-section because I know there are several medications involved in that. I have a LOT of medication allergies and have gone in to anaphlaxis 3 times from medications, so I'm afraid of a reaction. And I HATE that feeling when I am losing control of my body as a reaction grows.

I'm afraid I'm going to bleed to death. I've read horror stories of women hemorraging after birth if the placenta gets pulled out too quickly.

So pretty much I'm just afraid. I hate my stupid anxiety disorder because it makes me worry like this. A friend of mine is due any day, and she is a little nervous, but her excitement is overshadowing any fear she may have. I want to be like that, but I just can't.

Once I get through it I will be fine. I just have to get there. Wish me luck!

 

[Mickfarland4]

I'm afraid of the pain. I have a pretty high pain tolerance

I also have a high pain tolerance and it was tolerable until about half way through and they will give you a muscle relaxer to get you through until the epidural

I'm afraid of the pain meds.

I didn't read this when I said about the muscle relaxers but, I am sure that your drs will keep a closer eye on you if you decide to use them. If you can get an epidural it isn't bad at all. The hardest part is not being able to move and they kicked everyone but my nurse out for both of mineconfused3 since on tv they leave the hubby).

I'm afraid I'm going to bleed to death.

Very uncommon here in the USA I am sure. I bled a bit more than the nurse would've liked after my 2nd and it turned out fine. They gave me pitocin again to get the uterus to contract to help stop it, which it did pretty quickly.

So pretty much I'm just afraid.

I think any mother to be who tells you she isn't afraid even a tiny bit is lying! Giving birth is a scary thing for our bodies to go through but, remember woman have been doing it for thousands of years(without any meds until a while ago if you really think about it) so even if it turns out you can't have meds IT WILL BE OK! You will hold your baby in your arms and think "I can't believe I was so worried, that wasn't nearly as bad as I thought!"
You will be fine!!!

 

[StitchesGr8Fan]

I'm afraid of the pain. I have a pretty high pain tolerance

I also have a high pain tolerance and it was tolerable until about half way through and they will give you a muscle relaxer to get you through until the epidural

I'm afraid of the pain meds.

I didn't read this when I said about the muscle relaxers but, I am sure that your drs will keep a closer eye on you if you decide to use them. If you can get an epidural it isn't bad at all. The hardest part is not being able to move and they kicked everyone but my nurse out for both of mineconfused3 since on tv they leave the hubby).

I'm afraid I'm going to bleed to death.

Very uncommon here in the USA I am sure. I bled a bit more than the nurse would've liked after my 2nd and it turned out fine. They gave me pitocin again to get the uterus to contract to help stop it, which it did pretty quickly.

So pretty much I'm just afraid.

I think any mother to be who tells you she isn't afraid even a tiny bit is lying! Giving birth is a scary thing for our bodies to go through but, remember woman have been doing it for thousands of years(without any meds until a while ago if you really think about it) so even if it turns out you can't have meds IT WILL BE OK! You will hold your baby in your arms and think "I can't believe I was so worried, that wasn't nearly as bad as I thought!"
You will be fine!!!

Thank you. I know I'm being silly. Not being able to take my anxiety meds is taking its till on me this last trimester.

 

[mommasita]

I was petrified of the pain.. PETRIFIED.. Bleeding as well.. I agree with everything the PP said, I will never be one of these old ladies saying "meh, it was nothing, I was't afraid".. It is labor...

My Dr was awesome, and with my first I was induced, and he said over and over, "you don't have to be a hero", take the epidural.. Best invention EVER in my opinion.. I know everyone is different, but I felt ZERO after getting it.. It made me relax, and childbirth so much easier... I had him at 34 weeks, and I promise you there wasn't a minute I wasn't afraid of the pain..

With my 2nd, I waited at home TOOO long, and it was too late for the epidural. I felt every single thing.. Not trying to tell you what to do, but really why should we suffer when there is this wonderful thing!

Have you spoken about the epidural, and if it were to be safe for you? I asked for a tour one day in the ward, and I felt much more comfortable kind of seeing it before the day itself. I was afraid that I wouldn't enjoy the experience of miss something vital in the birthing process.. Nope, not at all. I had them both on Monday's and was out on Wednesday, and healed well..

Talk away here, as women we understand.. Your last 2 months will fly by, and you will be holding your bundle of joy..

 

[StitchesGr8Fan]

I was petrified of the pain.. PETRIFIED.. Bleeding as well.. I agree with everything the PP said, I will never be one of these old ladies saying "meh, it was nothing, I was't afraid".. It is labor...

My Dr was awesome, and with my first I was induced, and he said over and over, "you don't have to be a hero", take the epidural.. Best invention EVER in my opinion.. I know everyone is different, but I felt ZERO after getting it.. It made me relax, and childbirth so much easier... I had him at 34 weeks, and I promise you there wasn't a minute I wasn't afraid of the pain..

With my 2nd, I waited at home TOOO long, and it was too late for the epidural. I felt every single thing.. Not trying to tell you what to do, but really why should we suffer when there is this wonderful thing!

Have you spoken about the epidural, and if it were to be safe for you? I asked for a tour one day in the ward, and I felt much more comfortable kind of seeing it before the day itself. I was afraid that I wouldn't enjoy the experience of miss something vital in the birthing process.. Nope, not at all. I had them both on Monday's and was out on Wednesday, and healed well..

Talk away here, as women we understand.. Your last 2 months will fly by, and you will be holding your bundle of joy..

I'm all for the epidural! I think that will be ok since it will be directly in my spine. I'm mostly worried about oral pain meds after the birth, or anything they give me besides an epidural if I have a c-section.

I've been on the hospital tour and am taking childbirth and c-section classes so I will be well informed. I just have to keep reminding myself that the hospital doctors and nurses know what they are doing and don't want me to die. My doctor is out of town for 2 weeks prior to my due date and gets back on my due date. I'm very candid with her on my fears but she probably won't be there. I like the other doctors in her practice that I've met so far, and she hand picked them to work with her.

Thank you for all the support. Last night when the baby wedged herself under my ribs I was ready for birth.;-). I guess when the pain gets bad enough I will look forward to delivery instead of being scared!

 

[Ready to go in Ok]

Just wanted to add..

My first pregnancy was a dream. No pain, no complications, no anything! Second pregnancy, different story. ALLLL day and night sickness for 7 months, 2 weeks overdue, inducement that took 3 days...ugh!

Don't worry too much about the next one. Hopefully it will be a completely different experience. I only have the two, but it was night and day!

Good luck to you. They really are worth it. And you can tell him/her what a little pain in the rear he was! I tell my youngest all the time she's been a pain since conception. Of course I'm kidding...kinda

 

[starsweeper]

I am sorry you are having a rough time with your pregnancy. I had one fantastic pregnancy and one not so great pregnancy. Our first two were adopted, so I didn't learn I was pregnant with YDS until I was nearly 11 weeks along (practically no symptoms) and everything went great, even a c-section that became necessary. We purposely became pregnant with YDD 3 months later (best chance for another baby) and I developed a weak cervix at 24 weeks. I stayed on complete or modified bedrest until term, had a repeat c-section and was so weak for months after due to all the bedrest. I felt so out of control and hated not having control of my body for those months.

Hang in there and remember you are almost there. All the discomfort is worth it in the end, but I understand it's hard to appreciate that now.

 

[coffeecassie]

I hated almost every minute of being pregnant. You are not alone. I have loved being a Mom. Yes, it is worth it, and yes, its okay to admit to that pregnancy can be horrid.

 

[Mousemommy1]

Yes! It is worth it!!!!

My children and my husband are MY WORLD! I am so grateful for them.

I have to say that my 1st pregnancy was a dream.... No morning sickness, no pain...my little baby girl just rolled around in my belly all day and I loved, loved, loved it.

My 2nd little girl....ooooh boy, that was a toughie. Aside from pain, morning sickness....I also developed viral meningitis at about 20 weeks and was hospitalized for 10 days....it was just a bad pregnancy all the way around, but honestly I wouldn't change a thing because I have the most spunky, fun, crazy little girl in exchange.

You will get through this, and in the end....you will forget all about this.